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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I've avoided socials in the past when people who've given me abuse have been there. It's bad enough walking into a room full of people you don't know without having to deal with that kind of shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is one particular couple who we avoid at all costs. The woman is sneaky. I don't trust her...Mr. doesn't trust her and her husband really shouldn't trust her. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.
So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.
So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them. "
' one' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"
Theres a few people we arent keen on that go to one of the clubs we go to. They create an unsavoury atmosphere so we avoid going when they are there. Its no big deal though. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"
I didn't used to but about a year ago, I went to a private party where a couple who I did not like went and the female of the couple kicked off and slapped my face due to being d*unk (and before you ask, No, I did not provoke her). since then, I know if she/they are going to a social or party where I am invited, its a no from me |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right."
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups |
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I used to have an arch enemy on the forums. Always hissing and bitching at each other. Went to a social and she was there she said hello. I said hello and boom we hit it of straight away and shes been one of my closest friends since and that was over 8 years ago |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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Socials - we'd still go.
Clubs - sometimes we'll avoid one of our local ones if a certain couple or single fem is there and we're already undecided. There's no single guys that haven't took the hint that we're not interested  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "
If she's there first, then it's only right for you to be the one that leaves. |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "
well if you know shes going to be there in advance or stay 500metres away from her. |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "
That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.
Again..... Grown ups! |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.pardon?
See above..why on earth would you expect them to leave?"
Seems like there’s a restraining order on them ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...
That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.
Again..... Grown ups! "
If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime. |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...
That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.
Again..... Grown ups!
If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime."
only if shes within 500mtrs of him |
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"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.
So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?
All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.
We're all grown ups
She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...
That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.
Again..... Grown ups!
If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime.only if shes within 500mtrs of him"
if it was a social then unless its a bloody big building then you'd be within 500m of her I'd think. |
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"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile."
but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile.but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position"
Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences. |
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"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile.but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position
Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences."
well we dont know what she did and we dont even know if hes telling the truth. Just one side of the story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rider, seeing as you know the situation and not allowed to be within 500 metres.... why pit yourself in a position knowing she would be there?
And if she was there first... it's YOU that should leave.
No matter what the story... you know about the exclusion zone and purposely put yourself in the situation where it would cause a scene... best way is for you to elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile.but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position
Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences. well we dont know what she did and we dont even know if hes telling the truth. Just one side of the story. "
Hence my saying "If there's a restraining order in place". If there is, then her freedom of action is restrained and she has to leave. If not, then the whole issue is moot. |
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"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?
Yes. Clubs where we've played with people, and they think we're a dead cert again. We're not. "
One of the reasons we no longer go to clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we do because one couple are very vindictive indeed. Just because we didn't go to a party they had. They only wanted us to go so could give there friend a lift. We already had plans made months ahead for a concert which was over £100 each for a ticket |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most definitely, as much as I can rise above (pardon the pun) I don’t know if others can, and I wouldn’t chance an atmosphere ruining it for me and possibly others around.there are enough clubs and events to chose another |
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It wouldn’t stop us, but there again how would we know if someone disliked us? We would like to think that we don’t upset anyone on the forums, we try to share our cake with most people and very rarely post negative comments.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never not go to socials or.clubs because of people I don't like. A lot of comments so far seem to indicate there is a lot of bad feeling and bitching with folk on fab. We have never once fallen out with anyone on here - wouldn't waste energies on crap like that. However many of comments in the forums say a lot about the personalities of the folk posting |
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"Not avoid the club but avoid the person more likely, like the awful thing that was at Chams Friday.
I’m intrigued, we’ve only been there once and it was a quiet night. "
Can't really say much as its against forum rules, Fridays aren't quiet, they are fabulous but a single guy behaving like this person would have been barred and thrown out on the spot.
Takes a lot to make me feel uncomfortable, in fact only happened twice in 10 years.
So I would avoid them like the plague, a few other couples we just don't get on with, but that's just normal life, just keep out of each others ways. Considering the size of the scene the number of completely incompatible people is incredibly small.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.
So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them. "
The right way to do it!
Troublesome ones rarely say jack-shit! |
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We went to a recent organised social and couldn’t believe it when we heard from a friend that a couple were badmouthing us . My wife approached the woman half who had been saying the stuff ( all untrue ) , and put her right . The armosphere was decidedly cold afterwards and we decided to leave .
Certainly won’t be going again as we do this for fun , and certainly not for shit like that ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn't put me off going somewhere because a certain someone is going to be there. I don't have any grievances with anyone on here though, but I know a few have them with me, but I see that as their issue, not mine.
I would like to think they would be grown up enough not to make a scene, and either just say an odd word to be polite or completely ignore me. I'm easy going and certainly wouldn't cause a scene even if they tried to. I would simply walk away from them and talk to someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Naaa clubs are ace and mostly welcoming just a very few who are stupid just like the world outside just go I do and off too a party after a festival on Saturday night happy days... |
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"All this kind of puts me off venturing into a club  "
The club's are great.
Like vanilla life, you can't choose who will be in there and sure there are folk in your normal life that you don't get along with too. |
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