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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you feel you have to be a little selfish here on Fab?
I meet people, (I'm particularly referring to single men) and then I find out after they've met met once that they only want 1 on 1 with me and don't want to share me, (I'm just so damn hot in bed you see ...joke! ), so I find myself meeting them separately to please them. I'm by no means saying that I don't thoroughly enjoying my meets with them, because I do, but I would like to have moresomes.
Maybe I need to toughen up and only ever meet on my terms, but I'm not selfish by nature.....what do you reckon? |
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Maybe I need to toughen up and only ever meet on my terms, but I'm not selfish by nature.....what do you reckon?
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I wouldn't call it selfish to get what you want out of life. Particularly when you are dealing with (relative) strangers.
I think you should do as you suggest. Use your position on here as a single woman to get things going on your terms.
If the guys you are meeting are not interested, don't meet them! There's plenty to choose from!
Though obviously it will take a bit more filtering and logistic work. |
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I think you've just got to go with whatever you want to do. If you enjoy the one on one's, continue them, but if you feel you're not getting what you're looking for them move on.
Personally, I think they're being selfish and missing out on some fun  |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"Do you feel you have to be a little selfish here on Fab?
I meet people, (I'm particularly referring to single men) and then I find out after they've met met once that they only want 1 on 1 with me and don't want to share me, (I'm just so damn hot in bed you see...joke! ), so I find myself meeting them separately to please them. I'm by no means saying that I don't thoroughly enjoying my meets with them, because I do, but I would like to have moresomes.
Maybe I need to toughen up and only ever meet on my terms, but I'm not selfish by nature.....what do you reckon? "
You're clearly the victim of your own success
If you can't explore your fantasies here, where can you, so I think you should pursue what suits you.
I agree with some if the above in that there's no reason you can't still do the one on one, as you say you enjoy their company, and go in search elsewhere for your multiples, but maybe be upfront from the outset, and then they will or should be as like minded.
I will say though, I very much admire that you took their feelings into consideration - says a lot about you |
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Some meets get clingy and jealous, I tend to nip that in the bud early.
Group meets aren't everyone's cup of tea tho so I've got one in one's and then the moresomes.
The two worlds don't have to overlap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see why it's being selfish. Would you meet a couple and have a 3some if you really only wanted to fuck the man? Why do something that you don't want to?
If you don't want 1:1 why meet 1:1? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your responses. Like I said, I do thoroughly enjoy 1 on 1, but I also want more. Maybe I'm just greedy haha
I always make it very clear from the outset that I won't do exclusive and I want to play with others. |
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"Thanks for your responses. Like I said, I do thoroughly enjoy 1 on 1, but I also want more. Maybe I'm just greedy haha
I always make it very clear from the outset that I won't do exclusive and I want to play with others. "
so whats the problem then if youve made it clear |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your responses. Like I said, I do thoroughly enjoy 1 on 1, but I also want more. Maybe I'm just greedy haha
I always make it very clear from the outset that I won't do exclusive and I want to play with others. so whats the problem then if youve made it clear"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I will say though, I very much admire that you took their feelings into consideration - says a lot about you "
Thank you so much for that very kind comment, I couldn't not consider how my actions would affect someone else. |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"I will say though, I very much admire that you took their feelings into consideration - says a lot about you
Thank you so much for that very kind comment, I couldn't not consider how my actions would affect someone else. "
My pleasure. Struck a cord with me and shows you have some depth (no pun intended ha) I tend to consider myself to be a fairly perceptive person. |
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