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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What are peoples views/ opinions?
If a female from a couple has a single profile, meets a guy, said guys uses the word 'whore' in a veri, how would the guy from the couple feel about it,?
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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Why aren't you happy when partner isn't offended? Think honestly about your response.
If any of my partners took offense at something I didn't I suspect I wouldn't take it very well. I'm not some delicate flower that needs protecting or even their property on which the slight has been made. I suspect the strip I'd tear off them would hurt more then the originally perceived offense.
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"What are peoples views/ opinions?
If a female from a couple has a single profile, meets a guy, said guys uses the word 'whore' in a veri, how would the guy from the couple feel about it,?
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If he knows she has a single profile, presumably this is something they discussed before choosing to display the verification. So, I guess, fine. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"I find it very derogatory and not a word I would use in a verification to someone's partner I personally find it disrespectful "
But she doesn't. Why do you think you have a right to feel disrespected on her behalf? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More important is how the woman feels about being called a whore.
My wife wasn't fazed by it, I was quite annoyed to be honest"
There’s your answer then |
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"More important is how the woman feels about being called a whore.
My wife wasn't fazed by it, I was quite annoyed to be honest"
Are we talking about you as a couple or another couple {{confused.com}}  |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"Because I don't call my wife that so no one else has a right too"
Maybe your wife wants you to which is why she isn't bothered someone else did on a verification. Have you asked why why she isn't bothered.
I know I seem like I'm labouring a point here but effective relationships that involve other people on either a temporary or more permenant basis are only successful if there is open, honest and constructive communication that deals with any issues that arrive.
Anyway...
Most people I know, that use 'derogetory' language do so either as part of some scene or in a reclaiming of the language.
I'm a sexually adventurous, open minded woman who enjoys consentual fun with people. I am an ethical slut and a downright filthy whore... |
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"Yes but I was and still am very anoyed by it"
Have you told him?
He may have believed within the context of this lifestyle and what he perceived your preferences to be that it was acceptable language |
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I would feel annoyed if someone used a word I didn't like in reference to my partner even if he didn't. I wouldn't act on my annoyance but I feel we have a right to feel any way we want, it's how we act on the feelings that's important. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Because I don't call my wife that so no one else has a right too"
Sounds as if you have issues. Your happy for her to meet this guy and play with him but upset over a verification when you haven’t put the word ‘whore’ into context.
I think you’ve overreacted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are peoples views/ opinions?
If a female from a couple has a single profile, meets a guy, said guys uses the word 'whore' in a veri, how would the guy from the couple feel about it,?
If he knows she has a single profile, presumably this is something they discussed before choosing to display the verification. So, I guess, fine."
It was never discussed he just put that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was us as a couple but the verification was to my wife on her single profile the person new we was married and also had couple prifile"
Sounds like he was trying to piss you off. Like saying she was a fun whore with him but she's not with you.
I'd be asking her why she was ok with it. |
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"It was us as a couple but the verification was to my wife on her single profile the person new we was married and also had couple prifile
Sounds like he was trying to piss you off. Like saying she was a fun whore with him but she's not with you.
I'd be asking her why she was ok with it. "
Yes. I think it's something that needs discussion between the op and his partner.
Couples need to put their relationship first and if something has happened that one of the couple doesn't like it needs discussing. Even if they have single profiles they both need to be happy with things. Imho anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It may have been in context to how their time together went...a little role play or something said between them.
Does seem an odd thing to call someone it unless it was in context to their meet.
If your wife was accepting of it, then that suggests it was in context and not out of place. |
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"But how do other males from a couple feel is thing I'm curious about"
For a number of women, acting like a whire during sex is a, compliment. If any guy I played with thought I was making love to him that would be a lot more offensive, I am acting like a whore and I would take it as a compliment in a verification.
Irrelevant of that, it seems that you are controlling how you think your wife should feel, if she isn't bothered maybe she felt the same as I would, but you've decided to delete the account.
So was it created for her benefit or yours.
Oh and my husband feels exactly the same as I do about it. A man talking dirty to me while fucking me would make him shoot his load. Getting affectionate and intense would probably result in him being marched away and a quiet word. |
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"But how do other males from a couple feel is thing I'm curious about
For a number of women, acting like a whire during sex is a, compliment. If any guy I played with thought I was making love to him that would be a lot more offensive, I am acting like a whore and I would take it as a compliment in a verification.
Irrelevant of that, it seems that you are controlling how you think your wife should feel, if she isn't bothered maybe she felt the same as I would, but you've decided to delete the account.
So was it created for her benefit or yours.
Oh and my husband feels exactly the same as I do about it. A man talking dirty to me while fucking me would make him shoot his load. Getting affectionate and intense would probably result in him being marched away and a quiet word. "
Perfectly summed up
J prefers the use of slut during meets thou |
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"Because I don't call my wife that so no one else has a right too"
Whoa did you just write that.
She met the guy, he wrote a verification he thought she would appreciate. She was not concerned and you have been offended because you have the right over what people call her?
We use lots of offensive language whilst having kinky sex and we love each other deeply.
I'd be more offended by the presumption of rights.
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed"
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels "
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a partner years ago who loved to be called a whore,slut ect and I for one never really saw the harm in it.
But I suppose it’s all down to the dynamic of the relationship
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
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Nope, and from the looks of it nor did anybody else, in this situation it's a compliment, your husband either has jealousy issues or control issues, either way not good for a couple that swing apart. |
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By *robertsCouple
over a year ago
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I guess it's a case of each to their own .
Personally I don't like whore as a word . If I call my wife a slut she knows that's it's not meant in a derogatory way at all and is said during banter . She will also call herself that and guys we play with are also able to use it in play but are more likely not to due to being respectful.
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
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Ohhh red flags flying up all over the place with this !!
The fact you deleted the profile over your hubby reaction and that you wished you hadn't clearly show s you seriously need to talk to each other.
That you have no issue with the veri and your hubby has ...again you need to set clear boundaries.
Things do crop up over the time your on here as a couple as boundaries and comfort zones change so need discussed .
Biggest red flag is you are totally fine with the veri and with bring used but your hubby has such a major reaction to it .
Only reason my husband would be so offended is if a comment had upset me . Your husbands justification that he doesn't call you it so no one else has "the right " to call you a whore.... clearly shows there's something deeper going on here . |
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
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You need to keep your personal and intimate marital relationship away from your fab relationships, also don't play out an argument on the forum.
Talk to each other. Your husband can't help his feelings about this, you can't help yours. Canvassing opinion from strangers to support either view is the wrong way to solve the disagreement. To swing successfully you both need to be happy with what goes on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are peoples views/ opinions?
If a female from a couple has a single profile, meets a guy, said guys uses the word 'whore' in a veri, how would the guy from the couple feel about it,?
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Anyone calls me a bitch,slut,whore or similar it will be the last contact they have with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
Ohhh red flags flying up all over the place with this !!
The fact you deleted the profile over your hubby reaction and that you wished you hadn't clearly show s you seriously need to talk to each other.
That you have no issue with the veri and your hubby has ...again you need to set clear boundaries.
Things do crop up over the time your on here as a couple as boundaries and comfort zones change so need discussed .
Biggest red flag is you are totally fine with the veri and with bring used but your hubby has such a major reaction to it .
Only reason my husband would be so offended is if a comment had upset me . Your husbands justification that he doesn't call you it so no one else has "the right " to call you a whore.... clearly shows there's something deeper going on here ."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something here they don’t have any verifications
Or perhaps they did then removed them "
Yes you’re missing something!!
It was on a single female profile I had, but you’d of known that if you’d of read all of the post  |
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"Am I missing something here they don’t have any verifications
Or perhaps they did then removed them
Yes you’re missing something!!
It was on a single female profile I had, but you’d of known that if you’d of read all of the post "
Just more and more alarm bells. No verifications as a couple in over a year, yet you have some, or at least one, as a single woman.
Is your husband even a swinger or does he accept it to keep you from having affairs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did he call you a whore in the meet, like dirty talk, and got a positive reaction?I can imagine that would the the only reason that he would leave that veir |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something here they don’t have any verifications
Or perhaps they did then removed them
Yes you’re missing something!!
It was on a single female profile I had, but you’d of known that if you’d of read all of the post
Just more and more alarm bells. No verifications as a couple in over a year, yet you have some, or at least one, as a single woman.
Is your husband even a swinger or does he accept it to keep you from having affairs. "
As above!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
You need to keep your personal and intimate marital relationship away from your fab relationships, also don't play out an argument on the forum.
Talk to each other. Your husband can't help his feelings about this, you can't help yours. Canvassing opinion from strangers to support either view is the wrong way to solve the disagreement. To swing successfully you both need to be happy with what goes on."
We aren't arguing were fine I just wanted to see what other males thought of this I'm fine with everything else we both meet separately and have no issues with it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Think people have miss understood this thread we as a couple are absolutely fine we have been swinging for 7 years and meet lots of people together and both alone I just wanted to see what other males from a couple thought about the word being refrenced to there partner that's all nothing more no jealousy or issues or fantasy just a query about it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Am I missing something here they don’t have any verifications
Or perhaps they did then removed them
Yes you’re missing something!!
It was on a single female profile I had, but you’d of known that if you’d of read all of the post
Just more and more alarm bells. No verifications as a couple in over a year, yet you have some, or at least one, as a single woman.
Is your husband even a swinger or does he accept it to keep you from having affairs. "
We have veris and yes we both swing together and separately have been for 7 years go clubs and all the rest no need for alarm bells it's only a question being asked that's all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If your reaction caused your wife to delete her single profiles ..then trust me you have a problem lol"
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Yes getting pissed, was the only problem, as that’s when I deleted it, as my hubby means more to me than a profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's hidden in fact profile removed
You say you’ve deleted her singles profile over this , which makes me think that you think she had a better time during this meet than you woukd have liked. 1 word shouldn’t result in you deleting her profile if she wasn’t offended.
Sounds like a massive jealousy issue here .
What does she think about you putting this in the forum ? Be interesting to see how she feels
He didn’t delete the profile I did, tbh I did it when d*unk, but now wish I hadn’t, I don’t think my hubby was jealous and I suggested he put it in the forum to see what other guys ( from couples) thought
It was a good veri, I liked it, I didn’t see any problem with the word ‘whore’.
You need to keep your personal and intimate marital relationship away from your fab relationships, also don't play out an argument on the forum.
Talk to each other. Your husband can't help his feelings about this, you can't help yours. Canvassing opinion from strangers to support either view is the wrong way to solve the disagreement. To swing successfully you both need to be happy with what goes on."
You miss understand its not an argument or anything it's just a question wonder what other males of a couple thought that's all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think people have miss understood this thread we as a couple are absolutely fine we have been swinging for 7 years and meet lots of people together and both alone I just wanted to see what other males from a couple thought about the word being refrenced to there partner that's all nothing more no jealousy or issues or fantasy just a query about it "
Lots of people commenting on this thread have 'misunderstood' or could it be the OP that's misleading ....... |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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People sometimes say they want a classy woman out of the bedroom but a tart/whore in the bedroom. Has to be shown in context. Not calling your wife a ‘whore’ but it describes the way she behaves possibly. You haven’t put the word into context so we can’t tell if it’s offensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it all depends on context, Most people that would call me a slut or a whore would get a punch on the nose but my man calling me it, yes please because it works along side the fantasy play we are doing.
If your wife has no issue then what's yours? Sounds like your jealous? |
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"If your reaction caused your wife to delete her single profiles ..then trust me you have a problem lol.
Yes getting pissed, was the only problem, as that’s when I deleted it, as my hubby means more to me than a profile "
As it should be ..So why then did you only delete it when you were pissed not sober ? Also if its because your hubby means more to you than a profile why would you have any regret at all about deleting it ?
As I said there is much more underlying this than just a use of a word . If the reaction is totally disproportionate to the a tion then clearly there is wayyyyyyy more to it . |
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