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By *ace4000 OP Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
I've been on here for a while but playing alone.
Understandably many stable couples who are on here don't want the complications of a possible irate unknowing partner.
Has anyone on here been in the position where they wanted to participate and raised it with their partner and successfully made the transition? If so could you please provide any advice on how to do this without cocking up the whole relationship! |
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over a year ago
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"I've been on here for a while but playing alone.
Understandably many stable couples who are on here don't want the complications of a possible irate unknowing partner.
Has anyone on here been in the position where they wanted to participate and raised it with their partner and successfully made the transition? If so could you please provide any advice on how to do this without cocking up the whole relationship! "
bit late now you've been here over a year |
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By *ace4000 OP Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I've been on here for a while but playing alone.
Understandably many stable couples who are on here don't want the complications of a possible irate unknowing partner.
Has anyone on here been in the position where they wanted to participate and raised it with their partner and successfully made the transition? If so could you please provide any advice on how to do this without cocking up the whole relationship! bit late now you've been here over a year "
Point taken but would still be interested in how people have approached the subject with partners? |
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"I've been on here for a while but playing alone.
Understandably many stable couples who are on here don't want the complications of a possible irate unknowing partner.
Has anyone on here been in the position where they wanted to participate and raised it with their partner and successfully made the transition? If so could you please provide any advice on how to do this without cocking up the whole relationship! "
A lot of men ask this.
There's no way to bring this subject up without risk especially if you've been here for some time alone.
Your post makes it sound as if you're only considering asking your partner to increase your chances of success which isn't a great idea. Maybe you worded it a bit ambiguously.
I often say work on communication before bringing this up. A no pressure discussion about fantasies wouldn't jeopardise a strong relationship. You can gauge your partners reaction from that and move forward.
If you get a flat out no, respect that but they also need to respect that just because your sexual desires differ it doesn't make you a bad person.
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
Open Mouth -use air forced out of lungs and larynx to create sounds -jabber away!
really if this is so important to you you have to engage with it or else every relationship will be nothing but disappointment and deceit |
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By *ace4000 OP Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I've been on here for a while but playing alone.
Understandably many stable couples who are on here don't want the complications of a possible irate unknowing partner.
Has anyone on here been in the position where they wanted to participate and raised it with their partner and successfully made the transition? If so could you please provide any advice on how to do this without cocking up the whole relationship!
A lot of men ask this.
There's no way to bring this subject up without risk especially if you've been here for some time alone.
Your post makes it sound as if you're only considering asking your partner to increase your chances of success which isn't a great idea. Maybe you worded it a bit ambiguously.
I often say work on communication before bringing this up. A no pressure discussion about fantasies wouldn't jeopardise a strong relationship. You can gauge your partners reaction from that and move forward.
If you get a flat out no, respect that but they also need to respect that just because your sexual desires differ it doesn't make you a bad person.
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Thanks for a genuine response. No it's not about improving 'succes', my time on here Gas been spent trying to workout why I am here? Trying to engage with people has proved difficult, I wasn't sure whether this would be a shoe lived desirw/interest but if is still there! If it was simply about having more sex there are easier ways than putting myself at risk of exposure by being on this site.
I really appreciate your final comment, as I don't feel a bad person for trying to satisfy my personal desires and I will recommit to having the right conversations. Thanks again! |
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By *ace4000 OP Man
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Open Mouth -use air forced out of lungs and larynx to create sounds -jabber away!
really if this is so important to you you have to engage with it or else every relationship will be nothing but disappointment and deceit"
Thanks! You are right it has to be done! |
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