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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I’m curious. What behaviours and attitudes have you all encountered that were totally out of line and toxic?
Keep it to the Ts and Cs, no naming and shaming, let’s keep this an intellectual discussion  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was in an abuse relationship for 11 years so I've encountered a large number.
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I’m sorry to hear that, but glad it sounds like you’re out of that now! |
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We where once in a club where a lady was sitting at the back of the room crying slowly getting louder and louder as the attention she sought was not forth coming, very off putting for the rest of in the room xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see a lot of belittling others on here in profiles. It might say ''if you've been with a minger, stick to your mingers''. I find that attitude to be pretty awful. I don't see the need for that kind of stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We where once in a club where a lady was sitting at the back of the room crying slowly getting louder and louder as the attention she sought was not forth coming, very off putting for the rest of in the room xxxx"
Oh, yay! |
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"I was in an abuse relationship for 11 years so I've encountered a large number.
I’m sorry to hear that, but glad it sounds like you’re out of that now!"
Honestly, it's shit that it happened but I'm almost glad it did, coz hopefully I can be there for people going through it and have real understanding, hopefully seeing me loving life now will give them hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off "
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you "
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology  |
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology "
Why not use a simple filter that will solve an annoying problem? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've removed posts, if you quoted pr referred to them your post will be gone too.
If a thread has been removed its best not to continue discussing it.  "
Ahh i was wondering where it went lol i was like huh?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology
Why not use a simple filter that will solve an annoying problem?"
Had a few genuine single guys pop up with fuck buddies who aren’t on the site so it has some worth in not blocking all single guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend we used to go drinking and dancing with was very negative and not very warming to strangers. She was hard work to be out with at times."
I had a friend like that. Especially when she had a drink in her |
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology
Why not use a simple filter that will solve an annoying problem?
Had a few genuine single guys pop up with fuck buddies who aren’t on the site so it has some worth in not blocking all single guys.
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I see. You're going to have to take the rough with the smooth then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology
Why not use a simple filter that will solve an annoying problem?
Had a few genuine single guys pop up with fuck buddies who aren’t on the site so it has some worth in not blocking all single guys.
I see. You're going to have to take the rough with the smooth then"
It seems that way, if only our boundaries were respected on here eh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
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Offt sounded bad u ok? |
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"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off
Change your message filters so guys can’t message you
I don’t think it should have to come to that :/
Then again this isn’t exactly the place for ideology
Why not use a simple filter that will solve an annoying problem?
Had a few genuine single guys pop up with fuck buddies who aren’t on the site so it has some worth in not blocking all single guys.
I see. You're going to have to take the rough with the smooth then
It seems that way, if only our boundaries were respected on here eh "
Hmm. We have clear boundaries on our profile. People who meet us respect them but people who tell us in no uncertain terms they would never meet us feel able to be very disrespectful about them.
Like you, we take the rough with the smooth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX"
Big hugs 
I hope you’re okay! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend we used to go drinking and dancing with was very negative and not very warming to strangers. She was hard work to be out with at times.
I had a friend like that. Especially when she had a drink in her"
She got quieter the more she drank. We got her doubles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend we used to go drinking and dancing with was very negative and not very warming to strangers. She was hard work to be out with at times.
I had a friend like that. Especially when she had a drink in her
She got quieter the more she drank. We got her doubles "
Ah, lucky you! Ours got worse. We tried to steer her away from certain drinks that would definitely make her worse, but she was her own worst enemy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Watching people reinvent themselves to gain trust and fool others is pretty toxic behaviour. If you wait long enough though & have a good memory for detail, their true colours eventually come out... |
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"We where once in a club where a lady was sitting at the back of the room crying slowly getting louder and louder as the attention she sought was not forth coming, very off putting for the rest of in the room xxxx
Oh, yay!"
Saw this behaviour in the townhouse not long ago from a lady popular on the cams ..
Let’s just say in real life she didn’t get the same attention x |
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
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Big hugs
I hope you’re okay! X"
Yes thank you. It happened in a room full of very close friends. So I wasn’t on my own my girls had me covered.
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX"
Hope you reported him if he came from this site? And also hope you are ok... Must have shook you up xx |
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX"
I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit. |
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
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I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit."
Thank you, you know I was safe though. At least my night had a happier ending
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX
I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit.
Thank you, you know I was safe though. At least my night had a happier ending
XX
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Indeed. |
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX
I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit.
Thank you, you know I was safe though. At least my night had a happier ending
XX
Indeed. "
I’m still there
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX
I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit.
Thank you, you know I was safe though. At least my night had a happier ending
XX
Indeed.
I’m still there
XX"
Jesus wept! |
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"Encountered something last night. Had to get physical with a guy, who didn’t like been told no. Left me shocked as I’ve never had it happen before.
XX
I think it's better I wasn't there as I'd have probably lost my shit.
Thank you, you know I was safe though. At least my night had a happier ending
XX
Indeed.
I’m still there
XX
Jesus wept!"
Had bigger all to do at home. So I’ll go straight to work ifrom here
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Watching people reinvent themselves to gain trust and fool others is pretty toxic behaviour. If you wait long enough though & have a good memory for detail, their true colours eventually come out..."
Always. Someone I used to call a friend did this on a regular basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, I’m curious. What behaviours and attitudes have you all encountered that were totally out of line and toxic?
Keep it to the Ts and Cs, no naming and shaming, let’s keep this an intellectual discussion "
I don't tolerate toxic, rude I've come across a few times and divaish ie ' I'm popular who are you' but for the most part I've only dealt with nice people  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I don't tolerate toxic, rude I've come across a few times and divaish ie ' I'm popular who are you' but for the most part I've only dealt with nice people "
That’s a good way to be. I don’t make friends with anyone of that nature anymore. It zaps your emotional energy and it just isn’t worth it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I don't tolerate toxic, rude I've come across a few times and divaish ie ' I'm popular who are you' but for the most part I've only dealt with nice people
That’s a good way to be. I don’t make friends with anyone of that nature anymore. It zaps your emotional energy and it just isn’t worth it!"
exactly any sign of toxicity and I'm outta there |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Not essentially toxic but certainly an annoying one is single guys messaging me offering to empty my load etc..
It’s mentioned clearly on my profile lads no single guys so if you can’t read you deffo won’t be able to get me off "
Block them from messaging then. |
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