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After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future.  |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
as if they done that really what is the point in arranging to meet you and doing that nothing worse than people messing you about |
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Unfortunatly it happens, its not ok investing time in folk and ur stood up! No one owes anyone anything on this site folk change their mind at the last minute they think its fab u arent friends so why bother explaining easier to block! Meet for a quick coffee near ur home next time u arrange a meet so if it happens its less of a hassle! X |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Its become a rising trend, you're not the only ones today  |
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"What a really shitty thing to do!
We’ve not had the pleasure of meeting other couples yet.. but we certainly would never stand anyone up!!! Just plain rudeness"
It’s very much the norm on here these days .
This is why we don’t waste too much time getting to know people first with loads of messages etc.... |
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"Unfortunatly it happens, its not ok investing time in folk and ur stood up! No one owes anyone anything on this site folk change their mind at the last minute they think its fab u arent friends so why bother explaining easier to block! Meet for a quick coffee near ur home next time u arrange a meet so if it happens its less of a hassle! X"
It was a quick drink, 10 minutes down the road from us but it still required us to get a babysitter and it still stopped us from working in the garden to get showered and dressed up to go out when we needn’t have bothered  |
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After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days |
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Unfortunately you get time wasters however you do eventually find marvellous couples . I have and all are sociable and have developed friendships..;) .You get guys in marriages pretending to be straight and the meet is for him.. single women wanting money .and married women that are in couples profiles but are cheating with single profiles.. It's worth it eventually .. |
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"What a really shitty thing to do!
We’ve not had the pleasure of meeting other couples yet.. but we certainly would never stand anyone up!!! Just plain rudeness
It’s very much the norm on here these days .
This is why we don’t waste too much time getting to know people first with loads of messages etc.... "
Yeh we’ve noticed that!
We don’t spend too much time chatting. We would rather attend socials / parties to meet other couples |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Are you sure they were a genuine couple? |
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It happens a lot.I had seven arranged meets in a row flake out on me,a couple let me know beforehand,albeit with short notice,a couple cancelled once I was already at the meeting place,and three did the same as what happened to you.It's just the way it goes on here sometimes,same as in real life,there's always some arseholes that spoil it for everyone else |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Reporting them is not and option. Why don't you name and shame them in your status dialog. |
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Once I met a guy on social, we decided to meet again for some hardcore fun... on set day and time I arrived at the hotel... just to find out he wasn't there and the reservation never been made... he blocked me... that was my only Saturday off in a month what a waste of time... |
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I once waited an hour in Covent Garden for a planned meet to show up, he never did then didn’t reply to me until several hours late with a lame excuse that he got the times mixed up. He is a well verified guy on here. |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future.
Reporting them is not and option. Why don't you name and shame them in your status dialog."
why is reporting not an option? and why advise someone to name them in their status when it would get them penalised for it? |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future.
Reporting them is not and option. Why don't you name and shame them in your status dialog."
It's against fab rules.
I'm sorry OP. There are some shitheels on here, honestly. People need to learn to cancel. It takes a minute to write an excuse up. Some people just lack a sense of decency. |
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"After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days "
What do expect the site owners to do? It's akin to deciding to run a stall in the market. You check what the local market is like for your goods, do market research, and you get plenty of passing foot traffic and people admiring your product. They ask you to put an item away while they pop to the cash point. Yoù wait, but they never return.
How would that be the fault of the market manager?
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"Did they have verifications? Other sites have between feedback systems where people confirm meets are due to take place and then you confirm afterwards that they did or didn't turn up. "
This sounds like a good idea  |
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"Did they have verifications? Other sites have between feedback systems where people confirm meets are due to take place and then you confirm afterwards that they did or didn't turn up.
This sounds like a good idea "
Yeah I've never actually found out what happens if someone stands you up but claims they didn't! But it's telling that it's never happened. What normally happens is that the time wasters start coming up with bullshit reasons they can't confirm the meet and basically never actually confirm. |
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"After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days "
Bring back the days of when it was Dirty David’s! Or even the Adukt Hib with M3 chick pretty much running it.
No payment required and genuine folks
Now that shows my age ?? |
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"Did they have verifications? Other sites have between feedback systems where people confirm meets are due to take place and then you confirm afterwards that they did or didn't turn up.
This sounds like a good idea
Yeah I've never actually found out what happens if someone stands you up but claims they didn't! But it's telling that it's never happened. What normally happens is that the time wasters start coming up with bullshit reasons they can't confirm the meet and basically never actually confirm."
Yeah that makes perfect sense .
Dreamers and fakes wouldn’t confirm by ticking the box , so you know they’re not gonna turn up . And if they do tick it and don’t show , they are reported as not showing up for an agreed meet . Three strikes and they’re booted off the site . Perfect  |
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"Did they have verifications? Other sites have between feedback systems where people confirm meets are due to take place and then you confirm afterwards that they did or didn't turn up.
This sounds like a good idea
Yeah I've never actually found out what happens if someone stands you up but claims they didn't! But it's telling that it's never happened. What normally happens is that the time wasters start coming up with bullshit reasons they can't confirm the meet and basically never actually confirm.
Yeah that makes perfect sense .
Dreamers and fakes wouldn’t confirm by ticking the box , so you know they’re not gonna turn up . And if they do tick it and don’t show , they are reported as not showing up for an agreed meet . Three strikes and they’re booted off the site . Perfect "
Sounds like a great idea. The couple were very well verified but as we have found out the verification system on here is slightly flawed as it can only be used to give positive feedback. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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Its why we dont even bother with a coffee social anymore. If people are that keen to meet us we tell them when we are next at a club and the rest is up to them.
I will chat to anyone but I dont do so with a view to meeting anymore.
Im not sure what the site can do to remedy the problem either? I guess the sites growing success is its failing... more members making more timewasters?
We choose not to waste time arranging meets. We would be at a club to enjoy ourselves anyway so if people dont show up its no loss. |
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I've had a couple of no shows. One blocked me before I could ask for an explanation and the other "girl" had to cancel as her dog had fallen down the stairs and knocked her mothers ashes urn all over the hall carpet. Think I was well mushed there! Sadly the amount of suspect profiles is on the rise. |
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Could be the female of the couple was jealous of you and didn't want you having sex with her man, it happens a lot. Or very often it is the man arranging the meet but when they ask the female she is not interested. It's fairly common on Fab unfortunately.
I believe you can report a no show.
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We get let down by more than we actully meet. By single blokes and couples 50/50 split. Let down and stood up by single blokes we've met a few times too.
We've stopped putting out meets as it looks like were meeting almost daily. But in reality not much at all.
It's so easy to cancel when your hiding behind a screen. |
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"Its why we dont even bother with a coffee social anymore. If people are that keen to meet us we tell them when we are next at a club and the rest is up to them.
I will chat to anyone but I dont do so with a view to meeting anymore.
Im not sure what the site can do to remedy the problem either? I guess the sites growing success is its failing... more members making more timewasters?
We choose not to waste time arranging meets. We would be at a club to enjoy ourselves anyway so if people dont show up its no loss."
We take the opposite logic. Arrange a social on a night where we can go to a club as a backup plan. |
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By *illyCouple
over a year ago
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Happens all the time through out All walks of life and situations.
We had a guy when we were selling something.said he was on his way. Sent messages to say where he was.even that he had come off the motorway and was 5 mins away.when he didn't turn up .We asked him why travel all that way then not come and look. He said he had never left the house .I said you can't do that.his reply was. He could do and say what ever he liked. |
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We have been in the scene 12 years and have given up with private meets totally for this very reason, we only meet at clubs these days, if you arrange a meet at a club and the other couple do not show at least you still have a club full of people to make it a good night anyway. |
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"What did you tell the baby sitter about why you came home so early?"
We didn’t go straight home, after spending 40 minutes waiting for them we went to the B&Q on the way home and bought some plants. We live on the wild side of life |
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"What did you tell the baby sitter about why you came home so early?
We didn’t go straight home, after spending 40 minutes waiting for them we went to the B&Q on the way home and bought some plants. We live on the wild side of life "
I presume you bought pampas grass ! |
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"What did you tell the baby sitter about why you came home so early?
We didn’t go straight home, after spending 40 minutes waiting for them we went to the B&Q on the way home and bought some plants. We live on the wild side of life
I presume you bought pampas grass !"
No, a cactus because I like a big prick |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't even wash my fanny unless I've had constant communication leading up to and on the day of the meet, via a messaging source away from here (whatsapp/Kik) The persons eagerness can indicate if they'll turn up. |
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This site ISN'T what it's cracked up to be! infact, It's the worst $30 something dollars I've ever wasted on anything. My thot now is, since, in the last 8+ days, I've had more sex, gotten more pussy, then I have in the last 6 yrs, why waste anymore of my time here? First off, there is nobody around a 70 mile radius who swings, or if they do, it's NO single guy's and I can't even send a compliment for the womans body! I just had another "encounter" with a much younger gal, who lives but couple hundred feet from me and who has no idea about swingers!. Many people here, are just outright RUDE! |
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"This site ISN'T what it's cracked up to be! infact, It's the worst $30 something dollars I've ever wasted on anything. My thot now is, since, in the last 8+ days, I've had more sex, gotten more pussy, then I have in the last 6 yrs, why waste anymore of my time here? First off, there is nobody around a 70 mile radius who swings, or if they do, it's NO single guy's and I can't even send a compliment for the womans body! I just had another "encounter" with a much younger gal, who lives but couple hundred feet from me and who has no idea about swingers!. Many people here, are just outright RUDE! "
You have been here 3 weeks.... give the site some time... remember Rome wasn’t built in a day... |
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I’ve been let down 3 tines last week. Up until then I’d only experienced it once in 7 months!
It just makes it difficult for those of us that genuinely want to meet- and it’s very rude and annoying. Having said that I’ve met some amazing people so it’s not all bad x |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Sadly this is what fab seems to have become! Iv booked hotels in the past after weeks of chat only to have been stood up and blocked without any excuse or explanation, even worse is when traveling over 2 hours for a meet to be bloked and ignored. |
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over a year ago
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We don't meet any more after two different guys 'stood us up' in less than two weeks. Just can't be bothered any more. If we want to play, we will try clubs.
It's just a shame because it ruins it for the genuine people. I don't understand why people do it. |
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over a year ago
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I dont understand it.
Every time i have agreed to meet i have turned up on time as expected.
I have too much respect for people and myself to be a let down.
It is frustrating though when it hapoens to you.
Not all are bad |
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"What a really shitty thing to do!
We’ve not had the pleasure of meeting other couples yet.. but we certainly would never stand anyone up!!! Just plain rudeness"
Ooh, when and where? lol. Nor have we.
But yes completely agree. |
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"I wouldn't even wash my fanny unless I've had constant communication leading up to and on the day of the meet, via a messaging source away from here (whatsapp/Kik) The persons eagerness can indicate if they'll turn up. "
They sent us their mobile phone number and we texted each other on that. I guess that you just can’t tell on here and you are taking a gamble every time. What bothered us is not so much the no show but the the lack of courtesy to even consider contacting us to say they wouldn’t be turning up. We could have saved ourselves £20 on a babysitter and £8 on drinks in the pub while we were waiting for them. Doesn’t sound a lot but we could have took the kids out to the pictures for that. |
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over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that and I understand your frustration and dissappointnent. I'm afraid Fab is just full of timewasters and fantasists who are selfish and ignorant.
Try clubs and Fab social events, at least that way you are actually meeting and getting to talk to people.
Good luck OP with future meets. |
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"We have been in the scene 12 years and have given up with private meets totally for this very reason, we only meet at clubs these days, if you arrange a meet at a club and the other couple do not show at least you still have a club full of people to make it a good night anyway."
This^^^^^
I accidentally stood a social up a couple of weeks ago by thinking he hadn’t replied as to a location in the messages. He had but it wasn’t very obvious. The thing is, I felt bad enough to cry down the phone about it to my fab wingman BUT I’ve also been stood up so much I think I was expecting it to happen again. Aside from the accidental no-show id NEVER leave anyone sat there. Least you weren’t alone OP xx |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Sorry to hear the runnng around you received. Not all fab members are like this. If it were a genuine reason for not showing, presumably they wouldn’t have blocked you.
What we tend to do when meeting for socials/play is to send a confirmation text on the day to say we’re coming and asking if the meet is still on - many guys do this before we do! If we don’t hear anything, we check online to see if they’ve been on. If we don’t hear anything and they’ve been online, then we presume the meet is off.
With our meets mainly at our hotels or at a pub within walking distance, it’s no trouble for us to travel far if anyone cancels/no shows, etc. In the 5 or so years we’ve been on fab, the only ‘no show’ was a single lady who claimed she had car trouble and never heard from her again - she had several veris, too. However, partner is certain he saw her. So perhaps she didn’t like what she saw! 
I believe you can report them. Since they’ve blocked you, I believe you can enter their username in after pressing the report tab, since you’ve got no access to their profile.
Keep trying. There’s many genuine and respectful members on here. |
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We’ve just had the exact same thing happen to us tonight! Been chatting on here & kik for around 6 weeks, even as far as them saying they were 15 minutes away! Total no shows, reading our messages but not replying! Looked on here and we’ve been blocked.
Nice, sorted babysitter etc just to be stood-up, makes you weary of arranging meets especially when we don’t get much free time due to family commitments. X |
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"After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days "
.........it's because the site is totally free and attracts all the armchair wankers ,, fabswingers really need have a sort out and start charging £100 for a 12 mth contract and that will sort out the arseholes .. Count us and we'll be the first to pay the contract fee . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shit happens, weekdays social meets seem to be more susceptible to no shows, hence we don’t do them, don’t get down about it, learn from it and learn to read the signs of time wasters x
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"After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days .........it's because the site is totally free and attracts all the armchair wankers ,, fabswingers really need have a sort out and start charging £100 for a 12 mth contract and that will sort out the arseholes .. Count us and we'll be the first to pay the contract fee . "
and you would probably be here yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened to us a few times when we first started on the scene. It put us off meeting for a while but glad we started trusting people again, met some great people since. |
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".........it's because the site is totally free and attracts all the armchair wankers ,, fabswingers really need have a sort out and start charging £100 for a 12 mth contract and that will sort out the arseholes .. Count us and we'll be the first to pay the contract fee . "
Exactly. I posted something similar on a similar thread yesterday. When I first started using swingers' websites 14 years ago, you were charged £50 a year. It kept the idiots, nut-jobs and timewasters away, believe me - the paid years were the best years of my internet swinging life. |
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"They sent us their mobile phone number and we texted each other on that. I guess that you just can’t tell on here and you are taking a gamble every time. What bothered us is not so much the no show but the the lack of courtesy to even consider contacting us to say they wouldn’t be turning up. We could have saved ourselves £20 on a babysitter and £8 on drinks in the pub while we were waiting for them. Doesn’t sound a lot but we could have took the kids out to the pictures for that. "
Did you not actually "speak" to the couple before the meet? If not, you should have....that would have vouched for their genuineness.
Sorry if that point's been address in the thread already BTW. |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Sorry to hear that - we have been recently let down by our meet too. We have met this person once already that’s the worst part of it.
Long and short of it is - people must think long and hard before committing |
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"Report them ??? Then what !! It happens all the time totally fucks it for the good folk !!
FAB PLS START CHARGING !!"
Couldn't agree more - if fab incorporated a compulsory annual subscription it would cut out alot of (but not all) of the idiots on here...but nope, it's still free. I'm sick of seeing the same people setting up new profiles every few weeks, same pics, same text,same one liners. |
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Happens to all of us. I drove 135 miles to a meet only to be stood up. I waited for an hour or, they were online and read the messages but no reply. Eventually replied to say they had gone to visit their mum instead.
Good job I had something to do in the area anyway, or else I'd have been mightily pissed off - however it did come on the back of two other no shows and led to me deleting my previous account. |
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Really surprises me how many people seem to do this. Why though? Not that hard to send a message and cancel! I wouldn’t dream of doing that to someone and I’d go bloomin mad if someone did that to me! |
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"Report them ??? Then what !! It happens all the time totally fucks it for the good folk !!
FAB PLS START CHARGING !!
Couldn't agree more - if fab incorporated a compulsory annual subscription it would cut out alot of (but not all) of the idiots on here...but nope, it's still free. I'm sick of seeing the same people setting up new profiles every few weeks, same pics, same text,same one liners. "
Single men complain about club charges. Single men complain about rude people not responding to messages. Can you imagine what would happen if they had to pay £100 to be ignored? Couples complain also. If the paid £100 and still could't get the meets/timewasters that would also start a whinge fest.
Most people encounter time wasters at some point, in the early days I did, until I found a way for me. Always a social meet near my office at lunch time, at a place I was going anyway. After work at the station, 15 minutes before my train. If they didn't show no skin off my nose. Play meets I'd arrange to work from home, take a flexi day to sort my knicker drawer etc in an event of a no show.
Ultimately, it's our responsibility to manage our time. Would I travel hundreds of miles for a meet? Hell no!!! If I did I'd have a plan B because anything could happen en route outwith anyone's control ie pile up on motorway etc.
You'll never eradicate time wasters, but the answer isn't to make it difficult for everyone.
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"Report them ??? Then what !! It happens all the time totally fucks it for the good folk !!
FAB PLS START CHARGING !!
Couldn't agree more - if fab incorporated a compulsory annual subscription it would cut out alot of (but not all) of the idiots on here...but nope, it's still free. I'm sick of seeing the same people setting up new profiles every few weeks, same pics, same text,same one liners.
Single men complain about club charges. Single men complain about rude people not responding to messages. Can you imagine what would happen if they had to pay £100 to be ignored? Couples complain also. If the paid £100 and still could't get the meets/timewasters that would also start a whinge fest.
Most people encounter time wasters at some point, in the early days I did, until I found a way for me. Always a social meet near my office at lunch time, at a place I was going anyway. After work at the station, 15 minutes before my train. If they didn't show no skin off my nose. Play meets I'd arrange to work from home, take a flexi day to sort my knicker drawer etc in an event of a no show.
Ultimately, it's our responsibility to manage our time. Would I travel hundreds of miles for a meet? Hell no!!! If I did I'd have a plan B because anything could happen en route outwith anyone's control ie pile up on motorway etc.
You'll never eradicate time wasters, but the answer isn't to make it difficult for everyone.
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I think you've missed the overall point but hey, you are entitled to your view. However, time-wasting has nothing to do with "single guys" - that's not what the thread is about. |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Question....are they mad??? Why would anyone turn down a meet with you guys!!! |
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In general people don't turn up for a meet because they feel something isn't right or they get cold feet I very much doubt people think paying to be here will make any difference to that. Sure it will cut down on people dabbling in swinging it will make some who are tempted to play not join up but in general people being left high and dry at a location probably woudn't change a lot you only have to look at this on paid dating sites to realise that. |
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FabSwingers is a website which provides a method to connect with others. The Owners/Admin have no control over who meets who, where/when or if ever!
There is a reporting system so no-shows can be flagged to Admin - but ultimately there is absolutely no way on earth to 'make people show up'. No amount of charging can change human nature.
Even 'well-verified' folks change their minds/have Life intervene to scupper plans or simply decide to ignore contacts - and that goes for all profile types, no-one has the monopoly on being human and therefore unreliable.
It's about time folks took more responsibility for the plans they make with total strangers and stop expecting a website to play sheriff and Matchmaker at the same time.
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We were quite surprised to see this thread resurrected today. We didn’t bother reporting the couple that stood us up, we just put it down to experience and moved on. Obviously they must have received a better offer at the time because if there was a genuine excuse then a phone call or message either before or after would have been a normal scenario instead of being blocked surely? Maybe that’s just the way we are but if we couldn’t make it we would at least offer our apologies. Anyway, as I said we’ve moved on since then and have met and chatted to some great people on here, it’s just made us a little bit more cautious. |
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I had a run of these a couple of years back that nearly saw me quit. The last one saw me sitting in a pub for 2 hours sending texts having turned down other meets earlier in the week.
My faith was restored a few weeks later when another couple turned up and after a couple of drinks said "we don't think you are right for us" something that turned into a really nice non-playing evening in pleasant company!That's how it ought to be! |
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"Report them x
There is no reporting or naming and shaming on here as it could be too open to misinterpretation. It looks like verifications don’t really mean that much though! "
On all profile pages there is a 'report button' and one of the options there is for not turning up. I've used it a couple of times and a whole lot for profiles advertising other sites or asking for money.... |
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"Report them x
There is no reporting or naming and shaming on here as it could be too open to misinterpretation. It looks like verifications don’t really mean that much though!
On all profile pages there is a 'report button' and one of the options there is for not turning up. I've used it a couple of times and a whole lot for profiles advertising other sites or asking for money...."
Not an option if they have already blocked you from accessing their profile though |
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Even if a profile has blocked you, the menu is still there with the Report option.
"Not an option if they have already blocked you from accessing their profile though "
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Had that today
Been chatting a while. Arranged a meet to meet at mine, took the afternoon off work
Sent her a message to see if it was still on. Got a reply saying she couldn’t afford the £1.50 bus fare each way.
At least she let me know |
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"Even if a profile has blocked you, the menu is still there with the Report option.
Not an option if they have already blocked you from accessing their profile though "
Didn’t know that, thank you for the clarification |
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"I’ve been let down 3 tines last week. Up until then I’d only experienced it once in 7 months!
It just makes it difficult for those of us that genuinely want to meet- and it’s very rude and annoying. Having said that I’ve met some amazing people so it’s not all bad x "
Pandora I wouldn't stand you up as your amazing |
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"After weeks of sorting out a convenient date to meet with another couple on here we turned up tonight at the arranged pub at the arranged time only to be stood up. We sent them a text to say we had arrived and where we were sat, no reply! We sent them a message on here, no reply. Eventually 40 minutes after they were due to meet we sent them a text saying we had waited 40 minutes and we were leaving now to relieve the babysitter, no reply. We went to send them the same message on here to find that we had now been blocked!! Is this typical of the mad world of fab? We had loads of other things we could have done tonight instead. What gets me is that they had plenty of recent verifications. We hardly get any free time and getting not just stood up but ignored makes us wonder if it’s worth bothering on here? A quick apology, sorry something cropped up last minute you accept and put down to experience but this just winds you up. Maybe we should just stick to the club in future. "
Are they a real couple or just a man play games that the real question to think about i would say.  |
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"After 10+ years on this site - I can only say this seems to be getting worse. Across the board, men, women, couples.
I think it’s time that the site users and owners had a bloody serious think, why this could be and what can be done to help.
We rarely post meets now - because of this kind of crap. I miss the old days "
Have to agree with you there. Ive been 10yrs here now and for the last few yrs its gone worse. Even the ones with veris think its ok to ignore you when they think its ok not to say that they are not gonna be there....esp when you could have poss met someone else too |
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It’s a joke. It’s happened to me twice before where Iv booked hotels and paid myself only to be stood up and blocked. Last one even went to the extent to say she was getting in a taxi as we spoke, then ignored and blocked!
Reported to admin but as expected fuck all done about it! |
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