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do's ant dont's for getting a nice reply to a message...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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will start with the donts as we've had so many shockingly bad 1st messages sent to us lol!!
DONT start with "cant wait to fuk you" - 1stly who even hinted i would want to and secondly you'll sound like you think anyone would jump into bed with you just co you want to
DONT send a weirdly creepy message with so much detail in it that its obvious that you have seriously studied a profile instead of half reading one like most people.... this suggests you either have too much time on your hand or are a potential stalker who will camp outside our house and steal my underwear!
DONT send me pics on the 1st message of you with various scary looking objects inserted into places that make my eyes water even thinking about.... some are bad enough to probably cause temporary blindness while my poor eyes recover and learn to trust me that i will never again subject them to such things!!!
DONT pretend to be a couple when you are single, we will talk to single men, but those with the elusive wives who are never there co they are sleeping, shopping, on holiday or abducted by aliens, cant really believe anyone actually thinks they are telling the truth.... young children have imaginary friends, in adults its known as schizophrenia!
DONT take all this as gospel.... it was in parts dramatised for my own enjoyment whilst writing....... the dramatised bit was the temporary blindness... it actually lasts 10 seconds so can also be described as a long blink!!!
now for the do's.... there isnt many, believe it or not, not everyone is very picky..... all it takes is.... a chatty, witty, funny message! you cant fail with that, even someone not interested in meeting will always reply nicely!!!
wonder if anyone actually reads this stuff??? doubt it, but its given me a giggle writing it haha xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't, just copy your profile and send it, why would you do that???
Don't, just say d'ya wannna chat!!
Don't, ever just send out a friends request and nothing else.
Totally agree with your do's, a nice funny, witty message telling us a little bit about themselves and more to the point someone that has taken the trouble to read our profile. Don't want much do we lol  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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and wait for the backlash....
me... I wouldn't change a thing....
why... because at least at the moment, you can work out who is for you, and who isn't..
think about it... if everyone went down your route.. how would you be able to tell the ones who get it from the timewasters?... you wouldn't and as and extra bonus..you just made it harder for those who do get it to stand out!
so while it is done with good intentions, you actually made it easier for people to be fooled... you just gave them a template..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most on here don't read profiles, never mind the forums, so think we're safe.
I put our comment on very tongue in cheek. Our main aim on here is having fun, not being out and out nasty, which we manage quite nicely.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dear Sexycouple31
We, thats all of us except the one voice in my head that is always contrary, would like to steal your underwear. and camp outside your home with plackards advocating the return of the letter c to the word fuk. oh and some of us want to fuc you as well....
Damn after all that studying of your profile with a microscope and all, it seems I have the intro message wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"will start with the donts as we've had so many shockingly bad 1st messages sent to us lol!!
DONT start with "cant wait to fuk you" - 1stly who even hinted i would want to and secondly you'll sound like you think anyone would jump into bed with you just co you want to
DONT send a weirdly creepy message with so much detail in it that its obvious that you have seriously studied a profile instead of half reading one like most people.... this suggests you either have too much time on your hand or are a potential stalker who will camp outside our house and steal my underwear!
DONT send me pics on the 1st message of you with various scary looking objects inserted into places that make my eyes water even thinking about.... some are bad enough to probably cause temporary blindness while my poor eyes recover and learn to trust me that i will never again subject them to such things!!!
DONT pretend to be a couple when you are single, we will talk to single men, but those with the elusive wives who are never there co they are sleeping, shopping, on holiday or abducted by aliens, cant really believe anyone actually thinks they are telling the truth.... young children have imaginary friends, in adults its known as schizophrenia!
DONT take all this as gospel.... it was in parts dramatised for my own enjoyment whilst writing....... the dramatised bit was the temporary blindness... it actually lasts 10 seconds so can also be described as a long blink!!!
now for the do's.... there isnt many, believe it or not, not everyone is very picky..... all it takes is.... a chatty, witty, funny message! you cant fail with that, even someone not interested in meeting will always reply nicely!!!
wonder if anyone actually reads this stuff??? doubt it, but its given me a giggle writing it haha xxx"
do bring vodka? haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dear Sexycouple31
It's been six hours since my message, and still no reply...
you should be ashamed of yourselves leaving us all in suspense for so long.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dear Sexycouple31
It's been six hours and 12 minutes since my message, and still no reply...
hmmm think I am bored now. or I may send another pt message later |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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forgot all about this!! apologies won't make any difference for leaving you waiting sooooo long!
oooops!! didnt actually think anyone would read or reply to my ranting about one of the many things that annoy me..... no, i'm not always grumpy with it, i just have zero tolerance with stupid and arrogant people. thanks for all the replies all xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh dear, least likely to get any kind of reply is a message which obviously shows the sender has not read my profile and is just on a fishing trip...better luck elsewhere |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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you maybe start your messages with a hello or how are you? before you throw the demand/expectation to do what you want?! if you don't then nothing anyone will say will stop you from being an idiot (lol)
i wasnt suggesting days or weeks worth of messaging, no one has the time or patience for it!! but a simply hello is not only polite but sets the way in which someone thinks of you! by all means say it as it is, be upfront but its the arrogant thinking that they have a gift to make any woman do what they want just because they have said so! "Cant wait for you to suck my cock" shows you think you are irresistible to me no matter if you look like something from a weird science experiment or are old enough to be my grandad....
do people not look at photos and realistically judge if they have a chance, could you really see yourself not on here asking the same question and getting a good response? if you'd be punching above your weight in a pub, cafe, where ever- the same will apply here. when i log on i dont automatically lose my standards and suddenly find attractive what i didn't before. again i'm not being judgemental of looks etc but everyone likes different things, also dislikes different things too! i would not go up to gerrard butler in the street and expect him to do whatever I wanted, i wouldn't stand a chance.... so not that i'm bigging myself up but a 69 year old fat, unshaven with a combover should not think telling me they will fuck me will actually work! its a very thin line between arrogance and desperation, do they just say it in the slim hope of any sort of response? i can say without a shadow of doubt this is the wrong way to go about it.... it will either get ignored, you blocked or a not nice reply that will dent your already fragile ego! i know this reads like i'm being a bitch and picking faults... but i really hope just one person will think before dumb messaging, you are about 90% more likely to get a reply, even if its a polite no thanks and wishing you luck finding someone right for you (yes i always do this if i get a nice witty and polite message!! at best you'll strike up a 2nd and 3rd message which stands you in better chance of actually meeting up with someone as they will now think you are easy to get on with and will be already be slightly comfy with you... if you can crack the 1st message you are half way there as personality really is everything on here, its all you have on here at 1st until you let someone see what you look like... don't blow it with an arrogant as hell message that will only help any normal person to at best ignore it.... i try to do this but sometimes can't help firing a reply off with my thoughts on what they have just demanded of me.... i had to read the utter cringeworthy one liners that come from some- is there a school specialising in bad chat up lines straight from a bad 70's porn film.....
after all that probably repeating myself and not making a great deal of sense, i feel a lot better for getting it out there, have sore fingertips now from all this typing haha!! thank you for your reply to which i do agree to a certain extent-never change who you are! but i very much doubt that every message we get like that is sent from someone who would go up to a stranger and say to their face the same thing! you would find yourself with a police caution haha, keyboard warriors at their lowest form,,, i could go on and on but am even boring myself now with this ranting but it does need to be said, by me or it will continue to annoy me that you don't get what i meant with the original now year old post.......... enough said even though i still have a few more points that would fit in with what i mean.... just be nice, not arrogant, remember if you contact someone its because you liked what you saw so impressing them is the way to get your way lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"scary how we all have to end up with this huge list of don't on our profile when all this should be common sense! "
Does having a list of don'ts on a profile actually work to deter those types of messages though? I'd have thought that the ones guilty of sending such messages would be less likely to be reading the profile in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"scary how we all have to end up with this huge list of don't on our profile when all this should be common sense!
Does having a list of don'ts on a profile actually work to deter those types of messages though? I'd have thought that the ones guilty of sending such messages would be less likely to be reading the profile in the first place"
Haha good point  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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DONT send a weirdly creepy message with so much detail in it that its obvious that you have seriously studied a profile instead of half reading one like most people.... this suggests you either have too much time on your hand or are a potential stalker who will camp outside our house and steal my underwear!
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So, now we DONT read the profile properly. - despite the hundreds of profiles which clearly state "Read all of the profile and you will find the secret code word hidden within" or "Why don't Single Guys read our profile"?
I swear that Aleister Crowley wrote the original set of rules for swinging:
"Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"scary how we all have to end up with this huge list of don't on our profile when all this should be common sense!
Does having a list of don'ts on a profile actually work to deter those types of messages though? I'd have thought that the ones guilty of sending such messages would be less likely to be reading the profile in the first place"
I don't think there is much point in the whole do and don't lists on profiles, I used to have them and got messages from guys that didn't read it or respect it, I took it off and still get the same messages.
I will however refer people to my profile if they ask me something that is explained on there....but I'm not a profile snob, if some had read it before messaging great, but if someone has just looked at the pics and messaged that's okay too. I really don't take this place to seriously as life it too short and it's supposed to be fun xx |
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