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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! |
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over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
Could be to get attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
I'm white but I'm very all over tanned am I excluded?
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention "
Unfortunately of the wrong sort. |
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over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Unfortunately of the wrong sort. "
Or they thrive on pissing people off |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Unfortunately of the wrong sort.
Or they thrive on pissing people off "
Funny thing is I would meet them if they ticked all my boxes when I am looking for single guys, they just end up on my not list. Its crazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Unfortunately of the wrong sort.
Or they thrive on pissing people off
Funny thing is I would meet them if they ticked all my boxes when I am looking for single guys, they just end up on my not list. Its crazy. "
End of the day. They should be being a gentleman and reading the profile. Dont message if you dont tick the boxes you have
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
We get this every now and again. Ignore and block them, they’re not worth an extra thought. Fab could easily implement more limiting search criteria; for example you can block TVs (good thing for us), we should also be able to select potential meets based on other criteria too and help out these morons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
We get this every now and again. Ignore and block them, they’re not worth an extra thought. Fab could easily implement more limiting search criteria; for example you can block TVs (good thing for us), we should also be able to select potential meets based on other criteria too and help out these morons. "
Blocking is the easiest option. |
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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago
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"It's not just on here though....in everyday life people play the race card and any other card you can think of when they don't get their own way."
Be careful with this one you’re opening up a can of worms
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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago
Grantham |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet. "
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet. "
You are looking for a the 1% on here then  |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??"
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP. |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
You are looking for a the 1% on here then "
Very probably lol. |
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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago
Grantham |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP. "
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading? |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP.
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading? "
It does. He was talking about my profile not this thread. What I have on my profile is irrelevant to my OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP.
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading? "
I've read it as the OP is turning down guys because they are attached not because they are black but is being given hassle because they are making the assumption that it is their colour and not their relationship status that is driving her decision...and I haven't even looked at her profile to ascertain that... |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP.
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading?
I've read it as the OP is turning down guys because they are attached not because they are black but is being given hassle because they are making the assumption that it is their colour and not their relationship status that is driving her decision...and I haven't even looked at her profile to ascertain that..."
Or because I'm not currently looking for single guys, as per my meets x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP.
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading?
I've read it as the OP is turning down guys because they are attached not because they are black but is being given hassle because they are making the assumption that it is their colour and not their relationship status that is driving her decision...and I haven't even looked at her profile to ascertain that...
Or because I'm not currently looking for single guys, as per my meets x"
ah...see, I really didn't look...  |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
Then your post heading should say "non married or attached guys"??
Why? It's clearly stated in my profile. If people read it then they will see it. Your posts appear to be nitpicking at my profile. They do not relate to my OP.
I think it's perfectly reasonable that your OP should bear some semblance to the post heading?
I've read it as the OP is turning down guys because they are attached not because they are black but is being given hassle because they are making the assumption that it is their colour and not their relationship status that is driving her decision...and I haven't even looked at her profile to ascertain that...
Or because I'm not currently looking for single guys, as per my meets x
ah...see, I really didn't look... "
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It happens so much on dating sites (not seen any research on fuck sites yet) that the opinion now is changing to that it is racist to mention excluding race on your profile because certain groups of people see it so much they feel unattractive and unwanted.
In addition to general racism in online dating, there is further exclusion differences between certain genders within racial groups, such that women of any race are significantly less likely to date inter-racially than a male of any race.[29] Specifically, Asian men and Black women face more obstacles to acceptance online.[30] White women are most likely to exclude Asian men, likely due to their amplified effeminate portrayal in the media.[31][32][33] This exclusion remains present even when considering high earning Asian individuals with an advanced educational background.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_racism#Online_dating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
i was under the impression you loved horse racing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens so much on dating sites (not seen any research on fuck sites yet) that the opinion now is changing to that it is racist to mention excluding race on your profile because certain groups of people see it so much they feel unattractive and unwanted.
In addition to general racism in online dating, there is further exclusion differences between certain genders within racial groups, such that women of any race are significantly less likely to date inter-racially than a male of any race.[29] Specifically, Asian men and Black women face more obstacles to acceptance online.[30] White women are most likely to exclude Asian men, likely due to their amplified effeminate portrayal in the media.[31][32][33] This exclusion remains present even when considering high earning Asian individuals with an advanced educational background.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_racism#Online_dating"
dating and/or fucking isn't an equal opportunities activity... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens so much on dating sites (not seen any research on fuck sites yet) that the opinion now is changing to that it is racist to mention excluding race on your profile because certain groups of people see it so much they feel unattractive and unwanted.
In addition to general racism in online dating, there is further exclusion differences between certain genders within racial groups, such that women of any race are significantly less likely to date inter-racially than a male of any race.[29] Specifically, Asian men and Black women face more obstacles to acceptance online.[30] White women are most likely to exclude Asian men, likely due to their amplified effeminate portrayal in the media.[31][32][33] This exclusion remains present even when considering high earning Asian individuals with an advanced educational background.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_racism#Online_dating
dating and/or fucking isn't an equal opportunities activity..."
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet. "
You said earlier in this thread that you are not meeting single guys, but your profile says different, maybe it's not the guys who are confused.. |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
I had this the other day saying I was outdated for preferring white guys
I pointed out it was a preference of sexual attraction not a preference of social attraction
Much the same as preferring a sexual partner who’s tall and inked compared to someone that likes shorter guys or hates tattoos !!!
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
Asking a forum isn't going to get you the right answer,unless one of the guys who called you racist posts here. So best thing would,if it's bothered you enough to start a thread,why not just ask why they think you may be racist. Too many things are posted in the forums which don't need to be. What happened to old fashioned sort it out between yourselves and not involve others?. #JustSaying |
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"I've been accused of it too in the past, which was odd because I had veris on display from black and white guys. But I didn't feel so bad because they also told me all Devon women are racist.  "
Oh right wow. He must know all Devon women then. Ignore and move on. Not much else you can do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Asking a forum isn't going to get you the right answer,unless one of the guys who called you racist posts here. So best thing would,if it's bothered you enough to start a thread,why not just ask why they think you may be racist. Too many things are posted in the forums which don't need to be. What happened to old fashioned sort it out between yourselves and not involve others?. #JustSaying "
If it bothers you that much you could always stay out of the forums. People have a right to ask questions, express their feelings and don’t need the likes of you telling them otherwise. #Just saying |
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"I've been accused of it too in the past, which was odd because I had veris on display from black and white guys. But I didn't feel so bad because they also told me all Devon women are racist.
Oh right wow. He must know all Devon women then. Ignore and move on. Not much else you can do "
Yep, that was a swift block after having told the screen what I thought about him in no uncertain terms. Perhaps he had in fact been turned down by every single woman in Devon who's on here , with that attitude wouldn't be a surprise. |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I’m going to be honest, I can’t see anything excluding any ethnicity on your profile.
I presume based on your verifications, you only meet white guys? "
I've met lots of different people and cam verified lots too. I only display my recent veris. |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
You said earlier in this thread that you are not meeting single guys, but your profile says different, maybe it's not the guys who are confused.. "
My profile does state I'm looking for single guys. If I want them I'll find them. In the meantime I'm happy to chat and get to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My only problem with people who don’t want to meet black guys is that they don’t put it at the beginning of their profiles.....
But if they do that they are accused of racism. "
Only to people who think arguing with people is appropriate to get a meet.....
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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago
deptford London |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
not racist at all dont worry about it |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"My only problem with people who don’t want to meet black guys is that they don’t put it at the beginning of their profiles.....
But if they do that they are accused of racism.
Only to people who think arguing with people is appropriate to get a meet.....
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
They hope you will give in and fuck them to prove you aren't. Agreed it is annoying. |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
Quite true, colour has nothing to do with it.
I occasionally receive abuse from white guys I don't choose to meet who assume because my partner's black that Ive rejected them because they're white, which isn't the case!
The race card is a universal tool! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but whinging, whining ,entitled thread comes to mind
how so? Please explain. "
You said in your profile that you didn't like people that had them sort of posts. Well I did when I could see it  |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Sorry but whinging, whining ,entitled thread comes to mind
how so? Please explain.
You said in your profile that you didn't like people that had them sort of posts. Well I did when I could see it "
It's the part of my profile giving advice to newbies. It bears no relation to this thread at all. |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Quite true, colour has nothing to do with it.
I occasionally receive abuse from white guys I don't choose to meet who assume because my partner's black that Ive rejected them because they're white, which isn't the case!
The race card is a universal tool!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
We do the same and the only negative response was one Asian guy hilariously telling my wife she was a traitor. So it seems a shame and odd you are getting all this abuse.
They sometimes try and persuade but always very politely and normally better than the white chavs of all ages most of our shite messages are from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
They hope you will give in and fuck them to prove you aren't. Agreed it is annoying."
Has this approach ever worked in the history of the internet? |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
We do the same and the only negative response was one Asian guy hilariously telling my wife she was a traitor. So it seems a shame and odd you are getting all this abuse.
They sometimes try and persuade but always very politely and normally better than the white chavs of all ages most of our shite messages are from. "
The kicker is that the guy who accused me of this actually ticked all my boxes for meeting single guys when I do. Unfortunately due to his attitude it won't be happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but whinging, whining ,entitled thread comes to mind
how so? Please explain.
You said in your profile that you didn't like people that had them sort of posts. Well I did when I could see it
It's the part of my profile giving advice to newbies. It bears no relation to this thread at all. "
Fair enough |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sorry but whinging, whining ,entitled thread comes to mind
how so? Please explain.
You said in your profile that you didn't like people that had them sort of posts. Well I did when I could see it
It's the part of my profile giving advice to newbies. It bears no relation to this thread at all.
Fair enough "
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"It would help if you added it to your profile unless I need spec savers lol"
Stated in my profile that I meet when I post meets. If people ignore it and what I'm looking for on my meets, it's their own fault, surely? |
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On my single profile i deleted a messgae and got accused of rascism
I replied saying it was because he had a crap profile and had ignored what i was looking for .
Its not a good attitude at all and they cant see it could be any other reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
The block button is there, if you know you have not wronged nobody then whatever words somebody throws when theyre sad should not matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive read your pozt twice an cant see anythin about colour in it ,giggle "
I think you might be being deliberately obtuse.
She is saying when she posts meets she explains on the meets what she wants.
She also says she doesn't arrange meets unless she's posted one.
So are you suggesting she should post her preferences for the chancers that ignore that and request a meet, against the profile wishes, in case they then get offended. And if you are then that is exactly why so many people give single guys a hard time.
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
They hope you will give in and fuck them to prove you aren't. Agreed it is annoying.
Has this approach ever worked in the history of the internet?"
Well tbh I doubt a guy sending a fancy a fuck message to women on here works that often, but it doesn't stop them doing it lol. |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Ive read your pozt twice an cant see anythin about colour in it ,giggle
I think you might be being deliberately obtuse.
She is saying when she posts meets she explains on the meets what she wants.
She also says she doesn't arrange meets unless she's posted one.
So are you suggesting she should post her preferences for the chancers that ignore that and request a meet, against the profile wishes, in case they then get offended. And if you are then that is exactly why so many people give single guys a hard time.
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
You said earlier in this thread that you are not meeting single guys, but your profile says different, maybe it's not the guys who are confused..
My profile does state I'm looking for single guys. If I want them I'll find them. In the meantime I'm happy to chat and get to know them. "
I know what your profile states, I have read it. So far in this thread you have stated "not meeting single guys" "Not meeting married or attached guys" if that is the case surely you would block men from messaging you? You could then message the guys you wish to know & chat to at your leisure and they can reply? It's not really rocket science tbh. |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention "
Is the OP not seeking attention too? |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Is the OP not seeking attention too?"
No she is not! She’s merely saying that because she turns down some black or Asian men like myself she gets called a racist in messages.
It’s not a race thing but a person thing. |
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"Doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you just want men of a certain colour!
Just says about married or attached guys. They are the only ones I won't meet.
You said earlier in this thread that you are not meeting single guys, but your profile says different, maybe it's not the guys who are confused..
My profile does state I'm looking for single guys. If I want them I'll find them. In the meantime I'm happy to chat and get to know them.
I know what your profile states, I have read it. So far in this thread you have stated "not meeting single guys" "Not meeting married or attached guys" if that is the case surely you would block men from messaging you? You could then message the guys you wish to know & chat to at your leisure and they can reply? It's not really rocket science tbh. "
Let's talk about rocket science.
She doesn't want men to message her until she posts a meet wanting men to message, when she does post a meet she specifies what the qualities of the men she wants should be.
Now that really isn't rocket science, yet there seem to be more people on here trying to make irrelevant points about her profile than discuss the thread. |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Is the OP not seeking attention too?
No she is not! She’s merely saying that because she turns down some black or Asian men like myself she gets called a racist in messages.
It’s not a race thing but a person thing. "
I hear what you're saying but why the need for the pointless post. Block and move on. Any experienced member of fab should know that by now. Everyone on here gets messages accusing them of something racist, homophobe ageist etc should we all start threads whining about it....no because most of us have better things to be doing. I'm off the walk the dog
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By *ediMan
over a year ago
Leeds |
"It happens so much on dating sites (not seen any research on fuck sites yet) that the opinion now is changing to that it is racist to mention excluding race on your profile because certain groups of people see it so much they feel unattractive and unwanted.
In addition to general racism in online dating, there is further exclusion differences between certain genders within racial groups, such that women of any race are significantly less likely to date inter-racially than a male of any race.[29] Specifically, Asian men and Black women face more obstacles to acceptance online.[30] White women are most likely to exclude Asian men, likely due to their amplified effeminate portrayal in the media.[31][32][33] This exclusion remains present even when considering high earning Asian individuals with an advanced educational background.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_racism#Online_dating
dating and/or fucking isn't an equal opportunities activity..."
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By *ediMan
over a year ago
Leeds |
Racist or not, doesn’t really matter, it’s all about preferences and that’s a personal thing
If your not liked for what you are or perceived what’s the point of the back and forth, Just move on |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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Everyone has a preference whether its race, build or height. Some may be open to all types but would still have a preference for one type over another if push comes to shove. In the online world peoole are now faced with a multitude of options at their fingertips so those who can afford to be picky do become picky and who can blame them? Whether we choose to admit it or not, people do go by first impressions and judge on very superficial criteria. When it comes to sexual attraction and a need to satisfy sexual desires this becomes even moreso. A recent bbc program highlighted that modern society has become more prejudiced and homogenous in thinking. This goes against the grain that as we are now more multicultural and globalised, we are in fact swinging more towards a caucasian ideal compared to the previous generation. We can't really change it even though some minorities may be in a less fortuitous position like myself so we have to like it or lump it. I have a certain type but that type isn't generally drawn to my type. Its a bitter pill to swallow but that's life. Personally i think it might be easier for me to focus on finding a special individual who values me for everything that I am as opposed to trying to find multiple individuals who may find me attractive just for sex. Not everyone can become successful swingers. I am sure many can attest to that. |
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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago
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do what you want and dont let others steal your thunder....f them i say we all have differences dont we so you like i dont until i try then i might change but if not so what....so of these guys are still in the playground |
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It's simply an effective way to get a reaction out of you. Ignore their tactics.
We all have preferences for everything we shop for.
Now where's that lactating indian woman with a scottish accent?.....and a goatee. |
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
It's just another excuse for them as to why they can't get a meet. If they tried emailing people based on what that person is looking for they may have more sucess.
for exmaple if I see a profile says big cock only I would never email them as I am average sized. |
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over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?!
Could be to get attention
Unfortunately of the wrong sort.
Or they thrive on pissing people off
Funny thing is I would meet them if they ticked all my boxes when I am looking for single guys, they just end up on my not list. Its crazy.
End of the day. They should be being a gentleman and reading the profile. Dont message if you dont tick the boxes you have
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Totally agree. Why email somebody whose criteria you don't fit. Then complain when they say no lol. |
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over a year ago
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"I am polite and say no thanks I'm not currently meeting single guys and to keep an eye out for future meets. "
Maybe too polite? If they haven't bothered to read your profile or they have read it and ignored what you are looking for they deserve to be blocked. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
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If it's a very frequent occurrence, it's potentially worth blocking all single men and finding who you like via Advanced Search options, with race selected.
No one should be anything but respectful all of the time. Report those who aren't |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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This is a frequently raised topic which i tried to address myself this past fortnight and is quite contentious. I, myself don't see it as racist to have a preference despite being of ethnic minority. I have my own preferences so it would be hypocritical to label anybody as racist. Some races such as my own find ourselves consistently shut out at the first hurdle which is frustrating but is simply something we have to live with. I don't see it as racism towards my own race, merely a lack of attraction based upon appearances. If somebody doesn't like sushi or spicy food that is just their own personal taste. Some people just like ham egg and chips. Nothing wrong with that. People might find it rude or a slight against them to not get a 'thanks but no thanks' but I am sure many people get that regardless of race. After a few weeks my own expectations have been more realistic and it has become easier to accept. Being bitter or rude is unlikely to change opinion, rather it is likely to hinder your own chances of success and damage your own psychological well-being. |
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This is not prevalent to white folks only.some black dude are guilty of this
Again.some racist do hide under the banner of choice or preference.
Everyone have the right to choose any person they like to meet without fear of being labelled.
That's life. |
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"This is a frequently raised topic which i tried to address myself this past fortnight and is quite contentious. I, myself don't see it as racist to have a preference despite being of ethnic minority. I have my own preferences so it would be hypocritical to label anybody as racist. Some races such as my own find ourselves consistently shut out at the first hurdle which is frustrating but is simply something we have to live with. I don't see it as racism towards my own race, merely a lack of attraction based upon appearances. If somebody doesn't like sushi or spicy food that is just their own personal taste. Some people just like ham egg and chips. Nothing wrong with that. People might find it rude or a slight against them to not get a 'thanks but no thanks' but I am sure many people get that regardless of race. After a few weeks my own expectations have been more realistic and it has become easier to accept. Being bitter or rude is unlikely to change opinion, rather it is likely to hinder your own chances of success and damage your own psychological well-being. "
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"I am polite and say no thanks I'm not currently meeting single guys and to keep an eye out for future meets. "
If you reject someone,they're more likely to get a reaction if they try and press your buttons |
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Because I don't want to meet attached men. Simple. It's called a preference. "
doesn't it depend what they are attached to? |
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Don’t take me the wrong way OP. But, sometimes you just need to grow a thick skin on here and not feel as though you need to justify your preference to anyone.
You don’t need to explain yourself. If you don’t like someone, you just don’t. If anyone bugs you because of that.
Fuck ‘em (not literally)
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hey lovely
Correct me if I'm wrong but your profile doesn't mention anything about not meeting men of a certain race. So what's the guys fuss about???"
No idea to be honest. It states local, single, can accommodate, verified by meeting, 30-50 (age isn't set in stone!) and not attached. No mention of race at all.
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Because I don't want to meet attached men. Simple. It's called a preference. doesn't it depend what they are attached to? "
I won't meet anyone attached and playing without their partners knowledge, male or female. |
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"Hey lovely
Correct me if I'm wrong but your profile doesn't mention anything about not meeting men of a certain race. So what's the guys fuss about???
No idea to be honest. It states local, single, can accommodate, verified by meeting, 30-50 (age isn't set in stone!) and not attached. No mention of race at all.
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Maybe there was a section in some ancient language you had written in that only those people can see that said anything about race?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going for a lie down... this whole thread and its comments have given me a headache
Budge up, was thinking of doing the same "
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They just want attention
I'm asian, I don't even bother messaging people who have their race preferences to black or white, cos I know they're already not into me.
It's your body, fuck who you want. And as for the others, just give em oral sex, i.e. tell em to fuck off!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
They have to look for some reason why it is your fault you will not meet them. Bruised ego. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are Asian ...but specifically don't want any guys other than Caucasian ...that's simply our preference ...nothing racist when we all have our fantasies we wish to live out here.....anymore than it is ageist to specify age limits/preferences. |
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I respect people preferences and choice.Remember some hard-core Bigoted racist hide under the banner of preference and choice as well.
Same applicable to some Ethnic minority who hate meeting Caucasian. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have choices others really need to get over it I am from an Asian family though a progressive mixed race one and I don't meet Asian men. I have found that Asian man lack respect for women along with some Caribbean men women are an object to be fucked by them so just easier not to meet them as I don't like that attitude. |
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over a year ago
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"What is it with guys accusing me of being racist because I don't want to meet them? Colour has nothing to do with it, it's clear on my profile what I'm looking for, if they can't be bothered to read it that's their problem. I'm sick of the race card being played all the time. Why do it?! "
I'm actually very brown will you meet me?
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?"
Was that a serious question??? |
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???"
Yes. |
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???
Yes."
You have been on here over a year yet you ask such a stupid question....I've also read your profile.... nothing more to say |
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???
Yes.
You have been on here over a year yet you ask such a stupid question....I've also read your profile.... nothing more to say"
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???
Yes.
You have been on here over a year yet you ask such a stupid question....I've also read your profile.... nothing more to say"
What about my profile? |
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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???
Yes.
You have been on here over a year yet you ask such a stupid question....I've also read your profile.... nothing more to say
I think the sarcasm has been missed "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Definitely not
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I think it should be made law |
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"I dont understand why women here won't meet someone who is attached. Supposed to be a swingers site...
Do swingers have to fuck everyone that asks?
Was that a serious question???
Yes.
You have been on here over a year yet you ask such a stupid question....I've also read your profile.... nothing more to say
I think the sarcasm has been missed "
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"It's your choice who you meet.
Be it colour race or age, we get knocked back because of our age but don't have a go it's their choice "
Thats the way it should be too but some people though struggle with rejection and think their age, race, sexuality, beliefs should not exclude them. |
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