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Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
And then get angry if you decline that invite because you know nothing about them! |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view  |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
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Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems. |
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over a year ago
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"Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems. "
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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago
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Hi there,
interesting observation.. I will take this opportunity to converse with you then lol..
So in my experience, I have seen the following.. Countless attempts at generating a conversation failing flat on really very diverse topics, and eve making the effort to pick on specific points of curiosity in the lady's bio.
I may have been unlucky, and I am not obfuscated either since I am pretty thick skinned. But I cant help notice the dichotomy between expectations and behaviours.. Which drove me to think that maaaaay be these guys got fed up with wasting time trying to be nice and have now opted for a volume-based approach.
On the other hand, I have received a few notes from guys saying literally "need a sucking".. out of the blue with not even a hello.. and on 2 occasions, ladies approaching me with a similar style, and I felt the way you described indeed and none of them got anywhere.
The computer is devoid of emotion too.. so it is adds to the insult since it is easy to forget there is a human on the other side!
Not playing the devil's advocate mind.. just observations these are! What do you think?
Have a good day.
Axel
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Anyone who has been on sites like the one with the hamster can't have failed to notice advert sidebars saying something like "Free sex contact site-just message local ladies and ask to fuck". And for the socially inept it's seen as how to behave on here.
Social interaction is quite limited for so many people these days. Loneliness statistics are shocking. And for some guys now they barely talk to a woman in a face to face social situation.
It's how the whole incel movement kicked off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi there,
interesting observation.. I will take this opportunity to converse with you then lol..
So in my experience, I have seen the following.. Countless attempts at generating a conversation failing flat on really very diverse topics, and eve making the effort to pick on specific points of curiosity in the lady's bio.
I may have been unlucky, and I am not obfuscated either since I am pretty thick skinned. But I cant help notice the dichotomy between expectations and behaviours.. Which drove me to think that maaaaay be these guys got fed up with wasting time trying to be nice and have now opted for a volume-based approach.
On the other hand, I have received a few notes from guys saying literally "need a sucking".. out of the blue with not even a hello.. and on 2 occasions, ladies approaching me with a similar style, and I felt the way you described indeed and none of them got anywhere.
The computer is devoid of emotion too.. so it is adds to the insult since it is easy to forget there is a human on the other side!
Not playing the devil's advocate mind.. just observations these are! What do you think?
Have a good day.
Axel
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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"Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems. "
Have you not found that couples and fems can be just as abrupt or lazy? We often get a one worded message from both groups which if they had read out profile, means we just won’t answer  very frustration to us it time and effort and not corresponding and try’s by to build a rapport when it’s not reciprocated  |
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"Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems. "
Am I entitled for wanting them to sod off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi there,
interesting observation.. I will take this opportunity to converse with you then lol..
So in my experience, I have seen the following.. Countless attempts at generating a conversation failing flat on really very diverse topics, and eve making the effort to pick on specific points of curiosity in the lady's bio.
I may have been unlucky, and I am not obfuscated either since I am pretty thick skinned. But I cant help notice the dichotomy between expectations and behaviours.. Which drove me to think that maaaaay be these guys got fed up with wasting time trying to be nice and have now opted for a volume-based approach.
On the other hand, I have received a few notes from guys saying literally "need a sucking".. out of the blue with not even a hello.. and on 2 occasions, ladies approaching me with a similar style, and I felt the way you described indeed and none of them got anywhere.
The computer is devoid of emotion too.. so it is adds to the insult since it is easy to forget there is a human on the other side!
Not playing the devil's advocate mind.. just observations these are! What do you think?
Have a good day.
Axel
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I have to say I agree with Axel... but I honestly think it’s hard for male and females!! I’ve just had a blasting on another thread because I’ve had a couple of meets recently and was told that never happens for guys... well ok yes maybe it is easier for me to get a meet but that doesn’t mean I don’t find it just as frustrating as you guys or feel let down, it’s just for different reasons!!!  |
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
Fancy a fuck
Lol jokes aside it is a mad world.  |
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over a year ago
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I like the ones who message with a hello or something basic, which don’t get me wrong, is a good start and then the very next message is “so are you interest in me”
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"well ok yes maybe it is easier for me to get a meet but that doesn’t mean I don’t find it just as frustrating as you guys or feel let down, it’s just for different reasons!!! "
Maybe you're just not expecting instant, low-effort gratification like a lazy sod  shock, horror etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has their own challenges: too old - not enough attention, too young - not enough attention, black/ white/ brown/ purple - not my taste and the list goes on.
I agree women have it more in their favour which can impact anyone's ego but that just comes with a platform like this, they still have to go through the stream of emails and filter it out as well as put up with nonsense.
As a guy who's not white and has facial hair I still get some pretty good conversations and meets in so just goes to show, everyone has their own taste and challenges. |
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"Everyone has their own challenges: too old - not enough attention, too young - not enough attention, black/ white/ brown/ purple - not my taste and the list goes on.
I agree women have it more in their favour which can impact anyone's ego but that just comes with a platform like this, they still have to go through the stream of emails and filter it out as well as put up with nonsense.
As a guy who's not white and has facial hair I still get some pretty good conversations and meets in so just goes to show, everyone has their own taste and challenges. "
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"Everyone has their own challenges: too old - not enough attention, too young - not enough attention, black/ white/ brown/ purple - not my taste and the list goes on.
I agree women have it more in their favour which can impact anyone's ego but that just comes with a platform like this, they still have to go through the stream of emails and filter it out as well as put up with nonsense.
As a guy who's not white and has facial hair I still get some pretty good conversations and meets in so just goes to show, everyone has their own taste and challenges.
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Totally agree!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm surprised that you are continually surprised OP.
A lot of the folk (both men, women and couples) away from the forum seem not to be willing to invest their time in typing multiple syllables. Don't stress on it OP. Use it as a filter. |
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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago
Reading/bracknell |
I am glad :o)
Don't get me wrong though, I didn't mean it is easy for females and just difficult for guys...
Courtesy and manners cost nothing but a little time.
The geeky me being into ls of tech things, I recently took part in a twitter chat where we were discussing the social impact of bots, and someone put the question out as to what are we likely to induce as new language behaviours in (younger) adults once the adoption of Amazon Echo or Google home is endemic.. I can see the analogy between this and previously well-typed mails vs text speak!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a sex site. They want sex. They see sex 'reviews' and 'menus' on people's profiles. And explicit sex pics.
Why would they chat about the weather or what I had for my tea? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
Yeah, but do you FAF?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's largely down to the use of social media. Quick, punctuated speech feeding low attention spans.
There's also the remoteness of social media which affects how we think about the person we're communicating with. For some, it means they think they can be short, rude or abusive without fear of any consequences ... not something they'd do so readily face-to-face ...
Unfortunately, Fab is no different ... |
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"It's a sex site. They want sex. They see sex 'reviews' and 'menus' on people's profiles. And explicit sex pics.
Why would they chat about the weather or what I had for my tea? "
I guess because it's supposed to be a little bit different than just a business transaction? There's supposed to be a social element to swinging so I understand? |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't."
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it |
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"I like the ones who message with a hello or something basic, which don’t get me wrong, is a good start and then the very next message is “so are you interest in me”
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But there are times conversation is flowing nicely with polite banter which moves onto a sexual nature, even progressing to agreeing, in principle at least, to a meet in the next week, only for the same lady to simply block the individual without giving any notice or reason! Guess it takes all sorts ?? |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it"
And yet here you still are! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
I agree with others about the internet and instant gratification.
But I also think for that reason many don't read profiles properly. I would also suggest that many recipients don't actually read messages? For the same reasons as above. I suspect many of my messages are deleted without being read because I don't match the idea of the six packed, gym fit, toned guys that the vast majority are looking for. Which I'm not and can be seen instantly from any attached or my profile photo already attached to the message. So does message content matter? Unless the face fits, I doubt it. The one thing we all have on fab is choice. I choose who to message from what a profile says. Many single females, have 'will fill in later', or single female looking for men', as do couples. These I wouldn't waste my time on.
Do I waste my time messaging? No. Because after 20 years of experience if one in 30 messages are read and actually replied to, it comes as a surprise. If a man joins fab with expectation then he is going to be very disappointed, very quickly. Especially if he only sends a three line message. For those of us who do send a decent message, with no expectations, take notice of the profile and the person/couple they are messaging, then maybe they will get a reply. One liners aren't going to work, as they wouldn't on me. |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it
And yet here you still are!"
Well I wasn’t, I’ve been doing other things and just check in from time to time, you know?
Haven’t got time to waste today checking for replies |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it
And yet here you still are!
Well I wasn’t, I’ve been doing other things and just check in from time to time, you know?
Haven’t got time to waste today checking for replies "
That whooshing sound was the point going over your head... |
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My first message is usually along the lines of...
''Hey, saw your profile, I liked what I saw / read, so I figured there's no harm in sending a message. I'm looking to meet new people, make some friends and have new experiences. I'm interested in getting to know you better. I might not be what you're looking for, but I might get lucky and strike gold. If you'd like to talk, then feel free to send me a message, you never know we might hit it off. If not then I hope you find what you're looking for. Anyway, hope to hear from you.''
But usually it's tailored to their profile. I'll pick something from a profile and use that as a baseline. |
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"My first message is usually along the lines of...
''Hey, saw your profile, I liked what I saw / read, so I figured there's no harm in sending a message. I'm looking to meet new people, make some friends and have new experiences. I'm interested in getting to know you better. I might not be what you're looking for, but I might get lucky and strike gold. If you'd like to talk, then feel free to send me a message, you never know we might hit it off. If not then I hope you find what you're looking for. Anyway, hope to hear from you.''
But usually it's tailored to their profile. I'll pick something from a profile and use that as a baseline. "
Sounds good to me. |
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
Trouble is it really fucks it up for us nice guys as we cannot get a word in. |
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Trouble is it really fucks it up for us nice guys as we cannot get a word in."
No it doesn't. You just aren't wooing them with words that intrigue them. You failings in the main are down to how you conduct yourself, and maybe in part how nature has molded your sex appeal to those you seek. |
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view "
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view
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totally agree with this |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems.
Have you not found that couples and fems can be just as abrupt or lazy? We often get a one worded message from both groups which if they had read out profile, means we just won’t answer very frustration to us it time and effort and not corresponding and try’s by to build a rapport when it’s not reciprocated "
Yes, some women and couples seem to think they don't have to put in any effort, it's like pulling teeth at times. So definitely not just men who are guilty of this! |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it
And yet here you still are!
Well I wasn’t, I’ve been doing other things and just check in from time to time, you know?
Haven’t got time to waste today checking for replies
That whooshing sound was the point going over your head... "
I’m just going to move on and wait for an intelligent conversation |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it
And yet here you still are!
Well I wasn’t, I’ve been doing other things and just check in from time to time, you know?
Haven’t got time to waste today checking for replies
That whooshing sound was the point going over your head...
I’m just going to move on and wait for an intelligent conversation "
Buh-bye now! |
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"My first message is usually along the lines of...
''Hey, saw your profile, I liked what I saw / read, so I figured there's no harm in sending a message. I'm looking to meet new people, make some friends and have new experiences. I'm interested in getting to know you better. I might not be what you're looking for, but I might get lucky and strike gold. If you'd like to talk, then feel free to send me a message, you never know we might hit it off. If not then I hope you find what you're looking for. Anyway, hope to hear from you.''
But usually it's tailored to their profile. I'll pick something from a profile and use that as a baseline.
Sounds good to me. "
I've not had much luck with it yet though. |
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"Still amazes me how many complain about such behaviour
Just block and move on
You might enjoy having your time wasted, I don't.
This thread is a waste of time. Like the countless other threads just like it
And yet here you still are!
Well I wasn’t, I’ve been doing other things and just check in from time to time, you know?
Haven’t got time to waste today checking for replies
That whooshing sound was the point going over your head...
I’m just going to move on and wait for an intelligent conversation "
I'm going to read every single thread that moans about the behaviour of men, and then start s thread moaning about how tedious they are and a total waste of my time. |
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"It fucking baffles me, but bollocks to them, im not going to give them advice."
To some it's a sex site. They are looking for people who think the same. |
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They probably have sent out loads of well thought out well meaning messages tailored to people and profiles in the past and still had them deleted so now just get straight to the point.
For me it's not the message it's the pictures, if a guy looks good in his pictures I'd respond even if his message was shit. |
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"They probably have sent out loads of well thought out well meaning messages tailored to people and profiles in the past and still had them deleted so now just get straight to the point.
For me it's not the message it's the pictures, if a guy looks good in his pictures I'd respond even if his message was shit. "
Nah, some are just clueless. |
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"I am glad :o)
Don't get me wrong though, I didn't mean it is easy for females and just difficult for guys...
Courtesy and manners cost nothing but a little time.
The geeky me being into ls of tech things, I recently took part in a twitter chat where we were discussing the social impact of bots, and someone put the question out as to what are we likely to induce as new language behaviours in (younger) adults once the adoption of Amazon Echo or Google home is endemic.. I can see the analogy between this and previously well-typed mails vs text speak!
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Lost me at bots |
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didn't read the whole thread so appologies if it has been said before- but first messages are a great filter. just delete what you dont like.
if someone is after a quick fuck and go I wouldn't expect a long and thought trough message.
if someone is interested in meets with a bit more connection it will show in the message. I might have been increadibly lucky but I have had the chance to meet a couple of really nice people on here who knew what they wanted and were genuinely interested in me and my sexuality. |
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"They probably have sent out loads of well thought out well meaning messages tailored to people and profiles in the past and still had them deleted so now just get straight to the point.
For me it's not the message it's the pictures, if a guy looks good in his pictures I'd respond even if his message was shit. "
This is true.
I'd say this is true for everybody, that they to look at, and be honest in appraising themselves.
In many ways its like going to a job interview, you look your best, look and behave confident and you be honest. Groomed, assured and trustworthy people will always be successful, they will create a form of magnesium that people are drawn to. You get to make a good impression once, make your first content count.
I shouldn't need to say this but I will, take rejection on the chin and accept their response (or lack of) with good grace, you aren't for them and you've no business to know why.
Make the effort to write a profile that sells your true self. Have pictures that have some thought behind them. And above all message people with some imagination behind them.
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"It fucking baffles me, but bollocks to them, im not going to give them advice.
To some it's a sex site. They are looking for people who think the same. "
People aren't allowed to be looking for different things. It sends people crazy.  |
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"Many seem to think if you are on here you must be totally devoid of any standards, therefore they are entitled just by telling you what they want, its why we have them blocked and are now just looking for Couples or Fems.
Have you not found that couples and fems can be just as abrupt or lazy? We often get a one worded message from both groups which if they had read out profile, means we just won’t answer very frustration to us it time and effort and not corresponding and try’s by to build a rapport when it’s not reciprocated
Yes, some women and couples seem to think they don't have to put in any effort, it's like pulling teeth at times. So definitely not just men who are guilty of this! "
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view "
I think the first paragraph hits the nail right on the head. Society expects to communicate without talking face to face with others, so lose any interpersonal communication skills we may have had! Can't beat face to face communication! Makes interaction much more.fun, on many different levels! |
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"They probably have sent out loads of well thought out well meaning messages tailored to people and profiles in the past and still had them deleted so now just get straight to the point.
For me it's not the message it's the pictures, if a guy looks good in his pictures I'd respond even if his message was shit. "
Which was exactly my point.
It doesn't matter how well written or appropriate a message, if the face doesn't fit, the message, whether tailored and interesting won't get read.
But as I pointed out previously. We all have choice. Whether it's visual or wording of profiles or messages. Fab is a mix of what other people are looking for. Just be prepared to be disappointed. Whether from a message sent, recipient or sender. |
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view "
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over a year ago
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time..."
Tell me about it
Same guys who do the wanking Congo in clubs, then bitch about not getting meets or being asked to play. |
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By *azielMan
over a year ago
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I can't disagree. Most men on here are so rude and abrupt and as a guy it infuriates me. You ladies are often bombarded by these guys and understandly some of you get wound up. This creates an expectation and genuine guys who appreciate the intelligent and maybe emotional connection which contributes to "fore play" don't get a luck in. I haven't had a single reply despite being courteous and friendly. I appreciate I may not be everyones cup of tea but I can't help but feel my "brethren" are letting the side and me down. |
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time...
And then get angry if you decline that invite because you know nothing about them! "
And then tell you this is not Facebook and you should be on POF
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Creates an account on a swingers site, puts up explicit photos, publishes reviews from people who fucked her wonders why people don't want to chat about how your day was. Not saying that I'd use the blunt approach when talking to women on here, just saying at this stage you really shouldn't be surprised by that behaviour. |
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"Creates an account on a swingers site, puts up explicit photos, publishes reviews from people who fucked her wonders why people don't want to chat about how your day was. Not saying that I'd use the blunt approach when talking to women on here, just saying at this stage you really shouldn't be surprised by that behaviour."
Agreed |
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"Maybe I’ll start sending pics of my cookah to all the men with ‘wanna fuck’ see what response I get!"
This would be an interesting idea! Perhaps you would let us all know how many;
Message read, instantly deleted;
Message read, but ignored;
“Too far away”
“Too old”
“Not my type”
“Wow! You’re awesome! Let’s chat for weeks then let me disappear the second you suggest a meet”
.........you get?
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"Maybe I’ll start sending pics of my cookah to all the men with ‘wanna fuck’ see what response I get!
This would be an interesting idea! Perhaps you would let us all know how many;
Message read, instantly deleted;
Message read, but ignored;
“Too far away”
“Too old”
“Not my type”
“Wow! You’re awesome! Let’s chat for weeks then let me disappear the second you suggest a meet”
.........you get?
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Had a few awesome times from the message |
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"Maybe I’ll start sending pics of my cookah to all the men with ‘wanna fuck’ see what response I get!
This would be an interesting idea! Perhaps you would let us all know how many;
Message read, instantly deleted;
Message read, but ignored;
“Too far away”
“Too old”
“Not my type”
“Wow! You’re awesome! Let’s chat for weeks then let me disappear the second you suggest a meet”
.........you get?
Had a few awesome times from the message "
See? Works for women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone who has been on sites like the one with the hamster can't have failed to notice advert sidebars saying something like "Free sex contact site-just message local ladies and ask to fuck". And for the socially inept it's seen as how to behave on here.
Social interaction is quite limited for so many people these days. Loneliness statistics are shocking. And for some guys now they barely talk to a woman in a face to face social situation.
It's how the whole incel movement kicked off. "
Incel was started by a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think it’s just men, I think society has a whole is losing so called interpersonal skills. Partly caused in my opinion by ironically called social media. Instant gratification seems the norm now, google, Wikipedia etc has taken the place of intellectual research. No-one has to go to a library to find out something, if you want any type of food, it’s delivered in the hour.
BUT on the positive side, it makes those people who have manners, decorum and the ability to converse appear soo much more attractive to others. Just my view "
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"Creates an account on a swingers site, puts up explicit photos, publishes reviews from people who fucked her wonders why people don't want to chat about how your day was. Not saying that I'd use the blunt approach when talking to women on here, just saying at this stage you really shouldn't be surprised by that behaviour."
I don't have any pictures up, only a verification summary, clearly state I don't do same day meets and I still get faf messages. |
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"Are utterly devoid of social skills. How many can't be bothered to make even the bare basics of polite conversation before asking for sex and wonder why they don't get anywhere! They must enjoy wasting their time...
Tell me about it
Same guys who do the wanking Congo in clubs, then bitch about not getting meets or being asked to play. "
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"Anyone who has been on sites like the one with the hamster can't have failed to notice advert sidebars saying something like "Free sex contact site-just message local ladies and ask to fuck". And for the socially inept it's seen as how to behave on here.
Social interaction is quite limited for so many people these days. Loneliness statistics are shocking. And for some guys now they barely talk to a woman in a face to face social situation.
It's how the whole incel movement kicked off.
Incel was started by a woman."
Ok, clarification, it's how the current mysoginist strand of incel started off. |
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"Anyone who has been on sites like the one with the hamster can't have failed to notice advert sidebars saying something like "Free sex contact site-just message local ladies and ask to fuck". And for the socially inept it's seen as how to behave on here.
Social interaction is quite limited for so many people these days. Loneliness statistics are shocking. And for some guys now they barely talk to a woman in a face to face social situation.
It's how the whole incel movement kicked off.
Incel was started by a woman.
Ok, clarification, it's how the current mysoginist strand of incel started off. "
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