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By *rotica OP Couple
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't do it.
You should only do it if you enjoy it and are interested in women too"
i agree. if he wants it so badly you could both arrange it at a club with two other women meanwhile you enjoy a MMF too  |
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I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry |
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By *rotica OP Couple
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry"
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping. |
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping. "
This would have me thinking alarm bells. Sounds like he's playing away and awaiting to 'introduce' a woman to you. No way would any savvy bi lady want to play with a couple where the fem is not into it and being cohersed into bi play. Wake up and smell the coffee. |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping.
This would have me thinking alarm bells. Sounds like he's playing away and awaiting to 'introduce' a woman to you. No way would any savvy bi lady want to play with a couple where the fem is not into it and being cohersed into bi play. Wake up and smell the coffee. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping.
This would have me thinking alarm bells. Sounds like he's playing away and awaiting to 'introduce' a woman to you. No way would any savvy bi lady want to play with a couple where the fem is not into it and being cohersed into bi play. Wake up and smell the coffee. "
That's a bit over the top!!! Just because he fancies ffm doesn't mean he's "cheating". It's a top fantasy for most men.
Maybe he's sick of seeing her with other men and fancies it the other way round?
Maybe he only does it to keep her happy and doesn't really enjoy it?
Don't be so quick to judge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping.
This would have me thinking alarm bells. Sounds like he's playing away and awaiting to 'introduce' a woman to you. No way would any savvy bi lady want to play with a couple where the fem is not into it and being cohersed into bi play. Wake up and smell the coffee. "
The fact that he's happy to do it even though you really don't want to, says it all. Not the type of man I'd be with!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?"
It's your choice I've been in this lifestyle a while and it was a fantasy of mine at the beginning but I'm very much over it now, just enjoy doing what you enjoy he wouldn't enjoy the end result if he pushed you into something you don't enjoy, I imagine their are many couples in the same boat but have gone through with it to keep their partner happy, no means no  |
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping.
This would have me thinking alarm bells. Sounds like he's playing away and awaiting to 'introduce' a woman to you. No way would any savvy bi lady want to play with a couple where the fem is not into it and being cohersed into bi play. Wake up and smell the coffee.
That's a bit over the top!!! Just because he fancies ffm doesn't mean he's "cheating". It's a top fantasy for most men.
Maybe he's sick of seeing her with other men and fancies it the other way round?
Maybe he only does it to keep her happy and doesn't really enjoy it?
Don't be so quick to judge."
Not too over the top at all. Naive to think it could not be a possibility. They sound like a couple in trouble. If its not 'pre arranged' they are thinking fuck all about the other woman in all this. Yeh sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. |
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?"
So your boyfriend is straight and you do mmf, but you won't do ffm, because you're straight. That seems perfectly fair and reasonable. |
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By *rotica OP Couple
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
He is not "cheating" as he has 2 meets with women friends per month and we talk about each one in advance. He likes to play with other women and wants to involve me in these meets so I am not left out. Many are just socials. Yes it is his ultimate fantasy for me to join him in his meets for a FFM. He talks about it all the time. I have only ever done MMF with him and dont do solo meets with other men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping. "
But swinging is meant to be something that you both want to do. You should not be doing a ffm just to please him. Tell him no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My man would love an ffm but I too am not bi. Fortunately he understands. Tell him to stop being so selfish and go to a club and watch an ffm
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you don’t have to be bi to enjoy a mff there’s still plenty you can do and it’s all a thrill person depending,some people like sharing watching being watched etc |
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?"
so he obviously doesn't mind you doing anything sexy with another guy but you would be greatly upset if he did anything sexy with another woman? Seems to be its all about you then so why ask for advice? Might sound harsh but that's how it comes across to us.
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"My man would love an ffm but I too am not bi. Fortunately he understands. Tell him to stop being so selfish and go to a club and watch an ffm
Mrs you don’t have to be bi to enjoy a mff there’s still plenty you can do and it’s all a thrill person depending,some people like sharing watching being watched etc "
What the same as you don't have to be a bi guy to do mmf like her husband does all the time lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy. |
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over a year ago
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?"
Question, is your boyfriend bi when you have an mmf does he play with the other guy?
Or do they both just play with you. |
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?
Question, is your boyfriend bi when you have an mmf does he play with the other guy?
Or do they both just play with you. "
doesnt matter too much, if she doesnt want to see b/f with another female and he ok with that, she should not feel pressurized into doing FFM  |
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over a year ago
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I agree, if you are not even bi-curious, why would you try having a ffm? Or even fmf (that one apparently means females only playing with the man).
I am bi, and would never agree to a threesome with a couple where the female is not at least bi-curious. As there is really no point in that, apart from the guy fulfilling his porn fueled fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?
Question, is your boyfriend bi when you have an mmf does he play with the other guy?
Or do they both just play with you.
doesnt matter too much, if she doesnt want to see b/f with another female and he ok with that, she should not feel pressurized into doing FFM "
No one is saying she should do anything she isn’t comfortable with, I’m just drawing a parallel. Also making the point that to have a 3 some involving another girl doesn’t mean she has to be bi.
I have had plenty of mmf and I’m not remotely bi. It’s a laugh and I do it for the lady cos she likes it. But from my perspective Mff is where I have real fun.
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"I agree, if you are not even bi-curious, why would you try having a ffm? Or even fmf (that one apparently means females only playing with the man).
I am bi, and would never agree to a threesome with a couple where the female is not at least bi-curious. As there is really no point in that, apart from the guy fulfilling his porn fueled fantasy. "
Why is it wrong for the guy to fulfill his fantasy.
Is it wrong for the girl to fulfill hers when having two guys. |
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"I agree, if you are not even bi-curious, why would you try having a ffm? Or even fmf (that one apparently means females only playing with the man).
I am bi, and would never agree to a threesome with a couple where the female is not at least bi-curious. As there is really no point in that, apart from the guy fulfilling his porn fueled fantasy.
Why is it wrong for the guy to fulfill his fantasy.
Is it wrong for the girl to fulfill hers when having two guys. "
Lol are you new here girls can do whatever they want, cheat, have affairs, mmf. It's guys that can't still trying to get to grips with the double standards, lol. |
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"I agree, if you are not even bi-curious, why would you try having a ffm? Or even fmf (that one apparently means females only playing with the man).
I am bi, and would never agree to a threesome with a couple where the female is not at least bi-curious. As there is really no point in that, apart from the guy fulfilling his porn fueled fantasy.
Why is it wrong for the guy to fulfill his fantasy.
Is it wrong for the girl to fulfill hers when having two guys.
Lol are you new here girls can do whatever they want, cheat, have affairs, mmf. It's guys that can't still trying to get to grips with the double standards, lol. "
Not new, but I do like to point out a double standard when I see one |
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By *rotica OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy."
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you. |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you. "
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case |
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By *rotica OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case"
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it. |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it. "
In which case neither of you should be swinging at all. |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it.
In which case neither of you should be swinging at all. "
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it. "
Ah I see, well that’s an unfortunate situation to be in. It doesn’t sound to me like your suited to the swinging lifestyle tbf. Have you explained how you feel to him. |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it.
In which case neither of you should be swinging at all. "
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You are being coerced, with your alleged boyf trying to get you to do something you don't want to do and threatening you with a 'list' of people who will if you don't.
He's a manipulative creep. Get rid of him. Fast. Or you'll deeply, deeply regret it.
You know this really. |
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"You are being coerced, with your alleged boyf trying to get you to do something you don't want to do and threatening you with a 'list' of people who will if you don't.
He's a manipulative creep. Get rid of him. Fast. Or you'll deeply, deeply regret it.
You know this really."
And she's also happily having sex with other guys while not wanting him to do the same. If it was a guy posting this very same issue it would still be his fault for not wanting the mmf when his part ner let him do ffm.
They shouldn't be swingers, it's nothing to do with him being manipulative, he just wants to be able to do what his wife can do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty sure you won’t find a lady to play with if you’re not bi or curious and you don’t feel comfortable with her playing with your man, what is in it for her...sounds like a nightmare to me! Sorry
He has a list of ladies who would willingly do it just to get to spend a little bit of time with him. However he loves me so it is me he wants to experience it with not 2 other women. Any suggestions how to cope?. I did wonder if the first step would be to play in the same room as another couple and see how I feel without swapping. "
Why do something you dont want to
Just to please others you will only regret it after so why put yourelf thru it? |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it. "
Why again would you do this if he was any sort of man he would see how distressed you are and not force you to do things your uncomfortable with |
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it.
In which case neither of you should be swinging at all. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Find it really strange how loads have attacked the boyfriend for wanting a FFM play. I mean you’d understand it if she was getting loads of MMF plays,
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"Swinging should be fun for you both, and it seems you need a serious talk between you to decide where your limits as a couple lie.
Taking one for the team is never a good idea. But it also reads as though you are not comfortable with him being with other women, though you enjoy other guys. That you allow him to do it alone seems that you're pretending it isn't real if you can't see it?
Sit down together, talk honestly and openly about what you both want, and what as a couple you would both enjoy. Once you are on the same page go slowly and make sure you are both happy.
This is excellent advice. I have tried to talk but will try again as you say. Thank you.
What is it that you are afraid will happen if you have a mff is it just that you don’t want to be confronted with the fact he is having sex with another woman.
Are you happy with the fact that he plays solo, would you prefer for that to not be the case
Every solo meet he has upsets me greatly and to see him touch and fuck someone else is probably going to finish me off. He is trying to be open and by involving me thinks i would be less upset about his meets and enjoy it.
In which case neither of you should be swinging at all.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"We are a loving couple who like MMF. My boyfrend wants me to try FFM and is so excited by the thought. I am not bi and seeing women playing does nothing for me. Also if I saw him doing anything sexy with another lady it would upset me greatly. He does swing solo sometimes but I know the ladies mean nothing to him apart from sex, so he cant understand why I wont try a FFM. Any advice?"
Live your life, not his, don’t know if it’s advice, just make sense to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fully understand why you have reservations about seeing your man with another woman me an my wife are fine with it but we have play friends that she can’t see him touch another woman but she is most definitely ok with playing with other women a bit unfair in my eyes but he’s happy with it |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
Sussex/Surrey |
So your profile specifically advertises for MMF
Your veris suggest your partner is a FB who, according to your profile text, has a single profile.
Seems like this is a relationship which was built on swinging but one partner now wants more from it than just that.
Not a criticism only a deduction. If it’s correct then there may be some hard choices to be made. Hope it works out. |
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By *cedGemsWoman
over a year ago
South West Wales ;-) |
Stick to your OWN decision. I personally loathe a pushy male wanting to see his partner with a female. ... if it doesn't float your boat - leave him drown! Straight is straight. . Don't give in to him x |
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"Stick to your OWN decision. I personally loathe a pushy male wanting to see his partner with a female. ... if it doesn't float your boat - leave him drown! Straight is straight. . Don't give in to him x"
To be fair we don't know how pushy he is with her as we are not involved but no if someone dosn't want a MFF then you shouldn't have to. However if he decides he dosn't want to have any more MMF's then that should go too. |
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"My man would love an ffm but I too am not bi. Fortunately he understands. Tell him to stop being so selfish and go to a club and watch an ffm
Mrs"
All men luv a ffm situation. A lot also won't do mfm as they have double standards. And by the way I'm part of a couple before anyone tries to say I'm jealous etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My man would love an ffm but I too am not bi. Fortunately he understands. Tell him to stop being so selfish and go to a club and watch an ffm
Mrs
All men luv a ffm situation. A lot also won't do mfm as they have double standards. And by the way I'm part of a couple before anyone tries to say I'm jealous etc. "
We won’t do mfm because we had a bad experience not anything to do with double standards plus we are here because my wife is bi and it’s somewhere she can get her hunger for pussy satisfied we do couples and females but due to 1 moron no more single men |
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