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Anxiety affecting meets

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Has anybody else found that their anxiety has affected their ability to meet?

I’ve had a number of successful meets in the time we’ve been here, but following a stressful couple of weeks I ended up cancelling one that I’d had arranged for a couple of weeks and had travelled quite some distance for, just a few hours before. I felt awful about it, he said he didn’t understand and proceeded to block me.

At the moment I’ve decided that I’m not going to meet any more, and I would certainly never again arrange anything other than a last minute meet if I did decide to in future.

Just wondered if it was something that had affected others?

Mrs F x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, I like meeting people and nerves is part of the fun of it all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, I like meeting people and nerves is part of the fun of it all. "

I get that, I’m talking acute anxiety rather than the normal nerves before a meet x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. I’ve cancelled many meets due to anxiety. Most guys don’t understand and call me a time waster, but a rare few understand. It takes a lot for me to meet folk

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No, I like meeting people and nerves is part of the fun of it all.

I get that, I’m talking acute anxiety rather than the normal nerves before a meet x"

Oh right. Of course. How about a social and several of them. Good quality guys will play the long game and be willing to do that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has anybody else found that their anxiety has affected their ability to meet?

At the moment I’ve decided that I’m not going to meet any more, and I would certainly never again arrange anything other than a last minute meet if I did decide to in future.

Just wondered if it was something that had affected others?

Mrs F x "

I sympathise with you OP, I have similar issues...I enjoy meets once I’m there but the thought of it sometimes gives me anxiety.

For me it’s because I’m not body confident currently and like you have had a stressful few months resulting in a massive lack of self confidence....and if I’m not confident, it won’t be the best of meets.

I’m on a break too...

Mrsk

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, I like meeting people and nerves is part of the fun of it all.

I get that, I’m talking acute anxiety rather than the normal nerves before a meet x

Oh right. Of course. How about a social and several of them. Good quality guys will play the long game and be willing to do that? "

It’s a little more complicated than that... it’s a general anxiety, not directly related to the guy himself. We’d chatted and cammed and got on well... I wish I had an explanation, it would be a lot easier!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yep. I’ve cancelled many meets due to anxiety. Most guys don’t understand and call me a time waster, but a rare few understand. It takes a lot for me to meet folk

It’s horrible isn’t it, because the last thing you want to do is let anyone down.

Hope more of those understanding ones come your way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I sympathise with you OP, I have similar issues...I enjoy meets once I’m there but the thought of it sometimes gives me anxiety.

I’m on a break too...

Mrsk"

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally know what you mean!! Obviously if I've been anxious, things play on your mind and it's a vicious circle resulting in a failure to perform! Rather embarrassing.....hasn't happened every time luckily, not ideal though.

Don't give up xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has anybody else found that their anxiety has affected their ability to meet?

At the moment I’ve decided that I’m not going to meet any more, and I would certainly never again arrange anything other than a last minute meet if I did decide to in future.

Just wondered if it was something that had affected others?

Mrs F x "
I used to meet a couple of women who suffered with this one never turned up on first date I travelled to her and booked a hotel she apologised so I arranged to meet again travelled to her again she turned up 2.5 hours late but did show and was fine after that, the other didn't turn up twice that was 3 years ago we are still friends now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes to this!! I have great ideas to meet lovely people and then the anxiety and sensible gene kicks in x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has anybody else found that their anxiety has affected their ability to meet?

At the moment I’ve decided that I’m not going to meet any more, and I would certainly never again arrange anything other than a last minute meet if I did decide to in future.

Just wondered if it was something that had affected others?

Mrs F x

I sympathise with you OP, I have similar issues...I enjoy meets once I’m there but the thought of it sometimes gives me anxiety.

I’m on a break too...

Mrsk"

Exactly the same! Also had a few meets that werent good! I had to come off fab for a while. Back niw but still a little anxious. Luckily i am talking to a guy who is lovely and very patient so fingers crossed! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the replies everyone, was in two minds whether to post it, I was wholly expecting to be told I was a time waster and I shouldn’t be on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it Mr or Mrs who’s having the problems?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it Mr or Mrs who’s having the problems?"

It’s Mrs, Mr F doesn’t meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sympathise with you OP, I have similar issues...I enjoy meets once I’m there but the thought of it sometimes gives me anxiety.

I’m on a break too...

Mrsk

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon x"
your one pic looks very sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you x"
you're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it does, Iamso anxious that I get diarrhoea before every single meets but thanks God immodium saved my ass more than once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep. I’ve cancelled many meets due to anxiety. Most guys don’t understand and call me a time waster, but a rare few understand. It takes a lot for me to meet folk

Well the ones that dont are the idiots and have no doubt missed out big time

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

I have had to cancel a few meeting due to anxiety, stupid thing was they were social or local social meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

"
Well You can stay in costume I take a small tent, you may love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

Well You can stay in costume I take a small tent, you may love it

You’ll never convince me in a million years, but thanks anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have had to cancel a few meeting due to anxiety, stupid thing was they were social or local social meets."

Not stupid at all, I find socials way more stressful than play meets because I’m a bit shy and awkward. I get it completely x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

Well You can stay in costume I take a small tent, you may love it

You’ll never convince me in a million years, but thanks anyway!

"
I bet I could get you confident

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

Well You can stay in costume I take a small tent, you may love it

You’ll never convince me in a million years, but thanks anyway!

I bet I could get you confident

I’d hate to prove you wrong and destroy your own confidence in yourself, best leave it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Body confidence is a big thing for me too - definitely our own worst enemies eh?!

Hope you enter a better phase soon xyour one pic looks very sexy

Thank you xyou're welcome body confidence is a problem that's the beauty of nudism you just put it out there maybe you should come with me sometime

Haha! I won’t even sit around naked on my own, but thanks anyway!

Well You can stay in costume I take a small tent, you may love it

You’ll never convince me in a million years, but thanks anyway!

I bet I could get you confident

I’d hate to prove you wrong and destroy your own confidence in yourself, best leave it

"
Ha I think I would survive somehow x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand completely. My social anxiety really doesn't work well in this environment. We don't meet much because I never know when it's going to appear and that makes me even more anxious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have this issue massively! Iv been on for over a year now and am dying to just balls up and go to a meet, Iv had and arranged a few and have even been on cam ect to prove I am genuine and who I say I am, but last minute the nerves make me over think everything, for instance I think what if I turn up and it's a real dodgy shitty area or what if I'm fucking a couple and the male decides he's not enjoying watching it and wants to kill me... Iv tried meeting other men and it always worries me how unsafe sexually they've been in the past ect, totally sympathise with you OP and would really like some reassurance of other people who've just gone for it xxx

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By *oDramaLlamasCouple over a year ago

Aberdeen

Totally understand the anxiety thing, it is a completely different thing to normal nerves and excitement which are all part of the fun.

One option to help counter the anxiety over meets would be to make friends with another female and perhaps visit a club together. That way you still get to meet people but in a more relaxed way since there is no pressure to do anything if you don't want to. This should also help build your overall confidence levels back up.

Another easy way to help with your body confidence issue is to post some more pics and see what reaction you get. Yes, you will always get the odd D!@khead that has his own confidence issues and gets off on trying to put others down, but I am sure most will be positive going by the one you have. Looks like you have nothing to worry about from where I am sitting.

You can always just share with friends if you don't want to go public of course.

....alternatively just message some pics to me, would be happy to let you know what I think......just purely as a favour to try help you out you understand, its the kind of guy I am, always happy to help lol

K x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Totally understand the anxiety thing, it is a completely different thing to normal nerves and excitement which are all part of the fun.

You can always just share with friends if you don't want to go public of course.

K x"

Ha! Very altruistic

It’s all good advice, but my anxiety wasn’t about meting in general, I’ve had quite a few very successful meets, it was just to do with where my head was at due to other things that meant I couldn’t face this one, apart from anything else my sex drive had temporarily gone awol.. not really ideal!

Clubs are definitely not for me, but I can see how t would work for others.

I had plenty of pics up, only recently took them down. I’ve always had positive feedback, but I don’t believe compliments anyway, so didn’t help!

I know, I’m a pain at this, haha!

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I have had to cancel a few meeting due to anxiety, stupid thing was they were social or local social meets.

I find socials way more stressful than play meets because I’m a bit shy and awkward. I get it completely x"

Would your husband go with you to a social, to help with your anxiety?

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

How about you turn up early, have a stroll around treat it like any other day rather than on the hour. Or if it's a hotel meet book two nights and invite them for the second night? Maybe have something familiar with you as an 'in case' like hubbys jumper but try not to use it.

Though I don't have anxiety, over the years, I have found the more I talk when setting up a meet the more I find something I don't like about someone - the same probably applies for them too. So maybe spontaneity could help.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For an Aspie like myself, anxiety can be a right pain when it comes to wanting to meet people especially in clubs.

Daytime visits to my favourite club have never been a problem but the past few evening visits in the past months have been a problem.

Busy evenings would make things difficult for me as I would feel anxiety when I'm on my own with no one to talk to. My anxiety would make my mind go blank when it comes to wanting to talk to someone which breaks down my confidence.

It's not good having anxiety on nights out at a club as it ruins a good evening making it almost a waste of time. I ended up leaving early of couple of times and it gets me depressed.

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