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"I rarely check mine.... I either forget or just have other things to do... like talk to the people who have read my profile and sent a message." Ahh but you may be one of the exceptions to the rule and politely reply! | |||
"I rarely check mine.... I either forget or just have other things to do... like talk to the people who have read my profile and sent a message. Ahh but you may be one of the exceptions to the rule and politely reply! " You might be pushing it with the 'politely' bit. | |||
"I rarely check mine.... I either forget or just have other things to do... like talk to the people who have read my profile and sent a message. Ahh but you may be one of the exceptions to the rule and politely reply! " you sound like a nice guy but we have found many here to be that nice when you do reply to a message with just a simple thanks but no thanks we sometimes get abuse back or if not abuse we do get a lot of but why ? questions etc.. so it sad to say most of the time we dont' reply anymore  | |||
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"I rarely check mine.... I either forget or just have other things to do... like talk to the people who have read my profile and sent a message. Ahh but you may be one of the exceptions to the rule and politely reply! you sound like a nice guy but we have found many here to be that nice when you do reply to a message with just a simple thanks but no thanks we sometimes get abuse back or if not abuse we do get a lot of but why ? questions etc.. so it sad to say most of the time we dont' reply anymore "That sounds like the problem. It's the numptys that give abuse when rejected that paint everyone with the same brush. Just done a little experiment Sent 3 detailed polite messages. Sent 3 winks Result inconclusive as I've had 0 replys. Lol. | |||
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"i like to wink at people i mite be interested in. I use it as a way to breack the ice. but lets say i dont get many back. how ever from a ladies or couples side i bet they get a lot a day so they probs just delete them in bulk " Interesting profile.. Heres a tip, face pics are good (well done).. but girls and their guys want to see body/torso pics too.. you might start getting more winks of your own..  | |||
"we delete them.if someone is too lazt to write a message they are not for us." Ironic that the people who feel this way don't seem to mind lazy assumptions. | |||
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"I wink show interest if they reply great " that works for us too  | |||
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"I ignore all winks, always have from Day 1. "Me too. Just do a bulk delete when I remember | |||
"I wink show interest if they reply great that works for us too "and thats what i do its not lazy its just testing the water   | |||
"I ignore all winks, always have from Day 1. "Same here. | |||
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"I believe a wink is the intial start. someone has taken the effort to look at your profile and winked, because they are interested in you. wink back and then start to chat. I like to wink "It's a nice way to get to chat to people from all over, otherwise you remain very local in your outlook x | |||
"we delete them.if someone is too lazt to write a message they are not for us. Ironic that the people who feel this way don't seem to mind lazy assumptions." all a wink shows me is that they managed to hit a button... nothing more... but heck... maximum results minimal effort... yey!!!! it doesn't show me that they have read my profile... or are what I may be after... that is why a lot of people may not answer it... you are calling out others assumptions on the matter, when the assumptions can go both ways...... | |||
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"Just curious....what's the point of deleting winks? Lol" So the page is all clear so you can which ones are new. General housekeeping of the profile really, we prefer the minimal outlook, rather than a cluttered outlook. Be that winks, messages, friend requests etc. | |||
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"i all so wink , just to show that have read the profile , and like what i see, and then its up to the person to get back to me , think a wink is better , so people can have alook at your prolife , and make thier own mind up what they do next" I see what you saying although we don't quite agree with the point about showing that you read the profile. We always check every person who winks to see if they _iewed our profile. Whilst some people do actually hide their _iews on others, generally we found most people who wink have not even looked at the profile and that's why never read the fact that we don't want winks. When we confront a few as we have, we get sorry or even a straight "yes, didn't actually read your profile" and of course that is disrespectful, would you not agree? | |||
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"If I see 'No winks' on a profile I always wink out of pure devilment. "I do that too - it's even worked on a couple of occasions  | |||
" I see what you saying although we don't quite agree with the point about showing that you read the profile. We always check every person who winks to see if they _iewed our profile. Whilst some people do actually hide their _iews on others, generally we found most people who wink have not even looked at the profile and that's why never read the fact that we don't want winks. When we confront a few as we have, we get sorry or even a straight "yes, didn't actually read your profile" and of course that is disrespectful, would you not agree?" I'm pretty sure it's impossible to wink at someone without looking at the profile - unless someone can correct me on that | |||
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"If I see 'No winks' on a profile I always wink out of pure devilment. "hahahaha then you must be quite popular amongst many block list or delete past. | |||
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" Be fun looking at who wanked at you!" my aim is terrible tho | |||
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"think admin should change the name from wink to wank. Be fun looking at who wanked at you!" | |||
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" I see what you saying although we don't quite agree with the point about showing that you read the profile. We always check every person who winks to see if they _iewed our profile. Whilst some people do actually hide their _iews on others, generally we found most people who wink have not even looked at the profile and that's why never read the fact that we don't want winks. When we confront a few as we have, we get sorry or even a straight "yes, didn't actually read your profile" and of course that is disrespectful, would you not agree? I'm pretty sure it's impossible to wink at someone without looking at the profile - unless someone can correct me on that "Sorry perhaps we should made that more clear. Yes, you do open the profile in order to send a wink, no doubt. What remains questionable is whether the profile was indeed read though. If they didn't is disrespectful to the effort made to write a profile. if they read it and still decide to exercise careless arrogance, sorry but a block is well deserved. | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics" So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. | |||
"think admin should change the name from wink to wank. Be fun looking at who wanked at you!" Good point there!! LOL | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews." and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol | |||
" Sorry perhaps we should made that more clear. Yes, you do open the profile in order to send a wink, no doubt. What remains questionable is whether the profile was indeed read though. If they didn't is disrespectful to the effort made to write a profile. if they read it and still decide to exercise careless arrogance, sorry but a block is well deserved." I think careless arrogance is a bit harsh - in my case it's cheeky and playful bedevillment and nothing more - but then I guess from the recipients POV it's difficult to know what was in the mind of the sender when they did it. If that earns me the occasional block then c'est la vie! the positives far outweigh the negatives | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol" yes wanking is probably more you street. Kind of figure that one out. At least you harmless that way and and act of charity can be done for anyone LOL It would be as near to us you'd ever get hahahahah Happy wanking | |||
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" Sorry perhaps we should made that more clear. Yes, you do open the profile in order to send a wink, no doubt. What remains questionable is whether the profile was indeed read though. If they didn't is disrespectful to the effort made to write a profile. if they read it and still decide to exercise careless arrogance, sorry but a block is well deserved. I think careless arrogance is a bit harsh - in my case it's cheeky and playful bedevillment and nothing more - but then I guess from the recipients POV it's difficult to know what was in the mind of the sender when they did it. If that earns me the occasional block then c'est la vie! the positives far outweigh the negatives "Who knows maybe harsh maybe not, depends on experiences and perception. At least its clear you have the power of thought to see the situation from the recipient as well as yours. We not trying to convert anyone, simply pointing that to every opinion there's always a rationale. We have said earlier that we can see both sides of the arguments but end of the day, we taken our choice on this matter same as other accept winks and embrace their use. We do truly like to think some people like winks and meet you. You seen like a decent guy and frankly there's always one or a few for everyone out there. LOL Happy swinging x | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol yes wanking is probably more you street. Kind of figure that one out. At least you harmless that way and and act of charity can be done for anyone LOL It would be as near to us you'd ever get hahahahah Happy wanking" I can easily twist that to mean that ur happy with me wanking over ya...and non cyberly too! w0w I hit a winner here, xxxx | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol yes wanking is probably more you street. Kind of figure that one out. At least you harmless that way and and act of charity can be done for anyone LOL It would be as near to us you'd ever get hahahahah Happy wanking I can easily twist that to mean that ur happy with me wanking over ya...and non cyberly too! w0w I hit a winner here, xxxx" heheheheh you keep telling yourself that. End of the day, you harmless and insignificant and we don't have to see the petty image of you comforting yourself wanking on our pictures. If you had a pair of balls to approach us and made some effort, instead of wanking you might being having real sex but of course LOL each to their own ay? LOL Once again, happy wanking | |||
"We like winks, hate friends requests if we have not even spoken on mail... Winks give you the option to reply or not..." Yes, we do agree about friend request without a message. I guess, since the thread was about winks there was pointless to raise that as well but good point. TBH even winks with a message hold no issue but on their own, say little about that person and whilst some people say that gives them the opportunity of deciding whether that person i for them or not, is little to decide when the profile has one line and no pictures. Is like looking at a blank canvass LOL xx | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol yes wanking is probably more you street. Kind of figure that one out. At least you harmless that way and and act of charity can be done for anyone LOL It would be as near to us you'd ever get hahahahah Happy wanking I can easily twist that to mean that ur happy with me wanking over ya...and non cyberly too! w0w I hit a winner here, xxxx heheheheh you keep telling yourself that. End of the day, you harmless and insignificant and we don't have to see the petty image of you comforting yourself wanking on our pictures. If you had a pair of balls to approach us and made some effort, instead of wanking you might being having real sex but of course LOL each to their own ay? LOL Once again, happy wanking" any more insignificant than u's are to me??? lol- I certainly never mentioned i was wanking over ur pics, I was admiring!...OH....perhaps actually seeing my profile will help u in ur wonderment if I look for or get real sex...ur judgement was a great leap of imagination, but thanks for ur wonderful forum engagements, feel free to msg me anytime hehe x | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics So much passion. We made clear earlier that some people do like winks and some don't but the point probably is more to do with respecting people's wishes. Amazing as this may sound to you, some people don't like winks and amazing as it may also be to you, some people are entitled to their opinion. Their profile, their rules. If you not prepared to respect their rules then don't bother them. You have your _iews about winking and as we said earlier agree to disagree but hey, perhaps its you the one in need to get off his high horse. Forums will bring a variety of people with a variety of _iews. and thats why I only fabd ur pics lol yes wanking is probably more you street. Kind of figure that one out. At least you harmless that way and and act of charity can be done for anyone LOL It would be as near to us you'd ever get hahahahah Happy wanking I can easily twist that to mean that ur happy with me wanking over ya...and non cyberly too! w0w I hit a winner here, xxxx heheheheh you keep telling yourself that. End of the day, you harmless and insignificant and we don't have to see the petty image of you comforting yourself wanking on our pictures. If you had a pair of balls to approach us and made some effort, instead of wanking you might being having real sex but of course LOL each to their own ay? LOL Once again, happy wanking any more insignificant than u's are to me??? lol- I certainly never mentioned i was wanking over ur pics, I was admiring!...OH....perhaps actually seeing my profile will help u in ur wonderment if I look for or get real sex...ur judgement was a great leap of imagination, but thanks for ur wonderful forum engagements, feel free to msg me anytime hehe x" Actually we only went to check your age as for a moment we thought to be debating with a kid. You never said you were wanking indeed but hey don't deny the thought wasn't there. Why say it otherwise? Amazingly to your super ego, you're too far, you're not my type and certainly have stand no competition to my fellow or other men that we already know. So what would you do to make me change my mind? Guess you could.....sell yourself but that would involve having to write something or you can wink. Let's see what gets you further hahahahah Of course, when you actually stop trying to play big man here, its ok, go and perv pur pictures and have a good wank, its OK, we won't tell anyone LMAO Now, I would love to continue but I'm getting bored of you and let's face it, we came to the forum to discuss something that its already discussed so now need to come back to the real world. If you want, we can send you a map to find your way? Ciao Ciao | |||
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They show that something has caught your attention, if the person see, looks at your profile and reciprocates then your both happy and it's like a gentle introduction.
I don't expect a reply but it's nice to get one.
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"Ive met some lovely guys from an initial wink I don't see why people get so stressy about them,you don't even have to look at them if you don't like them Id much rather get a wink from a decent profile than a message from a rubbish one" I see your point and yes given the chance, there is probably lots of lovely people out there. However, a wink has little insight about the person. Some people have pictures, lots of information etc yet not everyone. I dont think anyone gets stressed about winks but about the lack of respect about people's wishes. If you like winks great and great for everyone else but I'm not alone finding winks lazy and misused. A wink with a message along is indeed complimentary and friendly but alone.......especially when your wishes in your profile says not to do it. Xx | |||
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"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics" This did make me laugh, a wink is a wink its a hello i like you, have a look at my profile and see if you like me its universal across all dating sites.
What annoys the f@ck out of me is you take your time to create a polite genuine email and they get deleted without even being read, i much prefer a wink to be blanked than an email ive taken time to write. | |||
"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics This did make me laugh, a wink is a wink its a hello i like you, have a look at my profile and see if you like me its universal across all dating sites.
What annoys the f@ck out of me is you take your time to create a polite genuine email and they get deleted without even being read, i much prefer a wink to be blanked than an email ive taken time to write."UR SOOOO wrong, someone who winks is most definitely lazy,probably never has worked,pretty undereducated and even worse, really shite in the sack.Might have lice too. | |||
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"so blown out of proportion the anti-wink mob, do my fuckin head in...ooo think Ive repeated myself, such a serious outlook on something trivial and friendly..and initial...I wik at who I'am interested in, I wink at lots, mix winks with messages..but IF i wink at u,its a gesture to give the winkd a little look at ur profile..AMAZING! some wink back...AMAZING some start some commuication..AMAZING some end up being meets. get off the fuckin high horses is all I say...next up for debate: lets block people who fab ur pics This did make me laugh, a wink is a wink its a hello i like you, have a look at my profile and see if you like me its universal across all dating sites.
What annoys the f@ck out of me is you take your time to create a polite genuine email and they get deleted without even being read, i much prefer a wink to be blanked than an email ive taken time to write.
UR SOOOO wrong, someone who winks is most definitely lazy,probably never has worked,pretty undereducated and even worse, really shite in the sack.Might have lice too."on the other hand they might be a 36D 28 38 curvy shedevil or a rock hard shaft with a devilish way about him. | |||
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"Just wondered what the general concensess is regarding winks? Alot of profiles do say no winks but surely this is just an initial nod from an interested party!! You would not believe the amount of no replys I get after taking the time and effort to send detailed mail. I know to some winking may seem lazy but isn't it more like eyes meeting across a busy bar? " It doesn't really matter what you think about winks. If you wink a profile that says they don't respond to winks then why be surprised or even question it? | |||
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"from the replies it looks like the winkers are mostly men!! personaly i'd love to see some more code word's in profiles that way a simple "wibble"+ would you like to chat in a quick message would get attention!! if it's hidden in the prifile then it had to be read to find it but a reply is just as quick as a simple wink" It is truly refreshing to see a male who instead of getting on its high horse or shit stir against those who don't like winks, value the power of being social and writing. Your point was absolutely spot on. | |||
"its there so why not use it
but dont abuse it "Again, another good point, use it if its there, however, choose the right people to use it and as you said, don't abuse it. LOL | |||
