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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As a women I've only once had trouble from a single guy otherwise most tend to be polite and respectful. My problem lies with other single women who some, seem to be somewhat loopy from being terratorial over men they've been with to just green eyed monster in them and nasty messages! I've now has 2 that felt a need to contact guys who had verified me and slag me off and warn them, another one basically followed me by meeting the guys after I had, I've had warnings to stay away from their guys (single guys) yet the guys weren't happy to hear that lol. Even when I previously posted on here once I got negative replies from women.
Do other women have this problem?
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think sadly it can happen that people, regardless of gender, get territorial despite this being a site that has NSA at it's heart.
Not a lot you can do about it sadly apart from try to not let it get to you and ignoring it, or if anything bordering abusive behaviour happens to report the user concerned. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
my own little sanctuary |
I’ve had the flipside to this before I left. I think you need to just consider that despite the majority of this site being nice people from my experience there will always be some who aren’t quite comfortable enough in themselves, this will mean that they attach to an individual wether it be because they have managed to pursue someone who they have developed feelings for or alternatively it’s for gratification and they want to lay claim to said individual purely because they want to be the ‘one’ for somebody. The fact remains though that if someones profile says single you can only ever go off of what you see. And if they haven’t mentioned the other person it’s not something they should be taking to a third party about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would not publishing veris help a bit.
Some people are just odd. You cant do anything about it"
I started to ask guys not to verify me to save them the hassle as I got accused of causing drama but some ppl get funny if you don't display veris |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Haven't experienced this myself, but as gemini said, block and report for abuse x"
I blocked one of the women but she still seemed to know what was going on with me and putting up status' about me. Turned out she had multiple profiles of women/men/couples she used to 'stalk' ppl
It's sad really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would not publishing veris help a bit.
Some people are just odd. You cant do anything about it
I started to ask guys not to verify me to save them the hassle as I got accused of causing drama but some ppl get funny if you don't display veris "
I have met with two women from here who have not wanted a veri. At first i thought it was because it had been a bad meet but thankfully that wasnt the reasons but because of exactly this. I was told by one that one guy was observig her veris and then threatenig those she had met. What a cock. So iam happy to not publish or have them.
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
" she used to 'stalk' ppl
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Yes the stalking thing is very creepy -had/ have a user that 2 years after I blocked them is still inventing fake profiles to get in touch -with messages like I miss chatting to you etc...
While I may repeatedly visit a profile I have recently started a chat with, I will always stop as soon as things have stopped or I have been given a clear message that they are no longer interested.
I really don't get what purpose stalking serves -do they really think that this behaviour will get them to see you in a more favourable light? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
I invited someone from here onto Kik, they stalked me relentlessly on there literally seconds after blocking them they were on a new profile. I had to make a new account there. This is why I now prefer to keep things on fab. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
my own little sanctuary |
"I invited someone from here onto Kik, they stalked me relentlessly on there literally seconds after blocking them they were on a new profile. I had to make a new account there. This is why I now prefer to keep things on fab. "
I have two kik accounts. My everyday one and one that I log into just to make that transition away from here where both I and the other party can better keep track of messages. If things so well they graduate to my actual kik, may be worth trying this approach as it seems to work quite well for me. My actual kik has not been compromised, the people on there are people I’ve been friends with for a long time |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I invited someone from here onto Kik, they stalked me relentlessly on there literally seconds after blocking them they were on a new profile. I had to make a new account there. This is why I now prefer to keep things on fab.
I have two kik accounts. My everyday one and one that I log into just to make that transition away from here where both I and the other party can better keep track of messages. If things so well they graduate to my actual kik, may be worth trying this approach as it seems to work quite well for me. My actual kik has not been compromised, the people on there are people I’ve been friends with for a long time"
It was really annoying, I lost all my contacts. At least on here I feel safer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haven't experienced this myself, but as gemini said, block and report for abuse x
I blocked one of the women but she still seemed to know what was going on with me and putting up status' about me. Turned out she had multiple profiles of women/men/couples she used to 'stalk' ppl
It's sad really "
Jeez.... Councilling needed for her... |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
One of the beauties of the internet is the ability to share information with others virtually instantly..
One of the downsides of the internet is the information on it is available to many folk virtually instantly..
We all knowingly or unknowingly share information we probably shouldn't
I'd guess all genders have suffered from this to a greater or lesser degree..
There are fruit cakes in all walks of life , the internet has its fair share. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes hiding verifications saves a lot of hassle 
Quite agree with this. Damned if you don't have them damned if you do. "
totally and the thing is there’s a lot with a veri or two by cam and been here over a year that set alarm bells ringing and is it a case of some people won’t meet certain people because of the people they have played with? I think everyone is different but it should be a easy life on here |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Sometimes hiding verifications saves a lot of hassle
Quite agree with this. Damned if you don't have them damned if you do. totally and the thing is there’s a lot with a veri or two by cam and been here over a year that set alarm bells ringing and is it a case of some people won’t meet certain people because of the people they have played with? I think everyone is different but it should be a easy life on here "
I knew one couple that would look down on single people with lots of veris but they went to loads of parties and clubs themselves, thus having loads of them as a result. Double standards or what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find a lot of people judge, take comments and themselves to seriously, some love having an objective opinion and as good argument. Many of the things I post is jest is taken completely out of context. I always thought “swingers” were supposed to be open minded. Perhaps that’s a stereotype ?? |
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"As a women I've only once had trouble from a single guy otherwise most tend to be polite and respectful. My problem lies with other single women who some, seem to be somewhat loopy from being terratorial over men they've been with to just green eyed monster in them and nasty messages! I've now has 2 that felt a need to contact guys who had verified me and slag me off and warn them, another one basically followed me by meeting the guys after I had, I've had warnings to stay away from their guys (single guys) yet the guys weren't happy to hear that lol. Even when I previously posted on here once I got negative replies from women.
Do other women have this problem?
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I know it's unpleasant to be bitched at, or about, but try not to take to heart the antics of people who are, basically, internet strangers to yourself. Does it therefore really matter what they say or do? Block them so they can't contact you directly and so you won't see their status updates and tell people who try to pass on gossip they've heard about you that you'd rather not know. In other words, leave these individuals to stew in their own juice without getting the satisfaction of a reaction to the drama they're trying to create - this is, after all, supposed to be fun instead of some half baked soap opera |
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Yes OP there are some seriously fucked up females on here. They don't really get the concept of swinging and are looking for a partner. The attention that they receive due to the unbalanced ratio seems to go to their head and they think they are something special. God help any women who tries to steel their men. Pathetic really. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"There often a good reason why some people are single.
Tell me about it - There are some that could write boks on the subject "
That woold be books not letters to Southern hemisphere Rugby Players |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes hiding verifications saves a lot of hassle
Quite agree with this. Damned if you don't have them damned if you do. totally and the thing is there’s a lot with a veri or two by cam and been here over a year that set alarm bells ringing and is it a case of some people won’t meet certain people because of the people they have played with? I think everyone is different but it should be a easy life on here
I knew one couple that would look down on single people with lots of veris but they went to loads of parties and clubs themselves, thus having loads of them as a result. Double standards or what? "
yeah totally and there’s attention seeking and some can only meet once in a blue moon and just here to chat and to get fabbed by wearing lingerie in the house that will never see a club or hotel meet lol it’s total different for anyone and I won’t meet someone who has played with someone I don’t like the look of that’s just me,not being judgmental but a lot goes on the person for me and the way they carry and present themselves.I like the forums and have a laugh the main objective is to have fab sex and meet new faces and enjoy what the lifestyle has to offer.If I want a chat I’ll go and have a biscuit and a cuppa with my aunt and have my ear chewed off about gardening! Lol but obviously you have to see if your on the same page and have click and chemistry.Its a swinging site I don’t understand why people are arsey* sometimes I’ve heard cases of the person has moaned because she’s met a another guy before him it’s playground stuff! Grow up and enjoy it for what it is get out there and meet and enjoy!  |
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"Haven't experienced this myself, but as gemini said, block and report for abuse x
I blocked one of the women but she still seemed to know what was going on with me and putting up status' about me. Turned out she had multiple profiles of women/men/couples she used to 'stalk' ppl
It's sad really "
Yeah I've had that more than once too.  |
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Omg I thought it was only me
Had one woman who did the same. Contacted every single guy on my veris and bad mouthed me to them.
A few of them contacted me and wanted to know what was the story.
After I contacted her asking what the problem was and threatening to contact admin she did the best thing and blocked me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes OP there are some seriously fucked up females on here. They don't really get the concept of swinging and are looking for a partner. The attention that they receive due to the unbalanced ratio seems to go to their head and they think they are something special. God help any women who tries to steel their men. Pathetic really. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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We had some grief a bit back where a woman messaged our veries and basically told them to be careful as our standards are low and will do anyone then sent us a shit message before blocking us. Reported her and admin would keep a lookout then I caught her out seen she’d unblocked us snooping the profile so reported her then sent her a shitty messaging basically saying try and snoop the profile now and we’d reported her again then blocked her so she couldn’t reply or snoop the profile and give our friends grief!
Think she was expecting us to shut down profile as was jealous we’d had some really good meets - we had to hide our veries and friends list as it’s wrong what she was doing! We kept the friends list hidden but displayed some of our meets just so people can see we’re genuine |
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"As a women I've only once had trouble from a single guy otherwise most tend to be polite and respectful. My problem lies with other single women who some, seem to be somewhat loopy from being terratorial over men they've been with to just green eyed monster in them and nasty messages! I've now has 2 that felt a need to contact guys who had verified me and slag me off and warn them, another one basically followed me by meeting the guys after I had, I've had warnings to stay away from their guys (single guys) yet the guys weren't happy to hear that lol. Even when I previously posted on here once I got negative replies from women.
Do other women have this problem?
I know it's unpleasant to be bitched at, or about, but try not to take to heart the antics of people who are, basically, internet strangers to yourself. Does it therefore really matter what they say or do? Block them so they can't contact you directly and so you won't see their status updates and tell people who try to pass on gossip they've heard about you that you'd rather not know. In other words, leave these individuals to stew in their own juice without getting the satisfaction of a reaction to the drama they're trying to create - this is, after all, supposed to be fun instead of some half baked soap opera "
I’ve encountered that problem from a woman becoming territorial even though me and her never met and got jealous because I went to a club. She then rattled off that I was a horrible person for doing that and that I deserve what was coming to me. |
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"Haven't experienced this myself, but as gemini said, block and report for abuse x
I blocked one of the women but she still seemed to know what was going on with me and putting up status' about me. Turned out she had multiple profiles of women/men/couples she used to 'stalk' ppl
It's sad really "
its happened to me too & just like uve said they watch your every move from other profiles yet claim to not be interested in anything you do  |
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"Sometimes hiding verifications saves a lot of hassle
Quite agree with this. Damned if you don't have them damned if you do. "
So true - I have had no grief since giving up verifications. So much better x |
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"Thankfully not
Sorry to read this op, I think some people forget that they don't own others,just because they have had meets with them .
I guess that's why people hide veries "
Ive not shown veries for years so its one less thing to worry about in my opinion |
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"As a women I've only once had trouble from a single guy otherwise most tend to be polite and respectful. My problem lies with other single women who some, seem to be somewhat loopy from being terratorial over men they've been with to just green eyed monster in them and nasty messages! I've now has 2 that felt a need to contact guys who had verified me and slag me off and warn them, another one basically followed me by meeting the guys after I had, I've had warnings to stay away from their guys (single guys) yet the guys weren't happy to hear that lol. Even when I previously posted on here once I got negative replies from women.
Do other women have this problem?
I know it's unpleasant to be bitched at, or about, but try not to take to heart the antics of people who are, basically, internet strangers to yourself. Does it therefore really matter what they say or do? Block them so they can't contact you directly and so you won't see their status updates and tell people who try to pass on gossip they've heard about you that you'd rather not know. In other words, leave these individuals to stew in their own juice without getting the satisfaction of a reaction to the drama they're trying to create - this is, after all, supposed to be fun instead of some half baked soap opera "
Bravo!
Cut the connection; cut the crap.
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