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Do I have a problem?
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
Am I being greedy, out of order or just have a problem.
I’ve got three women in my life. One I live with, one I’ve been seeing for around five years, and one I’ve just started a sexual relationship with.
They have a certain degree of knowledge about the others but we don’t have full blown conversation about what I’m doing elsewhere.
They are also open about their relationships away from what we do together and what we expect from one another.
My question really is should I be happy and not be on a sight like this searching for something extra?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well maybe I’m black and white about it but if you’re on here then you’re still not happy but sometimes people never are. It seems like you’re searching for something you can’t find or just thinking with your dick. Either way only you know what you want |
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Nobody *should* be happy, it isn't a right.
Do you always look for more in every aspect of your life or just where relationships are concerned?
Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing as long as nobody is hurt by your actions and there's a degree of honesty involved. Not everyone is designed to be monogamous. |
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"Nobody *should* be happy, it isn't a right.
Do you always look for more in every aspect of your life or just where relationships are concerned?
Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing as long as nobody is hurt by your actions and there's a degree of honesty involved. Not everyone is designed to be monogamous."
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
"Nobody *should* be happy, it isn't a right.
Do you always look for more in every aspect of your life or just where relationships are concerned?
Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing as long as nobody is hurt by your actions and there's a degree of honesty involved. Not everyone is designed to be monogamous."
I quite often look to make other aspect of my life better, or try to take them to the next level. There’s many parts I’m happy with but not all. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"You're just looking for love mate. When you find it you'll have no need for all the others
What he said
I’m sure it’s just move sex as I’ve got the love side covered. "
Is there something specific you want that they don't provide ?
Having 3 already and looking for more does seem a bit excessive . |
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"Nobody *should* be happy, it isn't a right.
Do you always look for more in every aspect of your life or just where relationships are concerned?
Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing as long as nobody is hurt by your actions and there's a degree of honesty involved. Not everyone is designed to be monogamous.
I quite often look to make other aspect of my life better, or try to take them to the next level. There’s many parts I’m happy with but not all. "
Well I think that if you don't consider you have a problem then you don't.  |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
Its ok to have friends in this way but if you add to the numbers then you have to keep all the plates spinning. Its not easy keeping everyone happy so only consider it if you can do this . If they grow into relationships it can become quite difficult . |
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"You're just looking for love mate. When you find it you'll have no need for all the others"
what a load of rubbish. Im absolutly in love with my partner but ive got numerous gentleman friends as im sure all the married couples on here are in love.
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"Nobody *should* be happy, it isn't a right. what horrid thing to say of course its a right to be happy and every one deservse to happy in life. "
I think you've misunderstood my meaning. No one thing should make someone happy. Most people would say that being given a box of chocolates should make someone happy. It wouldn't if you didn't like them.
As for happiness being a right, I can't agree with you there. If you think that's horrid, fair enough. I agree that everyone has the right to seek happiness though. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Nothing wrong with the poly lifestyle. I did see a guy who was poly who had a long term partner but also saw other people.
We were open about who we saw and we still managed to meet on a regular basis too. Maybe there’s some things you’d still like to experience? BDSM, Dom/sub, etc that you haven’t experienced yet.
We’re all on here for different reasons. |
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
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Is there something specific you want that they don't provide ?
Having 3 already and looking for more does seem a bit excessive ."
I don’t think so. One provides me with more than I’ve ever asked for and we’re always looking at trying new things, pushing ourselves and our sexual boundaries. I just have an inability to say no to sexual offers and when I get the need, I want it there and then. Work and children (and their partners)get in the way sometimes so I can’t have my cake(Pussy) and eat it!
Thing is, I don’t see myself as a dog or a player, as I treat them all with respect, other than sleeping with somebody else, and it’s not just about the sexual needs and attraction. |
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
"Are you the Adam (Love Island) of fab? Minus the 6pack obvs lol"
I’m nowhere near 200 lovers, unless you drop the last zero! lol
But my abs are pretty close, on a good morning, for somebody 20+ years older than him  |
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
"Nothing wrong with the poly lifestyle. I did see a guy who was poly who had a long term partner but also saw other people.
We were open about who we saw and we still managed to meet on a regular basis too. Maybe there’s some things you’d still like to experience? BDSM, Dom/sub, etc that you haven’t experienced yet.
We’re all on here for different reasons."
Could be. We’re yet to dip our toes into bdsm or dom/sub passed a little bedroom play.
There’s a few other things we want to try but it needs to be at the right time for us both physically and mentally. X |
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By *nkd OP Man
over a year ago
orpington |
"Totally what I dont like about fab guys always looking for their next conquest even when they agree exclusive !
However each to their own x"
I can see how it might appear to sound like that’s what I’m doing, but two of the three women came to me, not the other way round, they both knew my situation, so maybe I was their conquest? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My question really is should I be happy and not be on a sight like this searching for something extra?
S. X"
If you’re happy and they’re happy, what’s the problem?
I suspect you are simply boasting, rather than being greedy. But if it is true, then consider yourself very lucky indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally what I dont like about fab guys always looking for their next conquest even when they agree exclusive !
However each to their own x"
Just wanted to take the opportunity to advertise to all the women on Fab that I'm totally not like this. I agree. I find it really crass |
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