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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
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As parents ourselves who can't always accomodate, we don't judge anyone that can't accomodate. We've come across people still living with parents, shared houses etc. Surprised with the attitude of some people on here around this when they are generally so tolerant of other things. |
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
Fair point well made. |
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I totally agree OP furthermore I don't like strangers in my home !Someone I know lives with his elderly parents !For couples and single ladies is okay not to accommodate but single guys is because they are cheating !
A load of BS !
Each person run their profile the way they please !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well said. Some people are very self-absorbed and can't see the absurdity of the demands they make. It actually says a lot about them by making demands and huge assumptions ... such people are best left alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said. Some people are very self-absorbed and can't see the absurdity of the demands they make. It actually says a lot about them by making demands and huge assumptions ... such people are best left alone."
 agree .. old saying but .. horses for courses ... springs to mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can’t always accommodate now due to family commitments so either meet at a pub or club for a social, or club for play meet if nobody can accommodate. It’s no big deal if you can’t accom, we don’t live together so if there is anytime we can accommodate it’ll always be at my fella’s place because I don’t want people knowing where I live and not sure I’d want to let people that I don’t really know come into my family home! There is only a few people that we are friends with that meet at my place |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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I cannot accommodate as I work away from home but live in Single accommodation provided by my employer as a condition of my role at work.
But as I work in Hotel Management, I tend to separate my Work and Personal lives.
I can get very generous room rates but a lot of people won't meet at hotels. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of the time, it's safer and more comfortable to meet up in a hotel.
Who wants to bring strangers to their home on the first meet?"
I have done but I live with 5 guys so it’s pretty safe. Plus I get to know people for a very long time before meeting. |
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Fair point well made."
Totally agree! Well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
There is some generalization here,
I can't always accommodate and that can be as simple as house renovations, heating/plumbing emergency or children staying over.
None of these normal situations are even a possibility in some women's minds. Men are cheats and that's it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
Never going to happen, OP think of it this way. Those people you've mentioned must be that way due to past experiences. As such they now have insecurities which leads to lack of confidence and lack of confidence can turn a social dire. Save yourself the hassle, go with those not so insecure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
We don't make assumptions or judge. If we want to know the reason we ask a question.
But I do understand where you're coming from OP.
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
People always jump to the worst assumptions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
People always jump to the worst assumptions"
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It's not just a problem for single people, couples have that too.
We've a 20 something offspring at home, does their own thing and are liable to change plans at a drop of a hat.
We'd love to accommodate, but have accepted that isn't going to change anytime soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. My profile says I can't accommodate technically I could during school hours or I do have girly friends over but I'm never going to put that on my profile or its expected. It would take a lot for me to feel comfortable to let someone in my home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn’t bother us at all. We can’t accommodate as even if we offloaded the teens who live in the house, we still have a 20something living in the annex who goes nowhere and is very nosy! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Never going to happen, OP think of it this way. Those people you've mentioned must be that way due to past experiences. As such they now have insecurities which leads to lack of confidence and lack of confidence can turn a social dire. Save yourself the hassle, go with those not so insecure "
Totally agree. No confidence is a major turn off. However insecurity is another issue, one which I have sympathy for. We all have insecurities, but how we choose to show them is another matter.
I've been on Fab long enough to know all the pot falls. Just love having a "JustSaying" rant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very few men have their kids living with them all the time, just saying  "
This is fab swingers, rarities are easier to find on here than (rest its book soul) the yellow pages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very few men have their kids living with them all the time, just saying "
This is true I had a social with a guy recently that couldn't accommodate because his kids stayed there every other weekend but thinks it ok to come to mine where mine live all the time ... ermmm sorry no respect!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The way to be productive is surely to just speak for yourself, stating your predicament on your profile, rather than telling people to get over themselves "
I was speaking for myself, and the majority of people who agreed on this thread...
Productive 
I think it's more productive to stay away from threads that people don't agree with. The forum is the place to put the world to rights, and people's sensitivity gets in the way of productive dialogue.
Some of us definitely need to get over themselves and lighten up, it's not always that serious... |
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
The amount of mess and noise we make totally makes meets at home not viable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Very few men have their kids living with them all the time, just saying "
Well I'm one of them... Hence the reason for the post.
Granted, there are more single mums than dads, but believe it or not it does happen.
Does that make me a unicorn??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know quite a few guys that have kids living with them, some of them don’t get a break other than when kids are at school- sometimes the mothers can’t be arsed with the kids or have a health/mental problem which prevents them having the kids either at all or at a contact centre say!
My partner has full custody of his kid, does see the mother but will get dropped just like that! Makes no difference to us as at an age where they can be left for a few hours so we can still get out regardless of whether they’re at home or not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only just recently finished university and im living back with my parents until I can afford my own place. I get a few odd days free to host, but they are rare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
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Single guys get a real bad rep on here, but when we’ve played in clubs or parties it hasn’t been single guys trying to shove their cocks and fingers up Mrs L2 without asking it’s guys from couples who think it’s acceptable to come over uninvited and try it on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's because they live with their mums!
What's wrong with that? I live with my son  "
Both myself and my children live with my mum.
Although even when i had my own home i would never meet men there - it was at hotels.
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Speaking as someone that can, and has accommodated - I can totally understand, especially on a first meet, not accommodating - you never really know you’d want that person to know where you live until you meet them!
I’ve had meets I’m very pleased they don’t know where I live afterwards!
Having a hotel or club meet for the first one or two meets is probably the best and then if it’s clear you get on and it might be regular meeting at your own home is fine then |
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
There are many reasons some members can’t accom. Myself included, I’m very much single though, but with family.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
There is some generalization here,
I can't always accommodate and that can be as simple as house renovations, heating/plumbing emergency or children staying over.
None of these normal situations are even a possibility in some women's minds. SOME Men are cheats and that's it"
spot on (after fixing it
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As parents ourselves who can't always accomodate, we don't judge anyone that can't accomodate. We've come across people still living with parents, shared houses etc. Surprised with the attitude of some people on here around this when they are generally so tolerant of other things. "
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"I totally agree OP furthermore I don't like strangers in my home !Someone I know lives with his elderly parents !For couples and single ladies is okay not to accommodate but single guys is because they are cheating !
A load of BS !
Each person run their profile the way they please !!! "
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"Very few men have their kids living with them all the time, just saying
Well I'm one of them... Hence the reason for the post.
Granted, there are more single mums than dads, but believe it or not it does happen.
Does that make me a unicorn??? "
Yes...fancy a fuck ha ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a man can’t accommodate there could be a selection of reasons. But probably ‘living with partner’ is probably the most usual reason, especially with men over a certain age. So if people feel it makes their swinging life easier by sticking to those who can accommodate, then why not? My personal pet hate is when single men look to the couple to sort the accommodation, and make no effort to be proactive. Which is my fear with guys who say they can’t accommodate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible. well your right there to a point but some case could mean other thing what you do for a living and where you live were most in your area are like to talk about who live by them.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
You are right some men are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone.
However, time and time again it has been proven most single men who cannot accommodate it is because they are not really single. Based on that you can understand why women and couples are suspicious of single men who cannot accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In all honesty, i don't automatically judge a guy who can't accommodate, as cheating. I know that there are single parents, some who house share etc. In all honesty, i don't feel comfortable accommodating, even if my little one were not home, as i don't want someone to know where i live. It is my safe space, completely seperate from fab. It's perfectly reasonable for men to have those same reservations. |
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All the points....ok, most of the points made in this thread are valid ones. But let's just say it like it is....lots, but not all, guys who can't accommodate ARE "playing away"....(shields up captain) |
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"All the points....ok, most of the points made in this thread are valid ones. But let's just say it like it is....lots, but not all, guys who can't accommodate ARE "playing away"....(shields up captain) "
100% correct. Not all single guys are cheating but a lot are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't get me wrong I completely get how it works and the concept of playing away, I'm sure alot of women are cheating on partners on Fab too and can't accommodate for the same reason.
I'm not speaking for them. A cheat is a cheat regardless, and nobody knows the circumstance so it's none of my business.
However I do speak for myself who is a single father, who has my brother living with me for a while whilst he gets going again.
The point is many of us swerve the truth when meeting people on Fab. Many of us are on for different reasons, not just sex. The beauty of Fab is that you can express these sexual adult thoughts and actions.
Even if I could accommodate I wouldn't, as it's my sanctuary. Alot of my threads are angled towards the "good" single guys that get put in the "all men are..." bracket  |
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I agree with you OP. I'm a single woman and have "can't accommodate" on my profile becuase I generally don't unless I get to know someone quite well.
What gets on my double G's is being messaged by people who can't accommodate either is.. well where are we going to fuck ?
It clearly says on my profile I'm looking for repeat offender so unless you have money to throw away I don't see a weekly hotel being a thing and I'll also not willing to split the cost of one. |
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"I agree with you OP. I'm a single woman and have "can't accommodate" on my profile becuase I generally don't unless I get to know someone quite well.
What gets on my double G's is being messaged by people who can't accommodate either is.. well where are we going to fuck ?
It clearly says on my profile I'm looking for repeat offender so unless you have money to throw away I don't see a weekly hotel being a thing and I'll also not willing to split the cost of one. "
I'd like to get your double G's
I completely get that and often suffer from the same issue.
However I play with regular friends which do accommodate, and where trust has been built from regular meets at clubs or hotels and I am then able to play at their property. (I always being the drinks and snacks)
I am more than happy to meet at local clubs or even split costs, with potential new play mates |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a rule about hosting at my place...
Single women I always host
Couples I never host....
If that’s not cool , we don’t meet..."
If I could accommodate I think this would be my approach too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think it would be helpful though if people who can’t or won’t accomodate explained on their profiles where they do like to play. Men message us who can’t accomodate and thats fine we respect that. But many don’t offer a solution to where we might play.
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"I agree with you OP. I'm a single woman and have "can't accommodate" on my profile becuase I generally don't unless I get to know someone quite well.
What gets on my double G's is being messaged by people who can't accommodate either is.. well where are we going to fuck ?
It clearly says on my profile I'm looking for repeat offender so unless you have money to throw away I don't see a weekly hotel being a thing and I'll also not willing to split the cost of one.
I'd like to get your double G's
I completely get that and often suffer from the same issue.
However I play with regular friends which do accommodate, and where trust has been built from regular meets at clubs or hotels and I am then able to play at their property. (I always being the drinks and snacks)
I am more than happy to meet at local clubs or even split costs, with potential new play mates "
My double G's would like to get familiar with those hands |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
yes God aren't we all so judgemental |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying "
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it. "
Do you care to elaborate? Or is that just a random comment...
Although, I have just read your profile and it seems a little clearer to why you may of heard something that wasn't said
What do you think I need to get over, if you don't mind me asking...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it.
Do you care to elaborate? Or is that just a random comment...
Although, I have just read your profile and it seems a little clearer to why you may of heard something that wasn't said
What do you think I need to get over, if you don't mind me asking...
I'll wait "
She probably means just forget about it. Don’t worry about. Focus on those who don’t make a judgement on whether or not someone can accomodate. Cos let’s face it, those who won’t meet someone who can’t acconodate (whether for reasonable or unreasonable reasons) are probably not going to do what you suggest and ‘get over it’. Reason being is that they don’t have to. As long as they are finding what they are looking for on a Fab there will be no need for them to get over anything.
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it.
Do you care to elaborate? Or is that just a random comment...
Although, I have just read your profile and it seems a little clearer to why you may of heard something that wasn't said
What do you think I need to get over, if you don't mind me asking...
I'll wait
She probably means just forget about it. Don’t worry about. Focus on those who don’t make a judgement on whether or not someone can accomodate. Cos let’s face it, those who won’t meet someone who can’t acconodate (whether for reasonable or unreasonable reasons) are probably not going to do what you suggest and ‘get over it’. Reason being is that they don’t have to. As long as they are finding what they are looking for on a Fab there will be no need for them to get over anything.
Mrs"
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it.
Do you care to elaborate? Or is that just a random comment...
Although, I have just read your profile and it seems a little clearer to why you may of heard something that wasn't said
What do you think I need to get over, if you don't mind me asking...
I'll wait
She probably means just forget about it. Don’t worry about. Focus on those who don’t make a judgement on whether or not someone can accomodate. Cos let’s face it, those who won’t meet someone who can’t acconodate (whether for reasonable or unreasonable reasons) are probably not going to do what you suggest and ‘get over it’. Reason being is that they don’t have to. As long as they are finding what they are looking for on a Fab there will be no need for them to get over anything.
Mrs exactly supply and demand "
Supply and demand is so vague and used in appropriately.
If you had to pick one good apple would you rather pick from a segment size of 10 (who can accomodate all the time and are genuinely single) or a segment size of 50 (which has a mix of those that can and those that can't but are also genuinely single). |
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"When a single man can't accommodate.
Some women and couples seem to think it's down to him cheating???
Some of us are single parents, have full time jobs or living with someone so it's not plausible.
Can some of you women and couples get over yourself please.
#JustSaying
Sounds to me your the one that needs to get over it.
Do you care to elaborate? Or is that just a random comment...
Although, I have just read your profile and it seems a little clearer to why you may of heard something that wasn't said
What do you think I need to get over, if you don't mind me asking...
I'll wait
She probably means just forget about it. Don’t worry about. Focus on those who don’t make a judgement on whether or not someone can accomodate. Cos let’s face it, those who won’t meet someone who can’t acconodate (whether for reasonable or unreasonable reasons) are probably not going to do what you suggest and ‘get over it’. Reason being is that they don’t have to. As long as they are finding what they are looking for on a Fab there will be no need for them to get over anything.
Mrs exactly supply and demand
Supply and demand is so vague and used in appropriately.
If you had to pick one good apple would you rather pick from a segment size of 10 (who can accomodate all the time and are genuinely single) or a segment size of 50 (which has a mix of those that can and those that can't but are also genuinely single). "
That’s probably how we govern ourselves on Fab. We don’t as such have strict rules as to what we might look for on a profile. But we will go for what is most likely to be the easiest and most straightforward option. If we failed to find suitable playmates then we would might well take greater risks in our searches,or make choices that give us reduced play options. But usually we don’t need to broaden our horizons.
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