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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
I've been on this site for years an love it even if it's so hard for us single blokes but now I'm in a wheelchair it's on a different level completely.
What's people thoughts on folk in wheelchairs i.e. meets, clubs anything to do with this way of life???
I'm really struggling to find meets these days xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most clubs aren't suitable for wheelchairs due to stairs. Parties may have the same issues.
I'd probably be put off because I wouldn't know how mobile you are and I'd feel bad asking in case I offended you or hurt your feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In truth, no disability should matter although everyone is entitled to be put off by it in the same way as any other physical attribute.
I’m missing an eye and, although people don’t notice it face to face, I’m slightly paranoid about straight on photos where the shadow exaggerates it. I just have to put up with the fact that my photos might not be the best... |
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"In truth, no disability should matter although everyone is entitled to be put off by it in the same way as any other physical attribute.
I’m missing an eye and, although people don’t notice it face to face, I’m slightly paranoid about straight on photos where the shadow exaggerates it. I just have to put up with the fact that my photos might not be the best..."
I have known a few people with only one eye, tbh you dont notice it.
Unfortunately in this world some people only want perfection and being totally honest there is no such thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In truth, no disability should matter although everyone is entitled to be put off by it in the same way as any other physical attribute.
I’m missing an eye and, although people don’t notice it face to face, I’m slightly paranoid about straight on photos where the shadow exaggerates it. I just have to put up with the fact that my photos might not be the best...
I have known a few people with only one eye, tbh you dont notice it.
Unfortunately in this world some people only want perfection and being totally honest there is no such thing."
I know. As I say, in person it’s not obvious but photos highlight it. Unfortunately that isn’t good on here hence giving up and just enjoying the chat on the forums |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
It's only been a year for me so I'm just getting used to how things have changed. It's a little daunting at the moment but I'm sure I'll get there, not just the meeting on here part but the actual getting back to dating part worries me too. |
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Try and keep positive mate. There are people out there who can see beyond a wheelchair.
I know it's a long way from you but Vanilla Alternative is all on one level once you get past the couple of steps from the car park into the club itself so there must be other places out there which are similar. If memory serves me right, AbFab was similar before it closed. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
It's good to hear so many positive comments, like the guy said above, everyone has their own likes and dislikes I guess so it's just a matter of finding people who can see past the wheelchair x |
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"Iam in a wheelchair (female) an I find we do get meets but then they treat me like glass it seems they think I might break "
It's not the same, but I was on crutches earlier this year and I had this problem too. That and abuse for being on Fab while injured. Different as a woman though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I fancy someone then a wheelchair wouldn't change that!  are you saying it's my face that's the problem?  haha!! "
Not for me... I think ya have a rather nice face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think as long as you are open and honest it shouldn't be a problem.
Get chatting to people and take it from there.
Most women will want to chat and have a social first anyway. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"I think as long as you are open and honest it shouldn't be a problem.
Get chatting to people and take it from there.
Most women will want to chat and have a social first anyway. "
To be honest that's the way I would and should go about it with or without the wheelchair x |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"Have you noticed as well no wheel chair porn  .."
there's a kink for everything these days....surely there's some out there?? Maybe that could be my next move?? The world's first wheelchair porn star Hahaha!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think as long as you are open and honest it shouldn't be a problem.
Get chatting to people and take it from there.
Most women will want to chat and have a social first anyway. To be honest that's the way I would and should go about it with or without the wheelchair x"
Exactly. As long as you're not offended by people asking questions, it shouldn't be any different to not being in a chair? |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"I think as long as you are open and honest it shouldn't be a problem.
Get chatting to people and take it from there.
Most women will want to chat and have a social first anyway. To be honest that's the way I would and should go about it with or without the wheelchair x
Exactly. As long as you're not offended by people asking questions, it shouldn't be any different to not being in a chair? "
correct!! I'm as open as they come an would be happy to put people's minds at rest. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
You have a lovely smile. If there’s a connection people will find a way to play with you. Talk about what you can do and what you find difficult. I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with your kissing ability. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"You have a lovely smile. If there’s a connection people will find a way to play with you. Talk about what you can do and what you find difficult. I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with your kissing ability."
I would like to think that's the case and thank you for your kind words xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's only been a year for me so I'm just getting used to how things have changed. It's a little daunting at the moment but I'm sure I'll get there, not just the meeting on here part but the actual getting back to dating part worries me too. "
Bieng in a wheelchair does not define who you are as a person . It doesnt make you any less of a very attractive man at all imho.
It would not put me of having a relationship with you at all.
Ive been in a wheelchair just over 2 years and im just starting to walk all over again. I felt less of a woman having to ask for help but someone told me this:
If i was blindfolded and couldnt see what someone looked like ,would that stop me from bieng a kind person? I answered no, so what makes you think your less of a person because your legs dont work?
They were rite my minds over thinking to try and stop any more pain. And in turn im stopping myself from bieng loved because I Am the same person i was when my legs did work.
A person worth having in your life only sees You your character and personality . They dont see the chair.
They were so rite 
Im still me ,dry sence of humour ,massive kind heart , and still hates mornings.
Your going to be Ok ,your going to find love and be loved just like everyone else xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's all about how I connect with someone. I know it's a site for sex but that doesn't mean you can't build up a rapour and friendship with someone.
If you can turn my mind on then you won't have any trouble turning my body on.
The lead up to a meet can just be as fun and to build the tention can lead to a very fun and horny time!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's probably the initial contact that's the hardest and getting someone give you a chance. But maybe that's the same for most single blokes on here? "
Seems like the majority of single men struggle on here. It's just one of those things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still waiting for an understanding female or couple to help me out xx"
WAVING FRANTICALLY
Mrs MP took a peek at your profile and thought you looked hot, she only winked at you but definitely be interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quest in Leeds is 100% wheelchair friendly, "
You could play downstairs at Pandora (make a sofa fort) but there are steps up to the entrance door. Quest is a lot better from that POV. |
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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago
Camberley/Middleton |
I would meet but I wouldn't accommodate someone as a guy arriving in a chair would stand out and be noted by the neighbours and I am not really looking for added attention from them. I wouldn't invite someone on a unicycle either if that helps. |
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It certainly wouldn't put me off meeting anyone in a wheelchair, at the end of the day it's the persons personality and humour I am drawn too. As someone said previously, lots of people look for perfection...which doesn't exist x |
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Hi Adam
A wheelchair wouldn't put me off meeting someone, if I felt we were compatible, had a connection.
I spent several years in one when I was younger, and had 10yrs pushing one of my sons in one, so I suppose I can see things from a different perspective.
Good luck & I wish you well x |
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We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x |
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I don't have an issue with people who have to use a wheelchair...people are people as long as they are nice, I dare say you can get aresholes that use a chair just as you get the arseholes who don't ... it's life .... just be yourself as others on this thread have commented... have fun |
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"You have a lovely smile. If there’s a connection people will find a way to play with you. Talk about what you can do and what you find difficult. I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with your kissing ability."
OP, drop in to Paisley on way to see NSAchick, or get them to double up. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"You have a lovely smile. If there’s a connection people will find a way to play with you. Talk about what you can do and what you find difficult. I’m sure there’s nothing wrong with your kissing ability.
OP, drop in to Paisley on way to see NSAchick, or get them to double up. "
now that sounds like a plan |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x "
lots of positive comments, I wouldn't say I'm brimming with confidence but things are certainly looking up xx thanks guys xx |
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I met a lady who was wheelchair bound. She was cute very nice hairy bush and god did she get wet when I went down on her.
She didnt want me to make love to her which I did respect her wishes so continued to lick her clit till she orgasmed. I wouldnt have any issue meeting anyone else in a wheel chair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x lots of positive comments, I wouldn't say I'm brimming with confidence but things are certainly looking up xx thanks guys xx"
Like a previous comment, shame you aren't local. I'd happily date a wheelchair user too. Long as attraction is mutual, I wouldn't let a guys disability put me off asking him out. |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"Have you noticed as well no wheel chair porn .."
We have been asked ourselves why we haven't shot any porn with people in wheelchairs, it's not that we haven't wanted to its just we've never had anyone in a wheelchair ask. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"Have you noticed as well no wheel chair porn ..
We have been asked ourselves why we haven't shot any porn with people in wheelchairs, it's not that we haven't wanted to its just we've never had anyone in a wheelchair ask."
let's do it ha!!! Xx |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x lots of positive comments, I wouldn't say I'm brimming with confidence but things are certainly looking up xx thanks guys xx
Like a previous comment, shame you aren't local. I'd happily date a wheelchair user too. Long as attraction is mutual, I wouldn't let a guys disability put me off asking him out. "
which one of us is going to move??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x lots of positive comments, I wouldn't say I'm brimming with confidence but things are certainly looking up xx thanks guys xx
Like a previous comment, shame you aren't local. I'd happily date a wheelchair user too. Long as attraction is mutual, I wouldn't let a guys disability put me off asking him out. which one of us is going to move??? "
You! . You'll love it down south lol. Well I'm actually in the Garden of England, South East. We seem to get the best weather down here.
All that aside, you're a good looking guy with a great body. It's a tragedy most women only see the wheelchair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quest in Leeds is 100% wheelchair friendly, "
I was going to say just that. It’s been built to entirely accommodate wheelchairs the only area I could see there being a problem is the jacuzzi apart from that it’s all on one level, wide doorways and totally accessible
But no, a wheelchair wouldn’t put us off in the slightest it would depend on the person. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"We met a couple years ago where the gent was in a wheelchair, didn’t make the slightest bit of deference to us, we had an amazing time!
Hang in there .. not everyone is scared of the unknown honey x lots of positive comments, I wouldn't say I'm brimming with confidence but things are certainly looking up xx thanks guys xx
Like a previous comment, shame you aren't local. I'd happily date a wheelchair user too. Long as attraction is mutual, I wouldn't let a guys disability put me off asking him out. which one of us is going to move???
You! . You'll love it down south lol. Well I'm actually in the Garden of England, South East. We seem to get the best weather down here.
All that aside, you're a good looking guy with a great body. It's a tragedy most women only see the wheelchair. "
I lived in Worthing for a few years and loved it but I'm a northern guy at heart.
Thank you x I'm guessing the ones who would have an issue with the chair probably wouldn't be worth knowing anyways. X |
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I lived in Worthing for a few years and loved it but I'm a northern guy at heart.
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I'd have more of an issue with the "northern thing" rather than the wheelchair ... lmao .."Aye up" .... ......runs off to hide laffin') |
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" I lived in Worthing for a few years and loved it but I'm a northern guy at heart.
Thank you x I'm guessing the ones who would have an issue with the chair probably wouldn't be worth knowing anyways. X"
Shame you don't still live here, I'd definitely have gone for a stroll along the pier with you |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
" I lived in Worthing for a few years and loved it but I'm a northern guy at heart.
Thank you x I'm guessing the ones who would have an issue with the chair probably wouldn't be worth knowing anyways. X
Shame you don't still live here, I'd definitely have gone for a stroll along the pier with you "
 I travel back down now an again x |
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" I lived in Worthing for a few years and loved it but I'm a northern guy at heart.
Thank you x I'm guessing the ones who would have an issue with the chair probably wouldn't be worth knowing anyways. X
Shame you don't still live here, I'd definitely have gone for a stroll along the pier with you I travel back down now an again x"
Let me know when
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Mutual respect and attraction are what counts - a wheelchair wouldn't matter a jot to me....if anything I'd be flattered that someone with a disability felt comfortable enough to be naughty with me, as if you do have a disability I think you have to be selective. |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"Wouldnt bother us would still meet if someone was in a wheelchair if i found them attarative, altho myself sometimes has to use a wheelchair so do wonder myself at times "
good to hear, hope your doing ok? Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for years an love it even if it's so hard for us single blokes but now I'm in a wheelchair it's on a different level completely.
What's people thoughts on folk in wheelchairs i.e. meets, clubs anything to do with this way of life???
I'm really struggling to find meets these days xxx
Adam "
If people are too shallow to see past disabilities, they aren't worth your time, my last partner had a disability, but I saw the person within not the label |
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"Just got myself a wheelchair recently tried putting it off for as long as I could (hate it when people stare at you) then pretend that they wernt starring at all lol "
I understand the staring thing... but for me it's for different reasons obviously |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just got myself a wheelchair recently tried putting it off for as long as I could (hate it when people stare at you) "
They might be staring because they fancy you. |
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"Just got myself a wheelchair recently tried putting it off for as long as I could (hate it when people stare at you) then pretend that they wernt starring at all lol "
Yeah especially when you catch them then they don’t know where to look lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi bill
I’m in wheelchair after accident 18 years ago . Been on here about 10 months and there are some terrific ladies on here . It shouldn’t matter that your in chair and does have its benefits . A lot of women are very understanding and don’t even see the chair and just see the person .there is a lot more understanding of disability these days keep positive I’m sure you will be answering messages soon
Good luck and happy fabbing |
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By *ill Doe OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
"Hi bill
I’m in wheelchair after accident 18 years ago . Been on here about 10 months and there are some terrific ladies on here . It shouldn’t matter that your in chair and does have its benefits . A lot of women are very understanding and don’t even see the chair and just see the person .there is a lot more understanding of disability these days keep positive I’m sure you will be answering messages soon
Good luck and happy fabbing "
good to hear there's more of us about and that your also being successful. Thanks for the reply.
You too hope it's going well. |
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By *rOralMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Hey dude! I’m a wheelchair user myself. And I have been pretty much enjoying my naughty side while rinding my chair with no problem attending private socials or SW Clubs.
My thoughts on this, I totally feel you on that, I’ve been struggling here as much as you, trying to meet like minded through Fab (face to face it’s a complete different situation though). It’s kind of difficult for some people to manage to see the person not the chair, while perving around on a Website. However, its not impossible either. Like many other previous comments have stated, not everyone is being put off a bit by a disability. Allow the chemestry to kick in and be patience, someone will bump into your Fabbin’ path at some point.
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