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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondered what peoples opinions are on this. Theres been plenty of female profiles ive came across that Ive been interested in, with lets say, 5 or 6 verifications, but the person only displays 1. I cant help but automatically think the person has received negative verifications for whatever reasons and this puts me off. Am I the only one that thinks that way? Im sure there are plenty of reasons someone might hide a verification, but to me I just think, 'hmmm, I wonder what happened during them meets' 
Whats your reasons for hiding verifications? Educate me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what peoples opinions are on this. Theres been plenty of female profiles ive came across that Ive been interested in, with lets say, 5 or 6 verifications, but the person only displays 1. I cant help but automatically think the person has received negative verifications for whatever reasons and this puts me off. Am I the only one that thinks that way? Im sure there are plenty of reasons someone might hide a verification, but to me I just think, 'hmmm, I wonder what happened during them meets'
Whats your reasons for hiding verifications? Educate me!"
nobody would keep or display a negative veri why would they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You would block a negative one then it disappears anyway or you wouldn’t show the summary, I only have a few on show as I don’t think people need to see them all but can see I am genuine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand people will meet and wont hit it off, or not like the other persons attitude or whatever. I know I cant say much when Ive zero veri's, but there was a woman a few days ago that had over 10 but only showed 2 and to me that just seems like a lot to hide and alarm bells started ringing. Each to their own, I know some people wouldnt be put off though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t display mine because some are really graphic and make me cringe. A couple others actually use my name, which I don’t want on fab. And a few other members have deleted their profile, so therefore their verification they gave me is gone. Could be plenty of reasons someone is hiding their verifications  |
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It doesn't bother me,you read one you've read them all. How many times do I want to read...turned up on time,had a good time;treat this one with respect. The most important thing is they are verified which means they are who they say they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't bother me,you read one you've read them all. How many times do I want to read...turned up on time,had a good time;treat this one with respect. The most important thing is they are verified which means they are who they say they are."
Not always. Verifications can be faked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody's business who we have met,or what went the on.
Also have had occasions in the past where we have displayed verifications people have contacted them trying to get information about us 
I'm guessing others have had similar situations and so hide theirs. |
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You have a lot to learn young one.
I generally don't display multiple veris off the same person (unless they're proper funny or something)
I won't display ones that go into detail about the sex side of the meet. I'm more than just sex thank you very much.
There are many many reasons.
Some people display jealousy and can get nasty towards others people have met.
I got a verification from someone who recognised me on a bus, we never spoke a word.
I got a message telling me they'd just seen me on the number whatever and the next thing I knew a veri stating I really do look like a princess and how they'd like to spend more time with me in a better atmosphere. Like really?! |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
They might not be hidden - the person who gave them the verification may have left the site which causes the verification itself to disappear but not in the summary.
Currently I have 11 verifications but I only show 6 - not through choice, the people have left. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t display all my veris, the majority are social from the socials I jointly organise but I’ve found that people look at the verification summary and make assumptions. |
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Why should it bother you, it’s not trip advisor where if you complain & leave a bad review, it gets published even if you’ve never visited the establishment!
If you met somebody in club or in the vanilla world you wouldn’t have verifications to help you’re decision, you’d use your gut instinct. It’s strange to see somebody with no verifications be so fussy!
If you look at any online reviews for anything they are subjective, how can the sane hotel have 500 excellent reviews & 500 terrible, you’d think people hadn’t stayed in the same place?
Our advice is to ignore the veris unless it tells you something to avoid ie bareback, go for a social & try before you buy. |
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"It doesn't bother me,you read one you've read them all. How many times do I want to read...turned up on time,had a good time;treat this one with respect. The most important thing is they are verified which means they are who they say they are.
Not always. Verifications can be faked"
This is true,as with profiles and pics. The only way to truly know is when you meet them face to face. |
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Mine are not displayed due to people contacting others I've met trying to get information. What I do and who I do on here has nothing to do with anyone else. Main thing is I'm verified....or should that be certified!!!  |
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"I made the mistake of daring my last meet to create the most sarcastic veri... Now im not sure If i should be hiding it or not haha It's one hell of a read though!"
That has got to be the best one yet...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't display mine or read anybody else's. What I do on a meet is nobody else's business and I don't like it when people write explicit details.
I don't bother reading other people's, as what is a great meet for one person isn't necessarily going to appeal to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't bother me,you read one you've read them all. How many times do I want to read...turned up on time,had a good time;treat this one with respect. The most important thing is they are verified which means they are who they say they are.
Not always. Verifications can be faked"
you're joking who would do that |
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"I wouldn't get to worried about it.
We hide ours because its our choice.
Some people may not want you to know who verified them to preserve anonymity and avoid future backlash.
This is the same as us, plus a couple of our veri's have been contacted by shall we say a 'stalker' of ours. Just saves a lot of agro really. H
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I show my summary to prove I do actually meet, but I choose not to show the actual veri. Non of mine are negative but It’s personal preference!
Also you can have met someone who has now left the site and their veri won’t show... |
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"I made the mistake of daring my last meet to create the most sarcastic veri... Now im not sure If i should be hiding it or not haha It's one hell of a read though!"
Ha ha, I didn't realise anyone under the age of 75 still had net curtains in 2018 but you live and learn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... treat this one with respect... "
That one bugs the tits off me too. A, who needs to be told to treat people with respect? B, are people who write that saying that it's fine to treat the rest with no respect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... treat this one with respect...
That one bugs the tits off me too. A, who needs to be told to treat people with respect? B, are people who write that saying that it's fine to treat the rest with no respect? "
#youknowwhoyouare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a fan of veris. Some people seem to put more importance on a veri than the actual meet. I don't display any of mine, its no ones business who I meet on here and because of my age filters meaning no one can message, some hassle some of the guys I've met to try and contact me if I display them. That's not fair on them and its somewhat creepy.
I don't judge people on them, never read them to be honest. I may look at the type of people they meet to see if I'd be their type but that's about it. I don't need to see what a complete stranger has said about another stranger to make up my mind if I want to meet them, I'll make my own decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondered what peoples opinions are on this. Theres been plenty of female profiles ive came across that Ive been interested in, with lets say, 5 or 6 verifications, but the person only displays 1. I cant help but automatically think the person has received negative verifications for whatever reasons and this puts me off. Am I the only one that thinks that way? Im sure there are plenty of reasons someone might hide a verification, but to me I just think, 'hmmm, I wonder what happened during them meets'
Whats your reasons for hiding verifications? Educate me!"
i find it like feedback on something. some u agree with some you wont and im not egotisical to require mine showing so i dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t display mine because some are really graphic and make me cringe. A couple others actually use my name, which I don’t want on fab. And a few other members have deleted their profile, so therefore their verification they gave me is gone. Could be plenty of reasons someone is hiding their verifications "
You don’t want your name to be public but don’t mind your face ?? How does that work ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t display mine because some are really graphic and make me cringe. A couple others actually use my name, which I don’t want on fab. And a few other members have deleted their profile, so therefore their verification they gave me is gone. Could be plenty of reasons someone is hiding their verifications "
I completely get this, you can't guarantee what is going to be written about a meet. I wouldn't want graphic stuff on a verification, I like a bit of mystery. I certainly wouldn't want my name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know if you get a vacation from somebody and they leave the site you can no longer show there verification ..
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If I ever get a vacation from someone I will be dead chuffed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I made the mistake of daring my last meet to create the most sarcastic veri... Now im not sure If i should be hiding it or not haha It's one hell of a read though!
That has got to be the best one yet... "
Agreed there should be a certify section and a vertification/meet report button |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I made the mistake of daring my last meet to create the most sarcastic veri... Now im not sure If i should be hiding it or not haha It's one hell of a read though!
That has got to be the best one yet...
Agreed there should be a certify section and a vertification/meet report button"
occasionally i give witty veris for meets i know well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I made the mistake of daring my last meet to create the most sarcastic veri... Now im not sure If i should be hiding it or not haha It's one hell of a read though!
That has got to be the best one yet...
It’s all about being witty and the banter jj lol ??
Agreed there should be a certify section and a vertification/meet report button
occasionally i give witty veris for meets i know well "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have one displayed as the others have all left FAB...dont make assumptions about why verifications might not be shown.
Chat to that person and get to know them. Form your own opinion....don’t be persuaded by what someone else has wrote about them. |
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"I have one displayed as the others have all left FAB...dont make assumptions about why verifications might not be shown.
Chat to that person and get to know them. Form your own opinion....don’t be persuaded by what someone else has wrote about them. "
I’m sure my meets were d*unk when they have written veris for me lol |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
St Peter Port |
"Nobody's business who we have met,or what went the on.
Also have had occasions in the past where we have displayed verifications people have contacted them trying to get information about us
I'm guessing others have had similar situations and so hide theirs."
My experience too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to show all of mine but found, even though my profile says I am not looking for single guys, they would message anyway, either because they wanted to play with someone as naughty as my veris paint me or sometimes they just thought that because I have been a prolific fucker, that I always need to be or just that I will fuck anyone n everyone and one man is not enough. Assumptions about verifications should not be made either way! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"Nobody's business who we have met,or what went the on.
Also have had occasions in the past where we have displayed verifications people have contacted them trying to get information about us
I'm guessing others have had similar situations and so hide theirs.
My experience too!"
Same here. We've also been contacted asking about so and so and what their 'performance' was like. Some guys got pissy because we met so and so, others got annoyed because we decided to to have a break from meets but didn't meet them as soon as we were off it. There's tons of reasons bit feeling pressured to explain ourselves is our main reason. Now we play when we want without anyone knowing our business, if this bothers then it's tough really. Not showing veris has improved our fab experience. |
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"Nobody's business who we have met,or what went the on.
Also have had occasions in the past where we have displayed verifications people have contacted them trying to get information about us
I'm guessing others have had similar situations and so hide theirs.
My experience too!"
And mine....totally uncalled for |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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Once your verified you are verified. Everything after that is just personal or graphic or similar to what has been written before . It does not bother me if someone has none or published none or just some. I will make my own mind up about meeting or playing.Quite often verifications written by other men on women's profiles are just an advert for themselves and probably puffed up at that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve just noticed our summary still shows a couple and a woman who deleted their accounts. The actual verification disappeared but the summary still includes them in the total.
We would look like we are hiding them but we aren’t.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are reading too much into it OP. Most will not leave negative verifications. The process is just to prove that a person is genuine. Some will happily display them, others will prefer them to be private. There is no right or wrong. Just preference |
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"Interesting feedback, a lot more reasons for it than I initially thought then! Ive learnt a lot today  "
There are loads of different reasons why individuals don't show verifications,one thing is not to assume the reasons why
I show just club/party host verifications that shows I'm real and attend events,that's what they mean to me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've known people who come back to re verify them.
I've seen lots of veris on some
All telling me what sex they had.
I thought they were more to do with if we are genuine or not.
We can all chose not to display veris.
I always think proof is in pudding. Meet them make my own mind up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go with your gut. Choose the person you are hitting it off with and go meet them for a coffee. They could have 170 amazing veris, but if you don’t click the sex would still be awful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go with your gut. Choose the person you are hitting it off with and go meet them for a coffee. They could have 170 amazing veris, but if you don’t click the sex would still be awful."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nobody leaves bad verifications, come on! However if a member leaves, so does the verification. Although it still shows in the summery. So they may not be hiding anything, just have nothing to show.
Frankly, who I meet is nobody else’s business. So mine tend to stay hidden unless someone wants to see them |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
It is obviously about personal preference but for us we prefer profiles where at least some of their veris are displayed. You can tell a lot about a person by the people they meet. It also enables you to out fake profiles.
There are definitely some fake profiles on here that appear to be genuine because they have a few veris in the summary so appear genuine but none are displayed. Now yes people can leave but what this shouts to us is that the person has another "genuine" profile as a single guy (normally) that has at least one veri. They then set up a single female profile (normally) and verify it from their genuine account but hid the veri...they then get some weird kick out of tricking people into writing to them and sharing face pics etc with the fake single girl.
So personally we would prefer it if people had to display their veris! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People keep them hidden for different reasons. we currently have ours hidden due to a few people keep looking then messaging the people we have met and making out as though we are good friends and asking things about us when we have never even met some of them and only spoke on messages  . We are happy to show them to anyone that we are talking to with the view to meet though. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes, I met a guy for a social and the social was okay but I didn’t want to take it any further. I don’t put it, as I don’t want anyone to think I had sex with him. And it’s kinda pointless too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we hide some of ours we control what we want people to see if people think that negative then carry on but they are hidden for a reason .... you get a really good veri from someone the it can open a can of worms jealous guys for one contacting the guy who left the veri and leaving all sorts of lies and malious crap even had some telling the guys to back off as we are there's lol as if..... then you have the player's the guys who use other guys to get you a meet or try and double up without asking or saying a word to ourselves and lets not forget the jealous women who like to send the guys message's of real nasty stuff trying to put them off you so they can try and meet them instead ..all this and it happens so yep we will let people see what we want them to see if they dont like it then great less to dal with .... and dont forget guys ifs even worse for the single womens accounts thats wanker fest and bitch fest all rolled in one lol |
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We have hidden some of ours as they were single guys Sarah met alone then proceeded to leave really graphic verifications.
I don't think the fine people of Fab wish to know/read that he fucked her so deep that his cock nearly came out of her mouth.
Hence why we no longer meet single guys apart from trusted friends.
That's our only reason, but I'm sure others have plenty of good reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only publish a selection that represent my interests. I rarely publish social veris, lovely as they are to receive. No one needs confirmation that I can drink coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only publish a selection that represent my interests. I rarely publish social veris, lovely as they are to receive. No one needs confirmation that I can drink coffee."
I do and how many cups
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We've stopped displaying our ones, since someone started contacting them and saying "oh you know A & A (by our names) as if we are something of an endorsement for them..."
It hasn't changed any interest stats that we can see. |
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