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Some Musings on Messaging
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It was like reading the same message over and over again, time after time after time after time after time ...... Christopher E Hitchens! no wonder so many messages are insta-deleted if that's what passes as a nice message these days.
I know you guys are trying to get the girls into bed ..... but the idea isnt to do that by sending them to sleep.
Anyway as a result of this experience I thought I'd jot down some musings:
********* musing 1 - "who wrote that?" ********
Before pressing send opn that message you've just typed, read through your message again, ask yourself "could this message have been written by me and me alone - or could anyone have said these things"
If the answer is the latter DON'T HIT SEND
Ask yourself "Does this message DESCRIBE me, or is it just a bunch of words that say what I'm like"
If the answer is the latter DON'T HIT SEND
********* musing 2 - "selling points that aren't really selling points" *********
Is promising that you will always turn up for meets a real selling point or is it in fact just one of the most basic things someone would expect of you?
Is promising you are "genuine" (whatever the hell that means) a real selling point or is it in fact just one of the most basic things someone would expect of you?
Is saying you can hold a conversation a real selling point or is it in fact just one of the most basic things someone would expect of you?
I could go on but ......
After you have finished typing your message, read back through the things you've put in that "sell" you and ask "are they really selling points or are they in fact just one of the most basic things someone would expect of you?
******** musing 3 - "selling points that aren't sold" *********
Saying your fun without doing anything fun
Saying you have a sense of humour without being funny
Generally mentioning any positive personality trait without making any effort to demonstrate it
********** musing 4 "miscellaneous" **********
To the bloke who sent the upside down cock pic - that just made us suspect you were impotent | |||
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"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long "Sum up.....folks are faaaaanies.....get. used to wearing out yer block button.  | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long "no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ...... | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long "In summary:- 1 girl walks into a bar where 300 horny guys want to chat her up... 50 jump up and down saying shag me! 50 others say I have a big cock Most use the "original" chat up line/s will find that actually 199 others have already said the same thing.... Best to say nothing and sit in the corner licking your eyebrows | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......"Go on then. | |||
Brilliant especially the mind numbingly etc etc, omg sooooo funny and yes we do, my favourite's are those idiots that attach pictures to their introductory message that are on public display on their profile, what the fuck for!! AND WHERE IS THE FEKKING FACE PICTURE  
How about those that ask you what you are up to tonight and do you fancy meeting up for some fun? ROOOOAAAAARRRR and my status is:-
Doing both jobs today so not around until tomorrow
ffffsssss!
Now where is my rabbit, least he doesn't send me stupid bloody messages | |||
"Fabulous post! Im interested to know what your opening line was prior to this, and what it would be now???" I have a few stock openers that I'll use bits and pieces from depending on the circumstances - but mostly my messages are carefully tailored to each individual I send them to. Thing is tho I'm very selective about who I mail - I'll generally only mail someone who demonstrates a fun and open attitude - someone who's profile I can look at and I'll immediately know exactly what I'm going to say a nice arse helps too lol | |||
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"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......"yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it?? | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??"what's wrong with your living room carpet???  | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet??? "ooooooohhhhhhhh | |||
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"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh "Lol, and there we have it! Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words. However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this. Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!! All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth. This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder. I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross! | |||
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"Obviously this is a generalisation but you can be as dull as preverble dishwater and have the intelect of Cromagnon man but if you post a picture of a big cock you get meets. Messages dont mean shit to most on here,some but not most." really..... is the glass always half empty in your world????
for everything that you send of is posted negativity breeds negativity....
why would you want to meet someone who was always miserable... you are here for fun......
i wouldn't like to generalise at to what most people do or don't do.... but if you don't do a good job of selling yourself and making people think "wow i have to meet that person" then it doesn't matter irregardless...
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"Obviously this is a generalisation but you can be as dull as preverble dishwater and have the intelect of Cromagnon man but if you post a picture of a big cock you get meets. Messages dont mean shit to most on here,some but not most. really..... is the glass always half empty in your world????
for everything that you send of is posted negativity breeds negativity....
why would you want to meet someone who was always miserable... you are here for fun......
i wouldn't like to generalise at to what most people do or don't do.... but if you don't do a good job of selling yourself and making people think "wow i have to meet that person" then it doesn't matter irregardless...
"That is the point. SOME ppl can't sell themselves even though they think they can. look at the Aprentice series will lord Sugar. And selling is only worth anything if the person who is receiving it understands how to translate it all. But there are variables outside our control such as mood etc which even though the sender may be the most witty bastard out there may come across to the receiver ever so slightly... due those external things as i have said. Have you got a hobby that you like to do often (i.e. sex) but for some reason its [magic] not there . i guess thats why life is hard. The only way is to get a snapshot into the persons day and judge it by that but even that seems not to be right but a little manipulative. | |||
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"Obviously this is a generalisation but you can be as dull as preverble dishwater and have the intelect of Cromagnon man but if you post a picture of a big cock you get meets. Messages dont mean shit to most on here,some but not most. really..... is the glass always half empty in your world????
for everything that you send of is posted negativity breeds negativity....
why would you want to meet someone who was always miserable... you are here for fun......
i wouldn't like to generalise at to what most people do or don't do.... but if you don't do a good job of selling yourself and making people think "wow i have to meet that person" then it doesn't matter irregardless...
That is the point. SOME ppl can't sell themselves even though they think they can. look at the Aprentice series will lord Sugar. And selling is only worth anything if the person who is receiving it understands how to translate it all. But there are variables outside our control such as mood etc which even though the sender may be the most witty bastard out there may come across to the receiver ever so slightly... due those external things as i have said.
Have you got a hobby that you like to do often (i.e. sex) but for some reason its [magic] not there .
i guess thats why life is hard. The only way is to get a snapshot into the persons day and judge it by that but even that seems not to be right but a little manipulative.
"well if people can't sell themselves, then this place is no different to the rest of the real world.... for example, why should this be any different to any city centre on a weekend... what would you do "in the real world" if there was a person you liked.... you would try to impress them... so just because people have an interest in sex and are more open about it, should things be any different? | |||
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"Obviously this is a generalisation but you can be as dull as preverble dishwater and have the intelect of Cromagnon man but if you post a picture of a big cock you get meets. Messages dont mean shit to most on here,some but not most. really..... is the glass always half empty in your world????
for everything that you send of is posted negativity breeds negativity....
why would you want to meet someone who was always miserable... you are here for fun......
i wouldn't like to generalise at to what most people do or don't do.... but if you don't do a good job of selling yourself and making people think "wow i have to meet that person" then it doesn't matter irregardless...
That is the point. SOME ppl can't sell themselves even though they think they can. look at the Aprentice series will lord Sugar. And selling is only worth anything if the person who is receiving it understands how to translate it all. But there are variables outside our control such as mood etc which even though the sender may be the most witty bastard out there may come across to the receiver ever so slightly... due those external things as i have said.
Have you got a hobby that you like to do often (i.e. sex) but for some reason its [magic] not there .
i guess thats why life is hard. The only way is to get a snapshot into the persons day and judge it by that but even that seems not to be right but a little manipulative.
well if people can't sell themselves, then this place is no different to the rest of the real world....
for example, why should this be any different to any city centre on a weekend... what would you do "in the real world" if there was a person you liked.... you would try to impress them...
so just because people have an interest in sex and are more open about it, should things be any different?"I came her thinking this place was different from the rest of the world. it was supposed to be easier to hook up without the restraints of society. But i've learned ppl are still ppl. Can't change that. There is not such thing as getting back to nature cos surely it would have happened. manners restrains us... I work at the kennels. They hump the bitches all the time - slight exageration there, but you know what i mean Sometimes i wish I was a dog and woman were dogs too. Then we could hump away all day long and never ever ever complain . i bet these forums wouldn't exist if we did... | |||
" well if people can't sell themselves, then this place is no different to the rest of the real world...." there's an old saying that goes "You don't sell the sausage - you sell the sizzle" There's an awful lot of people on here trying to sell sausages | |||
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" well if people can't sell themselves, then this place is no different to the rest of the real world.... there's an old saying that goes "You don't sell the sausage - you sell the sizzle" There's an awful lot of people on here trying to sell sausages" It's like a game of roulette though - that particular message they read they could have reached the limit and wanted a new approach - through no fault of my own. Moods constantly change. Men/woman are battling the forever changing moods that ppl have. Most ppl drown, some stay afloat and some are right darn lucky... i'll tell you what i think the initial message that ppl send is to the requirements of the person getting the mail. They make up questions specific to their interests and you respond answering them, They then filer out the ones that really matter and from here it goes whatever direction it needs to take. I may not of been clear about my idea. Say you are looing for a job and you go onto this website and an option to download a file is given. The same setup there only instead of typical questions on the nature of a job what a person actually is needing specifically. I'm sure the programmers could come up with such a thing. | |||
"I want to know which bugger has been getting my other 295 messages "+1 - I'm with you on this one Jezebel - where's the rest of my ruddy messages???? | |||
"(double entrendre was intended)" i had a feeling it was... | |||
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"Heh, Tobleton, you make me laugh... you're someone I'd definitely like to go for a beer with one day. Not trying to crack on to you or anything
"fair enough - but I'm taking the seat by the wall just in case | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh
Lol, and there we have it!
Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words.
However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this.
Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!!
All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth.
This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder.
I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross! "if 'Tobes' is what you class as someone who got hit with an uly stick i'd like to see your vision of perfection (before your head gets too big _obleton i am not saying you are perfection, just that you arent that ugly )
and yes, has to be said, the ability to write well, come across well and make me laugh goes a long way towards a fuck on here
as for the comment from Grim about us all shagging like dogs....ummmmmmmmm..... | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh
Lol, and there we have it!
Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words.
However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this.
Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!!
All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth.
This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder.
I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross!
if 'Tobes' is what you class as someone who got hit with an uly stick i'd like to see your vision of perfection (before your head gets too big _obleton i am not saying you are perfection, just that you arent that ugly )
and yes, has to be said, the ability to write well, come across well and make me laugh goes a long way towards a fuck on here
as for the comment from Grim about us all shagging like dogs....ummmmmmmmm..... "maybe you never understood its subtleties | |||
"Heh, Tobleton, you make me laugh... you're someone I'd definitely like to go for a beer with one day. Not trying to crack on to you or anything
fair enough - but I'm taking the seat by the wall just in case "awww a bromance. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. Can I watch? | |||
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"Bros before Hoes... that's just how it is." 'Thats just how it goes' would have a better ring to it... | |||
"Bros before Hoes... that's just how it is. 'Thats just how it goes' would have a better ring to it..." Or even "and so it goes" as the late great Kurt Vonnegut would have said. | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh
Lol, and there we have it!
Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words.
However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this.
Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!!
All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth.
This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder.
I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross!
if 'Tobes' is what you class as someone who got hit with an uly stick i'd like to see your vision of perfection (before your head gets too big _obleton i am not saying you are perfection, just that you arent that ugly )
and yes, has to be said, the ability to write well, come across well and make me laugh goes a long way towards a fuck on here
as for the comment from Grim about us all shagging like dogs....ummmmmmmmm.....
maybe you never understood its subtleties
"there were subtleties??? i thought you just wanted everyone on here to act on pure base animal instinct and fuck anything in front of them?? that not what you were going for then?? fact is we are not dogs, we evolved and now have a massive brain which requires stimulation for anything else to get stimulated, ignore that fact and your gonna be wanking alone | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh
Lol, and there we have it!
Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words.
However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this.
Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!!
All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth.
This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder.
I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross!
if 'Tobes' is what you class as someone who got hit with an uly stick i'd like to see your vision of perfection (before your head gets too big _obleton i am not saying you are perfection, just that you arent that ugly )
and yes, has to be said, the ability to write well, come across well and make me laugh goes a long way towards a fuck on here
as for the comment from Grim about us all shagging like dogs....ummmmmmmmm.....
maybe you never understood its subtleties
there were subtleties???
i thought you just wanted everyone on here to act on pure base animal instinct and fuck anything in front of them?? that not what you were going for then??
fact is we are not dogs, we evolved and now have a massive brain which requires stimulation for anything else to get stimulated, ignore that fact and your gonna be wanking alone"erm, if i complain that i don;t get responses it would be inevitable i be wanking on my own.... unless i restrain myself cos of evolution ; ) | |||
"can you do a quick sum up of it please cos that post is rrreeeeeeaaaaaaalllllyyyyy long
no but I can do it through the medium of interpretive dance ......
yes.....what chat room are we going in to watch it??
what's wrong with your living room carpet???
ooooooohhhhhhhh
Lol, and there we have it!
Tobes got smacked a few times with the ugly stick, but, by god, has he got a way with words.
However, young Tobes, I do have to take issue with you over this.
Stop telling the numpties "How to..."!!
All we will end up with its lots of "wannaby" Tobes' running about the place, trying to be witty and smooth.
This will make the job of ing out the idiots a lot harder.
I sympathise with the ladies on here, having to put up with it, but it would be better running classes on "Numpty-spotting", so they can filter out the dross!
if 'Tobes' is what you class as someone who got hit with an uly stick i'd like to see your vision of perfection (before your head gets too big _obleton i am not saying you are perfection, just that you arent that ugly )
and yes, has to be said, the ability to write well, come across well and make me laugh goes a long way towards a fuck on here
as for the comment from Grim about us all shagging like dogs....ummmmmmmmm.....
maybe you never understood its subtleties
there were subtleties???
i thought you just wanted everyone on here to act on pure base animal instinct and fuck anything in front of them?? that not what you were going for then??
fact is we are not dogs, we evolved and now have a massive brain which requires stimulation for anything else to get stimulated, ignore that fact and your gonna be wanking alone"masive brain?? I just checked my scrotebag and hey..it looks like a brain...but its not filled with brain cells | |||
"masive brain?? I just checked my scrotebag and hey..it looks like a brain...but its not filled with brain cells" i dont want to know what your scrotebag looks like | |||
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"Dunno about shagging like dogs, but I do enjoy doggy style every now and again. Especially if it's in front of a mirror so I can see tits swinging... and I can practice my porn star pose too - y'know the one, with one hand behind my head and doing a cheeky wink. "have u nice tits then? | |||
"Dunno about shagging like dogs, but I do enjoy doggy style every now and again. Especially if it's in front of a mirror so I can see tits swinging... and I can practice my porn star pose too - y'know the one, with one hand behind my head and doing a cheeky wink. "i actually prefer when the woman is facing you and the woman runs her fingers down your chest and over your arms, fuck, the more she does that the more i thrust.. those days were good... | |||
"Dunno about shagging like dogs, but I do enjoy doggy style every now and again. Especially if it's in front of a mirror so I can see tits swinging... and I can practice my porn star pose too - y'know the one, with one hand behind my head and doing a cheeky wink.
have u nice tits then?"I got told yesterday that my nipples were very pink. I think she meant to say sexy but it came out as pink by mistake. | |||
" I work at the kennels. They hump the bitches all the time - slight exageration there, but you know what i mean Sometimes i wish I was a dog and woman were dogs too. Then we could hump away all day long and never ever ever complain . i bet these forums wouldn't exist if we did..." Hahahaha!! these posts get interesting and interesting. Women over to you...... | |||
" well if people can't sell themselves, then this place is no different to the rest of the real world.... there's an old saying that goes "You don't sell the sausage - you sell the sizzle" There's an awful lot of people on here trying to sell sausages" I like that saying, have never heard it before. | |||
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"I'm quite uncomfortable with this thread. Now yeah there are some daft buggers out there and I've laughed at peoples experiences when they've posted about that. I know this thread is a bit of fun and its all very funny to laugh at all the daft single guys trying to get a shag. But I can't really comment in a lighthearted way because I don't think its right for anyone to be sharing personal messages and, more importantly, personal pictures, with someone else for the intention of taking the piss and that person then write about it on a public forum. I don't think any of us would really be happy about others we thought were trustworthy were showing off our messages and face pics. Regardless of how stupid some people come across in messages, they've sent them in good faith that only the intended person sees them. Enjoy your musings about other swingers on the scene "You've missed the point - I appreciate it's not like me to be subtle and I often hide my subtlety amongst the humour and expletives. The original post was just as much to point out that much of the advice that is given out in these forums, and on people's profiles as to what to put in a message or on a profile appeared to have actually FOLLOWED by the messengers. You'll notice that I pointed out that only a tiny minority were the type of bad, crass, or rude messages that people complain about. But the instead, as a consequence of (presumably) following advice received, the result was a slew of bland, homogenous, timid, dross. My advice was to stop following advice and show a little initiative and individuality instead. | |||
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"You have to give people a little room here, hundreds of messages, if not thousands are sent daily. " Just a stat on number of private messages on Fabswingers. It is hundreds of thousands, close to half a million a day. Admin x | |||
"You have to give people a little room here, hundreds of messages, if not thousands are sent daily. Just a stat on number of private messages on Fabswingers. It is hundreds of thousands, close to half a million a day. Admin x" Admin have you been keeping our messages all together to send at once or have they all gone to the message black hole in cyber space  | |||
"I'm quite uncomfortable with this thread. Now yeah there are some daft buggers out there and I've laughed at peoples experiences when they've posted about that. I know this thread is a bit of fun and its all very funny to laugh at all the daft single guys trying to get a shag. But I can't really comment in a lighthearted way because I don't think its right for anyone to be sharing personal messages and, more importantly, personal pictures, with someone else for the intention of taking the piss and that person then write about it on a public forum. I don't think any of us would really be happy about others we thought were trustworthy were showing off our messages and face pics. Regardless of how stupid some people come across in messages, they've sent them in good faith that only the intended person sees them. Enjoy your musings about other swingers on the scene "Agree with you Iconic, at the other end of these 300 or so sent messages are real people who are hoping for the 'basics' of a certain level of trust, privacy and respect for their messages and face pictures etc. Sharing these messages seems a betrayal of trust to me, even though that trust is just implied. | |||
". But after getting through the first 50 it was becoming a chore After the next 50 it was beginning to piss me off After the final 50 I felt like it would be more fun to pierce my eyeballs with red hot skewers, tear them out and then throttle myself with the mouse cable than it would to read any more messages. " i know how you feel after reading that message
oh i hope you sent them all a reply, even if it was a simple no thanks | |||
"...... You've missed the point - I appreciate it's not like me to be subtle and I often hide my subtlety amongst the humour and expletives. The original post was just as much to point out that much of the advice that is given out in these forums, and on people's profiles as to what to put in a message or on a profile appeared to have actually FOLLOWED by the messengers. You'll notice that I pointed out that only a tiny minority were the type of bad, crass, or rude messages that people complain about. But the instead, as a consequence of (presumably) following advice received, the result was a slew of bland, homogenous, timid, dross. My advice was to stop following advice and show a little initiative and individuality instead. " Tob you've made excellent conclusions from some very good research. Your research material is obviously authentic. I think your advice is sound. My issue is whether you should have had access to the data in the first place. | |||
"...... You've missed the point - I appreciate it's not like me to be subtle and I often hide my subtlety amongst the humour and expletives. The original post was just as much to point out that much of the advice that is given out in these forums, and on people's profiles as to what to put in a message or on a profile appeared to have actually FOLLOWED by the messengers. You'll notice that I pointed out that only a tiny minority were the type of bad, crass, or rude messages that people complain about. But the instead, as a consequence of (presumably) following advice received, the result was a slew of bland, homogenous, timid, dross. My advice was to stop following advice and show a little initiative and individuality instead. Tob you've made excellent conclusions from some very good research. Your research material is obviously authentic. I think your advice is sound. My issue is whether you should have had access to the data in the first place. " No I didn't miss the point Tob, I chose not to comment on your observations because of the way you were able to give us these amusing bits of info. Lots of messages may be bland and uninspiring. But attached to those messages were face pics, private pictures kept from the public site and sent to a woman they hoped would be interested. It was wrong to read other peoples messages to someone else and look at their face pics when they were not intended for you. Bit like reading diaries or other peoples post. Swinging is based around a certain level of trust and a whole lot of discretion. I would like to know if you repaid the favour to this woman and logged into your own account and shared the messages you have received from women and their private pictures too. | |||
its a bit disrespectful of both of you to do that
but then i suppose respects a word not many people on here understand anyway | |||
"I wouldn't say these would-be suitors are replying in the manner most ladies ask for, not completely at any rate. Most ladies ask for men to "be imaginative" in their contacts. Listing your attributes in a vague non-descript manner isn't what I call imaginative...they may follow 90 percent of a woman's wishes, but they are falling at the last (and most important) hurdle. Not that I mind of course, it makes the wicked tapestries that I weave stand out a little more! "Another self serving "ain't I wonderful post to a forum. There does seem to be a lot of these in forums these days. | |||
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"People do talk of experiences all the time, in clubs, at parties etc. Yes we do say 'I got this message the other day .....' And go on to describe it. But I can honestly say that I would never give anyone access to my fab account and give them free reign to look through other peoples messages to me, complete with their private pictures. I practice a little more discretion than that. I am sure that messages do get sent around, but I'd like to think that more people would keep pictures that they've been sent a little More private. Perhaps its just a few of us that practice good manners. But if its not a problem Rumour then let's have a look at your inbox and sent box. Just post your password on here and we can all have a few hours fun. " As always a good reply, Iconic. I can see what you mean about "free reign". I was not looking at it from that angle, more from the "we all give out details, perhaps without noticing" slant. In that case I have to agree and accept that I wasn't clear enough in my "musings" to use someone elses word!
As for our inbox? Well, it would be the most boring three minutes of your life, unfortunately! I did clear out a colony of spiders an hour ago, but the moths are still in residence.
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"To be truly original on a site like this, a site that has run for several years, is nigh on impossible. " I don't quite agree with this, we are all individuals (yes, I've watched 'Life of Brian' ) ...... actually yeah, I get yer point.
Seriously though, I've had some great messages from some guys that instantly make me sit up and take notice, and they carry on doing so in their follow up messages, decent banter and an ability show that you actually have a personality IS such a turn on to me!
The worst for me are the ones who obviously try really hard but just draw out the mundane by using 'more words' to say the same feck'n thing... If the message is so dull it doesn't inspire a decent response from me, I just can't be arsed
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"Unfortunately once you send a message via any medium you lose the ability to control what happens to it. It can be forwarded deleted copied etc if you don't like that maybe messaging online is not for you, perhaps sticking to chatting in clubs would be best" This ^^^^ *Her* | |||
"To be perfectly frank, anyone who claims to be THAT concerned about who is on the other side of the screen when they send pictures and messages offering sex to a faceless profile on a swinging site, probably hasn't really thought through this meeting-people-off-the-internet-for-sex malarkey properly to begin with. Besides I'm sure that more than a few would happily trade that rather illusory privacy just once in exchange for some real feedback as to where they are going wrong when everyone else has been telling them they are doing the right thing." see... i kinda get the "breach of trust" arguement... after all, the original messages were never meant for you, and now rightly or wrongly, they are being mocked and used to make a different point..... if I had sent this "friend" mail, and it was being used like this for someone elses entertainment I think I would be horrified.... to be honest tobes... because I normally respect what you say... I think it may have gone a bit too far, if it was one of yours pieces of mail that was now being treated in that way... how would you feel...... | |||
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"good point i think id be very pissed off if i thought i had mailed someone and they had shared my message and private pics for someone elses amusment
its a bit disrespectful of both of you to do that
but then i suppose respects a word not many people on here understand anyway "I've read this post with interest, in the few weeks I've been on Fab and following the forums I've enjoyed Tobleton's posts and this one is no different. Reason I'm quoting this reply is the last para wrt respect. Maybe I've been lucky, but other than the odd "fancy a f*ck" message, I've found the contacts I've had on here polite and above all, respectful, and although not getting 300 messages a day  (wtf am I doing wrong - I'm a single bi-fem ffs!!!!) I do agree with Tobleton, some of the messages can be a bit generic and I do block those that obviously haven't read my fecking profile (not only single guys!!!) xxx | |||
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"Aye ive seen a few single fems boxes and yep ya right fookin crap that makes ya sad ta be a male xx "Hairy or shaved Soapy?. | |||
"Obviously this is a generalisation but you can be as dull as preverble dishwater and have the intelect of Cromagnon man but if you post a picture of a big cock you get meets. Messages dont mean shit to most on here,some but not most." Wow that chip mut be heavy to carry | |||
Rule 2: Behave in here as you would out there...wit,intelligence and not waving your cock in a womans face are good things
Rule 9: If you cant pull out there you wont pull in here.
Rule 17:If you cant think of anything interesting to say about yourself why expect anyone to be interested in you?
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"good point i think id be very pissed off if i thought i had mailed someone and they had shared my message and private pics for someone elses amusment
its a bit disrespectful of both of you to do that
but then i suppose respects a word not many people on here understand anyway
I've read this post with interest, in the few weeks I've been on Fab and following the forums I've enjoyed Tobleton's posts and this one is no different. Reason I'm quoting this reply is the last para wrt respect. Maybe I've been lucky, but other than the odd "fancy a f*ck" message, I've found the contacts I've had on here polite and above all, respectful, and although not getting 300 messages a day (wtf am I doing wrong - I'm a single bi-fem ffs!!!!) I do agree with Tobleton, some of the messages can be a bit generic and I do block those that obviously haven't read my fecking profile (not only single guys!!!) xxx"I don't get 300 either | |||
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