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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I noticed many profiles have no one liners...
Fancy a fuck, are you horny, U ok?, hi hun, yes ok they are very crappy.
But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
All I want to know from the initial hello is are they a little interested, then I can reply with a more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good point. We don't understand a lot of the do and dont's posted by some,and we tend to lose interest if there is a long list of them but each to their own I suppose. We like to send a wink first and then if they're interested and wink back, we send a nice message introducing ourselves, but some even get offended by a wink...strange but true alas !!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I noticed many profiles have no one liners...
Fancy a fuck, are you horny, U ok?, hi hun, yes ok they are very crappy.
But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
All I want to know from the initial hello is are they a little interested, then I can reply with a more "
Don't like one liners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I noticed many profiles have no one liners...
Fancy a fuck, are you horny, U ok?, hi hun, yes ok they are very crappy.
But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
All I want to know from the initial hello is are they a little interested, then I can reply with a more "
If someone sends us a mail first we'd prefer for it not to be a one liner. To us it just shows a lack of effort. We assume if they can't make an effort with a mail some probably won't make an effort elsewhere.
Our profile more or less says that but we still get them which also shows some don't bother to read our profile either.
we don't get bent out of shape by 'em tho we just tend to ignore them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this has cropped up before on forums ... and i say again .... what is the point of writing a great, well thought out first message for it to be deleted and not replied to if you dont meet the persons "ideal"... winks or short messages are good to break the ice, then you write the lengthy email once you get a reply .... just our way of doing it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
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To be honest the vast majority of one liners we tend to get are from people who show the same lack of imagination on their profiles.
Example: Mail says -'How are you?...Profile says - 'Will fill in later'..
Fair enough the person has taken the time to mail us bit we can't glean anything from either.
A wink would be easier |
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When you meet someone in everyday life you have to say something to hold their interest...long or short. This is no different. Unless you are incredibly hot to look at...hey, this is reality my friend. |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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There's nothing wrong with a one liner or a very short introduction message as long as its interesting, witty, or in some other way compelling - in fact in the right hands a one-liner can be a surgical strike right to the heart of someone's hot buttons and is virtually guaranteed a response.
But it's a very fine art and you both have to know what to look for and what to say when you find it.
Obviously some variation of "Hi, how are you doing?" is just going to blend into the background of the other 70 messages that they have received that day that have said the same thing and won't get you anywhere.
Having a decent profile and some good pics to back it up is going to help too - in fact it's crucial.
If I'm going to send a one-liner it's usually a little quip or a comment about a specific comment they've made on their profile or a status update.
for example - someone who says on their profile they are looking for a man who is edgy and imaginative might get a message from me saying "I'm so edgy I make the guitarist from U2 look flat as a pancake ..... or did I just imagine that?"
(In fact that's a real life example of one I sent a week ago - which was replied to nturally)
Despite being one line long, a message like that says an awful lot about me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I prefer winks to one liners, If I like then I will respond."
agreed 20-30 messages a day with
hows are you today? strikes me just trying to chat to anyone.
just aren't going to grab a lot of people, but then again really long first messages are a turn off too.
something simple that may stand out
I see you .....
I have read your profile and ...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's nothing wrong with a one liner or a very short introduction message as long as its interesting, witty, or in some other way compelling - in fact in the right hands a one-liner can be a surgical strike right to the heart of someone's hot buttons and is virtually guaranteed a response.
But it's a very fine art and you both have to know what to look for and what to say when you find it.
Obviously some variation of "Hi, how are you doing?" is just going to blend into the background of the other 70 messages that they have received that day that have said the same thing and won't get you anywhere.
Having a decent profile and some good pics to back it up is going to help too - in fact it's crucial.
If I'm going to send a one-liner it's usually a little quip or a comment about a specific comment they've made on their profile or a status update.
for example - someone who says on their profile they are looking for a man who is edgy and imaginative might get a message from me saying "I'm so edgy I make the guitarist from U2 look flat as a pancake ..... or did I just imagine that?"
(In fact that's a real life example of one I sent a week ago - which was replied to nturally)
Despite being one line long, a message like that says an awful lot about me.
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and your profile is amusing..not very informative but kinda gives an indication to what you're like..we like it! |
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
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Yes they ARE crappy. I call them stealth messages. Trying to wedge your feet in the door before saying you want sex. It's boring , banal , soul destroying, mind numbing, fucking tedium.
A brief paragraph setting out who you are, what you offer and what you want gets a reply.
It's not cos it's a one liner ....it's cos it invariably becomes a fucking series of shit curdling one liners.
Scenario.
Hi, How are you?
Great thanks.
Gud.What you up to ?
I'm in the internet.
Oh what you doin?
Im typin.
Nice. Got any plans for tonight ?
Yep. Im staying in.
Fancy meeting?
No thanks im not available tonight.
Why are you on here then?
Im reading the forums.
Why doesn't it say that on your profile ?
What's it to you fuck face ?
You are a timewaster.
May I remind you that you messaged me ?
Your probably too old and ugly for me anyway.
I think you are right so let's agree that you won't message me anymore.
Fuck you you whore.
Thanks. Don't message.
Long Lull ........
Hi. Sorry. Wan't to start again? How are you ?  |
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one liners are a very lame intro, read peoples profiles usually somthing there to pic up on, we read peoples profiles when they message us so we know what to reply, a lame reply ie 1 line reply is as bad as 1 line intro, it works both ways, for us anyway, but we like to reply and say hopin to help newbes but usuallg get dumb or rude responses would almout put us of botherin |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
Yes they ARE crappy. I call them stealth messages. Trying to wedge your feet in the door before saying you want sex. It's boring , banal , soul destroying, mind numbing, fucking tedium.
A brief paragraph setting out who you are, what you offer and what you want gets a reply.
It's not cos it's a one liner ....it's cos it invariably becomes a fucking series of shit curdling one liners.
Scenario.
Hi, How are you?
Great thanks.
Gud.What you up to ?
I'm in the internet.
Oh what you doin?
Im typin.
Nice. Got any plans for tonight ?
Yep. Im staying in.
Fancy meeting?
No thanks im not available tonight.
Why are you on here then?
Im reading the forums.
Why doesn't it say that on your profile ?
What's it to you fuck face ?
You are a timewaster.
May I remind you that you messaged me ?
Your probably too old and ugly for me anyway.
I think you are right so let's agree that you won't message me anymore.
Fuck you you whore.
Thanks. Don't message.
Long Lull ........
Hi. Sorry. Wan't to start again? How are you ? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone in everyday life you have to say something to hold their interest...long or short. This is no different. Unless you are incredibly hot to look at...hey, this is reality my friend. "
Indeed, but I don't meet people in an everyday situation and give them a long spiel about my self or what a great time were going to have if we chat longer...
I think 99.9999999% of people when meeting, say something along the lines of 'Hello, How are you' if they reply with a 'Fine, How are you' most then reply with their name and maybe something suitable (Witty is usually best, unless a funeral or similar)...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To the many that suggest what sort of message to send, without naming who the stuff was sent too, lets see some examples of your efforts...
and of course if it got you a response. I know only a few response actually get to a meet.
So lets see what you sent... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
Yes they ARE crappy. I call them stealth messages. Trying to wedge your feet in the door before saying you want sex. It's boring , banal , soul destroying, mind numbing, fucking tedium.
A brief paragraph setting out who you are, what you offer and what you want gets a reply.
It's not cos it's a one liner ....it's cos it invariably becomes a fucking series of shit curdling one liners.
Scenario.
Hi, How are you?
Great thanks.
Gud.What you up to ?
I'm in the internet.
Oh what you doin?
Im typin.
Nice. Got any plans for tonight ?
Yep. Im staying in.
Fancy meeting?
No thanks im not available tonight.
Why are you on here then?
Im reading the forums.
Why doesn't it say that on your profile ?
What's it to you fuck face ?
You are a timewaster.
May I remind you that you messaged me ?
Your probably too old and ugly for me anyway.
I think you are right so let's agree that you won't message me anymore.
Fuck you you whore.
Thanks. Don't message.
Long Lull ........
Hi. Sorry. Wan't to start again? How are you ?
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That is fucking funny Granny  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the many that suggest what sort of message to send, without naming who the stuff was sent too, lets see some examples of your efforts...
and of course if it got you a response. I know only a few response actually get to a meet.
So lets see what you sent..."
You're after templates? |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I noticed many profiles have no one liners...
Fancy a fuck, are you horny, U ok?, hi hun, yes ok they are very crappy.
But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
All I want to know from the initial hello is are they a little interested, then I can reply with a more "
In general we ignore one liners like
How are you?
Sexy profile
Fancy a meet?
But we are also not keen on an essay either or the standard copy and paste job (I know fussy buggars!)
Have been sent a few one liners that have made me laugh and sparked my interest. But they have usually had a good profile and photos to back it up.
Do think first messages can be hard to write....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes our friends pop us a quick one liner, and that's quite acceptable really. It's not good for an initial message for us, anyway....
Wolf
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On the other hand, a long message is pointless when most of it is the actual profile with additions, just boring and leaves nothing to chat about
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I prefer winks to one liners, If I like then I will respond.
agreed 20-30 messages a day with
hows are you today? strikes me just trying to chat to anyone.
just aren't going to grab a lot of people, but then again really long first messages are a turn off too.
something simple that may stand out
I see you .....
I have read your profile and ......"
are too old
too young
too far
etc etc
When what they really mean is "I was pervy your pics cos I'm as horny as hell and got a horn the size of the Eiffel Tower and want dirty chat with you"  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Long messages can be a pain too. C&P fantasies obviously written generically just make me roll my eyes.
My ideal message would include something that shows they've read my profile, a suggestion of how a first meet would go, and dates available. I hate playing message pingpong so a guy who takes charge and makes it clear he wants to meet would be more likely to get a response than someone who asks 'what u into?' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
Yes they ARE crappy. I call them stealth messages. Trying to wedge your feet in the door before saying you want sex. It's boring , banal , soul destroying, mind numbing, fucking tedium.
A brief paragraph setting out who you are, what you offer and what you want gets a reply.
It's not cos it's a one liner ....it's cos it invariably becomes a fucking series of shit curdling one liners.
Scenario.
Hi, How are you?
Great thanks.
Gud.What you up to ?
I'm in the internet.
Oh what you doin?
Im typin.
Nice. Got any plans for tonight ?
Yep. Im staying in.
Fancy meeting?
No thanks im not available tonight.
Why are you on here then?
Im reading the forums.
Why doesn't it say that on your profile ?
What's it to you fuck face ?
You are a timewaster.
May I remind you that you messaged me ?
Your probably too old and ugly for me anyway.
I think you are right so let's agree that you won't message me anymore.
Fuck you you whore.
Thanks. Don't message.
Long Lull ........
Hi. Sorry. Wan't to start again? How are you ? "
ok the part about who you are what you offer and what you want .....is that not what a profile is for ? as for "offer" ? its not a supermarket not really into weekend specials and discounts , makes people sound like some kind of product as opposed to actual human beings . |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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and your profile is amusing..not very informative but kinda gives an indication to what you're like..we like it!"
I'm not a big believer in "informative" profiles -people make decisions on an emotional level and backwards-rationalise the factual stuff after the decision has been made - so its much better to engage people on an emotional level first and fill in the facts later. Which is hopefully what my profile and the messages I send achieve.
oh and thanks BTW - your profile raised a few smiles (and may have raised something else too) from me as well
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A one liner saying hi how are you shows the same imagination and effort as fancy a fuck. Single fems get inundated with messages and that little effort surely won't garner results?
Personally, I'm with others that say it needs to be a few lines, show that you've read the profile and that the message is personalt to them and not generic. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"A one liner saying hi how are you shows the same imagination and effort as fancy a fuck. Single fems get inundated with messages and that little effort surely won't garner results?
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+1
If ppl make the effort to actually read my flipping profile, they'd see that a certain type of one-liner will definately get them a reply - and it ain't "Can I see your tits" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
A script of what they were going to do to you?
How they think your the best couple on the site?
How they were going to give you a weekend of your life in Monte Carlo.
Don't get in a rilled, i'm only asking
Yes they ARE crappy. I call them stealth messages. Trying to wedge your feet in the door before saying you want sex. It's boring , banal , soul destroying, mind numbing, fucking tedium.
A brief paragraph setting out who you are, what you offer and what you want gets a reply.
It's not cos it's a one liner ....it's cos it invariably becomes a fucking series of shit curdling one liners.
Scenario.
Hi, How are you?
Great thanks.
Gud.What you up to ?
I'm in the internet.
Oh what you doin?
Im typin.
Nice. Got any plans for tonight ?
Yep. Im staying in.
Fancy meeting?
No thanks im not available tonight.
Why are you on here then?
Im reading the forums.
Why doesn't it say that on your profile ?
What's it to you fuck face ?
You are a timewaster.
May I remind you that you messaged me ?
Your probably too old and ugly for me anyway.
I think you are right so let's agree that you won't message me anymore.
Fuck you you whore.
Thanks. Don't message.
Long Lull ........
Hi. Sorry. Wan't to start again? How are you ?
That is fucking funny Granny "
And so so very true lol |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"If ppl make the effort to actually read my flipping profile, they'd see that a certain type of one-liner will definately get them a reply - and it ain't "Can I see your tits" "
And don't get me started on the difference between "can" and "may" .... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I think a lot of it is trying to make a good first impression... Can you really do that with a "hello, how are you?"
Also it doesn't really show you have read someone's profile for example... I don't think it needs to be war and peace, but just something that gets personality across |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
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"To the many that suggest what sort of message to send, without naming who the stuff was sent too, lets see some examples of your efforts...
and of course if it got you a response. I know only a few response actually get to a meet.
So lets see what you sent..."
In my view the initial messAge needs to create a hook, something that draws the recipient to your profile, the picture ( we re all shallow), the text accompanying, should show something of you, your personality, so to ask for what others have written isn't doing you any favours.. one line can be very impactful if its directed very specifically at the recipient, one line of generic 'fancy this' etc, put yourself in others shoes, would it make you go further.?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally i think one liners and winks are fine, they are after all merely an introduction and asking if you might like to get to know them a little better. I often write my name and that i am genuine and verified and ask if the person would like to know more about me then have a look at my profile which will give much more detail about myself and what i am looking for. For guys writing to women and couples to write long introductions which in most cases are ignored and deleted without reply is, in my opinion, not lazy just practical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I prefer winks to one liners, If I like then I will respond."
Same with us, winks are easier to ignore if your not attracted.
Perhaps that's the way to go, your unable to send a message unless you've sent a wink.
Then there's no point sending a message if your wink has been ignored.......sorted!
If we send a message it's usually about comment or subject on the forums that we agree with, that way we know we at least have that bit of common ground.
Hate one liners though!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So lets see what you sent...
You're after templates? "
Just looking if they can truly back up what they say, about first message more than a one liner...
If they have the knowledge and experience, be nice if they can share it with us mortals xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good point. We don't understand a lot of the do and dont's posted by some,and we tend to lose interest if there is a long list of them but each to their own I suppose. We like to send a wink first and then if they're interested and wink back, we send a nice message introducing ourselves, but some even get offended by a wink...strange but true alas !! "
That is exactly how we would interpret a wink too, but it is true that others do not always see them in the same way. I don't know why as a wink is kinda like a "glad eye" in't pub or party really. If you get a positive response .............  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally i think one liners and winks are fine, they are after all merely an introduction and asking if you might like to get to know them a little better. I often write my name and that i am genuine and verified and ask if the person would like to know more about me then have a look at my profile which will give much more detail about myself and what i am looking for. For guys writing to women and couples to write long introductions which in most cases are ignored and deleted without reply is, in my opinion, not lazy just practical. "
Genuine question - does the winking and short message approach get results?
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By (user no longer on site)
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So lets see what you sent...
You're after templates?
Just looking if they can truly back up what they say, about first message more than a one liner...
If they have the knowledge and experience, be nice if they can share it with us mortals xx"
But what works for one person won't work for another? You are selling yourself to another person so what you say should reflect you and be unique to that person.
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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In one sense all messages are one liners - if you can't get someone to care enough about what you have to say for yourself in the first line or two, then wittering on for another 10 paragraphs isn't going to help.
In response to the OP asking for examples - well I gave you one already - any more help than that I can't give you as its got to come from you - you need to convey what's interesting, fun, exciting, imaginative and exciting about you by DEMONSTRATING that in a message, giving something more than just saying " I'm a fun bloke" or whatever because anyone can SAY that.
How you choose to do that is down to your own style and personality but if you wouldn't know where to start you might want to question if you're in the right place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would want adding or expected in the initial message that's not on your or their profile?
To be honest the vast majority of one liners we tend to get are from people who show the same lack of imagination on their profiles.
Example: Mail says -'How are you?...Profile says - 'Will fill in later'..
Fair enough the person has taken the time to mail us bit we can't glean anything from either.
A wink would be easier"
dislike those "fill in later" ones. If they can't fill their profile, they certainly have no chance to fill me. |
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"this has cropped up before on forums ... and i say again .... what is the point of writing a great, well thought out first message for it to be deleted and not replied to if you dont meet the persons "ideal"... winks or short messages are good to break the ice, then you write the lengthy email once you get a reply .... just our way of doing it"
Agree, read the profile, perv at the photos, send a wink if still interested.
If one is sent back in response, there is no way you will write a one liner, it will naturally turn into a sonnet at worst.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my option, all that's required is a short message, with a greeting and a short description. Everything else should be on your profile. "
exactly enough to at least strijke an interest
gets me the ones that say want to no know anything ask, lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if a profile says no one liners, why take the chance with "hello how are you doing?""
I don't but why come up with a story and nothing...but enough about wasting time.
Surely as long as the first message is not disrespectful, what the problem, if they like the profile they will reply if they don't, they won't...
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Genuine question - does the winking and short message approach get results?
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It works for me - but then I seem to have a knack for the smartbomb one liner that some people find instantly engaging - plus I don't have an unverified generic 3 line profile with nothing more than a pic of my todger on it. |
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"if a profile says no one liners, why take the chance with "hello how are you doing?"
I don't but why come up with a story and nothing...but enough about wasting time.
Surely as long as the first message is not disrespectful, what the problem, if they like the profile they will reply if they don't, they won't...
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Why are you assuming that just because you have sent a message the recipient will read your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have verifications so yes it does, but as i say no matter what approach messages get ignored and deleted without reply. I have also written long introductions with the same results, hence i no longer write long introductions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In one sense all messages are one liners - if you can't get someone to care enough about what you have to say for yourself in the first line or two, then wittering on for another 10 paragraphs isn't going to help.
In response to the OP asking for examples - well I gave you one already - any more help than that I can't give you as its got to come from you - you need to convey what's interesting, fun, exciting, imaginative and exciting about you by DEMONSTRATING that in a message, giving something more than just saying " I'm a fun bloke" or whatever because anyone can SAY that.
How you choose to do that is down to your own style and personality but if you wouldn't know where to start you might want to question if you're in the right place."
I agree with this. If people cannot communicate with others, then why bother being here.
I never read a profile and think, ooo now I like them but what can I say to them, ooo im not sure, they dont like one liners, hmmm god what can I say, oh dear, im all flustered, what do I do.
Use your personality. Look again at the profile, does it say something witty in there that you can comment on. Look at the pics, again is there something that you can think of in relation to those, and not just the line great pics.
An example, I see a pic of a guys bottom, I send a message saying, hey thats the most fantastic bottom I have ever seen in my life - well actually its not really, I am a lying cow, but Im just trying to attract your attention with a corny line - have you fallen for it
If I never hear from them again well thats it, if I do they will message back.
Come on, use a bit of brain power, it really isnt that difficult is it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I noticed many profiles have no one liners...
Fancy a fuck, are you horny, U ok?, hi hun, yes ok they are very crappy.
But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
All I want to know from the initial hello is are they a little interested, then I can reply with a more "
Yeah I have thought this in the past but also if I find them interetsing enough to mail, without having had banter on the forums before, I still like to put a little more in it.
Mostly a little about what im looking for then they can decide if they like the cut of my jib lol.
x |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Use your personality. Look again at the profile, does it say something witty in there that you can comment on. Look at the pics, again is there something that you can think of in relation to those, and not just the line great pics.
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Indeed - a decent profile will give you any number of conversation starters - in fact in some ways you can view it as them that have started the conversation with you - it's up to you to pick it up and run with it. |
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But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
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Yes, totally crappy. More crappy than 'fancy a fuck' At least that's genuine and honets! 'Hi, how are you'? Do you really care? If I'd answered those kinds of queries honestly lately, no one would have wanted to meet! What are we supposed to answer to that? 'I'm fine, how are you'? Where does that get us?
Put some effort in. A little about yourself. Why would we want to meet you?
*Her* |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"do want you wnat to do if thay dont like it is up the them its ment to be fun not a job intreviw "
but again we are not talking about a job interview... we are talking about a few lines...
just something that gets across... "why should you pick me!" it may be corny.. it may be something else, but at least it looks like you have then made some sort of effort as opposed to be bog standard one line......
for example.... if 50 people wrote "hello how are you"... how are you then working out if they would be the right people for you..... same as if you 50 winks....
wouldn't it be simpler if people stood out a little.... and i think that is all people are trying to get across....
not talking about a novel... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I don't mind one-liners as much as I used to. I've discovered that a few people aren't great with emails and are still good company.
If I get a one-liner from someone I might actually be interested in I'll usually put some effort into helping the converation along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it's weird if people who hate one-liners don't actually have much interesting stuff on their profile themselves or don't even reply with a one-liner.
But single men - don't lose hope |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Personally, I don't mind one-liners as much as I used to.
Fancy a fuck?
Oh, all right then. But you'll be the one doing the travelling! "
Haha I guessed as much. One day I shall get to London though so watch out! |
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I don't like rude one liners or one liners at all but at the same time I when I get a paragraph of wording in hello I am x, it makes me feel like there wasting there time when we already have no single men on our profile but do not want to block everyone |
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But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
Yes, totally crappy. More crappy than 'fancy a fuck' At least that's genuine and honets! 'Hi, how are you'? Do you really care? If I'd answered those kinds of queries honestly lately, no one would have wanted to meet! What are we supposed to answer to that? 'I'm fine, how are you'? Where does that get us?
Put some effort in. A little about yourself. Why would we want to meet you?
*Her*"
In honesty we've done just that, we recieved a "How ya doing?" message.
So, breaking with tradition, we replied with "Fine thanks. Yourself?" and never heard another thing.
XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fancy a Fuck will be soon be abbreviated FaF just like the much abused lol "
ROFL, indeed it might, then the anti text speak profiles will be up in arms, lol |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
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Well personaly winks r not our cuppa tea as we dont really know wot it means.Saying that i dont mind sumone sending a one liner saying check our profile.There is no point sending sumone half a page n dont even get a reply.Well that our opinion.evryone is different i guess.xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
Yes, totally crappy. More crappy than 'fancy a fuck' At least that's genuine and honets! 'Hi, how are you'? Do you really care? If I'd answered those kinds of queries honestly lately, no one would have wanted to meet! What are we supposed to answer to that? 'I'm fine, how are you'? Where does that get us?
Put some effort in. A little about yourself. Why would we want to meet you?
*Her*
In honesty we've done just that, we recieved a "How ya doing?" message.
So, breaking with tradition, we replied with "Fine thanks. Yourself?" and never heard another thing.
XXXX"
At least it suggest you might be interested, and get the original poster to reply with a fuller email... |
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"Personally, I don't mind one-liners as much as I used to.
Fancy a fuck?
Oh, all right then. But you'll be the one doing the travelling!
Haha I guessed as much. One day I shall get to London though so watch out!"
Ah so I should look out for when you're 'just passing through on business'? |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"In honesty we've done just that, we recieved a "How ya doing?" message.
So, breaking with tradition, we replied with "Fine thanks. Yourself?" and never heard another thing.
XXXX"
he's probably unconscious from hitting his head when he fell of his chair with surprise at getting a reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well personally winks r not our cuppa tea as we don't really know wot it means.Saying that i don't mind someone sending a one liner saying check our profile.There is no point sending someone half a page n don't even get a reply.Well that our opinion.everyone is different i guess.xx"
and a valued opinion too. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Personally, I don't mind one-liners as much as I used to.
Fancy a fuck?
Oh, all right then. But you'll be the one doing the travelling!
Haha I guessed as much. One day I shall get to London though so watch out!
Ah so I should look out for when you're 'just passing through on business'? "
Unfortunately my 'business' doesn't take me to London, so it will be purely for pleasure.
Well waddya know? One liners do work after all! |
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"A one liner saying hi how are you shows the same imagination and effort as fancy a fuck. Single fems get inundated with messages and that little effort surely won't garner results?
Personally, I'm with others that say it needs to be a few lines, show that you've read the profile and that the message is personalt to them and not generic."
I couldn't agree more. Sadly few people seem to realise this.
My current fav is 'love your profile, fancy meeting?' |
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"A one liner saying hi how are you shows the same imagination and effort as fancy a fuck. Single fems get inundated with messages and that little effort surely won't garner results?
Personally, I'm with others that say it needs to be a few lines, show that you've read the profile and that the message is personalt to them and not generic.
I couldn't agree more. Sadly few people seem to realise this.
My current fav is 'love your profile, fancy meeting?' "
Maybe the like a woman who doesn't say much |
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"A one liner saying hi how are you shows the same imagination and effort as fancy a fuck. Single fems get inundated with messages and that little effort surely won't garner results?
Personally, I'm with others that say it needs to be a few lines, show that you've read the profile and that the message is personalt to them and not generic.
I couldn't agree more. Sadly few people seem to realise this.
My current fav is 'love your profile, fancy meeting?'
Maybe the like a woman who doesn't say much "
Now that would have been a good intro! Thanks for making me laugh... |
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But are these also crappy?
Hello how are you?
Hello how are you both?
Yes, totally crappy. More crappy than 'fancy a fuck' At least that's genuine and honets! 'Hi, how are you'? Do you really care? If I'd answered those kinds of queries honestly lately, no one would have wanted to meet! What are we supposed to answer to that? 'I'm fine, how are you'? Where does that get us?
Put some effort in. A little about yourself. Why would we want to meet you?
*Her*
In honesty we've done just that, we received a "How ya doing?" message.
So, breaking with tradition, we replied with "Fine thanks. Yourself?" and never heard another thing.
XXXX
At least it suggest you might be interested, and get the original poster to reply with a fuller email..."
That was ages ago and we never heard another thing.
Mind you, we were banking on that.
They're probably still working on a reply.
XXXX
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Lol it is funny how it is mostly single men who say sending a one line message like hi how are you is an acceptable thing to do.
I suspect most people who get a one line message don't even look at the profile. Surely a boring one line message is not going to get people thinking oh that was an interesting message I must look at your profile. Especialy when it may be the 10th or 20th message they have received that day that simply says hi now are you? |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Here here, Isn't it just like saying hello in a bar or club. Then you can get to know each other. "
Errr, no its not, as its a written communication, ....in a verbal conversation there's tone with the words there's body language (a smiling face ) all more important than the words.. how many times have you stood in a queue (up to 80 long) to talk to a lady in a bar,, ..these are the numbers of messages couples and single ladies get a day..
It doesn't need war and peace, it does need you to have put some thought and effort, .. and yes because you're one of many messages some of these will be deleted with no reply ...
think of it this way Its a lot easier being rejected electronically, than the public walk of my youth across the pub or bar or both some nights.... |
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