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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm never in first place tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No asi don’t give people the option to affect me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?"

I am a great goalie got good hands lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?"

Yep. On a total downer atm

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By *itvclaireTV/TS over a year ago

Birmingham

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Yep. On a total downer atm"

Yes, been feeling the same just lately. It does happen from time to time.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm a bit sick of drama. I'm not sure why it has to be so messy. (and to be clear, I hate it and try to avoid/ kill it)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only once. Which is why I stopped it.

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

I absolutely agree with having one pleasure partner and being transparent about contemplating meeting others if the situation arises .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes most of this week to be honest iv been on the verge of a fuck it moment

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them."

This 100%

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

If only that was possible!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

I absolutely agree with having one pleasure partner and being transparent about contemplating meeting others if the situation arises ."

That would be great, but so hard to find..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100% "

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option."

I assumed you meant single guys, it's always different with couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option."

How do you define option though. Is it just other people that they wish to meet at sometime or they've worked down a list as others have cancelled on them type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option.

I assumed you meant single guys, it's always different with couples. "

No, if a single man or woman made me feel like a fourth option they wouldn’t see me for dust. Still clearly not first option though, whilst I appreciate lots have their favourites surely at some point one can expect to be first choice?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone bangs on about NSA as in no strings attached, but I feel there's way too many strings attached in some cases haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. I know exactly what you mean. It’s that old adage isn’t it; be someone’s priority not their option.. it’s not the nicest feeling. However there are plenty of other fabbers that I’m a millio lmao percent sure would love you to be their first and only choice..

~ Bonnie..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option.

How do you define option though. Is it just other people that they wish to meet at sometime or they've worked down a list as others have cancelled on them type of thing. "

I think there have been a cluster of people recently I’ve enjoyed meeting and felt a connection with , but it has then become clear they have other favourites. When that happens three or four times close together it’s a bit of a knock to confidence.

This is aggravated by me being ill, in pain and quarantined for the last two weeks. Prob not helping my state of mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option.

How do you define option though. Is it just other people that they wish to meet at sometime or they've worked down a list as others have cancelled on them type of thing.

This is aggravated by me being ill, in pain and quarantined for the last two weeks. Prob not helping my state of mind."

I see yes xx

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By *ecky DaveMan over a year ago

Accrington

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everyone bangs on about NSA as in no strings attached, but I feel there's way too many strings attached in some cases haha "

Each to their own. Not sure why wanting to be a non-exclusive first choice on occasion is a massive ‘string’, but you crack on.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

Sometimes these things reveal themselves over time. And obviously if you play with couples you are never going to be first option.

I assumed you meant single guys, it's always different with couples.

I would like to think so, yes. If I got the feeling I was down the list of priorities I'd be off to!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes. I know exactly what you mean. It’s that old adage isn’t it; be someone’s priority not their option.. it’s not the nicest feeling. However there are plenty of other fabbers that I’m a millio lmao percent sure would love you to be their first and only choice..

~ Bonnie..

I just need to winkle the buggers out from their hiding places..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100% "

Unless you’re exclusive then there’s always the chance you will be an option for someone to consider. I suppose the difference is if they’re clever about how they play you’ll be known than wiser.

A case of what you don’t know......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

~ Bonnie..

Predictive screwed me over there. Apologies!

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

I volunteer as tribute

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not an option.

No one has to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I won’t allow myself to be someone’s 3rd or 4th option. If I thought I was then I wouldn’t be playing with them.

This 100%

A case of what you don’t know...... "

Exactly, and we all know this. I guess sometimes it is just a matter of presentation, focus on you and discretion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not an option.

No one has to be."

I think if you’re engaging in non-exclusive sex, you always will be.

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By *otYourUsualGirlWoman over a year ago

Northampton

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?"

I am so sorry you feel this way

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

I am so sorry you feel this way

xxx"

Maybe in a couple of weeks I’ll meet a guy or couple, we’ll really connect, blow each other’s....minds, and it will be mutual. Let’s hope.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"I'd simply like to have a primary partner who put me first with open and ethical lovers on the side. Where everyone is honest about the situation.

But this is Fab, where honesty is in short supply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe in a couple of weeks I’ll meet a guy or couple, we’ll really connect, blow each other’s....minds, and it will be mutual. Let’s hope."

Let's hope

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

I thought you said fat wobble .... I really must have my eyes tested .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not particularly, being the 4th choice means I know it’ll never get serious. I’ll keep taking the backup position!

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By *ixaWoman over a year ago

kettering

How would you know you are not the first option OP? I’ve never even thought about it before

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I thought you said fat wobble .... I really must have my eyes tested .

There’s plenty of that, but you have to take that as part of me...;-)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?"
that is the single guys full time occupation here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?"

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not particularly, being the 4th choice means I know it’ll never get serious. I’ll keep taking the backup position!"

Is that the same as doggy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain. "

I don’t see this very often. Have a thumbs up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain. "

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Joining the Glum Club too at the moment. I had something which I felt was really special and then he just disappeared. Months of getting emotionally invested and then not so much as a goodbye. Unemotional sex leaves me cold and so the NSA doesn't really do it for me. However, I'm now super cynical and feeling pretty used and stupid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

I don’t see this very often. Have a thumbs up.

You won't on the forum. They're all here to be elusive or do nothing from what I can gather

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?that is the single guys full time occupation here

You may have a point there..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?that is the single guys full time occupation here

You may have a point there.."
I do but hey I'm over it ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing. "

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Joining the Glum Club too at the moment. I had something which I felt was really special and then he just disappeared. Months of getting emotionally invested and then not so much as a goodbye. Unemotional sex leaves me cold and so the NSA doesn't really do it for me. However, I'm now super cynical and feeling pretty used and stupid

So sorry to read this, I hope time will reveal what happened and someone new and shiny catches your eye soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not particularly, being the 4th choice means I know it’ll never get serious. I’ll keep taking the backup position!

Is that the same as doggy?

Whilst I prefer face to face sensual love making, I’ll take doggy after being a shoulder to cry on!

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Ok here we go. I think my response is going to be a contravirsial.

I know that a number of my female friends have a number of guys they speak to, as in to keep options open. They are not looking for exclusivity. I am the same, I have friends that I would happily play with. It not looking for anything exclusive.

For me I tell a few people I am going to a club on a certain date, that leads it up to them if they want to to come along; if they do brilliant let’s see what happens.

I agree if I was meeting at a hotel or 121 that would be with that person for that meet, and not set up a full back. However if I had been let down, I would readvertise and say I had been let down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hit a bit of a brick wall with this just this week , not fun to say the least

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone bangs on about NSA as in no strings attached, but I feel there's way too many strings attached in some cases haha

Each to their own. Not sure why wanting to be a non-exclusive first choice on occasion is a massive ‘string’, but you crack on."

Steady now, I meant as in people being taken for dinner, coffee, museum trips, buying new cars and other such occasions. And after meeting once being expected to meet them and only them but if you wish to move the goalposts, crack on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You won't on the forum. They're all here to be elusive or do nothing from what I can gather"

Oooh, very brave! Morals crusaders incoming!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name. "

No one is complaining the site isn’t working. And what I do is swinging. Swinging as a single is VERY different to swinging from a committed relationship. You are each other’s priority, not an option.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

How is single swinging different. Enlighten me?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ok here we go. I think my response is going to be a contravirsial.

For me I tell a few people I am going to a club on a certain date, that leads it up to them if they want to to come along; if they do brilliant let’s see what happens.

I agree if I was meeting at a hotel or 121 that would be with that person for that meet, and not set up a full back. However if I had been let down, I would readvertise and say I had been let down "

I'm the same, but I'm very upfront about it. To be honest I have problems the other way, people trying to see me more than I'm prepared to commit or getting upset when I see other people.

But I try not to make anyone feel like they're less of a priority than someone else, just that I juggle priorities. There's an art to that, and not everyone knows how to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everyone bangs on about NSA as in no strings attached, but I feel there's way too many strings attached in some cases haha

Each to their own. Not sure why wanting to be a non-exclusive first choice on occasion is a massive ‘string’, but you crack on.

How on earth have you read any of that into a complaint about not being people’s first or second go-to for sex?

Obvs if someone DID want to buy me a new car I wouldn’t complain....just sayin’.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

For those who interpret any of this as a plea for exclusive - it’s not. But when I have great sex with someone I’d perhaps prioritise a meet with them more highly than a new contact or someone with whom I didn’t connect so strongly. At the moment that doesn’t seem to be occurring in a mutual way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those who interpret any of this as a plea for exclusive - it’s not. But when I have great sex with someone I’d perhaps prioritise a meet with them more highly than a new contact or someone with whom I didn’t connect so strongly. At the moment that doesn’t seem to be occurring in a mutual way.

Then they don't see you in the same way. Personally I have very few I would class in the "really keen to meet again and again" bracket and they just are totally on the same wavelength. That's a rare thing in my book so I don't necessarily look for it... but if it's there... that's a different story.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thought it was just me ! Must be the weather or something as been feeling a bit down with this fab thing ! Just saying x

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"Ok here we go. I think my response is going to be a contravirsial.

For me I tell a few people I am going to a club on a certain date, that leads it up to them if they want to to come along; if they do brilliant let’s see what happens.

I agree if I was meeting at a hotel or 121 that would be with that person for that meet, and not set up a full back. However if I had been let down, I would readvertise and say I had been let down

I'm the same, but I'm very upfront about it. To be honest I have problems the other way, people trying to see me more than I'm prepared to commit or getting upset when I see other people.

But I try not to make anyone feel like they're less of a priority than someone else, just that I juggle priorities. There's an art to that, and not everyone knows how to do it. "

For me actually it’s a turn on that my friends are seeing others . Knowing that they are having fun. I have friends that we wouldn’t play with but we still chat perv each other’s photos and have good giggle but then I also have friends who I want to have rampant fithy sex with, or some I just want to tie them, tease them and spank there bum.

Over the years I have accepted that people have priorities at certain times, and that’s cool. I know football will always come first, sex and the scene second

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

How is single swinging different. Enlighten me?"
we have no-one to answer to, no-one to judge us and no-one to judge, you may well discuss everything you do with your bi partner and you may even not care what each other does but you are still two people living under same roof

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

How is single swinging different. Enlighten me?we have no-one to answer to, no-one to judge us and no-one to judge, you may well discuss everything you do with your bi partner and you may even not care what each other does but you are still two people living under same roof "

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?

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By *xoticMermaidWoman over a year ago

NORTH WEST

"How would you know you are not the first option OP? I’ve never even thought about it before "

Wen they tell u to ur face...I rather get it on with ur mate! Oh n u can join in if u like!! Would that count?

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"How would you know you are not the first option OP? I’ve never even thought about it before

Wen they tell u to ur face...I rather get it on with ur mate! Oh n u can join in if u like!! Would that count?"

That’s shocking!!! How bloody rude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?"
she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

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By *xoticMermaidWoman over a year ago

NORTH WEST

"How would you know you are not the first option OP? I’ve never even thought about it before

Wen they tell u to ur face...I rather get it on with ur mate! Oh n u can join in if u like!! Would that count?

That’s shocking!!! How bloody rude "

At least it was honest! But wen they get pie'd they get the pie from me! Karma! Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh OP.

I know the feeling well.. couples are especially bad for it and it's always the worst when you think you got on great then.. nadda !

No advice for you as such but I really want to give you a hug ! It sucks !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on "

Well yes. Anyone I meet will be supplementary to my partner who will always come first. I would have thought that stands to reason in swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

Well yes. Anyone I meet will be supplementary to my partner who will always come first. I would have thought that stands to reason in swinging? "
why does anything stand to reason we are all individuals and expect different things, the Op it seems feels she's always in 2nd or 3Rd place and single guys unless part of the in crowd or ripped adonis always have to battle it out against many

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"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

Well yes. Anyone I meet will be supplementary to my partner who will always come first. I would have thought that stands to reason in swinging? why does anything stand to reason we are all individuals and expect different things, the Op it seems feels she's always in 2nd or 3Rd place and single guys unless part of the in crowd or ripped adonis always have to battle it out against many "

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though "
she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first "

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded to"
Well yes but you said how is swinging any different for you as a couple as opposed to us as singles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded toWell yes but you said how is swinging any different for you as a couple as opposed to us as singles "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep I've had a pretty horrible couple of weeks. Place can be soul destroying at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded toWell yes but you said how is swinging any different for you as a couple as opposed to us as singles

Yep and I still don't get it. Swinging is swinging. Only difference is I've a significant other at home. Doesn't impact how I view/ treat the person I'm meeting. If I were single I'd have the same attitude if I'd have chosen swinging as opposed to looking for a relationship. I don't expect the guys I'm meeting to value me any more or any less than anyone else they're meeting. "
I somehow doubt that because I can bring emotion to a regular meet which is what I'm looking for, I would have thought that emotional connection is not something you want to encourage, it could also be reciprocated by the single female I may meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded toWell yes but you said how is swinging any different for you as a couple as opposed to us as singles

Yep and I still don't get it. Swinging is swinging. Only difference is I've a significant other at home. Doesn't impact how I view/ treat the person I'm meeting. If I were single I'd have the same attitude if I'd have chosen swinging as opposed to looking for a relationship. I don't expect the guys I'm meeting to value me any more or any less than anyone else they're meeting. I somehow doubt that because I can bring emotion to a regular meet which is what I'm looking for, I would have thought that emotional connection is not something you want to encourage, it could also be reciprocated by the single female I may meet "

That doesn't sound like swinging. A single guy bringing emotional shit to a meet with a single woman. Nothing wrong with that but it ain't swinging. Hence my point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever have a moment where they just get a bit fed up of sharing their toys, or being third or fourth choice in people’s play options?

Doesn't happen ever. I'm here to share and don't care what else they get up to. That's swinging for you. On a swinging site. Can't really complain.

You’re swinging from within a relationship. I think that’s a very different thing.

No. Swinging is swinging. If you're not swinging you can't really complain the site isn't working for you. It's in the name.

Right... so how does that impact on the op exactly?she's saying she's second or third choice for you as part of a couple you've always got your partner to fall back on

You were talking about couples. I was answering regarding that. Anyone that puts a random before their partner shouldn't be swinging in the first place. I'm not sure that's what the op meant though she's on about guys she likes not putting her first

I know. But your comment was in respect of couples. So that's what I responded toWell yes but you said how is swinging any different for you as a couple as opposed to us as singles

Yep and I still don't get it. Swinging is swinging. Only difference is I've a significant other at home. Doesn't impact how I view/ treat the person I'm meeting. If I were single I'd have the same attitude if I'd have chosen swinging as opposed to looking for a relationship. I don't expect the guys I'm meeting to value me any more or any less than anyone else they're meeting. I somehow doubt that because I can bring emotion to a regular meet which is what I'm looking for, I would have thought that emotional connection is not something you want to encourage, it could also be reciprocated by the single female I may meet

That doesn't sound like swinging. A single guy bringing emotional shit to a meet with a single woman. Nothing wrong with that but it ain't swinging. Hence my point. "
hence my earlier submission we are all different and looking for different things, plus I said could, I don't always but potentially could