Just curious to know if I’m reading people’s interests on their profiles wrong.
I was under the impression that when interests are listed then that’s what the people actually enjoy doing. I have found though when questioned about certain interests such as ‘swingers clubs’ as to which ones they go to apparently they don’t go to them!
To me personally it’s so annoying after chatting to someone because they mention swingers clubs in their interests then find out they’ve never been to a club!
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We read it as things people are interested in doing as well as things they have done. Up in Scotland you'll find plenty with an interest in trying a club, but quite a few have never been as there's only a couple up here and they can be hundreds of miles away for some. |
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I don’t get the obsession some people have with clubs..
I especially don’t get the ‘I only meet in clubs’ brigade. Or, the ‘it’s not about the sex’ brigade.
There are loads of places you can go to have sex (not necessarily clubs), and loads of places you can go to not that aren’t either.
Whether they express that as an ‘interest’ or not doesn’t really matter unless your own views are totally unwielding. Chat, establish a connection with people, and find a compromise that suits you both. It’s the mutual ground rather then the moral high ground that’s important. You may find that your own feelings change. |
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"I don’t get the obsession some people have with clubs..
I especially don’t get the ‘I only meet in clubs’ brigade. Or, the ‘it’s not about the sex’ brigade.
There are loads of places you can go to have sex (not necessarily clubs), and loads of places you can go to not that aren’t either.
Whether they express that as an ‘interest’ or not doesn’t really matter unless your own views are totally unwielding. Chat, establish a connection with people, and find a compromise that suits you both. It’s the mutual ground rather then the moral high ground that’s important. You may find that your own feelings change. "
The only reason I prefer to meet at a club is being a single female I feel safer in a club - before I started swinging I had a few bad times when meeting a guy so a club is my preference. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
As it says in my profile the things ticked in my interests are "a mix of what I enjoy, what I've dabbled with, and what I'd like to try and/or explore further, but it's not exhaustive (or expected)" so whilst I've ticked them doesn't necessarily mean I've done them and expect most people do similar.
I prefer chatting to people and getting to know what they like/don't like rather than relying on a list anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always find it a bit odd when single men tick that there want to meet ladies or female only couples. That tells me that type of play they are interested in does not involve men or MF couples in any way. Then they say they are interested in gang bangs, dogging, swingers clubs, swapping. Basically activities where men and MF couples are usually present.
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"I always find it a bit odd when single men tick that there want to meet ladies or female only couples. That tells me that type of play they are interested in does not involve men or MF couples in any way. Then they say they are interested in gang bangs, dogging, swingers clubs, swapping. Basically activities where men and MF couples are usually present.
Mrs
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There's loads of information in profiles when they're read properly. There's lots of stuff 'between the lines' that people don't realise they're giving away and all goes into the decision making as to whether we'd be compatible. |
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