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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.
Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?
Your thoughts peeps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming."
Agree, after uploading a couple of new pics this morning we received something like 20+ winks. Haven’t got either the time nor inclination to reply |
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It can seem to be lazy but I see it as an easy way to establish whether there is any interest from the other party send a wink and see if they respond with one before messaging instead of putting a lot of effort into constructing a message just to have it deleted...I always read the profile to make sure I'm what they are looking for before winking as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile? "
Yes, agree with this. Surely you would be doing your "work" either way. Shouldn't the onus be on both parties to check out each others profile or is it purely a one way street?
I like the idea of the Op's thought process with this - a wink is a nice way of just saying "I like your profile, let me know if you'd like to talk". If you don't like the person, just delete the wink.  |
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"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile? "
Yes but we get far fewer messages than winks so it's manageable plus there's more chance that someone who has messaged has taken the time to read our profile. |
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"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile?
Yes, agree with this. Surely you would be doing your "work" either way. Shouldn't the onus be on both parties to check out each others profile or is it purely a one way street?
I like the idea of the Op's thought process with this - a wink is a nice way of just saying "I like your profile, let me know if you'd like to talk". If you don't like the person, just delete the wink. "
Ok....so far today....180 winks....say 3 minutes to check a profile and a little more to create a short message...that's at least 9 hours "work"....this isn't a full time job and we're not paid for it. |
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"It can seem to be lazy but I see it as an easy way to establish whether there is any interest from the other party send a wink and see if they respond with one before messaging instead of putting a lot of effort into constructing a message just to have it deleted...I always read the profile to make sure I'm what they are looking for before winking as well "
This works for us. Whoever winks first sends the first message if the wink is returned. Would rather have a wink than a shit one line message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.
Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?
Your thoughts peeps"
Totally agree winks are useful for the shy, who get tonguetied and not good at expressing themselves  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We wink to show interest. If we receive a wink back we take it that the other party is also interested in us and then we message. We do check all received winks as well and message or wink back if we think it could lead somewhere. However some winks clearly show that our profile hasn't been read or has been read and no notice taken. Works as filter for such cases.
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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago
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"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.
Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?
Your thoughts peeps"
No I personally hate them. I dont see the point. In my opinion they are just for people who are just too lazy to try and strike up a conversation. Bulk delete along with the friend requests off people who havent even chatted x |
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"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.
Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?
Your thoughts peeps"
For us, it generally prompts us to look at their profile. If they look alright we may message back.
On the other hand, we will ALWAYS respond to a message.
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It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun"
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "
Completely agree, this is my approach. |
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "
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I have a general purpose 1st contact e-mail that I tailour to each profile I send it to. I don't see it as being cheesy or lazy, more like a tailored cover letter when you're looking for a new job. A wink would be a quicker way of gauging mutual interest though. Seems odd to be applyng for a shag.... |
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"I have a general purpose 1st contact e-mail that I tailour to each profile I send it to. I don't see it as being cheesy or lazy, more like a tailored cover letter when you're looking for a new job. A wink would be a quicker way of gauging mutual interest though. Seems odd to be applyng for a shag...."
spot on
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with this too. I’d much rather send a wink, receive one back, then put the effort into a good message. Can be a right pain seeing your message get deleted without being read
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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "
Comical.. Would you wink at someone with a bag on there head, or bk of someone's head, because just like your profile with zero pics most on here don't show there face's... So therfore we find it pointless  but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like  |
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"We wink to show interest. If we receive a wink back we take it that the other party is also interested in us and then we message. We do check all received winks as well and message or wink back if we think it could lead somewhere. However some winks clearly show that our profile hasn't been read or has been read and no notice taken. Works as filter for such cases.
Mrs"
This works for us too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I tend to send quite a few winks just because most people will look at your profile and reply or not reply..whereas with messages I've done the short messages and the long personalised messages and no luck with either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them?
Comical.. Would you wink at someone with a bag on there head, or bk of someone's head, because just like your profile with zero pics most on here don't show there face's... So therfore we find it pointless but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like "
Did I once say I winked at those blank profiles or blank cover photo images? Nope, I've checked and I most certainly didn't. In the exact same way I wouldn't wink at someone who I'd heard talking in a manner I didn't like, or wink at someone I couldn't see.
My pics are in my private gallery.. Just like 'winks', it's a function provided to be used by choice of the member. You choose to have photos on display, I don't. Same as you choose not to like winks and I do.
I gave a valid point for using winks, I have a valid point for not having public profile pics.. I could potentially simply screenshot your pics, send them off to a few websites or post up on social media and earn money off them if I was that way inclined. Whether it bothers you personally or not, it would certainly bother other people. So next time, before lambasting someone's choice simply because it differs from yours, maybe think about choices YOU make with the way you manage your account. Remember, it's an opinion I shared, that's all.
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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago
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"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi
It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.
We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun
This
It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.
If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.
In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.
Lazy is far from what a wink is.
How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them?
Comical.. Would you wink at someone with a bag on there head, or bk of someone's head, because just like your profile with zero pics most on here don't show there face's... So therfore we find it pointless but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like
Did I once say I winked at those blank profiles or blank cover photo images? Nope, I've checked and I most certainly didn't. In the exact same way I wouldn't wink at someone who I'd heard talking in a manner I didn't like, or wink at someone I couldn't see.
My pics are in my private gallery.. Just like 'winks', it's a function provided to be used by choice of the member. You choose to have photos on display, I don't. Same as you choose not to like winks and I do.
I gave a valid point for using winks, I have a valid point for not having public profile pics.. I could potentially simply screenshot your pics, send them off to a few websites or post up on social media and earn money off them if I was that way inclined. Whether it bothers you personally or not, it would certainly bother other people. So next time, before lambasting someone's choice simply because it differs from yours, maybe think about choices YOU make with the way you manage your account. Remember, it's an opinion I shared, that's all.
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The fact that it even entered your head to screen shot pics and make them public just shows what type of person you are... Probably should of guessed with your rude and arrogant profile, anyway your blocked now as don't want your type browsing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single Male you can send a msg and it could get by passed and not read. I use the wink as a “I’m interested tool” if I receive a wink back I msg. I normally msg in regards to something written on the profile, never sleazy. |
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