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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe! |
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Scary and a warning to us all. Thanks for sharing. Did he have pics and how long had you been talking? Just trying to get a feel for how convincing he was. |
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It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me  |
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me "
All over the place? He’s stalking you?? |
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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Scary and a warning to us all. Thanks for sharing. Did he have pics and how long had you been talking? Just trying to get a feel for how convincing he was."
He was very convincing, wasn't pushy in the beginning, we talked for 3/4 days, he had several pics including a face pic. But obviously not his face! I suppose it's so easy for people to use other peoples photos. |
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??"
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer. |
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer."
A couple of months?? That’s quite persistent and over a long period... worrying ? |
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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sorry OP but good on you for insisting on somewhere public. Was he verified?"
No he wasn't, he'd only been on 3 weeks, I decided to meet him anyway because we'd also spoken on a dating site where there are no veris. Note to self, no verification no meet! |
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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer.
A couple of months?? That’s quite persistent and over a long period... worrying ?"
I agree, sounds quite stalkerish to me. |
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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If someone got pushy with me asking to meet down a lane or whatever that would be enough for me to say 'sorry, I've changed my mind'.
It does happen thpugh unfortunately OP."
Normally I'd agree, I think because when I said no he didn't get pushy it didn't really ring alarm bells. |
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"Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe!"
Still shocks and surprises me why people catfish others 
Wasting their time and most importantly the person being catfished. Definitely doesn’t do confidence or morale any good |
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A couple I know had a similar encounter, when they met the guy (who clearly wasn't in the photos) he admitted he'd been using his son's pictures!
If you're unsure, always ask for either KIK video chat or a phone chat. Safety is paramount after all. |
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer.
A couple of months?? That’s quite persistent and over a long period... worrying ?
I agree, sounds quite stalkerish to me."
Harmless is how it seems but it is stalking and not harmless. These kind of people count on you thinking they are harmless, but it’s not normal behaviour. May be wise to keep a note of his behaviour - just in case. Make sure you keep safe and have a friend know where you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A couple I know had a similar encounter, when they met the guy (who clearly wasn't in the photos) he admitted he'd been using his son's pictures!
If you're unsure, always ask for either KIK video chat or a phone chat. Safety is paramount after all. "
Definitely agree with video chat if you’re unsure of for piece of mind.
No one can say no to even a 30 second video chat unless you’re a catfish  |
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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Don’t fall for it! Or at least get him to send a clip of himself saying hi on kik if you won’t give out his number which is strange anyway  |
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
Don’t fall for it! Or at least get him to send a clip of himself saying hi on kik if you won’t give out his number which is strange anyway "
*if he won’t give out his number |
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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Ask him to take a pic using the Kik app camera, that way it shows as from camera not a library pic. Or a couple of seconds of vid chat just to verify x |
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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I wouldn’t give someone my number but kik doesn’t need him too. Even if you saw him on kik it only removes the catfish element, they could still be a nutter.
Does he mean swingers club? |
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
I wouldn’t give someone my number but kik doesn’t need him too. Even if you saw him on kik it only removes the catfish element, they could still be a nutter.
Does he mean swingers club? "
Didn’t think of the nutter element  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It certainly says a lot for following your gut instinct. As far as meets from this site go veri's can come in very handy, bit unfortunate for newbies or those that have met and not been verified but does give a safety net of some sort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer.
A couple of months?? That’s quite persistent and over a long period... worrying ?
I agree, sounds quite stalkerish to me.
Harmless is how it seems but it is stalking and not harmless. These kind of people count on you thinking they are harmless, but it’s not normal behaviour. May be wise to keep a note of his behaviour - just in case. Make sure you keep safe and have a friend know where you are. "
Thank you. I have told several people about him. He's for the high jump if he misbehaves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Blimey, that's awful reading such stories. As a fella I'm sorry this happens. Must be scary having to contend with 'men' who do this.
To take a positive, highlighting these stories does help the decent chaps to comprehend more fully the need for patient pre-meet communication while doing this online thing. One thing I've learnt is that I "know" I'm genuine, but nobody else does on here. Hence, patience and understanding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes he means a swingers club but that still could be goose chase.
So how does the kik camera work, does it tell you it's from their cam function?"
If they take a picture and send it directly and not from their gallery it will show a caption of ‘camera’ below the pic so you know it’s been taken there and then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes he means a swingers club but that still could be goose chase.
So how does the kik camera work, does it tell you it's from their cam function?"
At least there’s a safety net in clubs. Plus, if he bails, is not your type or a nutter there may be other opportunities to play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even veris aren't 100% trustworthy though. I had a few people fake veri me on a old profile trying to get me to meet them... "
Go with your gut. Maybe it’s trying to tell you something. |
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"Yes he means a swingers club but that still could be goose chase.
So how does the kik camera work, does it tell you it's from their cam function?
If they take a picture and send it directly and not from their gallery it will show a caption of ‘camera’ below the pic so you know it’s been taken there and then"
Thank you I wasn't aware of that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer."
Get the bizzies on him |
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"Even veris aren't 100% trustworthy though. I had a few people fake veri me on a old profile trying to get me to meet them... "
Unreal, I find that very odd they would do that, some very odd balls on here
Get kik, get him to send a vid clip, get a pic with him holding a piece of paper with the date on, and most importantly trust your instincts x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never ask for a live picture on kik as these can be faked with an app called ghost Kik. Always always ask for a live video chat "
All these things out there to actually help catfishes??! No wonder there’s so many out there lol |
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By *elen321 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe!
Still shocks and surprises me why people catfish others
Wasting their time and most importantly the person being catfished. Definitely doesn’t do confidence or morale any good"
I don't get it either, I wonder if some people get off on the chating and looking at pics and then seeing that person turn up knowing they got them there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe!
Still shocks and surprises me why people catfish others
Wasting their time and most importantly the person being catfished. Definitely doesn’t do confidence or morale any good
I don't get it either, I wonder if some people get off on the chating and looking at pics and then seeing that person turn up knowing they got them there?"
That’s a very sad way of getting off. I have no idea why in their mind they would think that they’ve accomplished something. Definitely some right plonkers out there lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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We either will get the guy, lady or couple to either do a kik video chat or live picture on there with them touching their nose if we are a little unsure if they are genuine.
The plus of meeting in a club if he doesn’t show you can still have a good time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm old and not particularly savvy.. what's a cat fish ?"
Someone who pretends to be someone else, especially on the internet. Found on anywhere from instagram to twitter to chat sites, these people use fake pictures to disguise who they are. A synonym for this in some situations may be "troll" because the majority of catfish out there are simply out to troll others, while others have their own reasons for this approach. Often catfish, once discovered, are faced with people full of annoyance and frustration at being "catfishes"
Extracted from Google lol |
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Yup kik is good for the video, just ask them to hold up a piece of paper with the date on it and their face in shot too.
Sad we have to resort to this but such are the times we are living in... who knew having fun could be such hard work??
Hope it works out for the best x |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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This is why after chatting for a while I always suggest a chat on kik cam...you soon find out who are genuinely up for taking things further..I get that some some people don't want to chat on cam but I won't meet unless I have at least said hello on cam and we've all seen exactly what we all look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe!"
Out him! Kinda guy that could be dangerous! At best, hes wasting peoples time and making them doubt them selves. Sneaky sod! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can only recommend getting Kik , so you can live pic /video chat before you arrange anything, that must have been really unsettling for you xx "
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most certainly has to be a public meet for the 1st time, for the safety of all involved. Sounds ludicrious but some folk get kicks out of being a Meeow....Simple strokes for simple folks. |
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"Does it happen a lot? I got catfished tonight, been talking to a guy for a few days, strangely enough he sent me a message on a dating site too. We were getting on well and arranged to meet tonight. I said pub for a drink, he kept pushing for somewhere outdoors, he suggested a lay by he knew that was hidden from the road. I said no because I didn't feel comfortable with this. Anyway I go to where we said we'd meet and there was an old man in a car parked up, I stayed away from him, but eventually the old man got in the car, I looked at my phone and my number had been blocked on WhatsApp. He drove off and I started to feel uncomfortable so I left. Got home and I'd been blocked on fab too and his profile was gone from the dating site. It made me feel quite uncomfortable and not at all safe!"
I’ve had it happen loads of times. They turn up an I’m like who the fuck are you? An they say well can I have a sympathy shag . Some have drove over an hour too. That’s on Fab an dating sites. An for dates an meets. I wasn’t even meeting one for sex an he said Fuck me anyway. Like I’m online there fore I’m desperate. No thanks.  |
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we had this a few times guy who send pics of themselves from years ago say they are in there 50s then when they turn up they clearly are not in there 50s more like 70s some of them and the recent one is guys uping there age like saying they are 28 but when they turn up for the meet they clearly are no where near 28
...but as in a walks of life your always going to get those who want and will lie to get what they want..
we state now before anymeets if you turn up and your lying about your age or look nothing like your pic then we go no further..mrs has a single profile and its a nightmare the amount of guys who lie to her just to try and meet but lucky for her im her taxi and to keep her safe god know how you single women cope...
and lets not forget the amount of women on here who lie too young and old |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone got pushy with me asking to meet down a lane or whatever that would be enough for me to say 'sorry, I've changed my mind'.
It does happen thpugh unfortunately OP."
 Trust your gut.
The fact that he was pushing to meet somewhere outdoors is the alarm bell and no meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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Ask him to meet half way for a coffee first. The phone number wouldn't be an alarm bell for me but the club thing so far away is. Also the fact your gut is saying he might not be real.
Coffee in a public place. Any kind of pissing you around about that then I'd say don't meet him. |
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"we had this a few times guy who send pics of themselves from years ago say they are in there 50s then when they turn up they clearly are not in there 50s more like 70s some of them and the recent one is guys uping there age like saying they are 28 but when they turn up for the meet they clearly are no where near 28
...but as in a walks of life your always going to get those who want and will lie to get what they want..
we state now before anymeets if you turn up and your lying about your age or look nothing like your pic then we go no further..mrs has a single profile and its a nightmare the amount of guys who lie to her just to try and meet but lucky for her im her taxi and to keep her safe god know how you single women cope...
and lets not forget the amount of women on here who lie too young and old "
awww the joys of meeting on the internet... |
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"You did the right thing meeting in public. Its never happened to me yet, hope it never dies. "
OP, you did the right thing. It take patience, but you kept the safeguards in place. Keep doing that. |
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"we had this a few times guy who send pics of themselves from years ago say they are in there 50s then when they turn up they clearly are not in there 50s more like 70s some of them and the recent one is guys uping there age like saying they are 28 but when they turn up for the meet they clearly are no where near 28
...but as in a walks of life your always going to get those who want and will lie to get what they want..
we state now before anymeets if you turn up and your lying about your age or look nothing like your pic then we go no further..mrs has a single profile and its a nightmare the amount of guys who lie to her just to try and meet but lucky for her im her taxi and to keep her safe god know how you single women cope...
and lets not forget the amount of women on here who lie too young and old "
You missed weight out. I knew a guy who went to meet a woman who was more like size 20+ than the 12 he was expecting. There’s some optimistic people about that think they can lie and still have a successful meet |
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By *ackardMan
over a year ago
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Catfishing is one of the reasons I don't put or send facepics on here. I'm no oil painting but that doesn't stop some people and I don't want someone using my face to set up fake profiles or con people into meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Catfishing is one of the reasons I don't put or send facepics on here. I'm no oil painting but that doesn't stop some people and I don't want someone using my face to set up fake profiles or con people into meeting. "
No disrespect but if someone is going to Catfish someone, they usually steal a very attractive models picture online.
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"It happened to me once. I'd been chatting to a woman and had arranged to meet somewhere public. When I turned up there was a man waiting for me. I left quickly and since then he pops up all over the place to annoy me
All over the place? He’s stalking you??
No, not quite. I block his number on my phone (given to him when I believed he was a woman) and he crops up months later on another number. He must have my number actually written down. He's harmless I think; just a bit thick at taking no for an answer.
A couple of months?? That’s quite persistent and over a long period... worrying ?
I agree, sounds quite stalkerish to me.
Harmless is how it seems but it is stalking and not harmless. These kind of people count on you thinking they are harmless, but it’s not normal behaviour. May be wise to keep a note of his behaviour - just in case. Make sure you keep safe and have a friend know where you are. "
^^^ totally agree |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"I'm talking to a guy at the moment and can't figure out if he's real or not. Talking on kik from here, won't give me a phone number but saying he'll meet in a club (which is an hour away from me)
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Your in Manchester, you have a good selection of clubs a lot closer than an hour. Get him to travel to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would have thought anyone genuine wouldn't mind taking time getting to know someone before actually meeting. So if they do get arsey then I'd have worries about their true motives |
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Ladies do it as well..that I can say. I'm sure couples do too.
