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Verifications...... have you noticed
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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that verifications are not a true reflection of the person or is it we all have different tastes?
How many have met the person and think really?
We are not bothered about them now and only write one if someone takes the trouble to do one for us. The least we can do  |
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I think we all have different tastes, I also think some people are polite. I call it as I see it. If I thought someone was a cunt, I'd either not verify them coz I don't want to be associated with them, or I would, but it would say...
"I met xxx and can confirm they look like their pics dated (insert date - don't want them changing photos and then me getting blamed if they use fake photos)
I personally thought they were a selfish prick, but they are indeed real" |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I think verifications are a reflection of someone - but as a reflection they're through someone else's eyes and their own taste and often through an additional haze of (hopefully) post-orgasmic endorphin rush. As such, their general effusiveness is entirely understandable and if I bother to read them I read them with that in mind. And that includes my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"that verifications are not a true reflection of the person or is it we all have different tastes?
How many have met the person and think really?
We are not bothered about them now and only write one if someone takes the trouble to do one for us. The least we can do "
I guess some click with others better. I’ve had two different meets with well verified guys, they didn’t satisfy me the way verifications claimed they could. One there was no spark so I had to decline meeting again, the other I met a further two times but still found myself bored. Oh and there was a third our chemistry was great and built up to the meet made it exciting, unfortunately the sex wasn’t good for me. Maybe I’m just a shit shag  
Anyway I just view verifications as the person is reliable and meets, i don’t take what they say very seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m pretty good at reading between the lines with verifications in order to get a better idea of someone. One specific occasion we were finally swayed to meet a guy because 2 of his verifications said he was better looking in real life. He was quite handsome from his pics as it was. But he was indeed even better in the flesh.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I leave crap verifications because I can never think of what to say. All the people I've met have been lovely, but clearly some people will think otherwise but that's not fair. It's me that's shit at writing veris, not them that's shit. |
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Maybe because the people haven’t actually met. Had s request yesterday from a guy verified already, asking for a new veri - his were a year old, in return for verifying us back. Does make you wonder. And just a few hours later noted he’d got verified and given a veri back, both very detailed. |
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"No I think people have different tastes. It's crazy to use veris as 'proof' of anything."
Always amazes me that some choose who to interact with based on a few words left by strangers instead of using their own judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But how long do you have to reply?
I had a very nice verification from a couple I'd met at a club.
I didn't want to rush a reply so didn't respond immediately. Two days later I wrote one back and pressed 'Send', only to find they'd blocked me in the 20 minutes or so I took to write it. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"But how long do you have to reply?
I had a very nice verification from a couple I'd met at a club.
I didn't want to rush a reply so didn't respond immediately. Two days later I wrote one back and pressed 'Send', only to find they'd blocked me in the 20 minutes or so I took to write it."
You obviously left it 20 minutes too long to reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veri's are very subjective.
I don't pay them much attention to be honest.
I'll always have a look if I'm interested in meeting, more to see who they've met rather than how they performed.
And just because they are verified doesn't always mean that they will meet and not mess you about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I think people have different tastes. It's crazy to use veris as 'proof' of anything.
Always amazes me that some choose who to interact with based on a few words left by strangers instead of using their own judgement. "
For us it’s extra information in addition to our own judgement. Our own judgement isn’t good enough to make a decision on whether to meet someone, we need a bit of help. For example we’re not able to make a judgement, based on profile information and a bit of chat, as to whether that man is experienced with couples. But a number of verifications claiming play with a couples, will be proof of what we want to know. Also, I’m aware that I have a similar taste in men to a lot of other women, so if others wanted to meet him, then there is a chance that I might want to too. Obviously once we’ve met face to face then we will rely totally on our own judgement.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have found the verification system open to abuse and doesn't provide proof that a profile is genuine or what their character might be. Surley shouldn't be used to review any individuals sexual prowess 
What we like verifications to convey simply they we're who they say they were. The rest is up to us to decide. It may be a bad habit, but we do look to see what type of people they are attracted to and what kind of things they did on their meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The veri system is open to abuse. There is a woman on Snapchat for instance who obviously uses Fabs to ‘recruit’ customers.
She had her fabs account blocked so asked people on SC that were on fabs to verify her new account to say they had met...
It’s all wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen few profiles with exact verifications from the same person... like copy and paste... and most annoying sentence... "don't pass this one ladies"
Other day I looked at a profile... a guy joined 12 hours ago and had 2 met in person veries all within 12 hours... it's a bullshit... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen few profiles with exact verifications from the same person... like copy and paste... and most annoying sentence... "don't pass this one ladies"
Other day I looked at a profile... a guy joined 12 hours ago and had 2 met in person veries all within 12 hours... it's a bullshit..."
Sometimes though, ‘new joiners’ could have veris from people that have met when they’ve been on here before. Or perhaps at clubs before joining.
Perhaps a ‘date of meet’ should be added. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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"I've seen few profiles with exact verifications from the same person... like copy and paste... and most annoying sentence... "don't pass this one ladies"
Other day I looked at a profile... a guy joined 12 hours ago and had 2 met in person veries all within 12 hours... it's a bullshit...
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Quite a few ladies leave and then rejoin with a new profile. Their previous playmates then send verifications in order to re-establish themselves for her or their benefit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me veris aren't just about proving someone is genuine as I have plenty of them (though they do show you are still currently meeting at least)
No, it might sound selfish but I like exchanging them so I can look through them at a later date and get a lovely reminder of a delicious encounter! Probably why mine tend to be rather detailed?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen few profiles with exact verifications from the same person... like copy and paste... and most annoying sentence... "don't pass this one ladies"
Other day I looked at a profile... a guy joined 12 hours ago and had 2 met in person veries all within 12 hours... it's a bullshit...
Quite a few ladies leave and then rejoin with a new profile. Their previous playmates then send verifications in order to re-establish themselves for her or their benefit. "
Yes, I agree but it says on their profile that they have been here before... in my case guy didn't have any pictures plus was one liners... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to check them to see if they are potential axe murderers or not.
A few decent normal veris is reassuring.
Obviously not a guarantee but it helps. |
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For us they just help us in our overall decision about meeting someone. Once you learn to read between the bullshit of profiles, photos and verifications as well as the content of messages you have the best possible idea as to whether someone is who you would like to meet or not. We always have no expectations socials anyway so all parties can make their minds up for anything more. Better to have them than not but, by no means what we rely on to decide about anyone as they are of course subjective. |
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They are better than nothing and are very helpful to us as party hosts as it highlights to others what our events are like from a customers perspective. Feedback good or bad helps us to provide a better night for all  |
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"No I think people have different tastes. It's crazy to use veris as 'proof' of anything.
Always amazes me that some choose who to interact with based on a few words left by strangers instead of using their own judgement.
For us it’s extra information in addition to our own judgement. Our own judgement isn’t good enough to make a decision on whether to meet someone, we need a bit of help. For example we’re not able to make a judgement, based on profile information and a bit of chat, as to whether that man is experienced with couples. But a number of verifications claiming play with a couples, will be proof of what we want to know. Also, I’m aware that I have a similar taste in men to a lot of other women, so if others wanted to meet him, then there is a chance that I might want to too. Obviously once we’ve met face to face then we will rely totally on our own judgement.
Mrs "
We are all different.
I'm meeting someone to invite into my home alone. I have to make that call so for me one hundred verifications saying he's great doesn't sway me.
I've met people for socials who have been verified who have acted like cunts.
We all do what's best for us. If I'm buying a laptop I'll take the opinions of others into account. When it comes to who I have sex with in my home, 100% me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I think people have different tastes. It's crazy to use veris as 'proof' of anything.
Always amazes me that some choose who to interact with based on a few words left by strangers instead of using their own judgement.
For us it’s extra information in addition to our own judgement. Our own judgement isn’t good enough to make a decision on whether to meet someone, we need a bit of help. For example we’re not able to make a judgement, based on profile information and a bit of chat, as to whether that man is experienced with couples. But a number of verifications claiming play with a couples, will be proof of what we want to know. Also, I’m aware that I have a similar taste in men to a lot of other women, so if others wanted to meet him, then there is a chance that I might want to too. Obviously once we’ve met face to face then we will rely totally on our own judgement.
Mrs
We are all different.
I'm meeting someone to invite into my home alone. I have to make that call so for me one hundred verifications saying he's great doesn't sway me.
I've met people for socials who have been verified who have acted like cunts.
We all do what's best for us. If I'm buying a laptop I'll take the opinions of others into account. When it comes to who I have sex with in my home, 100% me. "
Of course we’re all different. I just wanted to explain out rationale, to those who think we can’t make my own decisions, to why using our own judgement on who we meet is not always sufficient for our needs. I must stress though that we certainly do not rely on others when deciding who we have sex with or invite into our home. I’m with you on that one.
Mrs
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"For me veris aren't just about proving someone is genuine as I have plenty of them (though they do show you are still currently meeting at least)
No, it might sound selfish but I like exchanging them so I can look through them at a later date and get a lovely reminder of a delicious encounter! Probably why mine tend to be rather detailed?
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Good for you , and an excellent reason to have them |
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"Yes, I have one that says I’m a shit shag. 
And a cunt. "
Oh yeah, I’d forgotten that one! 
They are, of course, joke verifications otherwise I wouldn’t show them. I’m confident enough to have a laugh at myself and show them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think we all have different tastes, I also think some people are polite. I call it as I see it. If I thought someone was a cunt, I'd either not verify them coz I don't want to be associated with them, or I would, but it would say...
"I met xxx and can confirm they look like their pics dated (insert date - don't want them changing photos and then me getting blamed if they use fake photos)
I personally thought they were a selfish prick, but they are indeed real""
My thoughts as well but we don't veri anyone whose a disaster
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think verifications are a reflection of someone - but as a reflection they're through someone else's eyes and their own taste and often through an additional haze of (hopefully) post-orgasmic endorphin rush. As such, their general effusiveness is entirely understandable and if I bother to read them I read them with that in mind. And that includes my own."
Great approach x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But how long do you have to reply?
I had a very nice verification from a couple I'd met at a club.
I didn't want to rush a reply so didn't respond immediately. Two days later I wrote one back and pressed 'Send', only to find they'd blocked me in the 20 minutes or so I took to write it.
You obviously left it 20 minutes too long to reply "
Blocked so you can't display the veri. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No I think people have different tastes. It's crazy to use veris as 'proof' of anything.
Always amazes me that some choose who to interact with based on a few words left by strangers instead of using their own judgement.
For us it’s extra information in addition to our own judgement. Our own judgement isn’t good enough to make a decision on whether to meet someone, we need a bit of help. For example we’re not able to make a judgement, based on profile information and a bit of chat, as to whether that man is experienced with couples. But a number of verifications claiming play with a couples, will be proof of what we want to know. Also, I’m aware that I have a similar taste in men to a lot of other women, so if others wanted to meet him, then there is a chance that I might want to too. Obviously once we’ve met face to face then we will rely totally on our own judgement.
Mrs "
The only problem we've found is they're nothing like how they've been described in their verifications. Described as handsome but nothing like it when we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"that verifications are not a true reflection of the person or is it we all have different tastes?
How many have met the person and think really?
We are not bothered about them now and only write one if someone takes the trouble to do one for us. The least we can do "
Know exactly what you mean, mine say I'm a nice bloke! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have found the verification system open to abuse and doesn't provide proof that a profile is genuine or what their character might be. Surley shouldn't be used to review any individuals sexual prowess
What we like verifications to convey simply they we're who they say they were. The rest is up to us to decide. It may be a bad habit, but we do look to see what type of people they are attracted to and what kind of things they did on their meets.
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After they are useful to see if they are attracted to a certain type and not just working their way through the site to get satisfaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to leave bad verifications for people just for the sheer amusement factor (obviously with the recipients agreement)
I found that they proved a fun counterpoint to the aggressively sexual lamp post pissing ones that often get left |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a case of your using your own noddle a bit when it comes to verifications as what one person classes as great, could be crap to another.
I do like to read them though and I actually do an 'audit trail' on them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to leave bad verifications for people just for the sheer amusement factor (obviously with the recipients agreement)
I found that they proved a fun counterpoint to the aggressively sexual lamp post pissing ones that often get left"
It's shocking how many people believe the over the top crap ones are actually real. They don't understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have found the verification system open to abuse and doesn't provide proof that a profile is genuine or what their character might be. Surley shouldn't be used to review any individuals sexual prowess
What we like verifications to convey simply they we're who they say they were. The rest is up to us to decide. It may be a bad habit, but we do look to see what type of people they are attracted to and what kind of things they did on their meets.
After they are useful to see if they are attracted to a certain type and not just working their way through the site to get satisfaction."
How on earth can you know that from looking at someone's veris??! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But how long do you have to reply?
I had a very nice verification from a couple I'd met at a club.
I didn't want to rush a reply so didn't respond immediately. Two days later I wrote one back and pressed 'Send', only to find they'd blocked me in the 20 minutes or so I took to write it.
You obviously left it 20 minutes too long to reply
Blocked so you can't display the veri."
So why write a veri if you don't want it displayed? |
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