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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK so I'm just going to put it out their.. I have recently been talking to a young lady who loves bdsm and bondage.. Now don't get me wrong I'm a switch and love it all too! But I do tend to lean more towards my dom side! Just something about having a lady at her mercy tied up knowing that you can have your way with her. But St the same time as pleasuring her it's also getting me off too!.
I'm just curious about how many other woman secretly like bdsm or bondage and who like to just loose control to another person. I know that a lot of trust comes into this too. But come on ladies don't be shy. Il go easy on you 
What is it you like about bondage or dislike? Are you more sub or dom?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like all aspects of bdsm love being tied up and took control of x Lucy x "
At the moment this is what I enjoy the most! A woman out of control,and me in full control  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much a Dom that's learning here (him writing). For me the worrying bit is when people trust completely too easily and quickly.
Shouldn't trust like that take time to build? |
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Trust is the key thing. I’ve not had much experience with restraint and would love to try that side of bdsm out but would only do that after a connection has been built up with someone who’s confident, trustworthy and respectful of boundaries.
There’s no better fun though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do and not secretly. I have slight masochistic tendencies so bondage fits well with that. I enjoy being tied and bound with someone I trust and I enjoy paddles, floggers, crops and whips.
I can't explain why I like it but I just like giving my submission to someone that's earned it |
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"Very much a Dom that's learning here (him writing). For me the worrying bit is when people trust completely too easily and quickly.
Shouldn't trust like that take time to build?"
yes takes time to build trust and understanding of boundaries especially as I love to be blindfolded. But when it works it's the best . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being a switch is fun!
I like to take control first... And then your lovely ladies have your chance to get your own back on me "
That works for me too but it’s not something that takes place at a one off or first time meet - the trust has to be earned over a few meets and then it becomes amazing - to take control or give it up brings a whole other level to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No secret here either. Met my OH talking about BDSM, then after years of mild dabbling, found a whole different side to me.
I agree with others though, trust plays an important part in the relationship between sub/Dom. I've experienced things I would never have imagined, only after learning to trust.
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It's no secret but me and my girl don't go around advertising it per se. But we do seem to find our selfs naturally gravitated towards other kinky people when we get to know them and play. But BDSM is such a broad spectrum and is so different to different people. You find that as soon as you mention BDSM people try to label you and put you in little boxes (Not in the fun way before you ask). Hense why we don't go advertising it as such. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m a switch so enjoy both sides of it, probably lean more towards domme though 
Can I sign on the dotted line
As long as it’s with your blood "
Done deal. Signed... And where to deliver.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a switch so enjoy both sides of it, probably lean more towards domme though
Can I sign on the dotted line
As long as it’s with your blood "
Best of luck with your ongoing journey - lovely to see people flourish in the scene |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a switch so enjoy both sides of it, probably lean more towards domme though
Can I sign on the dotted line
As long as it’s with your blood
Done deal. Signed... And where to deliver.. "
69 domme street
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fortunate enough to have met a dominant man from this site a number of times in the past ..... handing over control was truly amazing .... being used for someone elses pleasure was mmmmmmmm and a riding crop was the icing on the cake ...... withdrawal symptons are not good though
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like all aspects of bdsm love being tied up and took control of x Lucy x
At the moment this is what I enjoy the most! A woman out of control,and me in full control "
No offence but if your Dom you will know the sub is the one with the full control. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bring your safe word
Pineapples. Is my safe word
Why is that so common as a safe word??"
.. Have you not been the video of the bounty hunter arresting the guy...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bring your safe word
We use traffic light system.
Green,amber,red I like this idea too! "
Amber means getting uncomfy or bad ,giving time to adjust, if gets better green gives you go ahead to continue.
Obviously red means immediately stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s my biggest ‘thing’ I love to be tied up and dominated, frustratingly I crave it more than hubby wants to do it!! "
i would love to have a go. something i have been thinking about for a while. |
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"OK so I'm just going to put it out their.. I have recently been talking to a young lady who loves bdsm and bondage.. Now don't get me wrong I'm a switch and love it all too! But I do tend to lean more towards my dom side! Just something about having a lady at her mercy tied up knowing that you can have your way with her. But St the same time as pleasuring her it's also getting me off too!.
I'm just curious about how many other woman secretly like bdsm or bondage and who like to just loose control to another person. I know that a lot of trust comes into this too. But come on ladies don't be shy. Il go easy on you
What is it you like about bondage or dislike? Are you more sub or dom?
Xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bring your safe word
We use traffic light system.
Green,amber,red I like this idea too!
Amber means getting uncomfy or bad ,giving time to adjust, if gets better green gives you go ahead to continue.
Obviously red means immediately stop."
We use this system at the club, best way when doing an intense session, or hand signals |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bring your safe word
We use traffic light system.
Green,amber,red I like this idea too!
Amber means getting uncomfy or bad ,giving time to adjust, if gets better green gives you go ahead to continue.
Obviously red means immediately stop.
We use this system at the club, best way when doing an intense session, or hand signals "
Yea find it the best one as can give a good pre warning if something getting iffy |
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We like the humiliation and control side of things. Restraints on him (chastity, hoods, strap on, , bulls cuckold and hotwifes dynamic) not so much into the pain (unless you count slapping and CBT) Never really understand the fancy rope stuff and spanking though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the not knowing what's coming next. Think that's why I like a blindfold so much. I like the struggling but deep down I want to still be tied up or held down. I like when I'm getting flogged and one minute it's soft then next minute it's done with a lot more force. Think that's why I like force play so much also..it's really unpredictable and strangely enough it's more in the mind rather than the physical x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We like the humiliation and control side of things. Restraints on him (chastity, hoods, strap on, , bulls cuckold and hotwifes dynamic) not so much into the pain (unless you count slapping and CBT) Never really understand the fancy rope stuff and spanking though "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x |
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"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x"
"those books/films" have a lot to answer for
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x "those books/films" have a lot to answer for"
Very true although maybe helped people to be more honest about their wants and needs xx |
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By *haron7540Woman
over a year ago
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"I love the not knowing what's coming next. Think that's why I like a blindfold so much. I like the struggling but deep down I want to still be tied up or held down. I like when I'm getting flogged and one minute it's soft then next minute it's done with a lot more force. Think that's why I like force play so much also..it's really unpredictable and strangely enough it's more in the mind rather than the physical x"
I’m very similar to this. He has a box and you never know what’s going to come out of there, be it toys, the cane. Being tied up and waiting, hearing him but not knowing is a turn on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love the not knowing what's coming next. Think that's why I like a blindfold so much. I like the struggling but deep down I want to still be tied up or held down. I like when I'm getting flogged and one minute it's soft then next minute it's done with a lot more force. Think that's why I like force play so much also..it's really unpredictable and strangely enough it's more in the mind rather than the physical x
I’m very similar to this. He has a box and you never know what’s going to come out of there, be it toys, the cane. Being tied up and waiting, hearing him but not knowing is a turn on"
Aww when you hear the rummage in the drawer your mind goes at 100 miles am hour. It's even better if you've got earphones in and you can't hear what's going on. Mr says I start breathing really heavy lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We like the humiliation and control side of things. Restraints on him (chastity, hoods, strap on, , bulls cuckold and hotwifes dynamic) not so much into the pain (unless you count slapping and CBT) Never really understand the fancy rope stuff and spanking though "
Simply wow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x"
Well this is true alot guys claim to be Dom and don't understand it think spanking telling you to suck there dick is Dominant.
I would never Dom someone I hadn't connected with and understand what they like want as a sub, as ever Dom/sub is different and like different things. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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Its something ive been into npw for many years, done lots of aspects.
Impact play, rope play are the big two (yes general topics and i do enjoy the smaller aspects of it too)
Toy drawer? Nah toy chest for general bits and a "heavy bag" for more intense play.
I also enjoy the more medative aspects like shibari, Kinbaku.
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
bristol |
"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x"
Captivate the mind and the body will follow.
Certain books and films which really dont portray bdsm in the light it deserves have bought out a lot of "wannabe" but they are pretty easy to spot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x
Well this is true alot guys claim to be Dom and don't understand it think spanking telling you to suck there dick is Dominant.
I would never Dom someone I hadn't connected with and understand what they like want as a sub, as ever Dom/sub is different and like different things."
Totally agree to this!
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Letting someone have complete control over me. Yes.
But not a role I hand out to anyone.
Has to be a huge amount of trust, respect & faith , a total mind connection with someone I've spent time established a caring relationship with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK so I'm just going to put it out their.. I have recently been talking to a young lady who loves bdsm and bondage.. Now don't get me wrong I'm a switch and love it all too! But I do tend to lean more towards my dom side! Just something about having a lady at her mercy tied up knowing that you can have your way with her. But St the same time as pleasuring her it's also getting me off too!.
I'm just curious about how many other woman secretly like bdsm or bondage and who like to just loose control to another person. I know that a lot of trust comes into this too. But come on ladies don't be shy. Il go easy on you
What is it you like about bondage or dislike? Are you more sub or dom?
Xx
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Hi to you both. Would love to get to know you and play this way. I'm a switch but really want to let my sub side loose as it has not really been allowed out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bring your safe word
Pineapples. Is my safe word
Why is that so common as a safe word??.. Have you not been the video of the bounty hunter arresting the guy...? "
No? Tell me more.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the mental calm that submission provides. Once the door to the room is closed, that is the only place I exist.
What he chooses to do with me then is not my concern, I'd like to think that a Dom has gotten to know me well enough before we meet, to tailor our play sessions to suit us both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a dominant man and like him to take the lead at times, but I can't get on board with the sub thing. I hate role play, and being ordered around, too cynical I think and I laugh too much. Kills the mood  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My last long term fab was very sub although she also liked to switch now and again and we had a fantastic relationship until I broke her trust outside the bedroom and it’s something I miss enormously now - the intimacy and depth of understanding that we had and the pleasure she gained from being flogged and caned while tied to her bed was very intense. She often would just lie in my arms afterwards completely and utterly sated and relaxed with a beatific smile on her face as she fell asleep - it made her so happy.  |
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Me and my partner have recently got into bondage and he is my Sir. But I will switch on occasions and put him in his cage.
I love the pinwheel and nipple clamps and have just bought a collar. I gush and squirt from just having my nipples clamped if he has wound me up well. We also have a flogger. It's lots of long thin pieces which tickle when used light and tingle when spanked. I love it all. We hope to explore the dungeon at cupids really soon too! |
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"I’m sub and actually find it very hard to find gen dominant guys that really understand what bdsm is all about ...... just lots of wannabes that don’t understand to give yourself and trust someone takes a connection of the mind first x"
 And to find a Dom who is sexually exceptional as well is like finding the holy grail |
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This is something we have been playing around with for a while. My wife allows me to take control and have her used in group situation.
One recent occasion was having her perform a live bareback sex show in a club with a bbc friend. She had her hands bound and was made to wear a blindfold. At one point whilst us guys enjoyed a breather we left her tied naked to a cross in the torture room.
Baby oil was poured over her body and the audience of perhaps 40 people were invited to rub the oil into her body.
We sat watching as my wife hung there blind and helpless and all these strangers rubbed her body. Actually fingered her pussy and ass to be more accurate. Lol
She loved it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We both love it and no secret about it!
We will both switch, although I (Mrs) prefer to be more dom when playing with another woman "
great profile
do you go out on the local scene at all |
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"We both love it and no secret about it!
We will both switch, although I (Mrs) prefer to be more dom when playing with another woman
great profile
do you go out on the local scene at all"
Thank you 
We haven't had the chance as started a family last year. It is something we are aiming to start doing though, any recommendations? |
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By *TBSMan
over a year ago
close enough |
After being into the D/s lifestyle for over 20 years but abstaining for over two I have recently met a lady (on tinder of all places) whom is fresh to it.
This initial period of building up trust,slowly finding boundaries and aftercare is a beautiful time.
Yesterday I traveled 32 miles to suprise her by telling her she had 30 mins to meet me at a local wooded carpark with a toy,requested she stand at back of her car and play until finished.lots of tender kisses for her afterwards and i left.
The fire in her eyes and shaking bottom lip was delicious.
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I have been into BDSM for the past 24 years or so and love everything about it. Have had a bad experience this year though with an ex-partner.
I switch, but have a preference for being submissive. Quite fancy living in an FLR relationship one day. |
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By *ky19Man
over a year ago
Plymouth OYO Hotel |
OK so I'm really not into things like spanking, clamps, being called whore etc
But I crazy dig tying or being tied up. Or even better, using sexy shiny tape. I would definitely be a switch.
Its about being sensual and dominant (or being dominated) for me, especially using my hands a lot and I have a thing for mouths, I like my hands wrapped around someone's mouth and/or their throat. And things like breath play - by kissing! While also having arms and legs wrapped firmly around someone and being able to feel ribs! Bonus points if this is in full leather so it's tight and noisy. The main thing is their senses going crazy.
I like giving and receiving with girls and other guys, but only really get turned on being dominated if they are stronger than me and have overpowered me, preferably having been worn down through sexy erotic wrestling and grappling for control, with breathless kissing mixed in.
This is getting me going now x |
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In day to day life I'm pretty much in charge of everything, kids, appointments, house, bills etc .
When I'm having sex I like to lose some of that control. It's a huge turn on to feel helpless.
Donna x |
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