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When do veri’s stop becoming important?
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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We kind of used to like veri’s, now it more focused on our meets, not what others think of us as we tend to have a circle we play with regularly.
So when do veri’s stop becoming important for you? |
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They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations. "
If that is so, what is the reason people appear to put so much importance on them? |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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I've seen a few profiles, that say they won't reply without veris. So I'd say that they stop being important, once you've stopped being in catch-22.
So right now, I need all the good karma and all that. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"I've seen a few profiles, that say they won't reply without veris. So I'd say that they stop being important, once you've stopped being in catch-22.
So right now, I need all the good karma and all that."
Thing is... they are not hard to get. |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
If that is so, what is the reason people appear to put so much importance on them?"
Who does? I certainly don’t. If you don’t like them don’t give them or display them.
We’re talking about sex not restaurants. Surely this is a situation where you’re not going to pick a profile just because everyone else already has |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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The content is never important what is important for us is that somebody has some and therefore is a signal to us that they are genuine. Whether we will actually like them or want to play with them we will decide if we meet them. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
If that is so, what is the reason people appear to put so much importance on them?
Who does? I certainly don’t. If you don’t like them don’t give them or display them.
We’re talking about sex not restaurants. Surely this is a situation where you’re not going to pick a profile just because everyone else already has "
That’s good then you don’t.
Don’t understand the restaurant analogy, human sensual interaction against a duck pate.  |
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Personally, I don't reply to someone if they have no veri's on their profile. I think a maximum of 4 is ok then it's not important. I need to see that this person is real and has met or been to a club. |
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By *irimusMan
over a year ago
Burnley |
You need at least three veris. Webcam and socials don't count either. It's got to be a boner(!) fide meet or you can't be sure they're not time wasters / fakers. Once you have three you only need to refresh with a new every 6 months or so. Them's the rules don't @ me. |
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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago
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I've got a lot of veri's after a few years and sometimes I'll have more than a few extra after a club visit or none. Same with the annual gangbang or cam session so to me recieving them isn't particularly important anymore but it's always nice to know they enjoyed themselves!
That said I usually like single guys to have a fairly recent one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
If that is so, what is the reason people appear to put so much importance on them?
Who does? I certainly don’t. If you don’t like them don’t give them or display them.
We’re talking about sex not restaurants. Surely this is a situation where you’re not going to pick a profile just because everyone else already has "
(I hate them. They make me cringe) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had crappy meets with people who had amazing veris, and amazing meets with people who had no veris.
These days I only use veris as a reason not to meet someone. Too many veris, or with the wrong people, and I rule them out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had crappy meets with people who had amazing veris, and amazing meets with people who had no veris.
These days I only use veris as a reason not to meet someone. Too many veris, or with the wrong people, and I rule them out."
So true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had crappy meets with people who had amazing veris, and amazing meets with people who had no veris.
These days I only use veris as a reason not to meet someone. Too many veris, or with the wrong people, and I rule them out."
Yep we get ruled out by lots due to our numerous veris, so be it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a double edged sword. You want to show people you are genuine you want to tell others that the people you have seen are worth the time and effort. However, there is a thin line between just enough verifications and damn this person gets about. I won't meet people from here with too many verifications. Unless they are club workers or owners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like them for the memories they evoke between those who've met.
I also like to read them to see if there's a pattern where you can pick up on someone's personality traits "
That's why I prefer to chat for a while. Veri's are just about positive marketing. Did you ever read a bad one? Chatting gives you a much better picture of what someone is really like.. |
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"i dont really see the point in them..........why would you want to tell everyone."
I'm genuine, I am who I say I am, some sort of judge of character (particularly if you know X and X has verified me), I'm active. And while I've yet to see a bad veri, there's something to be said for what's not said in some cases. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important  |
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"I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important "
I've got a fair few, and yeah, they're not from socials. That's important for people to know too. I see some possessive people around who have a problem with swinging, and my veris send a message that they probably won't find what they're looking for in me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important
I've got a fair few, and yeah, they're not from socials. That's important for people to know too. I see some possessive people around who have a problem with swinging, and my veris send a message that they probably won't find what they're looking for in me. "
Yep ..spot on ..they can either go you are what I want or your not ..yeh a few of mine were from fucking as well Veris are important cause if a few people say ..hey he’s ok ..then there’s that trust there ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important
I've got a fair few, and yeah, they're not from socials. That's important for people to know too. I see some possessive people around who have a problem with swinging, and my veris send a message that they probably won't find what they're looking for in me. "
I agree 100% with this!
I don’t meet people who don’t have any verifications. Not because I believe everything thats written, but because it gives me an idea of whether they are likely to turn up, the type of person they have met, patterns showing their character traits.
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
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How many is too many veris though? One profile could be 13 months old and have 56 veris which equals one veri per week, whereas another profile could have 60 veris but be 5 years old, or 1 veri per month.
What about veris from repeat meets, or socials? And nobody publishes a bad veri if they ever receive one.
Some profiles hide the veri summary and only display a few selected ones.
So in fact, the numbers mean nothing to us. It doesnt make any sense to discriminate against anyone based on the number of veris they have.
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"I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important
I've got a fair few, and yeah, they're not from socials. That's important for people to know too. I see some possessive people around who have a problem with swinging, and my veris send a message that they probably won't find what they're looking for in me.
I agree 100% with this!
I don’t meet people who don’t have any verifications. Not because I believe everything thats written, but because it gives me an idea of whether they are likely to turn up, the type of person they have met, patterns showing their character traits.
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Agree 100% as well ..it can give good clues |
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"I used to have lots of Veris..not from fucking the whole site ..but going to parties socials ect..now not got any as I’ve just returned ..they are important
I've got a fair few, and yeah, they're not from socials. That's important for people to know too. I see some possessive people around who have a problem with swinging, and my veris send a message that they probably won't find what they're looking for in me.
I agree 100% with this!
I don’t meet people who don’t have any verifications. Not because I believe everything thats written, but because it gives me an idea of whether they are likely to turn up, the type of person they have met, patterns showing their character traits.
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Yeah, I use veris as a judge of, at a minimum, "is respectful and likely to be safe". Have from the start. |
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"We kind of used to like veri’s, now it more focused on our meets, not what others think of us as we tend to have a circle we play with regularly.
So when do veri’s stop becoming important for you?"
3 good verifications is plenty. I think most time wasters won't have two on display. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like a few veri's, at least one recent and by somebody else that is verified. It's like an audit trail. Time is precious to us and don't want to waste it on a fake, dreamer or a keyboard wankster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think with the amount of time waters on here you need to be aware that people without or with very few verifications may be fake. Being verified is a good way of sorting the genuine people from the rest. That said u don’t want to come across as a slut (I know of people who have been put off by people having too many) so I tend to display only a handful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We kind of used to like veri’s, now it more focused on our meets, not what others think of us as we tend to have a circle we play with regularly.
So when do veri’s stop becoming important for you?"
right from the start  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a few recent veris before I meet but don't actually want details ... what's good for one person might not be for the next! Have a couple of shocks before  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications are important. Quite a few times veri’s have enabled me to make a decision on whether or not to meet someone.
Also, I see veri’s as an indication of a persons standards. |
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"Verifications are important. Quite a few times veri’s have enabled me to make a decision on whether or not to meet someone.
Also, I see veri’s as an indication of a persons standards."
Oh? Can you see from a verification if someone isn’t gorgeous but has an amazing personality? If they’re a giggle a minute?
Many people have varied tastes - and I certainly wouldn’t discount meeting someone because I didn’t consider everyone they met to be my idea of a ‘suitable’ meet! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations. "
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. "
where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
If that is so, what is the reason people appear to put so much importance on them?
Who does? I certainly don’t. If you don’t like them don’t give them or display them.
We’re talking about sex not restaurants. Surely this is a situation where you’re not going to pick a profile just because everyone else already has
(I hate them. They make me cringe)"
Me too |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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Displaying veris can be more trouble than it’s worth at times. I have nothing to hide and nothing to prove. I display if the mood takes me but mostly they are for my own enjoyment and a reminder of something I enjoyed. I don’t have many but I do like the ones I have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever judge anyone on somebody else's opinion, well do you?
That's like the bedrock of ebay. They seem to do well. "
barny and betty maybe but do porche and Dominic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always look at veris, it can give you more information than just what’s typed!
You can see what kind of people they meet, and what they says about others also.
Find them a great help! "
I agree with a lot of the comments on this topic. Veris are really important and give a lot of info that's often not included elsewhere in a profile and can give you a fair bit of comfort in terms of type of meeting they enjoy, who they've met, comments on looks, personality and the type of play - all helpful. Of course the odd verification does need to be taken with a pinch of salt, but reading several can often give you a clear picture of the person and how well matched you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications are most important. Well only the in person kind.
It's vital to know the person you want to meet look like their photos.
If I turn up to a social and he looks little or nothing like his pics, I'll walk away. I don't take kindly to being deceived. Attraction works both ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here then but that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people? "
Well exactly this the forums is a very small selection of site membership |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off "
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe  |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe "
Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow "
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. "
you're welcome...... Does the Mrs ever come here? |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. you're welcome...... Does the Mrs ever come here? "
Hard one to work out  |
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"Do you ever judge anyone on somebody else's opinion, well do you?
That's like the bedrock of ebay. They seem to do well. "
Absolutely , and when we were meeting we certainly read them and got a picture as to what to expect from meeting a verified user .
Verified users were invariably less likely to let us down .
And when we show our veris we do so because we want people to know what to expect from us . |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. you're welcome...... Does the Mrs ever come here?
Hard one to work out "
of course don't you think it would be a great idea if all couples identified who was in forums chatting, you can tell sometimes but it would be nice especially for an experienced swinger like yourself point if view |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. you're welcome...... Does the Mrs ever come here?
Hard one to work out of course don't you think it would be a great idea if all couples identified who was in forums chatting, you can tell sometimes but it would be nice especially for an experienced swinger like yourself point if view "
He has his profile which clearly says Mr. I sign my posts Mrs. Except when it's 100% obvious it's me. But if that's still confusing for you, I'll sign them all. |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations. "
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"We always look at veris, it can give you more information than just what’s typed!
You can see what kind of people they meet, and what they says about others also.
Find them a great help! "
Me too, I really like the system and feel the lack of it on the dating sites now!!  |
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"I've seen a few profiles, that say they won't reply without veris. So I'd say that they stop being important, once you've stopped being in catch-22.
So right now, I need all the good karma and all that.
Thing is... they are not hard to get."
Unless you are a single male... |
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I admit I like to read them to get a hint of what I might get too. One guy I met before reading veris. Wish I had. When I read the veris they all said he had a suckable cock and used it well. What none of them mentioned was his oral or finger skills or stamina or much else. And my meet with that person was wham bam bye with no foreplay no kissing no pleasure lol. Chatting to him he talked about pleasure giving but the meet gave nothjng. |
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"They’re never important
What is important is actually chatting to people you’re planning to meet before you do. This will give you tons more confidence than any verifications.
Verifications certainly should never be used as references or recommendations.
Why not? Of course they should. That's why nearly everybody is put off by people with none, and most people read them before progressing a meet. where do you get that info from nobody I know is put off
You aren't reading the posts on here thenbut that's good it's people I know like I said. Do you think we only know all the same people?
Don't forget we do have a lot of swingers sex, you make lots of funny comments on the forum, different perspective maybe Oooooo you are so popular I live in your shadow
What's popularity got to do with it, even though your every single post is to try and improve yours.
But an understandable position to take, thanks James, it's much appreciated. you're welcome...... Does the Mrs ever come here?
Hard one to work out of course don't you think it would be a great idea if all couples identified who was in forums chatting, you can tell sometimes but it would be nice especially for an experienced swinger like yourself point if view
He has his profile which clearly says Mr. I sign my posts Mrs. Except when it's 100% obvious it's me. But if that's still confusing for you, I'll sign them all. "
yes please it should be made compulsory |
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