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Wanting someone you can't have
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By *mids Lad OP Man
over a year ago
West Midlands |
I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did. We used to chat almost every day, but he wasn't here for meets. To be fair I knew from the start but was hoping I could change his mind.
The frustration of not being able to meet him, especially as he was very local, got too much and we've lost contact.
Shame as I miss his chats. But he knows where I am if he changes his mind. |
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"Think this has probably happened to most of us at some point! X
Sex and lust are a dangerous combo"
Very dangerous. But doesn’t it feel so fucking great though. Forbidden fruit and all that.
Perhaps people that experience then lose that end up in sites like this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
Not one of those reasons you have is valid.
Just your desire and will isn't strong enough, so you're attracted but not willing to make an effort.
When I met my wife she lived a 200 mile trip away, was engaged and I was married and she is quite a lot uounger than me. You just need to make the effort if it's right.
The only real thing that stops you is if the other person doesn't feel the same way about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
Yeah. Know that only too well |
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I know a guy who is always mooning after women he can't have from Fiona Bruce to married ladies and women half his age who think of him as some kind of oddity. It saves him from getting involved in a real relationship that might fail or oblige him to put some effort in. |
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By *mids Lad OP Man
over a year ago
West Midlands |
Thanks all ...
Glad it's not just me lol
There's someone I'm interested in right now , we get on well and talk all the time but she's married so nothing can happen and not sure she feels that way about me .. I know I should forget about her and look elsewhere but can't... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds familiar
Tho I made the cardinal sin of falling for someone I can't have and no matter how hard I try I can stop it.
I try to be friends but get jealous if I see her just say lol to someone else
Saddo lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Typos corrected:
I was engaged to a woman for quite some time, although we never tied the knot, but the thing I miss the most about that relationship is her mother. What a heck of a woman she was, but out of reach, although there was a mutual attraction without any shadow of a doubt. She was close enough to touch, but a million miles away from ever being in my bed.
I talked to her mother maybe 5 months after we split, she was sad that she didn't see me anymore. That will do for me, I can live the fantasy haha. |
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"Probably only once. It's quite visceral and very hard to shake off. The thinking brain has a very difficult job to speak sense and frequently fails.  "
Ain’t that the truth 
This is the first time ever I’ve been unable to box the feeling up and drown it. It stinks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup, my fwb... 14 years younger.
He found a vanilla girlfriend, I was happy for him because it meant he could settle down and I could get him out of my system.
Last week, we asked to meet, he's no longer with her, he confessed a few things to me.
Now I'm in turmoil at what he said, we can't work as a couple. And us coming out would upset a lot of people. It's complicated.
Why is life so complicated.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once or twice it’s caught me out, I usually back off seeing them then but sometimes, equally, I can compartmentalise meeting someone really easily. It’s a fine line walking between love and lust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably only once. It's quite visceral and very hard to shake off. The thinking brain has a very difficult job to speak sense and frequently fails.
Ain’t that the truth
This is the first time ever I’ve been unable to box the feeling up and drown it. It stinks. "
 this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined this site cos i was sick of letting myself catch feelings for men that didnt feel the same so this way i have a different outlook and not here for love just fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
Yes. A few years back I was really into a woman on here from Birmingham. She was on the forums a lot. When I said I really liked her and thought she was sexy she thought I was taking the piss. She just wouldn't believe me. I don't know if it was due to low confidence. I really did like her. I enjoyed reading her forums posts and enjoyed chatting to her now and again. I would have moved to Birmingham for her if she wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
No it's not just you. I find it happens quite a lot to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
The problem is there are some seriously sexy woman on here from all part of the UK. I looked at a woman's profile the other day and thought "Wow you are really really sexy" Then I looked at her age. She was mid 60's. She was absolutely stunning. With lots of sexy women from all parts of the UK on here you are bound to fancy some women who live miles away from you. |
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"I wish somebody liked me that much for it to matter "
They probably do but too reluctant to say anything. Most of us fear rejection so don’t admit it. Such a daft state of affairs really as if we are rejected, we are in the same position as when we started! |
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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago
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Dare say many have had some element of this experience. Wouldn't be judgemental enough to say it's right or wrong, just accept it happens. And to be fair, for all the potential negatives, there can be some amazing positives!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish somebody liked me that much for it to matter
They probably do but too reluctant to say anything. Most of us fear rejection so don’t admit it. Such a daft state of affairs really as if we are rejected, we are in the same position as when we started!"
Very true.
I know after reading some of my forum posts people may not believe this lol. However, I am quite shy in real life until I get to know you. I am also a sensitive person. There are a few woman on Fab I would love to meet. My insecurities stop me from messaging them. If I don't try and meet them I can kid myself I might have a chance of meeting them one day. |
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"I dont really think theres such a thing as cant its more about if you really want to from my prospective.
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I cant message you due to your filters ( and your preferences as detailed in your profile) Doesn't stop me wanting too though.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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treat it like a pub
you cant walk in and expect everyone to fancy you
sometimes you meet someone ,most times you dont
where did we all meet our first love
or long termlover  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep me... best mates wife who keep cards close to their chest but she always dresses to impress and looks stunning andna few times ive crashed there as we got d*unk incan hear them having noisey sex through the wall as if to tease me |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"I dont really think theres such a thing as cant its more about if you really want to from my prospective.
I cant message you due to your filters ( and your preferences as detailed in your profile) Doesn't stop me wanting too though...."
It was all going so well until the end.  |
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"Yep me... best mates wife who keep cards close to their chest but she always dresses to impress and looks stunning andna few times ive crashed there as we got d*unk incan hear them having noisey sex through the wall as if to tease me "
Or maybe ... just maybe ... they are doing it for their own pleasure, not yours? And maybe she dresses well because she is an adult and can dress how she wants? Just an idea    |
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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago
birmingham |
Yup played with a couple and got addicted to fuckin with the guy they quit swingin and there friends. Doesnt help when he teases me all the time and u wanna keep the friendship good but ur horniness is drivin u wild lol. |
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"Yup played with a couple and got addicted to fuckin with the guy they quit swingin and there friends. Doesnt help when he teases me all the time and u wanna keep the friendship good but ur horniness is drivin u wild lol."
Naughty  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup played with a couple and got addicted to fuckin with the guy they quit swingin and there friends. Doesnt help when he teases me all the time and u wanna keep the friendship good but ur horniness is drivin u wild lol."
That’s wrong. Cut it off now. He’s wrong yes but so are you! You know he’s attached |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep finding myself attracted to and going after people who I can't have for whatever reason (married, in a relationship, older, lives too far away etc) , and even though I know I can't be with them , it makes me want them even more ...
Just wondered if anyone else have this problem or is it just me ?"
of course, you're attracted to who you're attracted to |
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By * n hCouple
over a year ago
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Serenity people.... Have the SERENITY
To ACCEPT the things you can not change...
The COURAGE to change the things you can.
And have the WISDOM to know the diffrence....
if still you cant contain yourself!
PUT a CONDOM on it..
sleep about , Dont pass it about...... |
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