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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
Hello,
Is it normal for some couples to invite a single guy direct to their hotel room without meeting before? Is this a thing for some couples? I am just curious as I have been invited by a couple but unsure if genuine. Plus there's only one way in and one way out of a hotel room haha  so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that. |
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By *alawCouple
over a year ago
edinburgh |
We have done this before and invited a single guy to join us in the room, but only after a series of good communication and or cam first. If the couple are on fabs you could always check their verifications if they are displayed and have a read. We don't have our verifications on display solely as privacy for others, but I would always be wary!!!! xx |
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over a year ago
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"Yes I suggested that and they have messaged me saying to ring them when I arrive at the hotel and they will tell me what hotel room to go to!!! !!"
I would make sure you speak to them both (if you haven't already done so) to verify they are really a couple and in the same location. |
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Yes done it few times in the past no problem. And as I like to dress like I do, it wouldn’t have been easy to dress for a vanilla scenario to go to a bar. Eg different shoes, hide stockings or remove and blander make up. No, I can’t say I’d be happy with that, but then I’m quite happy to do meets without social first.
If you’re not sure OP, either come to an agreement with them or let them down nicely so they can try find someone who will meet in the same way they are looking for. |
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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
They have loads of verifications on S D C. I asked for a video cal but they have said they never do that. They aren't based in England (Supposedly spend a lot of time over here). They are flying in to London this week and staying three nights in a hotel.
If they can't meet in a bar before hand then I won't meet. To suspicious for my liking and too much risk.
Thanks for all your opinions. Better safe then sorry. |
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Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer. |
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over a year ago
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"Hello,
Is it normal for some couples to invite a single guy direct to their hotel room without meeting before? Is this a thing for some couples? I am just curious as I have been invited by a couple but unsure if genuine. Plus there's only one way in and one way out of a hotel room haha so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."
i think your lucky... im looking for exactly this!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer. "
Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge   |
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"Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer.
Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge "
Who also want to make sure your grapes are safe  |
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"They do but only take a couple of seconds to knock somebody out.haha
I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask to meet somebody in a bar or to face time somebody you have never met before.
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I’m not saying there’s not a chance of that but then, that can happen to you anywhere. Work, home, walking down a street, shop, pub, gym. There’s feckin nutters everywhere.
But on a site like this, where people such as this couple are asking to meet for sex, you’re more fearful of being set upon with violence than hopeful that you could have a nice time.
So why would you think a couple asking to meet you for sex would want to knock you out ?
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"Stop being a pussy and go get your dick wet. Our attitude changes when we have a hotel room, hard to explain why exactly but it's a bit like that holiday feeling. Take a grape alarm if it makes you feel safer.
Mmm - a hot couple who like to take charge
Who also want to make sure your grapes are safe "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.
Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there. |
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So if you have a social and chat a bit more to someone, there’s no risk of any of the above posed situations. Who knew 
Life is a risk. Taking a large cappuccino ahead of play will not make you invincible. Like it’s easy to spot criminals isn’t it  |
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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
"We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.
Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there."
Thanks for the tip 
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools! |
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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!"
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!"
Apparently Dr Opiate was very well regarded and friendly lady in her community before they found out she’d killed off hundreds of her patients.
How can you tell if someone’s going to harm you from a face to face meeting |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid "
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet. |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet. "
You should try being a guy on here then!  |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet.
You should try being a guy on here then! "
Lots more Male profiles yes.
Men that meet not so many. |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet.
You should try being a guy on here then!
Lots more Male profiles yes.
Men that meet not so many. "
Spoiling it for those that do then!  |
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet.
You should try being a guy on here then!
Lots more Male profiles yes.
Men that meet not so many.
Spoiling it for those that do then! "
Ok I’m being harsh. If I post a meet the following will be guaranteed.
- several straight guys
- a guy from Scotland one from Wales and one from south London
- a guy that forgets he has a child at home he has to care for
- lots of bi guys with black heads and fill me in later profiles
And one local bi guy that we don’t fancy. |
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I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
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"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
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The average male has 40% more upper body strength than the average woman. Women are sensible to be more cautious. |
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"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
The average male has 40% more upper body strength than the average woman. Women are sensible to be more cautious. "
And less women would even enter into a discussion in the first place about meeting like that. That’s not comparable. |
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By *unCuriousHarry OP Man
over a year ago
somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire |
"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
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Exactomondo Nicecouple561 Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others. |
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"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
Exactomondo Nicecouple561 Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others."
You could have asked your mum to phone you 10 minutes after the meet had started, but call the police if you don't answer to confirm that everything is ok and you're balls deep |
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"I think if a woman had posted this she would have been sympathetically advised to take every precaution. The couple would have been called unreasonable for asking her to meet without first verifying they are who they claim to be. It's no different for men is it?
I think people should take the safety precautions that suit them. If others feel they wouldn't be as cautious fair enough but there's no need to suggest anyone who differs is wrong.
Exactomondo Nicecouple561 Each to their own. Some people are wiling to take more risks then others."
So now you know your limits you can pop a note on your profile so people know not to bother you for sex, until you are well acquainted. Saves wasting peoples time.
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Op I'd suggest that you're not what this couple are after and vice versa. You might be better off on a club or meeting one of the many profiles that ask for a social first.
you're not wrong the couple aren't wrong it's a case of mismatched preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone suggesting this guy is a 'pussy' or scared of the spiders is being well over the top. Of course it's reasonable to want to speak beforehand or go for a drink, at the very least, some cam or phone action. If any couple demands that you meet blind and won't offer a shred of human interaction bar a few dodgy texts then you would have to question why..
My advice mate, you are better than that. Don't be desperate go find a couple who respects you |
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"Anyone suggesting this guy is a 'pussy' or scared of the spiders is being well over the top. Of course it's reasonable to want to speak beforehand or go for a drink, at the very least, some cam or phone action. If any couple demands that you meet blind and won't offer a shred of human interaction bar a few dodgy texts then you would have to question why..
My advice mate, you are better than that. Don't be desperate go find a couple who respects you"
People on the internet going over the top... never |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have met single guys in our hotel room,and visited single guys in their hotel room.Never a problem.
Little trick i use,when we visit a guy in his room,I ask for the room number then phone the hotel asking to be put through to his room.that way we know he is definitely there."
Can we borrow that from you guys to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!
I am bit of a newbie so I wasn't sure if the stranger thing was a 'thing' hence why I put the message to see if it was common scenario, Maybe they are genuine but I think it is best to be careful and not put oneself at risk needlessly but maybe I am paranoid
I’d be interested to know what the couples thoughts are on the whole thing.
Because it’s pretty hard work trying to find a decent guy that will meet on this site these days and most want to exchange endless flipping emails before they then confess they aren’t brave enough, when posed with a meet.
You should try being a guy on here then!
Lots more Male profiles yes.
Men that meet not so many.
Spoiling it for those that do then!
Ok I’m being harsh. If I post a meet the following will be guaranteed.
- several straight guys
- a guy from Scotland one from Wales and one from south London
- a guy that forgets he has a child at home he has to care for
- lots of bi guys with black heads and fill me in later profiles
And one local bi guy that we don’t fancy. "
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Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence. |
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"Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence."
Yup, it's a cruel world |
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"Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence."
Is someone hacking this account . |
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"Also if tomorrow the op posted that he'd arrived at the hotel to find that the couple weren't there or it was only the guy in the room as his "wife" wasn't available he would have been told it was his own fault for not exercising due diligence.
Is someone hacking this account . "
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I did it three times - in the worse case the lady wasn't really 'as described' or even photographed. The drug paraphernalia lying around was also pretty scary.....As they say in the Red Tops 'I made my excuses and left.....' But then again that's the problem with Travel Lodges at 1AM I guess...stupid me!
The first time was pre-interweb - and I visited a house based off a phone chat line - hearing the voices was great but when I turned up and met the guy his anxiousness worried me - once through the front door though it was a amazing - I stayed for about 7 hours! We remained friends for years.
Second time was a hotel meet from Fabs, but in a smart hotel - and was a good night.
I'm now scarred by my last experience though, and would be unlikely to do it again....I also have more reasons to be careful these days (dependents) and to be honest it's potentially really risky...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello,
Is it normal for some couples to invite a single guy direct to their hotel room without meeting before? Is this a thing for some couples? I am just curious as I have been invited by a couple but unsure if genuine. Plus there's only one way in and one way out of a hotel room haha so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."
you're a guy what's the worst that can happen.......
You get tango'd |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I think some of you are being a little harsh on the OP. I think his caution is understandable. At the very least a phone call and brief chat to establish a women actually exists.
Totally get some people liking the total stranger knocking on the hotel room door thing but personally I/ we would prefer to meet for a few drinks first...basically to establish whether the person(s) we are meeting are sane and normal or complete tools!"
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"Hello,
Is it normal for some couples to invite a single guy direct to their hotel room without meeting before? Is this a thing for some couples? I am just curious as I have been invited by a couple but unsure if genuine. Plus there's only one way in and one way out of a hotel room haha so don't want to lad myself into a dodgy situation. Safety first and all that."
Grab a tray from the bar and a bag of crisps and pretend you're room service so you can check things out.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We always meet without a social..never had one problem in 20 years of swinging..we do not have free time for socialising first ..we just get on with it ..if we were not happy or felt it was not right we would just tell them and not go ahead..but this as never happened |
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I think if a couple is well validated, and you've at least had a good phone call with them, there's little to loose in terms of meeting them at their hotel and seeing how it goes. IMHO that combination, perhaps somewhat oddly, is quite rare in real life though!  |
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"We always meet without a social..never had one problem in 20 years of swinging..we do not have free time for socialising first ..we just get on with it ..if we were not happy or felt it was not right we would just tell them and not go ahead..but this as never happened "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't do it. We did this once like this and he was a total moron. Very badly judged and we had a hassle telling him to sod off. Best is to meet in a bar first and see if you gel |
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We have done it. In fact our first meet was one and a great experience was had by all. I do however appreciate your caution and only advice I can give is to ask to cam on kik or FaceTime and if they won't then politely decline |
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