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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sure that there have been dozens of threads about verifications so apologies for adding another, especially such a lengthy post!
Where do you folk draw the line on what quantity of verifications you display or hide?
It's obviously important to be verified to prove you're genuine (especially as a single male) but does anyone find that too many 'meet' verifications is just a little off-putting?
Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
Also, has anyone received mails from other members slagging off the people that have verified you or are listed as friends?
I have hidden both my friends list and (short but high quality) verification list for the above reason.
Thoughts and comments appreciated.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i couldnt give a toss how many verifications i have, people dont see that i have a selection of verifications from different events.and if im classed as a player,bedknotcher..well...fuck them (cos thats what i aim to do anyway...thats why im essentially here!)
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Seems some people take it on themselves to criticise veries and friends, one of the possibilities is that they have been turned down by that person and they feel the need to bitch. wouldn't concern yourself unduly . Nobody's business is it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sure that there have been dozens of threads about verifications so apologies for adding another, especially such a lengthy post!
Where do you folk draw the line on what quantity of verifications you display or hide?
It's obviously important to be verified to prove you're genuine (especially as a single male) but does anyone find that too many 'meet' verifications is just a little off-putting?
Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
Also, has anyone received mails from other members slagging off the people that have verified you or are listed as friends?
I have hidden both my friends list and (short but high quality) verification list for the above reason.
Thoughts and comments appreciated...."
I think if you criticise people for having too many verifications then maybe you are missing the point of swinging? And while I can kinda see where you are coming from, it is still all down to personal preferences.
We hide our verifications and friends list, so it's hypothetical butif someone messaged me to slate a friend or verifiication I think I'd just message back that they were sad.
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Its a swinging site,personally i think anyone who is bothered by the nmber of veris someone has needs to consider how positive their attitude to sex really are.
i dont bother with veris,unless we are meeting a bi guy,it helps if he has some as too many men claim they are bi to fuck me,
Do what you feel most comfortable with,everyone has their own way of running their profile...i cant even remember if my veris are showng or not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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so many verifications about men contain "great cock, he knows how to use it" what on earth is that all about? i suspect some unfortunate women may have had one stuck in her ear? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"so many verifications about men contain "great cock, he knows how to use it" what on earth is that all about? i suspect some unfortunate women may have had one stuck in her ear? "
Haha - does that qualify as aural sex?? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i couldnt give a toss how many verifications i have, people dont see that i have a selection of verifications from different events.and if im classed as a player,bedknotcher..well...fuck them (cos thats what i aim to do anyway...thats why im essentially here!)
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Ditto. I have a fair few and don't even show half of them. If people think I'm easy or a bit of a slapper then tough on them. And if people hide their veris then how am I supposed to know that their veris are decent? You could have had a crap one and chosen not to show it.  Or they could all be phone veris and you haven't actually met anyone.
No-one has ever contacted me to slag off the nice men who have met and verified me, and if they did I'd block them as they are obviously just mean people.
But how you have your profile set up is totally up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have a few on my profile..i dont care if people think bad of me for it, i am on a swinging site.
I think it shows that i am genuine & meet a wide range of different guys, if someone doesnt like it, they can jog on.. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i have a few on my profile..i dont care if people think bad of me for it, i am on a swinging site.
I think it shows that i am genuine & meet a wide range of different guys, if someone doesnt like it, they can jog on.."
Hehe exactly. If my veris put people off then I'm obviously not their type. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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We choose to show ours as we don't really care what others think.
If some people choose to judge us on who we have met, oh well!
If some people choose to judge us on what others have said, oh well!
If some people choose to judge us on many meets we have had, oh well!
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Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
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No.
I think it's more likelyto mean they are lucky fuckers having the time of their life and enjoying themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the only verifications i tend not to show are ones with my name on
i dont know why but i really dont like total strangers mailing me using my real name because they have read it on my verifications, just feels odd
i have quite a few verifications that start with
met ********** last night
and i just keep them hidden
other that that i dont care
and what other people have is upto them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the only verifications i tend not to show are ones with my name on
i dont know why but i really dont like total strangers mailing me using my real name because they have read it on my verifications, just feels odd
i have quite a few verifications that start with
met ********** last night
and i just keep them hidden
other that that i dont care
and what other people have is upto them"
Aye Peggy it's a bugger ain't it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the only verifications i tend not to show are ones with my name on
i dont know why but i really dont like total strangers mailing me using my real name because they have read it on my verifications, just feels odd
i have quite a few verifications that start with
met ********** last night
and i just keep them hidden
other that that i dont care
and what other people have is upto them
Aye Peggy it's a bugger ain't it xx"
bigger off lol |
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its a swingers site and i show my veris because its my choice and i like them, if people dont like it and i have had some nasty remarks from women who think i;m a slag..then tough...we are all on here for the same thing, different reasons but for the same and i am having a great time...i enjoy reading other peoples veris too and looking at their pics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its a swingers site and i show my veris because its my choice and i like them, if people dont like it and i have had some nasty remarks from women who think i;m a slag..then tough...we are all on here for the same thing, different reasons but for the same and i am having a great time...i enjoy reading other peoples veris too and looking at their pics..."
couldnt agree more
tho i have quite a few verifications not on show they are all hiden for my own personal reasons and because they are ones i dont want on show for whatever reason, i would never hide my verifications in order to attract the judgemental people
these are not the type of people i wish to meet so why bow down to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My veris are not detailed and say I am a charming guy. Yes this is sex site but I would rather read someone or people are charming and witty than had a tight wet pussy...
Preference I suppose"
to be honest so would i, and there are a few of mine that i have hidden because they are far to detailed, but what can you do? you cant tell people what to write about you so you either have OTT verifications or keep them hidden
i suppose thats ok if you have a few veries but people who only have one or two i suppose would rather have them on show |
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people are judged regardless of what they do..so i do whats best for me...i dont meet everyone who gets in touch but the ones i have a nice gut feeling for i do and am chuffed to show the veri if they do me one...must be an ego thing i reckon but each to their own.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sure that there have been dozens of threads about verifications so apologies for adding another, especially such a lengthy post!
Where do you folk draw the line on what quantity of verifications you display or hide?
It's obviously important to be verified to prove you're genuine (especially as a single male) but does anyone find that too many 'meet' verifications is just a little off-putting?
Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
Also, has anyone received mails from other members slagging off the people that have verified you or are listed as friends?
I have hidden both my friends list and (short but high quality) verification list for the above reason.
Thoughts and comments appreciated...."
70 is the acceptable limit! You have me thinking though if you hide a verification does it mean the fuck never happened? And come to think about it what about ones from socials? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sure that there have been dozens of threads about verifications so apologies for adding another, especially such a lengthy post!
Where do you folk draw the line on what quantity of verifications you display or hide?
It's obviously important to be verified to prove you're genuine (especially as a single male) but does anyone find that too many 'meet' verifications is just a little off-putting?
Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
Also, has anyone received mails from other members slagging off the people that have verified you or are listed as friends?
I have hidden both my friends list and (short but high quality) verification list for the above reason.
Thoughts and comments appreciated....
70 is the acceptable limit! You have me thinking though if you hide a verification does it mean the fuck never happened? And come to think about it what about ones from socials?"
if I fucked everyone on my veri list i would be classed a lying bi-straight-gay-slut.
I recieved a veri today from a man from last week...I didnt fucking fuck him I didnt fucking suck him- thats when ppl have to use their noodle and read..its not difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't display my verifications as I prefer to be private about my meets. Also, what works with one person, doesn't necessarily work with another and that's hard to explain sometimes.
I read the verifications others show as they are there but I do cringe at the really explicit, detailed ones. I just tend to prefer a simple confirmation of they are who they say they are and not secret axe murderers - not all the ins and outs (pan intended) of their meet....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't display my verifications as I prefer to be private about my meets. Also, what works with one person, doesn't necessarily work with another and that's hard to explain sometimes."
i do understand that some people do not want others to know who they have met so hide their verifications and i respect everyones choice but if someone verifies you and you verify them back and they choose to show their verifications people can still see who you have met via other peoples profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't display my verifications as I prefer to be private about my meets. Also, what works with one person, doesn't necessarily work with another and that's hard to explain sometimes.
i do understand that some people do not want others to know who they have met so hide their verifications and i respect everyones choice but if someone verifies you and you verify them back and they choose to show their verifications people can still see who you have met via other peoples profiles "
I am sorry, obviously I phrased that less than clearly. I don't mind people seeing who I have met as in most cases, I am very happy about my choices. What I prefer to keep private is the details about the meets and as I wouldn't prescribe to anyone what verification to write, some are rather explicit - not the type I'd like to read myself on others, although still nice to see myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't display my verifications as I prefer to be private about my meets. Also, what works with one person, doesn't necessarily work with another and that's hard to explain sometimes.
i do understand that some people do not want others to know who they have met so hide their verifications and i respect everyones choice but if someone verifies you and you verify them back and they choose to show their verifications people can still see who you have met via other peoples profiles
I am sorry, obviously I phrased that less than clearly. I don't mind people seeing who I have met as in most cases, I am very happy about my choices. What I prefer to keep private is the details about the meets and as I wouldn't prescribe to anyone what verification to write, some are rather explicit - not the type I'd like to read myself on others, although still nice to see myself "
yeah i fully get that
i have quite a few verifications i would never show because i just think they go into far to much detail |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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each to their own in what veri's they choose to display or not.. and how many they have....we have quite a few.. some socially meets some fun.. but thats over a period of 5 years.. at the end of the day its up to the person who and what they show  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wow, this is a subject that really gets my goat! I have lots of verifications and I'm proud to diplay all of them. Quite a few friends of mine have been told that they couldn't secure a meet with certain ladies as they had been with me and as I have so many I must be a "right slag" (their words not mine lol).
None of these ladies know that my friends have told me what they have said so I have been to parties where these "oh so pure" women have then met me and decided they are my best friend lol. I never let on that I know that they've been slagging me off, I just satisfy myself with the fact that they actually do like me in real life (I rarely tell them my FAB name).
Im very secure in myself and have a reputation of not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about me (like it or hate it - I really dont care!). People who judge others on how many verifications they have got.... good luck to you, the majority of my friends hide most of theirs because of the judgmental members! Who would you rather meet, somebody who shows some of their veris and hides 20 or someone who shows the full 20? Personally I'd go for the honest person all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yeah i fully get that
i have quite a few verifications i would never show because i just think they go into far to much detail"
See you put it much more succintly than me! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i was told i was too into the scene based on my amount of verifications...its a fuckin hard life this swinging hahahahaha"
WTF? I sometimes wonder if people think this is a knitting site or something. I've been like a kid in a sweetshop since I joined. Men who want NSA sex? Sign me up!!
Keep shagging there hun. I'll be with you in spirit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was told i was too into the scene based on my amount of verifications...its a fuckin hard life this swinging hahahahaha
WTF? I sometimes wonder if people think this is a knitting site or something. I've been like a kid in a sweetshop since I joined. Men who want NSA sex? Sign me up!!
Keep shagging there hun. I'll be with you in spirit."
 what you mean it's not a knitting site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow, this is a subject that really gets my goat! I have lots of verifications and I'm proud to diplay all of them. Quite a few friends of mine have been told that they couldn't secure a meet with certain ladies as they had been with me and as I have so many I must be a "right slag" (their words not mine lol).
None of these ladies know that my friends have told me what they have said so I have been to parties where these "oh so pure" women have then met me and decided they are my best friend lol. I never let on that I know that they've been slagging me off, I just satisfy myself with the fact that they actually do like me in real life (I rarely tell them my FAB name).
Im very secure in myself and have a reputation of not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about me (like it or hate it - I really dont care!). People who judge others on how many verifications they have got.... good luck to you, the majority of my friends hide most of theirs because of the judgmental members! Who would you rather meet, somebody who shows some of their veris and hides 20 or someone who shows the full 20? Personally I'd go for the honest person all the time. "
Just goes to show how differently we all _iew things. Anyone telling me they couldn't get a meet because of me, something I certainly don't need to know, I most certainly would NOT class as a friend!
I personally don't take notice of verifications, preferring to make my own mind up. Funny thing though I read verifications after I've met someone. In two years only ONE person lived up to what others had said about them and none graphic.
I think people are naive if they assume this site is the only place to hook up for nsa sex. Someone might not give a fig about verifications and only have two on show but on another site/real life etc have friction burns on their bits from all the sexual activity they've indulged in, whilst the person with 100 two could be sexual and the remainder from socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was told i was too into the scene based on my amount of verifications...its a fuckin hard life this swinging hahahahaha
WTF? I sometimes wonder if people think this is a knitting site or something. I've been like a kid in a sweetshop since I joined. Men who want NSA sex? Sign me up!!
Keep shagging there hun. I'll be with you in spirit."
Pass me another one please, I am enjoying this and I am see no reason why I shouldn't - I love my veries |
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By *i_sSwingWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think verifictaions are that useful as one persons good experience is dependent on their personality, fantasies etc.
But like you I tend to be very stringent with people I verify as a single woman especially because other single woman may take on board my experience to create there own.
A few meets and I have refused to verify but I am always upfront as to why.
There is nothing worst than a pest that contacts you through a verifictaion you've made that thinks they have a right to have a go too. I've had people email my friends to try and get messages passed on so hidde3n friends lists and very select friends. Trusting the people you meet in this game is very important especially for a single woman.
Sorry it's so long
"I'm sure that there have been dozens of threads about verifications so apologies for adding another, especially such a lengthy post!
Where do you folk draw the line on what quantity of verifications you display or hide?
It's obviously important to be verified to prove you're genuine (especially as a single male) but does anyone find that too many 'meet' verifications is just a little off-putting?
Does a shed-load of verifications suggest to you that the person/people are not particulary fussy about who they meet and that there may be a quantity over quality policy going on?
Also, has anyone received mails from other members slagging off the people that have verified you or are listed as friends?
I have hidden both my friends list and (short but high quality) verification list for the above reason.
Thoughts and comments appreciated...."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was told i was too into the scene based on my amount of verifications...its a fuckin hard life this swinging hahahahaha
WTF? I sometimes wonder if people think this is a knitting site or something. I've been like a kid in a sweetshop since I joined. Men who want NSA sex? Sign me up!!
Keep shagging there hun. I'll be with you in spirit."
Can understand the sentiment.
We've come across profiles that suggest they want to meet others that are not living in the lifestyle week on week, but those that dabble in it every now and then and maybe only meet a few times a year.
NSA aside... Each to their own. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Once upon a time in a land far away, there was a swingers website... and on that website people didn't overly concern themselves what others had on their profiles, what others did, what pics others had... they just focused on their own.
and if they didn't like something they saw, they just moved on...
and they all lived happily ever after. |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"Once upon a time in a land far away, there was a swingers website... and on that website people didn't overly concern themselves what others had on their profiles, what others did, what pics others had... they just focused on their own.
and if they didn't like something they saw, they just moved on...
and they all lived happily ever after."
yep - sounds like a bloody fairy tale to me |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I'm new to the site and have only a couple of veris (sob, sob!). I intend to be on this site till my bits drop off so will have loads of veris (I hope!)N If you don't like it, not a problem , wanna find out what fun I am, then shout out - happy swinging xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was told i was too into the scene based on my amount of verifications...its a fuckin hard life this swinging hahahahaha
WTF? I sometimes wonder if people think this is a knitting site or something. I've been like a kid in a sweetshop since I joined. Men who want NSA sex? Sign me up!!
Keep shagging there hun. I'll be with you in spirit.
Can understand the sentiment.
We've come across profiles that suggest they want to meet others that are not living in the lifestyle week on week, but those that dabble in it every now and then and maybe only meet a few times a year.
NSA aside... Each to their own."
I'd asked the blockers to actually read the verifications not just to count,a good few veries came from social nites...im not fuckin superman i never shagged 10 people in a nite....or in a pub lol- again, I read their interests an felt they matchd mine, so sentiments aside they gave me an arsey response, so I gave one back lol |
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