Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!" |
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"Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!""
It’s so often the case unfortunately.
So many guys aren’t single at all and when it comes to the actual meet they bottle it , leave the site , or just go dead quiet .
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!"
It’s so often the case unfortunately.
So many guys aren’t single at all and when it comes to the actual meet they bottle it , leave the site , or just go dead quiet .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From your profile OP-'Hoping to develop an ongoing arrangement but still NSA.'How does this sit with your comment about not having a future? We men are simple creatures. I'm sure you're not talking about life partners but isn't an ongoing arrangement a future? |
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"From your profile OP-'Hoping to develop an ongoing arrangement but still NSA.'How does this sit with your comment about not having a future? We men are simple creatures. I'm sure you're not talking about life partners but isn't an ongoing arrangement a future?"
I see your point - but I think you are taking that a bit too literally. Can a FB relationship really be considered a future? |
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So he was honest and called it off because it didn't work for him. He sounds like a nice guy for not wanting to mess you around.
People can change their mind at any point. He's not obliged to meet you. |
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"So he was honest and called it off because it didn't work for him. He sounds like a nice guy for not wanting to mess you around.
People can change their mind at any point. He's not obliged to meet you. "
that is true... thank you for that perspective. And I certainly reserve that right for myself. its just frustrating as we were getting along so well... |
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"So he was honest and called it off because it didn't work for him. He sounds like a nice guy for not wanting to mess you around.
People can change their mind at any point. He's not obliged to meet you.
that is true... thank you for that perspective. And I certainly reserve that right for myself. its just frustrating as we were getting along so well..."
Yeah I understand the frustration. It would have been much worse if you'd chatted for longer or had one brilliant meet and he didn't want to meet again.  |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!""
Ok. I've looked at your profile. What now?  |
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"Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!"
Ok. I've looked at your profile. What now? "
What do you mean? |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Grrr! After days worth of chatting, arranging a Dom/Sub meet, he suddenly gets a pang of guilt and disappears entirely. Why!? Because we can not have a future. Guys - this is not a dating site.
We ladies are nice people with lives of our own... please stop doing this!
Ladies... can I get a "Hell Yeah!"
Ok. I've looked at your profile. What now?
What do you mean?"
Ahh so sweet and innocent!
I do enjoy a bit of role-playing...  |
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"From your profile OP-'Hoping to develop an ongoing arrangement but still NSA.'How does this sit with your comment about not having a future? We men are simple creatures. I'm sure you're not talking about life partners but isn't an ongoing arrangement a future?
I see your point - but I think you are taking that a bit too literally. Can a FB relationship really be considered a future?"
Eight years ago I went looking for an FB - they are now my best friend. Not fucking up the FB relationship was a really successful heuristic towards what's become something so good and so fun. If it works, why would it not have a future? |
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"From your profile OP-'Hoping to develop an ongoing arrangement but still NSA.'How does this sit with your comment about not having a future? We men are simple creatures. I'm sure you're not talking about life partners but isn't an ongoing arrangement a future?
I see your point - but I think you are taking that a bit too literally. Can a FB relationship really be considered a future?
Eight years ago I went looking for an FB - they are now my best friend. Not fucking up the FB relationship was a really successful heuristic towards what's become something so good and so fun. If it works, why would it not have a future?"
thats fantastic! But he was talking about something more. I actually love to keep my lovers as friends. But this was different. Maybe Im not explaining myself well. |
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"From your profile OP-'Hoping to develop an ongoing arrangement but still NSA.'How does this sit with your comment about not having a future? We men are simple creatures. I'm sure you're not talking about life partners but isn't an ongoing arrangement a future?
I see your point - but I think you are taking that a bit too literally. Can a FB relationship really be considered a future?
Eight years ago I went looking for an FB - they are now my best friend. Not fucking up the FB relationship was a really successful heuristic towards what's become something so good and so fun. If it works, why would it not have a future?
thats fantastic! But he was talking about something more. I actually love to keep my lovers as friends. But this was different. Maybe Im not explaining myself well. "
Maybe, maybe not. Lots of people on here, and in real life, want nothing more than the next 30 minutes. I may even have owned a few of those teeshirts.
However, one of the realities is we lie. Men lie a lot. For the sake of those thirty minutes (which may be an exaggeration) they will disregard the obvious indicators that say 'this person would like more than thirty minutes of your time' and then experience what sales people call buyers regret.
Guess what? I think they did you a favour. Ducking out before they have to tell you any more lies was probably more honest than seizing the thirty minutes then ghosting... |
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"Did he say he felt guilty and for what?"
yes he did. But thanks to you all... Im over it. Upwards and onwards.
You guys are amazing and really are good at showing different perspectives
Im still new here - so still learning. Happy bank holiday! |
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"Did he say he felt guilty and for what?
yes he did. But thanks to you all... Im over it. Upwards and onwards.
You guys are amazing and really are good at showing different perspectives
Im still new here - so still learning. Happy bank holiday!"
Happy bank holiday to you - and thank you for the chance to talk about myself |
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"Did he say he felt guilty and for what?
yes he did. But thanks to you all... Im over it. Upwards and onwards.
You guys are amazing and really are good at showing different perspectives
Im still new here - so still learning. Happy bank holiday!"
Yea, fuck him. Plenty more dicks in the sea  |
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