need some advise to handle this right from a girls point of view. After a long convasation re 3sums, my GF has asked for her first one, she knows she'll enjoy it, but is nervous what it will do to us after the event?? help please |
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When you say "what will it do to us" do you mean jealousy? You won't know til afterwards. A few thoughts, don't rush in to it, was it really just the one conversation. If so however long it was you probably need to revisit it. Probably several times. You need to talk about expectations and most of all about rules and boundaries. And you need to stick to them. If you do feel jealous afterwards it will be a whole lot worse of one of you overstepped an agreed mark.
And to throw a light curveball in to things, why a 3sum and not a 4sum? Personally I prefer a 4 sum far less scope for some to feel left out or that the other person is getting all the fun.
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Well nerves are understandable but personally we know what we are comfortable and what we arent happy with. If we feel it could cause problems we just dont do it. We know each other very well though and dont believe swinging fun is worth risking heartache over. |
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"When you say "what will it do to us" do you mean jealousy? You won't know til afterwards. A few thoughts, don't rush in to it, was it really just the one conversation. If so however long it was you probably need to revisit it. Probably several times. You need to talk about expectations and most of all about rules and boundaries. And you need to stick to them. If you do feel jealous afterwards it will be a whole lot worse of one of you overstepped an agreed mark.
And to throw a light curveball in to things, why a 3sum and not a 4sum? Personally I prefer a 4 sum far less scope for some to feel left out or that the other person is getting all the fun.
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It's a whole suitcase of worries, best talked about rather than bottling it up to erupt later on. If either one of you feels uncomfortable it's easy - abort mission, talk some more, and try again at another time... if the person you plan your threesome with is understanding, they'll help you through the delicate stages in the right way.
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