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"we have male pics in private gall, and would never meet without seeing both of another couple. but if we had m pics in public we would never get a meet " +1 | |||
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"I've gotta say that this annoys me. A lot (if not most) of the couples profiles are like this. My conclusion is that these couples are just looking for a guy to do their wife/girlfriends, while the guy pretty much looks on. Or maybe it's that the male doesn't hold up his side of the equation. The woman is fine, pretty, and in shape. She takes care of herself, but the guy is seriously lacking. It's frustrating and time-consuming for me as the male half, as every time I see a nice couple, I have to message them and ask for photos of the male, to see if my girlfriend likes what she sees. Due to the way the male-mind works (not suggesting that I have low standards), we can fuck just about anything, and enjoy it. The same doesn't hold so well for women. So for us, our process is more like "Find a profile where V digs the guy, and then just go with it. Chances are the woman will be at least half decent if the guy is decent", while the reverse is seldom true, "Even if the woman is smoking hot, there's a good chance the guy will be overweight, unattractive, and unable to perform". We don't discriminate on things like race, wealth, or sexuality. As at the end of the day, we're looking for the practicality of whether our meets result in pleasure and enjoyment for us and all involved. Guys, if you're uninterested in taking part, state so in your profile that this is so. Or if you feel that you're letting your team down, then hit the gym. Even if you're lacking in the size-department, an athletic guy with stamina and a small dick is worthy of some recognition." I can only speak for myself but we are a couple whereby we only have pics of me on the profile and on all the points you've mentioned you are completely wrong. It is my OH's choice that he has no public photos of himself. In our private pics we have photos of the two of us together, clear face pics of the two of us and the statutory cock pic. If we like the look of a couple and we message, we attach the private pics so the female has the choice to re_iew and decide. We do not feel the need to post these pics publically so every tom dick and harry can _iew them just because they want it that way. I can understand that its quicker to peruse a profile and see the guy, so you don't have to waste time messaging, but in relation to us its our choice and we don't do requests. There is no point whinging about things like that or thinking up improbable reasons why, if you don't like it, don't message the couple. I find it rather bizarre that people somehow think that's a more ominous reason other than it being individual choice | |||
"I've gotta say that this annoys me. A lot (if not most) of the couples profiles are like this. My conclusion is that these couples are just looking for a guy to do their wife/girlfriends, while the guy pretty much looks on. Or maybe it's that the male doesn't hold up his side of the equation. The woman is fine, pretty, and in shape. She takes care of herself, but the guy is seriously lacking. It's frustrating and time-consuming for me as the male half, as every time I see a nice couple, I have to message them and ask for photos of the male, to see if my girlfriend likes what she sees. Due to the way the male-mind works (not suggesting that I have low standards), we can fuck just about anything, and enjoy it. The same doesn't hold so well for women. So for us, our process is more like "Find a profile where V digs the guy, and then just go with it. Chances are the woman will be at least half decent if the guy is decent", while the reverse is seldom true, "Even if the woman is smoking hot, there's a good chance the guy will be overweight, unattractive, and unable to perform". We don't discriminate on things like race, wealth, or sexuality. As at the end of the day, we're looking for the practicality of whether our meets result in pleasure and enjoyment for us and all involved. Guys, if you're uninterested in taking part, state so in your profile that this is so. Or if you feel that you're letting your team down, then hit the gym. Even if you're lacking in the size-department, an athletic guy with stamina and a small dick is worthy of some recognition." Ahhh swinging where judgemental ppl get to pretend they are open | |||
" Ahhh swinging where judgemental ppl get to pretend they are open " +1 | |||
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"We tend to just ignore most profiles without the both partners pictures on.. not necessarily face pics but at least some shot of them... it just makes it seem like they feel they have something to hide... and i dont want to be with a guy who isnt confident about himself and is thinking more about how his body looks when we are together than the fact that we are together... same with women.. " we do have something to hide, kevs work...which matters a lot more than swinging. Great for those who wouldnt loose their jobs if they were found on a swinging site, some of us dont have that luxury. Anyone who contacts us gets pics of both of us. | |||
"I've gotta say that this annoys me. A lot (if not most) of the couples profiles are like this. My conclusion is that these couples are just looking for a guy to do their wife/girlfriends, while the guy pretty much looks on. Or maybe it's that the male doesn't hold up his side of the equation. The woman is fine, pretty, and in shape. She takes care of herself, but the guy is seriously lacking. It's frustrating and time-consuming for me as the male half, as every time I see a nice couple, I have to message them and ask for photos of the male, to see if my girlfriend likes what she sees. Due to the way the male-mind works (not suggesting that I have low standards), we can fuck just about anything, and enjoy it. The same doesn't hold so well for women. So for us, our process is more like "Find a profile where V digs the guy, and then just go with it. Chances are the woman will be at least half decent if the guy is decent", while the reverse is seldom true, "Even if the woman is smoking hot, there's a good chance the guy will be overweight, unattractive, and unable to perform". We don't discriminate on things like race, wealth, or sexuality. As at the end of the day, we're looking for the practicality of whether our meets result in pleasure and enjoyment for us and all involved. Guys, if you're uninterested in taking part, state so in your profile that this is so. Or if you feel that you're letting your team down, then hit the gym. Even if you're lacking in the size-department, an athletic guy with stamina and a small dick is worthy of some recognition." Don't worry about looking at our profile... it's going to really annoy you 'cus it's only showing a bit of 'his' arse. .....we are happy with the way WE use the site... we are successful in finding the right people for US, we aren't going to change an iota because 'some' people get upset by the way WE choose to enjoy the Fab. | |||
"We tend to just ignore most profiles without the both partners pictures on.. not necessarily face pics but at least some shot of them... it just makes it seem like they feel they have something to hide... and i dont want to be with a guy who isnt confident about himself and is thinking more about how his body looks when we are together than the fact that we are together... same with women.. we do have something to hide, kevs work...which matters a lot more than swinging. Great for those who wouldnt loose their jobs if they were found on a swinging site, some of us dont have that luxury. Anyone who contacts us gets pics of both of us." so you cant put a body shot on at all.. because someone at his work might recognise his naked body.. is he a porn star? i just don't understand why people cant put at least a body shot.. of course its personal choice but its also our personal choice not to contact those people... | |||
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"For us, posting the pics are part of the fun for US, if anyone else likes them thats a bonus. We aren't doing meets at the moment due to other priorities but we still keep our photos new and fresh for when we will start to do meets again. What most find appealing about photos of couples are the female shots, if it was full of the males cock pics then people would probably think it was a fake couples profile. Lets face it, we are all here for our own reasons but even the single mens profiles have pics on of women they have met etc. Maybe its just profile peacocking " I wouldn't go that far, there's not a single woman featured upon my profile except one shot (and that's in the gallery where even friends can't see and you can't exactly see much of her). My reasoning is simple; people who contact me are interested in meeting me so that's who my photos depict. And guys pics still get fab'd, just not as much as women's because there's more guys to fab than there are women, but up to twenty odd fabs for a guy is commonplace. | |||
"We tend to just ignore most profiles without the both partners pictures on.. not necessarily face pics but at least some shot of them... it just makes it seem like they feel they have something to hide... and i dont want to be with a guy who isnt confident about himself and is thinking more about how his body looks when we are together than the fact that we are together... same with women.. we do have something to hide, kevs work...which matters a lot more than swinging. Great for those who wouldnt loose their jobs if they were found on a swinging site, some of us dont have that luxury. Anyone who contacts us gets pics of both of us. so you cant put a body shot on at all.. because someone at his work might recognise his naked body.. is he a porn star? i just don't understand why people cant put at least a body shot.. of course its personal choice but its also our personal choice not to contact those people... " he's not an exhibitionist, i am,i like putting pics of me up. Though there is a body shot...but as u say its your choice, just dont make assumptions about how others choose to use the site | |||
" And guys pics still get fab'd, just not as much as women's because there's more guys to fab than there are women, but up to twenty odd fabs for a guy is commonplace. " Iv yet to see a guys pic fabbed anywhere near twenty unless I look in the top photos part of the site and even so a few of them have been stolen from the internet I also don't think it's solely to do with ratios, it's more to do with more people on fab who are more concerned with girls and female halves of couples x sorry for going off- topic xx | |||
"and to another point... if someone had their profile with no pictures of pics of only the fem and it turned out that the male worked with your partner you just said you would send pics to anyone who contacts you.. so you would be sending them the pic without knowing ? or would you expect their pics first.. and if so why would they send you theirs ? you end up with a massive circle of fail where no1 sends a pic becaus everyone is too paranoid about someone they work with or who knows them from work finding out" he works in an all female office its not ppl wanting to meet we are worried about, its complicated, but we are happy with how we do it most of our meets come from socials and clubs anyway | |||
" And guys pics still get fab'd, just not as much as women's because there's more guys to fab than there are women, but up to twenty odd fabs for a guy is commonplace. Iv yet to see a guys pic fabbed anywhere near twenty unless I look in the top photos part of the site and even so a few of them have been stolen from the internet I also don't think it's solely to do with ratios, it's more to do with more people on fab who are more concerned with girls and female halves of couples x sorry for going off- topic xx" My profile pic has been fab'd 22 times and I'm hardly anywhere near being in the top bracket, lol! Perhaps its because single guy profiles are _iewed more by single ladies whereas couples tend to be _iewed more by other couples where the male half does most of the browsing? | |||
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"Jemima, if he has a body shot on the profile then your not the kind of people we are talking about.. i dont care about people hiding their faces.. but if there are no pics at all then it just raises suspicion and the amount of time we have wasted in the past on people who i am just not attracted at all to when it comes down it is rediculous, so we just avoid profiles with no pics of one or the other partners.. i did state before that it didn't need to be a face pic... just a body shot of some kind.. " i think perhaps this thread is wandering quite a lot | |||
"Jemima, if he has a body shot on the profile then your not the kind of people we are talking about.. i dont care about people hiding their faces.. but if there are no pics at all then it just raises suspicion and the amount of time we have wasted in the past on people who i am just not attracted at all to when it comes down it is rediculous, so we just avoid profiles with no pics of one or the other partners.. i did state before that it didn't need to be a face pic... just a body shot of some kind.. i think perhaps this thread is wandering quite a lot " I think perhaps you're right! But the best threads usually do... But what I said does tie in with why couples profiles in general tend to have more shots of the woman and sometimes none of the men; there's only going to be about 2% of the "initial audience" bothered about seeing him... | |||
"Jemima, if he has a body shot on the profile then your not the kind of people we are talking about.. i dont care about people hiding their faces.. but if there are no pics at all then it just raises suspicion and the amount of time we have wasted in the past on people who i am just not attracted at all to when it comes down it is rediculous, so we just avoid profiles with no pics of one or the other partners.. i did state before that it didn't need to be a face pic... just a body shot of some kind.. i think perhaps this thread is wandering quite a lot I think perhaps you're right! But the best threads usually do... But what I said does tie in with why couples profiles in general tend to have more shots of the woman and sometimes none of the men; there's only going to be about 2% of the "initial audience" bothered about seeing him..." I do most of the initial browsing for our profile (fem) then we both look over the profiles i bookmark or rememeber mainly because i'm not really working atm and i think alot of couples look together from what i have seen and read | |||
"Jemima, if he has a body shot on the profile then your not the kind of people we are talking about.. i dont care about people hiding their faces.. but if there are no pics at all then it just raises suspicion and the amount of time we have wasted in the past on people who i am just not attracted at all to when it comes down it is rediculous, so we just avoid profiles with no pics of one or the other partners.. i did state before that it didn't need to be a face pic... just a body shot of some kind.. " I am the kind of person you are talking about. Like I said its his choice and he is not happy to have pictures of himself on a public profile. He is not an exhibitionist, neither is he the type of man to bend over so I can take a picture of his arse. We don't really care if others don't contact us because of this, we don't go short of fun and we attend clubs mainly anyway, so we would rather people just keep away from our profile and don't message if they feel we are sinister, rather than putting pics up for the benefit of others, a lot of people are just being nosy anyway. We will send pics if after chatting we feel a genuine interest in us. I personally would love to take photos of him but he certainly wouldn't pose in the way I want him to. He is very softly spoken, a quiet but assertive gentleman, I am flamboyant and chatty and exciteable, we are quite different in personality. Therefore I respect and accept his wishes. | |||
" Ahhh swinging where judgemental ppl get to pretend they are open " We're open-minded enough (meets couples of all races, backgrounds, sexuality etc.). We also did say that personality is very important to make up for anyone's perceived short-comings. This is an indicator that we're not looking for the perfect people, and we're not perfect either. However, we're not going to meet up with a couple without knowing what the both of them look like. There's being non-judgemental, and then there's being blind. I'll concede that I (the guy) is less judgemental, I'll do just about anything with 46 chromosomes and a fully-developed pussy, but it takes 4 to Tango, hence why I think it's a good idea to put photos of the guy on there. Maybe my lady should just swing with anyone that I want? But I don't see the point in meeting up with couples where I like the woman, while she is just along for the ride, and feels like a 3rd wheel (next to the 4th wheel, the other guy). I follow this approach, because I care. In fact, more so that my partner has a good time with the guy, than I have with the woman. I don't want to go home after an encounter feeling like I just used my girlfriend as leverage to do a woman that I really fancied. But I guess we're all here for different reasons. --Image Fabs-- Sure it's great to look at pics of the women. And I think you'll find most of the fabs on photos are from the guys (whether single guys, or the male half of the couple). Amongst couples, it's mostly the male that is online, whether it's replying to messages, or on the chat room. So it doesn't prove much. (the fabs I have on my male-pics are probably from gay/bisexual guys - which is the case on my AFF profile). So I can understand profiles having dozens of photos of the woman to satisfy guys wanting to see more. But still, it makes sense to have just a couple of the guy, no? Body shot/Cock shot/Performance shot?. Yeah my lady likes looking at cock shots - call her shallow (excuse the pun), but it gives her an idea of what she'll be working with later, and avoids any nasty surprises. I find it hard to believe that the guys are just too shy to show their wares. I think they're worried it'll lower their profile rating (perceived rating). A salesman shows his best assets first, then just when you're about to sign on the dotted line, they'll quickly run you through the small print. Forgive me for sounding over zealous, and you're right in that you don't have to show people any photos on your public profile. But surely you don't think it's a bit odd only showing photos of your lady, if you're both planning on playing with other couples/women? Virtually all of the single guy profiles have photos of the guy, so why do the guys suddenly become invisible when they're in a couple? | |||
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"Just because Trace is bi doesn't mean she isn't as equally interested in the male half of the couple. We don't often meet, so when we do we want to make sure there's an all round mutual attraction. If we see a profile where the pics are just of the woman, no matter how attractive, Trace just says "forget it!" whether there are male pics in Friends Gallery, email, MSN or whatever. The common reply to threads such as this is "If we had pics of him we'd never get a meet". We sometimes wonder whether that's a case of "Many a true word spoken in jest". I've put a pic or two up so people can see I'm an ugly bugger, O.K it may cost us some meets but at least people don't have to waste time asking for pics before declining,lol. XXXX " +1 | |||
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"Jemima, if he has a body shot on the profile then your not the kind of people we are talking about.. i dont care about people hiding their faces.. but if there are no pics at all then it just raises suspicion and the amount of time we have wasted in the past on people who i am just not attracted at all to when it comes down it is rediculous, so we just avoid profiles with no pics of one or the other partners.. i did state before that it didn't need to be a face pic... just a body shot of some kind.. I am the kind of person you are talking about. Like I said its his choice and he is not happy to have pictures of himself on a public profile. He is not an exhibitionist, neither is he the type of man to bend over so I can take a picture of his arse. We don't really care if others don't contact us because of this, we don't go short of fun and we attend clubs mainly anyway, so we would rather people just keep away from our profile and don't message if they feel we are sinister, rather than putting pics up for the benefit of others, a lot of people are just being nosy anyway. We will send pics if after chatting we feel a genuine interest in us. I personally would love to take photos of him but he certainly wouldn't pose in the way I want him to. He is very softly spoken, a quiet but assertive gentleman, I am flamboyant and chatty and exciteable, we are quite different in personality. Therefore I respect and accept his wishes. " and just as you respect his wishes We respect yours, we just move past your profile we don't message you asking you to put pictures on or asking for his pictures.. its a waste of your time and ours if he doesn't want his pictures out there... thats all i was saying. | |||
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"As long as you can get pics of BOTH sent to you via a message what the hell does it matter? " If they message us first and send us pics no problem... but i'm not wasting my time messaging someone ( as i don't do one liner messages) i might not be attracted to in any way. seems pointless and a waste of their time too... | |||
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"this is a question for couples looking for other couples for Full Partner Swap (not question for couples looking for Girl-On-Girl or only looking for singles, whether M or F) ... you have only Fem pics on your profile (or only able to send by message) but unable to provide face pics of the Male at all ... if you see a profile with the same restrictions but the woman looks 'hot' would you still be interested in meeting or would you insist on seeing pics of him first??" no pics no meet. | |||
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"Sorry people my bloody phone is playing up basically i agree with iconic its our profile its our choice that we show if you don't like dont message us as we are not able to meet new people now until march because of play dates all ready booked in we don't feel we are missing out any Jo " Perhaps not much a problem for you, based on your verifications, most of the people you have met up with are single men and women (and TV/TS). The only couple you have a verification from is your buddy iconic here. No doubt any couple profile with just photos of the female half will have no problems attracting single men, and bisexual women. Simply because they don't really care about the guy. Like most things in life, we all have choice, and it's your right to exercise that choice. I don't think anyone is disputing that. What people find annoying or inconveniencing. Is couples (or more likely the guy) going through the time-consuming process of trawling through couple profiles, finding ones that they think meet the criteria. Only to find out that once they exchange a few messages and see what the guy looks like, they're not so interested. Furthermore, for that couple with just pics of the woman, they feel they've been contacted by just another time-wasting couple. What I find ironic is that these couple profiles are usually set up by the male, and the male is the one that is online most of the time (I know this from the messages, and their webcam on the chat room). Yet it only has photos of his partner. Hmmm. I guess if the man had all the say, and the woman just did what the man said. Then it wouldn't really matter would it? The guys find women they want do to, they use their own woman for exchange (bit like a currency), and everyones happy, right? | |||
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"Sorry people my bloody phone is playing up basically i agree with iconic its our profile its our choice that we show if you don't like dont message us as we are not able to meet new people now until march because of play dates all ready booked in we don't feel we are missing out any Jo Perhaps not much a problem for you, based on your verifications, most of the people you have met up with are single men and women (and TV/TS). The only couple you have a verification from is your buddy iconic here. No doubt any couple profile with just photos of the female half will have no problems attracting single men, and bisexual women. Simply because they don't really care about the guy. Like most things in life, we all have choice, and it's your right to exercise that choice. I don't think anyone is disputing that. What people find annoying or inconveniencing. Is couples (or more likely the guy) going through the time-consuming process of trawling through couple profiles, finding ones that they think meet the criteria. Only to find out that once they exchange a few messages and see what the guy looks like, they're not so interested. Furthermore, for that couple with just pics of the woman, they feel they've been contacted by just another time-wasting couple. What I find ironic is that these couple profiles are usually set up by the male, and the male is the one that is online most of the time (I know this from the messages, and their webcam on the chat room). Yet it only has photos of his partner. Hmmm. I guess if the man had all the say, and the woman just did what the man said. Then it wouldn't really matter would it? The guys find women they want do to, they use their own woman for exchange (bit like a currency), and everyones happy, right? " I can't seeajb3323 asking you or giving you permission to critique their profile and verifications *Her* - who happens to be the one that set up our profile and spends most of the time seeking and speaking. | |||
"Sorry people my bloody phone is playing up basically i agree with iconic its our profile its our choice that we show if you don't like dont message us as we are not able to meet new people now until march because of play dates all ready booked in we don't feel we are missing out any Jo Perhaps not much a problem for you, based on your verifications, most of the people you have met up with are single men and women (and TV/TS). The only couple you have a verification from is your buddy iconic here. No doubt any couple profile with just photos of the female half will have no problems attracting single men, and bisexual women. Simply because they don't really care about the guy. Like most things in life, we all have choice, and it's your right to exercise that choice. I don't think anyone is disputing that. What people find annoying or inconveniencing. Is couples (or more likely the guy) going through the time-consuming process of trawling through couple profiles, finding ones that they think meet the criteria. Only to find out that once they exchange a few messages and see what the guy looks like, they're not so interested. Furthermore, for that couple with just pics of the woman, they feel they've been contacted by just another time-wasting couple. What I find ironic is that these couple profiles are usually set up by the male, and the male is the one that is online most of the time (I know this from the messages, and their webcam on the chat room). Yet it only has photos of his partner. Hmmm. I guess if the man had all the say, and the woman just did what the man said. Then it wouldn't really matter would it? The guys find women they want do to, they use their own woman for exchange (bit like a currency), and everyones happy, right? I can't seeajb3323 asking you or giving you permission to critique their profile and verifications *Her* - who happens to be the one that set up our profile and spends most of the time seeking and speaking." Her here as well he doesnt even look unless I ask him to | |||
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" I can't seeajb3323 asking you or giving you permission to critique their profile and verifications " Huh? ajb3323's opinion is just that it's their choice, and that it hasn't made them miss out on any action I merely used their profile to show how their their situation (meets with single males, single females), renders kinda dampens their argument. Most of the people that have verified them fit the description that wouldn't be interested or bothered what the guy looks like. They asked me to critique their profile when they stated how it personally affects them. It's like a cuckold couple only seeking to meet guys saying "Well we haven't had no problem finding meets by only having photos of the mistress online" Duh. I don't see why they should take offence, not like I've insulted their profile, just put a dent in their argument. I'm just saying, for those couples looking to meet other couples is hard enough, and it would make things easier if some of the crucial cards were laid on the table beforehand. For singles looking to meet other singles/couples, or couples looking to meet singles, this isn't a problem as all the crucial information for the people they're looking for is available on the profile page. | |||
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"The OP asked if you would meet a couple that you havent seen the pic of the male half at all!!!!...... Yes, it helps to have something on profile to give you an idea... But at least have one you can send via mail... Most dont have any on profile...No big deal " Actually doing a search of "Guys seeking women" profiles: On the first page only 6 or 7 don't have a photo out of 30 - that means about 80% of single guy profiles have a pic. While doing a search of "Couples seeking couple" profiles: On the first page only 6 or 7 HAVE a photo of *a* guy (can't tell if it's "hubby" or someone else) - that means about 80% of the couple profiles don't have a pic of guy. - 6 profiles (20%) had no photos whatsoever. So I'm not sure how 20% no-photo show became MOST? So the vast majority (80%) of couples don't show pics of the guy. While only 20% of single guys don't show a pic. So there's obviously a discrepancy. Anyway, I'll leave it at that. I feel I've defended my corner. It's unlikely anything will change from discussions on here, but it's good to see and understand the reasons why couples do this (omit photos of the guy in public). I'll still contact couples, just mean's I'll continue having to ask for photos of the guy in private for my lady's sake. | |||
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"I must say ajb3323. I think you're in a rather unique, and enviable position (both members of the couple being bisexual). I'd've thought it'd make sense for you to put a few pics of both the guy and the woman. Men are very visual creatures." Is it just me or are your pics of a black guy and a white guy? Says you are a black couple but your torso/body pics look white to me? | |||
"Mind you as both the Frocks and Ajb have seen and spoken to my OH, I am relying on their discretion not to reveal that he is in fact an 9foot flourescent green alien from the Planet Zoob " .....I've been biting my tongue | |||
"Mind you as both the Frocks and Ajb have seen and spoken to my OH, I am relying on their discretion not to reveal that he is in fact an 9foot flourescent green alien from the Planet Zoob " I would want to meet him just so I could sit and stare | |||
" Is it just me or are your pics of a black guy and a white guy? Says you are a black couple but your torso/body pics look white to me? " (couldn't find the Specsavers smiley LOL) It's just you. Technically I'm mixed race (as my profile does state), and therefore as a couple we're three quarters black LOL. But too much of a mouthful to write in the heading, especially when what matters is not my complexion (which is caramel/brown, comparable to a mid-tone Indian, or someone like Chris Brown or Rihanna), but that I'm of Black ancestry, and that I have whatever Black physical/cultural traits that tick (or untick) the boxes of what others look for. Regardless of how I see myself (and trust me I'm proud of all my ancestry). In a nutshell, for most people (Black, White, or Asian), I'm just Black. | |||
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