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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits? "
Dude! I know the reason for the filters, that i totally get.
Surely you drop them though if and when you put a meet status specifically asking for those you have blocked to contact you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This "
Which is fine, right up to the point where they ask for men to get in touch and then whine that none of them did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why? all you are doing then is opening the flood gates for fuckwits.
being that you are straight i doubt you encounter the endless "hey hows you? good thanks, yourself? horny lol" messages or "horny lol fancy a fuck"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
agree but as OP said "they say they want single males" but then have them blocked!    "
they dont say EVERY single guys. filtering lets them decide who. its a buyers market, not a sellers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't see the point in advertising for a meet and blocking the people you want to meet from messaging you.
If you don't want messages there's no point advertising. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
agree but as OP said "they say they want single males" but then have them blocked!
they dont say EVERY single guys. filtering lets them decide who. its a buyers market, not a sellers."
The last time i checked the filtering system, i didnt see sub options in the Single Male tick box. You are either a single Male or not.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't see the point in advertising for a meet and blocking the people you want to meet from messaging you.
If you don't want messages there's no point advertising."
 Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
agree but as OP said "they say they want single males" but then have them blocked!
they dont say EVERY single guys. filtering lets them decide who. its a buyers market, not a sellers.
The last time i checked the filtering system, i didnt see sub options in the Single Male tick box. You are either a single Male or not.
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i dont even know what that means.
Just cos you want to fuck them doesnt mean they want to fuck you so why would they want a message from you? filtering puts the ball in their court not yours.
(you is a generalization, not you specifically) |
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We quite often put up a meet including we want to meet single guys at a club. But that never means we want single guys to message for exactly the reason in the second post, the good ones are outnumbered at least 50:1. Just isn't worth the effort.
And the reason for advertising is to let the single guys who might want to meet us know which club we'll be in and if they then read the profile they'll see how to approach us. All quite simple |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
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Now this ^^ i totally agree but having said that some women and couples get bombarded with messages. They need a full time receptionist to read and reply and manage their inbox lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
Now this ^^ i totally agree but having said that some women and couples get bombarded with messages. They need a full time receptionist to read and reply and manage their inbox lol"
OR they can employ message filters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they’ve messaged a number of single men previously, and hoping one of those will message once seeing the status (if you’ve contacted previously you get past the filters) |
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked  .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare!  "
They advertise to wish to meet single males but they are not asking single males to message them, they will find the men they want. Posts like this won’t get you meets OP. |
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
Dude! I know the reason for the filters, that i totally get.
Surely you drop them though if and when you put a meet status specifically asking for those you have blocked to contact you?"
Or they simply want to let those on their friends list know they're available. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare!
They advertise to wish to meet single males but they are not asking single males to message them, they will find the men they want. Posts like this won’t get you meets OP."
I am merely sharing my opinion and by the looks of the comments, i say many share my view.
As for meets, i get in just fine but thank you anyway xx |
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"When you click on a hot photo and see 1000 have fabbed. Think of that as 1000 potential messages to that person. Same goes with setting a meet "
Nah that means they have the horn for said hot photo, it’s not a ‘message’. What a strange idea that is. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
Dude! I know the reason for the filters, that i totally get.
Surely you drop them though if and when you put a meet status specifically asking for those you have blocked to contact you?"
Why drop them and allow 100s of unsolicited messages?  |
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages."
How would you know your message has been ignored.
One of the first things we do is check out the profile of anyone messaging us (assuming the visible message is more than a generic 'hi').
If we've got stealth mode enabled, you'd never know we'd looked.
We might just delete the message without opening it at that point. One of us might have read it and then marked it as unread again for the other to see.
If the combo of profile and message doesn't appeal, we might just move on without replying, depending on volume of messages we've had.
Your message appearing to be unread and/or deleted doesn't always mean it has been ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
Now this ^^ i totally agree but having said that some women and couples get bombarded with messages. They need a full time receptionist to read and reply and manage their inbox lol
OR they can employ message filters "
Only if they are clever.
They might just want an ego boost. Taking the piss and wasting people's time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
How would you know your message has been ignored.
One of the first things we do is check out the profile of anyone messaging us (assuming the visible message is more than a generic 'hi').
If we've got stealth mode enabled, you'd never know we'd looked.
We might just delete the message without opening it at that point. One of us might have read it and then marked it as unread again for the other to see.
If the combo of profile and message doesn't appeal, we might just move on without replying, depending on volume of messages we've had.
Your message appearing to be unread and/or deleted doesn't always mean it has been ignored."
ignore
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verb
verb: ignore; 3rd person present: ignores; past tense: ignored; past participle: ignored; gerund or present participle: ignoring
refuse to take notice of or acknowledge; disregard intentionally. |
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare! "
Get this some with MF coupe and single female profile. They looking for TV/TS. Go to measagevthem and it says. Everyone of your sex is blocked XX |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
Dude! I know the reason for the filters, that i totally get.
Surely you drop them though if and when you put a meet status specifically asking for those you have blocked to contact you?"
Think you have a fair point there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's how I see it.
They have single guys blocked.
They put up a meet looking single guys.
That way only guys they have spoke to in the past can get in contact,cuts down on too many unwanted messages.
Personally I don't see an issue with that. |
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
agree but as OP said "they say they want single males" but then have them blocked!
they dont say EVERY single guys. filtering lets them decide who. its a buyers market, not a sellers.
The last time i checked the filtering system, i didnt see sub options in the Single Male tick box. You are either a single Male or not.
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That's not really true though as we get lots of messages from guys who are fabsingle  |
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
How would you know your message has been ignored.
One of the first things we do is check out the profile of anyone messaging us (assuming the visible message is more than a generic 'hi').
If we've got stealth mode enabled, you'd never know we'd looked.
We might just delete the message without opening it at that point. One of us might have read it and then marked it as unread again for the other to see.
If the combo of profile and message doesn't appeal, we might just move on without replying, depending on volume of messages we've had.
Your message appearing to be unread and/or deleted doesn't always mean it has been ignored.
ignore
?g'n??/
verb
verb: ignore; 3rd person present: ignores; past tense: ignored; past participle: ignored; gerund or present participle: ignoring
refuse to take notice of or acknowledge; disregard intentionally."
Exactly. Profile checked, message read. As per Fab FAQ, no reply = no interest. Not ignored. You are just not necessarily aware of the fact your message and profile were read. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
Dude! I know the reason for the filters, that i totally get.
Surely you drop them though if and when you put a meet status specifically asking for those you have blocked to contact you?
Think you have a fair point there "
Why? Would you drop your filters and put up with crap? I very much doubt it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the flip side, this thread could also be.
Why do people put up meets looking for single guys then ignore your messages.
How would you know your message has been ignored.
One of the first things we do is check out the profile of anyone messaging us (assuming the visible message is more than a generic 'hi').
If we've got stealth mode enabled, you'd never know we'd looked.
We might just delete the message without opening it at that point. One of us might have read it and then marked it as unread again for the other to see.
If the combo of profile and message doesn't appeal, we might just move on without replying, depending on volume of messages we've had.
Your message appearing to be unread and/or deleted doesn't always mean it has been ignored.
ignore
?g'n??/
verb
verb: ignore; 3rd person present: ignores; past tense: ignored; past participle: ignored; gerund or present participle: ignoring
refuse to take notice of or acknowledge; disregard intentionally.
Exactly. Profile checked, message read. As per Fab FAQ, no reply = no interest. Not ignored. You are just not necessarily aware of the fact your message and profile were read."
Pretty sure "not interested" would fall into the "disregard intentionally" category, ergo, ignored. Stop talking shite. |
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Suit yourself, but imo choosing to disregard the person following a selection process that includes the message, is not, as you originally stated, disregarding the message.
It may not be what you intended with your OP, but it's how we read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This
Which is fine, right up to the point where they ask for men to get in touch and then whine that none of them did."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Suit yourself, but imo choosing to disregard the person following a selection process that includes the message, is not, as you originally stated, disregarding the message.
It may not be what you intended with your OP, but it's how we read it."
its not, i was making the point that if people were arranging meets and not using filters this thread would essentially still be the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have done this in the past, it’s a way of letting those I’m friends with or have chatted to in the past know that I’m looking to meet, and those outside of those parameters can’t message. What’s wrong with that?
I’ve also advertised meets which start with *Existing friends only* and dropped my filters and guess what? Inundated with people who hadn’t read the meet fully, let alone my profile. |
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare! "
Come across this a couple of times ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you click on a hot photo and see 1000 have fabbed. Think of that as 1000 potential messages to that person. Same goes with setting a meet
Nah that means they have the horn for said hot photo, it’s not a ‘message’. What a strange idea that is. "
Word potential mean anything or do you read what you like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps these couples have already been in conversation with number of suitable people. If they contacted you first the filters won’t apply. I’d just take it as they don’t want to meet you and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits? "
ahhhh a really great response if the couple concerned were asking for a single guy and one can only assume they were hence the ' thread '  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare!
They advertise to wish to meet single males but they are not asking single males to message them, they will find the men they want. Posts like this won’t get you meets OP."
What the OP meant is they advertise and ask to be contacted and they block all single guys ! They didn't specify that they would contact them!Not everyone who posts here wants to get a meeting! He wants to share his point which I got it .
I think is a valid point when I am after a meeting, I do take my filter off ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always find it somewhat bemusing when individual or couples advertise meets stating that they want to meet Males yet when you try and message them, you find that Single Males are blocked .
How do you not know your own filter preferences? Bizzare!
They advertise to wish to meet single males but they are not asking single males to message them, they will find the men they want. Posts like this won’t get you meets OP.
What the OP meant is they advertise and ask to be contacted and they block all single guys ! They didn't specify that they would contact them!Not everyone who posts here wants to get a meeting! He wants to share his point which I got it .
I think is a valid point when I am after a meeting, I do take my filter off ! "
that's his point I'm sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult. "
but you are making an assumption same as we all do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult. "
So male friends can still posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult. but you are making an assumption same as we all do "
What assumption? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult.
So male friends can still posts"
Yes. If we were friends on here and I had the single guys filter on, you would still be able to message. Likewise if we had chatted previously.
The no single guys filter is really more of a no more single guys filter |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This "
why are you agreeing with that primal comment exactly, the Op has made a perfectly sensible statement the couple concerned were asking to meet ' male's not males they've met before or males on their friends list, males but their filters stopped ' males ' messaging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This why are you agreeing with that primal comment exactly, the Op has made a perfectly sensible statement the couple concerned were asking to meet ' male's not males they've met before or males on their friends list, males but their filters stopped ' males ' messaging "
How do you know they didn’t? |
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"That filter doesn’t block all single guys. It blocks single guys who aren’t already friends or haven’t had a two way conversation on here. Therefore adding a meet to look for single guys, but still having that filter on, is a way of advertising to your friends that you are looking to meet.
It’s really not that difficult. "
That's how I read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This why are you agreeing with that primal comment exactly, the Op has made a perfectly sensible statement the couple concerned were asking to meet ' male's not males they've met before or males on their friends list, males but their filters stopped ' males ' messaging
How do you know they didn’t? "
How do they know they did? I'm going on the Ops opening statement |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it allows them to contact who they want to, rather than pestered by fuckwits?
^^ This why are you agreeing with that primal comment exactly, the Op has made a perfectly sensible statement the couple concerned were asking to meet ' male's not males they've met before or males on their friends list, males but their filters stopped ' males ' messaging
How do you know they didn’t? "
How do they know they did? I'm going on the Ops opening statement |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The site doesn’t give the option to only show meets to those who we are friends with, so there really is no other option than to keep the filter on and use the functions which are available.
Just rely on the fact that if someone wanted to hear from you, they’d adjust their filters accordingly. You won’t go far wrong from that |
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