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Is it true most people prefer meeting in club compare to site meet.
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For us it's not just a preference. It is set in tablets of stone. We only meet in clubs or at organised parties.
We stopped doing private meets about 5 years ago and it has been much more enjoyable since. |
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Both have their advantages and disadvantages, I reckon. I like the friendliness and atmosphere of a club and those lucky encounters with people whose profile I might never have seen (and which can turn into later private meets). But there’s something special about getting together with someone whose interests and personality really click in a private meeting - although as everyone knows that can entail a certain amount of work to set up and the risk of occasional disappointments / disappearances and other annoyances! I always try and remind myself not to judge the great, straightforward and trustworthy people on here by the actions of the other kind. I’ve been lucky, maybe, that the positive experiences have well outnumbered the worse ones. |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
Clubs take much less planning, and we love going to new clubs.
Also if we plan a meet at a club and don't click, there will be other options.
And... nobody needs to sleep in the wet patch.
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over a year ago
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Private for me, I like the intimacy of it and there aren't any clubs around here really. The closest is Secrets which is only once a month and doesn't admit single males who are the ones I want to meet  . If we lived up country I may feel differently I suppose! |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
Bury/Bolton |
Our first meet has to be at a club or party, if we meet someone in that scenario and things go well we may arrange meets outside.
We've found when we try to arrange meets of here there's very little appeal or effort from those getting in touch.
Most of those who who we've had fun with we probably wouldn't have arranged a meet with off here, it's a tricky conundrum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With extremely busy vanilla lives clubs seem to be easier for us, we have people we speak to but due to our very limited spare time trying to match dates are a nightmare. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never do socials or club meets, we do not have the time.. we would rather just set up a meet on any of the swinging site we are on and get on with it ..more exciting more spontaneous.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
that is total true but it can also be unfair way to judge people when they trying the site too for meets which only means it a waste of time have sites like this i think.  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I only need by chance at clubs. As a single girl, they tick so many boxes for me. It's safer, I don't have to even be concerned about time wasters, or fakes.
I just go down there and have a great night talking, dancing, and socialising and if I connect with someone intimately, it's just a bonus added on a great night out. |
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We don’t like the clubs near to us, but are happy to attend private parties and certain clubs we like, but as they're so far away (current favourite being in Paris) it’s a bit awkward to co-ordinate that unless it’s people we’ve met there before.
From here we like a social meet and and then play meets, it’s more personal we find and we can get to know somebody a lot better which helps with the chemistry for us.
Haven’t had a no show yet luckily, but we’re happy enough just the two of us if we ended up in a bar alone it wouldn’t be the end of the world.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much prefer club meets. It's much easier to decide if you want to take things further when you see someone in person.
Also, I like the ease of availability of different types of play in a club.
Jem x |
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We prefer private meets as it is more intimate, clubs are good but can be poorly attended and if you have to travel a long way to get to them that can also lead to disappointment. The only club we go to is Libs on the love to party events which we know will have a good crowd. |
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I love private meets but my girlfriend is not a fan. That's one of the reasons why I decided to host our own bisexual interracial party later this month.
My hope is that it will lead to my girlfriend feeling comfortable enough to meet some of the guests privately at a future date. |
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"We prefer club/party meets as when they no show at least it’s not a wasted night as still get a night out "
That is one of our main reasons as well.
In the past we had many evenings when we spent time getting ready (sometimes even cancelled other plans) only to turn up and sit there for an hour waiting for a no show, or when they/he turned up they were unrecognisable from their pics.
Funny thing is that we have played with lots of couples/guys in clubs who if they had sent us a pic for a private meet we would have declined.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have never been to a club and don’t intend going.
I prefer to be in control of who is near me when I’m nekkid"
You can always play in a private room to maintain that control and privacy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me why"
It made me realise I'm more invested on a one two one, with a specific person. It was a bit of a light bulb moment for me, so I'm still glad I went
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By *ightLeeCouple
over a year ago
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Funny thing is that we have played with lots of couples/guys in clubs who if they had sent us a pic for a private meet we would have declined.
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This, we have a limit for age on here but we've met plenty of people at clubs who would have got blocked automatically |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me why
It made me realise I'm more invested on a one two one, with a specific person. It was a bit of a light bulb moment for me, so I'm still glad I went
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ahhhh I get yer drift |
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"I only need by chance at clubs. As a single girl, they tick so many boxes for me. It's safer, I don't have to even be concerned about time wasters, or fakes.
I just go down there and have a great night talking, dancing, and socialising and if I connect with someone intimately, it's just a bonus added on a great night out."
Yup clubs for me too. |
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Club meets here too! Most of our chats on here seem to fizzle out but we've managed to arrange a few socials for coffee. If we're going to play then we'll either arrange to meet people at a club or we'll just go to one and see who we bump into |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
We prefer to meet in a club, but if we were to play we'd rather do it in a home setting
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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"We prefer private meets as it is more intimate, clubs are good but can be poorly attended and if you have to travel a long way to get to them that can also lead to disappointment. The only club we go to is Libs on the love to party events which we know will have a good crowd. "
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We always arrange to meet at clubs for the first time, it’s so much easier and if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason we can still enjoy our night without it being wasted.
Once we have got to know them properly then we have no problem meeting privately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never go to a club. I like to meet one-to-one, for a social first if appropriate. I never feel obliged to play and have had some lovely experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs are an anomaly. If I was heading out on the off chance of playing without an arranged meet or as couple/FB situation then yes I agree. They offer safety for blind meets for all parties and for ladies and couples it’s always easier to find another playmate or two where as as a swingle bloke, an organised solo meet - the ‘if you don’t hit it off, there’s others to play with’ doesn’t really work....
there’s the awkward moment that your both then in the club and kinda errr off you toddle, you’re not for me. Looking round to see you’re now in the 23:1 ratio men to others and traumatised in the corner with you’re bottle of prosecco you bought on the off chance it was a hit... That said, i’ve just agreed to one fingers crossed haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We prefer club meets as been so disappointed with private meets. It takes away the pressure if their not your type and we can still all have a good time. On saying that we do make an exception for the right person but they have to accommodate or arrange hotel room. So much hassle in the past. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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No, I prefer private meets. Always have a social first to test the waters for us both then a meet meet if we both like each other. Much prefer that to meeting in a club surrounded by other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No pressure, obligation or expectation in clubs. If you like the look of someone, great. If you click socially, even better. If not, there’s no awkwardness. |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
Im starting to prefer it |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.
Im starting to prefer it"
Clubs are good for socials too, then private meets after. I just say I’m going to be there and if they turned up it was a bonus. I’ve met some lovely people this way; they are reliable too. Win-win |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.
Im starting to prefer it
Clubs are good for socials too, then private meets after. I just say I’m going to be there and if they turned up it was a bonus. I’ve met some lovely people this way; they are reliable too. Win-win "
Yes us too xx |
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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.
Im starting to prefer it
Clubs are good for socials too, then private meets after. I just say I’m going to be there and if they turned up it was a bonus. I’ve met some lovely people this way; they are reliable too. Win-win
Yes us too xx"
And me All my private meets/further meets at clubs have all come from originally meeting at clubs and parties
I never meet private through messaging first on fab |
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