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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

Really that surprises me. Just had a look at your profile and looks great.

Possibly got cold feet but no excuse what so ever in just not turning up that's just plain rude I say

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we have been but we also have had great meets too

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk."

Not just couples...single ladies too...so bloody frustrating when you've given your time in chatting to them online and speaking to them on the phone and put other plans off in order to meet them then they dissapear on the day...arseholes!

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

Agree

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm only meeting people I've met before as I know they are reliable now x

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

Completely agree it's those idiots that spoil it for us genuine men on here I say. It does take time and planning for a meet for both parties and to simply message early enough on to say you can't make it for what ever reason is common courtesy I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here "

Exactly, it can ruin it for the genuine guys. On of our let downs was after weeks of chatting over WhatsApp, getting to know each other and establishing (in my mind at least) a connection, then on the day of the meet he was anonymous, not heard anything since. All that time and effort wasted!

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase.

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

Seriously??

I never believe any of these stories about let downs and time wasters. I just don’t see how it could possibly happen and in whose interest it could possibly be.

If you’ve exchanged a few messages with fellow members, seen that they are well verified and have spoken on the phone/cam to get a rapport I bet the number of occurrences of such are minimal.

I strongly suspect the complaints about let downs are from people who arrange meets quickly with new profiles, whose pictures make them improbably good looking/athletic (ie fake), and do so without is the usual due diligence.

If you’ve taken the time to make sure everything feels right, why the hell would anyone turn down the opportunity to have sex with you??!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

So true. We we’re on here a few years ago and it didn’t seem this difficult back then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

No one should spoil anything for anyone on here. How others go about their business shouldn't affect you and your success or otherwise on the site. Most decent genuine users know not to tar everyone with the same brush.

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By *hortfuseWoman over a year ago

Belfast

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

This!

Takes me ages to agree to meet now. I rarely make arrangements or put myself out. If I happen to be in the area and can stop for a social I will otherwise, No!

If I make arrangements and genuine can't meet for whatever reason, I will tell that person and not leave them hanging. It's common courtesy, have the balls to say you've changed your mind!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seriously??

I never believe any of these stories about let downs and time wasters. I just don’t see how it could possibly happen and in whose interest it could possibly be.

If you’ve exchanged a few messages with fellow members, seen that they are well verified and have spoken on the phone/cam to get a rapport I bet the number of occurrences of such are minimal.

If you’ve taken the time to make sure everything feels right, why the hell would anyone turn down the opportunity to have sex with you??!!"

You’d think so wouldn’t you, sadly not always the case! We certainly don’t rush things, weeks of getting to know each other, pictures are very real. Maybe we’re just unlucky

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

So true. We we’re on here a few years ago and it didn’t seem this difficult back then. "

This site certainly has changed as well I feel from yrs ago as well. I used to meet lots of couples n that and was a really good time. Now days seems more about fab my pics these days on here lol.

And manners have seem to of been forgotten by many as well

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By *iker boy 69Man over a year ago

midlands

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase. "

Having seen your profile id be willing to ride up to you and definitely not let you down. I dont get some guys, moan about not getting meets then dont turn up when get offe_ed one.

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple over a year ago

Stockport

"Seriously??

I never believe any of these stories about let downs and time wasters. I just don’t see how it could possibly happen and in whose interest it could possibly be.

If you’ve exchanged a few messages with fellow members, seen that they are well verified and have spoken on the phone/cam to get a rapport I bet the number of occurrences of such are minimal.

If you’ve taken the time to make sure everything feels right, why the hell would anyone turn down the opportunity to have sex with you??!!"

Clueless much?

We had it the other week.

It's called wank fantasists.

Got a guy messaging, got to arranging, made plans, exchanged a phone number, and then "okay be there in 30 mins" then blocked.

Obviously no subsequent reply to text messages.

And then, gone.

Can't remember the guys username - otherwise I would shame him / them now.

Happened a few times.

And we aren't a new profile.

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

How long did you speak to them on the phone for?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This also makes it even more difficult to meet people when you have no veris. I can completely understand that mode of thought though.

“If verified people turn out to be time wasters, let’s not even think about the unveried!”

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By *ddibleMan over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

To be honest after being a member on this site as part of a couple and as a single it's about equal. I'd say about 1 in 5 of the people I chat are a let down.

As a single I find it more so from couple but I've put that down to them either getting a better offer or it's one of the couple is more keen than the other.

Annoying as it is I don't let it get to me it's a part of life and I'm sure they have their reasons. Far too many great people on here to make a difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We got let down Thursday night first time in a while though as we mostly tend to stick with people we already know these days.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"This also makes it even more difficult to meet people when you have no veris. I can completely understand that mode of thought though.

“If verified people turn out to be time wasters, let’s not even think about the unveried!”"

often the verifications are false have seen many on here offering incentives for verifications!

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"How long did you speak to them on the phone for? "

Why do you think that talking on the phone makes any difference ?

We’ve had plenty of meets and never once spoken to anyone on the phone .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never let anyone down myself but been let down multiple times, both by couples and single women. Particularly frustrating when you have booked a hotel and planned the meet long in advance, with multiple messages and chat. In general, spur of the moment things seem to work out better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase. "

Same thing exactly has happened to me recently

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

How many times have you been ‘let down’ after you have built up a proper rapport on the phone.

Seems like a pretty good discriminator to me. If you can’t for some reason talk about it, why would you be likely to turn up?

I didn’t say it increases the chance that someone will come. But perhaps you’ll be more suspicious that they may not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

What? You haven't figu_ed out that they are nearly all married or partne_ed it isn't rocket science you know

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple over a year ago

Stockport

"How long did you speak to them on the phone for? "

For every knob head there's a couple that that happily replace him.

Perhaps its different for you as a single guy, but for us as a couple, we get to be choosers, not beggars.

So. On we moved and went.

No great shakes, but when you are trying to have spontaneous fun, taking the spontaneity out of it kills the buzz.

But to basically making a statement that's pretty much untrue in the vast majority of instances is the issue here.

Flames

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

That's because single men on here are spoiling it for the real people we don't meet men anyway, but it spoils everything.

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

That's because single men on here are spoiling it for the real people we don't meet men anyway, but it spoils everything."

Not all single men are spoiling it. I have been let down in the past by couples and single women.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple over a year ago

My House

We've been let down a few times, more often when it's hotel meets, though it has happened when we're arranged club meets. We still get our fun regardless, it's their loss so we just block and move on.

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By *hatterley64Couple over a year ago

Hertford

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk."
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Your guess is as good as ours!

But yes too often! Although been let down by ‘couples’ also...

Good ones outweigh the bad ones though fortunately!!!!

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

That's because single men on here are spoiling it for the real people we don't meet men anyway, but it spoils everything.

Not all single men are spoiling it. I have been let down in the past by couples and single women."

There's a better than average chance they were single men posing as women, or couple.

We thought we could spot the fakes, and 90% we do, but a few have wheedled themselves into our inbox, they've eventually get caught out but thats the reality of what these losers have to offer here.

Until say a £25-30 joining fee here is applied, there is a good chance of this being just as problematic for a good while yet. Even that wouldn't stop them all, but would go some way to _educing this issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It annoys me to see couples being let down but I do see it a lot on here...very frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk."

No never

We have had spur of the moment meets with guys we have met before but I can chat to guys for many weeks before we meet them and never do sex chat so they tend to be genuine as they aren't getting wank fodder and the they keep the chat going. Can't see a guy chatting for that long if they have no intention of meeting. It works for us x

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM) over a year ago

Reading

The reality is ( and anyone who has been on here long enough will know)the site is a total minefield of fakes and fantasists. You just have to accept it and try learn to spot the warning signs . Single guys , couples , single ladies, there are timewasters among them all in equal measure. That said every now and then something comes off really well and it makes all the shit endu_ed worthwhile. It takes literally years to figure out how this site really works and even then someone will still take you for a ride . Accept it and move on

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"The reality is ( and anyone who has been on here long enough will know)the site is a total minefield of fakes and fantasists. You just have to accept it and try learn to spot the warning signs . Single guys , couples , single ladies, there are timewasters among them all in equal measure. That said every now and then something comes off really well and it makes all the shit endu_ed worthwhile. It takes literally years to figure out how this site really works and even then someone will still take you for a ride . Accept it and move on "

Agreed totally

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't engage in sex chat, pic swaps or take things off fab. This helps to sort them out. Most just want wank fodder, so don't give it to them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

These threads always bemuse me. I don’t know what we do that’s different, but we have never been let down like this via Fab. We don’t meet new men very often, so when we do meet it’s because we all want to meet. But they always turn up and nearly always result in play. And we’ve been using Fab for over 3 years. So no. We think single guys are pretty good. Well in our experience anyway.

Mrs

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"These threads always bemuse me. I don’t know what we do that’s different, but we have never been let down like this via Fab. We don’t meet new men very often, so when we do meet it’s because we all want to meet. But they always turn up and nearly always result in play. And we’ve been using Fab for over 3 years. So no. We think single guys are pretty good. Well in our experience anyway.

Mrs"

Three years ago things were very different on here . Even two years ago they were nowhere near as bad as things are currently .

I don’t know if you guys started off just meeting at clubs and parties , and having repeat meets , but that’s a huge part of the reason you don’t get issues .

We like to meet new people rather than have repeats , nor we don’t go to parties or clubs . And we get at least 50% time wasters . This compares to 10% seven years ago , and creeping up year in year .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Three years ago things were very different on here . Even two years ago they were nowhere near as bad as things are currently .

I don’t know if you guys started off just meeting at clubs and parties , and having repeat meets , but that’s a huge part of the reason you don’t get issues .

We started off by advertising on Craig’s List. We were desperate to find a regular guy. We had a few bail on us a short notice. And a lot of disastrous meets. So we moved over to Fab and it work so much better, largely due to the verification system. It’s true we only meet about 3 new guys privately in a year, so few numbers probably _educes error.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

Do couples get let down by single men alot?

You bet! A shocking amount.

Our experience is that a LOT of men are happy to go only as far as the online flirting/chat and either bottle it when faced with a real meet, or had no intention of taking it 'real world'.

And we are VERY accommodating. We are prepa_ed to travel AND stump up for the hotel room.

However, the amount of let downs is making us reassess our approach. From now on we're going to insist the men put the leg work in.

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By *ddibleMan over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

"Do couples get let down by single men alot?

You bet! A shocking amount.

Our experience is that a LOT of men are happy to go only as far as the online flirting/chat and either bottle it when faced with a real meet, or had no intention of taking it 'real world'.

And we are VERY accommodating. We are prepa_ed to travel AND stump up for the hotel room.

However, the amount of let downs is making us reassess our approach. From now on we're going to insist the men put the leg work in."

as a single guy I am starting to think that more needs to be done to put off the idiots, fantasists w@nkers from joining. Same can be said for the couples and women that do the same (if they're not just men pretending)

This site is getting more and more negative, and this is obvious just by reading some of your profiles

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"Do couples get let down by single men alot?

You bet! A shocking amount.

Our experience is that a LOT of men are happy to go only as far as the online flirting/chat and either bottle it when faced with a real meet, or had no intention of taking it 'real world'.

And we are VERY accommodating. We are prepa_ed to travel AND stump up for the hotel room.

However, the amount of let downs is making us reassess our approach. From now on we're going to insist the men put the leg work in.

This site is getting more and more negative, and this is obvious just by reading some of your profiles"

More needs to be done is spot on , and that’s not difficult when absolutely nothing is done at present .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've tried this and ok for a couple of times then they leave or find a gf or just go for a better offer or can't be arsed to drive. The excuses we've heard phah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When we joined the site 4 years ago we had no problems but recently it's been a nightmare. So many dreamers on here or they lose their horn so no longer keen to meet. We're finding they think they're doing us a favour so expect us to fit in with their plans. We get bombarded with messages to meet but when give dates they are unavailable. It's hard to find genuine guys on the site now. Although if I wasn't so fussy I may have more luck.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"When we joined the site 4 years ago we had no problems but recently it's been a nightmare. So many dreamers on here or they lose their horn so no longer keen to meet. We're finding they think they're doing us a favour so expect us to fit in with their plans. We get bombarded with messages to meet but when give dates they are unavailable. It's hard to find genuine guys on the site now. Although if I wasn't so fussy I may have more luck."

Stay fussy , never lower your standards

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By *G CoupleCouple over a year ago

kent

Used to get let down loads but learnt from it.

Don’t arrange meets any more so no more let downs

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

Stay fussy , never lower your standards

Absolutely!

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By *expuss2015Woman over a year ago

Planet Sex

I’m a single female and was suppose to meet a guy last Friday after chatting for a week but the guy didn’t contact me with regards to where and still haven’t heard off him!!

Today a guy messaged me regarding a meet tonight so told me his address and time - I turned up and guess what ...... no answer to the door!!!! He messaged me 10 mins ago saying couldn’t get a taxi back from where he was! Was he on the moon or something. Shame really as he had some good veries.

His loss - I came home and got a bottle of wine lol

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By *ddibleMan over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Stay fussy , never lower your standards

Absolutely!"

Well said

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By *ooneyloubylouWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

Yes...countless times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes we do but the genuine ones make up for it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love meeti_g couples and if invited to therrs I always turn up and never cancel

There's no reason too really

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By *inkyfun2013Couple over a year ago

lewisham

We decided not to do the picture swap/ online chat with single guys because so many people report problems with fantasists.

Last year we fancied a change and decided to try to meet a single fella. Someone contacted us so met the guy for a social, got on well, set a date to play. On the night before we all confirmed time etc, all good. On the day, sent address... no reply. Never showed up, no call, nothing. 4 hours later he texted to say he was at work 50 odd miles away and when where we meeting...?!

A few weeks later he contacted us to see if we fancied meeting up. Blocked him.

EXACTLY the same thing happened with another guy a month later. And he even knew about the first guy and promised he wasn't a timewaster! So now we don't meet solo guys unless they're from couples we've met.

It's a shame, but that's how we have to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seriously??

I never believe any of these stories about let downs and time wasters. I just don’t see how it could possibly happen and in whose interest it could possibly be.

If you’ve exchanged a few messages with fellow members, seen that they are well verified and have spoken on the phone/cam to get a rapport I bet the number of occurrences of such are minimal.

If you’ve taken the time to make sure everything feels right, why the hell would anyone turn down the opportunity to have sex with you??!!"

Erm you’d be surprised

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By *ingAlMan over a year ago

hereford

No shows should be named and shamed

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By *elbyfuntimes OP Man over a year ago

Selby

"No shows should be named and shamed"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been invited to a couples home , knocked the door ,curtains moved and no answer ,TV clearly on and rang from outside ,no answer yet can hear phone ringing in house ,lights go out in house and a wasted journey and part of evening

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By *leasureherCouple over a year ago

Walsall

We only meet single p_edominantly black guys and due to the amount of timewasters, messers, wannabes and fakes we stopped doing normal meets and started 6 years ago only meeting in clubs and at parties.

Occasionaly we will try a regular meet but 9 times out of 10 it's a timewaster.

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By *inky kissersCouple over a year ago

South East

Have had this issue with both couples and single ladies. Messages and calls, arrange a meet then nothing.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Seriously??

I never believe any of these stories about let downs and time wasters. I just don’t see how it could possibly happen and in whose interest it could possibly be.

If you’ve exchanged a few messages with fellow members, seen that they are well verified and have spoken on the phone/cam to get a rapport I bet the number of occurrences of such are minimal.

If you’ve taken the time to make sure everything feels right, why the hell would anyone turn down the opportunity to have sex with you??!!"

So true. In all our years on here, we've only ever had one letdown/no show. (Apparently he fell down a rabbit hole while golfing with his boss and broke his ankle

) Every other meet (lots of them being single guys) has always turned up, as have we when we've met at other venues. Saying that, we are always late though as P's a nightmare at time management

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So many fantasists on here which are mainly fake couple profiles. I'd hedge my bets and say more singles are let down by couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had a single guy not turn up for a meet but about 90% fail along the way lol

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By *isty286Couple over a year ago

Dorset

We mostly stopped inviting single guys to watch us, because of the constant messing about and lame excuses, so many of them are always posting,"would love to watch a couple" but when we put it on a plate, suddenly the dog has eaten thier car keys or something equally lame.

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By *p4funCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"We mostly stopped inviting single guys to watch us, because of the constant messing about and lame excuses, so many of them are always posting,"would love to watch a couple" but when we put it on a plate, suddenly the dog has eaten thier car keys or something equally lame.

Our top three no shows were

Sorry i got called into work

think i had the wrong day and time

I thought you were fake was my favourite

They were just for social meets too oh well life goes on

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Compa_ed to ten years ago yes. To the point where we are starting not to bother. We like Home meets but it’s a lot of effort for all the messing around,so clubs are more our thing now.

Like someone else said, I like meeting new guys as well as guys we already know, but the calibre of people on here isn’t all that which is reflected in the lack of standards Fab requires to be on here. Put shit in and you get shit out.

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

Single men on the whole are just a let down. They go UNLOS constantly or don't turn up. Spend hours moaning on here they can't get laid yet never turn up.

Even for organised socials they message saying they'd love to attend but not without a plus 1 as they couldn't possibly walk into a pub without someone holding their hand

They're bloody ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completely let down more times than turn up

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple over a year ago

Lust

Been let down a few times in the past, which has made us a lot more wary when messaging single guys. Which in itself is a shame, as we’re sure there’s plenty of genuine guys that would meet us, but the process of ing out the fakers and dreamers is becoming more of a hassle as of late.

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton

Bloody hell, if I was playing Single Guy forum bingo then I'd have won the national jackpot with this one.

It's simple *a large amount* of Single men on here fall into one or more of the following categories:

Not single

Socially inept

Seeking instant gratification

Privacy paranoid

Seeking the chase

I'm on here with a trans profile, and also until recently with a couples profile. I've also worked in the sex industry. And I've learned that the first three of those categories are present many of the guys here.

They are married/attached. Don't know how to flirt or chat to people when sex is a possibility, and only have a few hours free while the wife is out so don't want to actually have to waste that time with things like effort. So it's only ever at your place, now, no talking, fuck, go. Delete profile after. Not arrange to meet next week, as wife may not be out. Never at his place. Never in the evening/weekend.

The truly single ones who are privacy paranoids (usually closet bisexuals/fabstraights) won't do socials unless it's 100miles away. Just in case they see their brothers wife's sisters best friend while they are out, and have a panic attack about explaining why they are chatting to someone.

And the ones seeking the chase are what you'd call time wasters. The ones who get off on making the arrangements. They set the date then wank themselves silly thinking "what will she wear? what will we do?"

The looking to meet function on this site is appalling. Mainly you get contacted by one or more of those categories. It's pointless.

Advice, go to clubs and socials. Meet the ones who can make the effort to do that and you've eliminated a few categories already. But above all, make better choices or stop moaning about it.

And guys, no one owes you a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been let down more times than we've had successful meets with single guys.

We always put statuses or meets up when were free specifying what were looking for, so they will be the ones that make initial contact, but they still don't turn up.

I think its a case of not doing well with the single ladies, so opt for a couple, but when it comes to it they are intimidated by the male part of the couples presence and don't turn up. Some try the whole dirty chat thing with me - but I take that as a wanker from the off, keep to facts of what we've done/enjoy and don't get graphic so they're left short of wank material - they can either then come try it and fill their wank bank or find someone willing to waste time on a wanker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

I'd be there in a shot!!

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple over a year ago

Lust

"Been let down a few times in the past, which has made us a lot more wary when messaging single guys. Which in itself is a shame, as we’re sure there’s plenty of genuine guys that would meet us, but the process of ing out the fakers and dreamers is becoming more of a hassle as of late."

What? We can’t say W.E.E.D.I.N.G. ? Slightly overkill on the filters there isn’t it?

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By *inchyorksMan over a year ago

huddersfield

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

Gutted I'm 43!!! lol

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

Mrs

Three years ago things were very different on here . Even two years ago they were nowhere near as bad as things are currently .

I don’t know if you guys started off just meeting at clubs and parties , and having repeat meets , but that’s a huge part of the reason you don’t get issues .

Your profile is looking for mf and not guys but here your meeting single guys

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple over a year ago

Northwest

This has happened to us too, but we have also had some really good meets,I guess some do just get cold feet or you have the fantasists, don't let it put you off though, there is some amazing single guys on here, keep smiling and always have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

mf couple virgin here... feel free to contact me i wont let you down!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Single men on the whole are just a let down. They go UNLOS constantly or don't turn up. Spend hours moaning on here they can't get laid yet never turn up.

Even for organised socials they message saying they'd love to attend but not without a plus 1 as they couldn't possibly walk into a pub without someone holding their hand

They're bloody ridiculous "

that is because i have found that they think "social" is codeword for orgy... and when they find out that social actually means socialising, they think of it as maximum effort for minimal reward, and if they aint getting the rewards there and then, they aren't interested

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Bloody hell, if I was playing Single Guy forum bingo then I'd have won the national jackpot with this one.

It's simple *a large amount* of Single men on here fall into one or more of the following categories:

Not single

Socially inept

Seeking instant gratification

Privacy paranoid

Seeking the chase

The looking to meet function on this site is appalling. Mainly you get contacted by one or more of those categories. It's pointless.

Advice, go to clubs and socials. Meet the ones who can make the effort to do that and you've eliminated a few categories already. But above all, make better choices or stop moaning about it.

And guys, no one owes you a reply.

The privacy paranoids are hilarious. We had one young guy who wouldn't meet us in a local pub unless someone he knew saw him. We pointed out that the last thing any civilian seeing him out with a middle aged couple would think was that it was a sex date. Tell them it's your cousin and his wife visiting from Yorkshire or whatever. They'd believe it.

He wasn't having it...

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Not all single guys of course. There are some men-icorns out there. But those decent guys are high in demand or in danger of changing status to couple, which is what happened to Sir.

I have sometimes wonde_ed if HMPs have issued fab apps to its guests, because there are a high proportion of guys wanting pen pals.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i also think that single men are sometimes an easy target for threads like this, just solely because of the amount of them.... but i do think that couples and single women are as culpable at wasting peoples time as single men!

and again, and i hate to say this... if people thought with their brains more and their nether regions less... then less of this would happen, because people would have better ways of selecting potential playmates....

socials, phone calls, taking more time to talk to people just than just instant meets, going to clubs where you get more chance to make decisions, ect ect ect...

not saying they are all right... just saying they are all avenues!

I like to pride myself on being here since almost the start... and yet the amount of times i have been stung by "timewasters" i can count on one hand.....

and a lot of it is down to common sense... if something to quite feel right... either keep talking till it does, or walk away! basic common sense and _ed flags for example.....

sometimes people need to look at what they are doing and how are the going thru their processes as much as looking at the people who are deceiving them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was constantly getting let down I'd look at the common denominator which is me, not others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My last two let downs were couples, last time I was just parking car when they mailed and said that they already had someone over so I was not wanted.someone else complaint next day. So they were mailing a few people and the 1st one that turned up was lucky.

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By *nddyoneMan over a year ago

bicester

Fab getting very bad for time wasters

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"So many fantasists on here which are mainly fake couple profiles. I'd hedge my bets and say more singles are let down by couples.

I'll take that bet. The ratios of single men to couples/women makes it a clear favourite by miles.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"i also think that single men are sometimes an easy target for threads like this, just solely because of the amount of them.... but i do think that couples and single women are as culpable at wasting peoples time as single men!

socials, phone calls, taking more time to talk to people just than just instant meets, going to clubs where you get more chance to make decisions, ect ect ect...

not saying they are all right... just saying they are all avenues!

I like to pride myself on being here since almost the start... and yet the amount of times i have been stung by "timewasters" i can count on one hand.....

and a lot of it is down to common sense... if something to quite feel right... either keep talking till it does, or walk away! basic common sense and _ed flags for example.....

sometimes people need to look at what they are doing and how are the going thru their processes as much as looking at the people who are deceiving them

As always you post a good common sense reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I used to put meets up but don't really bother anymore, the only ones that contact are the can't make it's and the I know I'm not what you're looking fors.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

.....although on a positive note it makes things easier in some respects for the men who have good reputations, as hopefully their good name gets mentioned by those who have met them - but it does taint all men to some degree as well.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

Thank god for those who don't! Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. Many of them are cheating so either have to run home to their wives or lose heart. We have one regular, reliable guy and he’s a breath of fresh air. Could do with more though.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

That's because single men on here are spoiling it for the real people we don't meet men anyway, but it spoils everything."

......just not all of us!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

That's because single men on here are spoiling it for the real people we don't meet men anyway, but it spoils everything.

......just not all of us!

Agreed. Not all guys are the same and meeting a good one is a real treat, in more ways than one.

We also don’t think that the site “has become crap”. There isn’t a way of assessing people in advance other than reading verifications & profiles, speaking on the phone and giving it a go. In “real” life it’s exactly the same: people are often disappointing. We don’t expect anything different on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Usually single guys are very reliable!!

They are two a penny so are always keen to get a real meet!!

Most say that they don’t even get a reply to message s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i see a fair few couples posting meets for males and when you apply it says single males blocked or site supporters only ......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase. "

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never let anyone down myself but been let down multiple times, both by couples and single women. Particularly frustrating when you have booked a hotel and planned the meet long in advance, with multiple messages and chat. In general, spur of the moment things seem to work out better."

Spur of the moment works better for me also....

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples."

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

only you effect you... no one else! so be that a better profile, or a better at selling yourself and why people should pick you, or better communication, or just looking yourself in the mirror and bluntly asking yourself "what can i do better?"

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!"

Exactly this. How others behave on here has no impact on your success or otherwise on this site.

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By *hotographer 30Man over a year ago

rochdale

Been let down loads all sexes hav meet a few but when they are asking for pics n vids is a worse getting equipment ready.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!

Exactly this. How others behave on here has no impact on your success or otherwise on this site. "

So if that’s the case , why have we got a thread with over 100 posts which in the main bemoans single guys ?

Simple reason is that the huge % of them that let people down leaves us thinking they are all the same . So the impact on the good guys that do show up is negative , and the impact on those single guys looking for a meet is also negative . Thus , a negative from the off because of the behaviour of the others .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase.

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples."

I don’t really get why the existence of timewasters makes it more difficult for genuine guys to get meets. Unless the view is that women and couples are no longer meeting at all because of timewasters? We will meet a genuine single guy from time to time. We would not meet more genuine guys if there were no timewasters, and we would not give a larger portion of genuine guys a chance if timewasters didn’t exist. If anything, the reason we don’t give a lot of genuine guys a chance is because we are already quite busy with other genuine guys. Certainly not because of timewasters though, which we personally haven’t experienced on Fab.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had an issue with single guys. I know they aren't all the same as do most decent people. I'd actually say the timewasters, or whatever you like to call them, make the genuine guys stand out more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been let down by a couple of ladies after travelling to the agreed place. No show, no apology ...

I've also chatted to couples and as we moved towards finalising details it turns out I need to fit in with their needs and pay the bills ...

And sometimes there are genuine reasons for calling off a meet. A simple explanation and apology is what's needed.

So let's not brand any one group as better than another ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive not had any trouble being let down by single men. I fairly well trust my 'vetting' process now. But I dont meet many or that quickly. Im sure, with law of averages, if I was rattling through the profiles there would be let downs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive not had any trouble being let down by single men. I fairly well trust my 'vetting' process now. But I dont meet many or that quickly. Im sure, with law of averages, if I was rattling through the profiles there would be let downs. "

And Im not a couple,should read the title really

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We had 3 let downs on the bounce when we first started looking to meet single guys, nearly put us off. If it wasn't for a friends recommendation of a guy we would have given up trying. All 3 guys had veri's and we chatted/messaged them for weeks, first one was honest and said he had bottled it on the day, he did try to rearrange later that night but was a no from us, another just never came back online when date was arranged and one we think was in a relationship as was being a bit sketchy but thankfully it was just a bad start as we have not had a problem since the first three attempts. Although we don't meet that often those that we have met have all been great guys

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've never had an issue with single guys. I know they aren't all the same as do most decent people. I'd actually say the timewasters, or whatever you like to call them, make the genuine guys stand out more. "

That last part is so brilliant to read! It confirms everything I hope is true. X

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!

Exactly this. How others behave on here has no impact on your success or otherwise on this site.

So if that’s the case , why have we got a thread with over 100 posts which in the main bemoans single guys ?

Also confirms that the guys who go to socials and have a good reputation having met in person tend to get noticed. It's also noticeable by the views from my preference groups, plus the quality of my verifications, that it's about having high standards and sticking to them that eventually wins the day - and it's not about being an adonis, but a decent, respectful person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

they let single ladies down to

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By *eovilcouple76Couple over a year ago

yeovil

Had more let downs than successful meets. Got let down by 12 guys in one night after arranging a private bukkke session. Doesn’t give you much hope.

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By *traight up guyMan over a year ago

Morpeth

"they let single ladies down to"

...and single ladies let men down as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usually single guys are very reliable!!

They are two a penny so are always keen to get a real meet!!

Most say that they don’t even get a reply to message s "

We have single males blocked because of so many sending demanding messages and one liners we prefer to initiate contact with single males

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By *D835Man over a year ago

London

socials, phone calls, taking more time to talk to people just than just instant meets, going to clubs where you get more chance to make decisions, ect ect ect...

not saying they are all right... just saying they are all avenues!

I like to pride myself on being here since almost the start... and yet the amount of times i have been stung by "timewasters" i can count on one hand.....

and a lot of it is down to common sense... if something to quite feel right... either keep talking till it does, or walk away! basic common sense and _ed flags for example.....

sometimes people need to look at what they are doing and how are the going thru their processes as much as looking at the people who are deceiving them

This

Selection criteria plays an important part when addressing this issue.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

We've never let anyone down, but have been let down on several occasions. Our ratio of letdowns to meets currently stands at 5:1.

And we are very accommodating. We prefer to travel to them (we don't want to play close to home), and we book the hotels. Basically we lay it on a plate.

The most common result is silence and a no show on the day, even if we've all 'shook hands' the night before. Then a week or so later we get the inevitable "Sorry, my aardvark was taken ill" excuse.

We don't have it in us to let anyone down. We're not that type. We clear our diaries, sort everything out in advance etc, so our planned meets have been 100% nailed on.

But if we ever DID have a genuine reason that stopped us from meeting we'd have the decency to let the guy know and we'd look to reschedule. From our experience single guys don't reciprocate with the same decency.

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By *tuart4u2kMan over a year ago

Wakefield

When invited I always attend, I cannot beleive anyone would cancel

I have met a few couples in the past and loved every minute of it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to your question up, yes, I reckon lots bale out.

But how many single guys truly want to just skip past the dude and meet with the lady on her own ???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

That’s an inc_edible statistic , you’re only into meeting single guys and haven’t had a successful meet yet ?

Shocking , and a sad reflection of how crap the site has become .

Yes quite shocked at that as well.

Can't weigh in on this as it doesn't apply to me.

I have had last minute cancellations and disappear which are quite annoying but I don't think too much about it. Now I rely on reviews from others and my gut.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!

Exactly this. How others behave on here has no impact on your success or otherwise on this site. "

Another here who agrees with that, if we don't get meets its not down to other couple letting down our wish to meet fabber. Its is something about us they don't like, or doesn't work for them.

This is why we are more and more persuaded that club meets are the way forward for us. Yes it means spending a good few quid, but the appeal of seeing people in the flesh and selling yourself through personality and developing a rapport has always yielded more positive results.

There have been meet up there where we, or the other people have been off the radar profile wise (and those we've never even seen) but inn real life, they are the real deal as people. Like ourselves, maybe they don't have a great pitch, but underneath all the less than great pictures and words are great people.

So if the no-shows are denting your confidence or you are finding the time taken for meets is being wasted, go to a club and SEE real people who are committed into having a fun night, and maybe some sex too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was let down myself this morning a quick meeting etc. I mailed and stood around in the rain and it was a couple. Not happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately most times we arrange a meet

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By *cd and scruffCouple over a year ago

Rochester

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "
we get a bad name because of these guys

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By *edMan over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Maybe the site could introduce a star rating system bit like Amazon etc, along with the verifications.

So, the people that don't turn up once in a blue moon for a genuine reason wouldn't be marked down as much as someone, or ones, that never turn up?

Would also limit any malicious scoring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

I've been on and off this site for a few years.

Have had a few last minute cancellations from couples and single ladies and on one occasion had to withdraw from a meet because of a late notice work commitment. Do it politely and with as much notice as possible and you retain the trust and friendship.

Sometimes things get in the way of play that are simply unavoidable.

Most successful meets have been easy to arrange with minimum chat/messages.

Lots of backward and forward messaging is a big _ed flag to me, they are usually hedging their bets and let you down at the last minute

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple over a year ago

Northwest

"mf couple virgin here... feel free to contact me i wont let you down!"

Hahaha brilliant

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I agree. It makes it so much harder for us genuine guys to meet up with women or couples.

i hate this line because it is a kop out answer...

at the end of the day.... you don't effect me and i don't effect you!

Exactly this. How others behave on here has no impact on your success or otherwise on this site.

Another here who agrees with that, if we don't get meets its not down to other couple letting down our wish to meet fabber. Its is something about us they don't like, or doesn't work for them.

100% agree! I've started going to a really great social recently and was talking with some fantastic people within minutes of arriving. Building a network of people who know you isnt that hard to do. Make an effort, be genuine and have a bit of class and anything's possible. Just sitting on here relies on someone taking a chance on a relatively small pen picture.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Usually single guys are very reliable!!

They are two a penny so are always keen to get a real meet!!

Most say that they don’t even get a reply to message s

We have single males blocked because of so many sending demanding messages and one liners we prefer to initiate contact with single males "

It always makes me laugh (and cringe) when I hear of single guys sending one-liners, or poor opening gambits. As a pretty average guy I have had a reasonable level of success by making an effort to be engaging, respectful, decent company and worth getting to know, without any demands, expectations or any sense of entitlement. Having folks get to know you in person socially helps a lot too.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

"Had more let downs than successful meets. Got let down by 12 guys in one night after arranging a private bukkke session. Doesn’t give you much hope. "

That’s insane especially when you see your pictures stunning I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"mf couple virgin here... feel free to contact me i wont let you down!

Hahaha brilliant

Is that what you leave as a verification ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We’ve only been let down once. We’ve got a fabulous regular now if any couples near Northampton want a recommendation for a real gem.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

If folks are getting let down on a regular basis then I'd suggest a change in their selection and vetting processes. One no show in 6 years for us and not every meet we have is with verified fabbers either.

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By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

We first meet at Clubs, quite often couples, single guys and single girls ‘can’t make it’, which is fair enough - we then see who we click with and then if we subsequently arrange a meet outside of the club we get a 100% hit rate.

Given we meet rarely, it just works for us to go to clubs, even if noone takes our fancy, we can have a damn good time on our own

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

From personal experience mf couples are the group most likely to let single males down, especially with virtually zero notice, usually because they get a better offer I suspect.

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By *imandher14Couple over a year ago

Earth

Had a arranged meet with a single he bottled it and drove away then messaged us saying his head is done in can't meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never been let down by a single guy ever. Been let down by flakey females a lot. Never been let down by a couple either come to think of it. Lexi

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I've always wonde_ed how often do couples get let down by single men.

Do you think they get sca_ed and love the idea of it but can't actually go through with it.

Or are some men just a waist of time talk the talk but can't walk the walk."

Both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've stopped actively looking. It's hard enough trying to find a decent bi guy that we believe ticks the right boxes. When you do so and arrange a meet. they either go UNLOS or make excuses. This has even been guys that have verifications. Very frustrating when we've been gea_ed up for meets after chatting a while.

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We've stopped actively looking. It's hard enough trying to find a decent bi guy that we believe ticks the right boxes. When you do so and arrange a meet. they either go UNLOS or make excuses. This has even been guys that have verifications. Very frustrating when we've been gea_ed up for meets after chatting a while."
That is so frustrating. Oh really don't understand why guys do that.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Just have to find good reliable 1's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've not been invited to meet anyone yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did not know its that bad with some single men which gives genuine single men a bad name but in all fairness sum of them are here to play mind games due to most couples and females looking for the prefect men i would say so most men play the revenge game to get back at people.

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By *igger1952Man over a year ago

Paphos Cyprus.

Hi. I play as a single guy. I always meet when I say I will. BUT. I must say that there are a lot of fake profiles on here. Profiles say they are couples even with photos of both. But when arranged to meet they either don’t turn up or just the guy turns up saying his partner is ill or could not come. SO. please don’t put the blame just on single guys. I live in Cyprus and always meet couples who visit for holidays. Had many a successful meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did not know its that bad with some single men which gives genuine single men a bad name but in all fairness sum of them are here to play mind games due to most couples and females looking for the prefect men i would say so most men play the revenge game to get back at people.

Please explain this revenge game..

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

As a single lady I have had to let people down a number of times due to childcare issues but always explain when a problem arises that could cause issues. I have had single guys and couples let me down which is always sad but it happens sometimes.

I had discussed a social meet tonight but the person in the last few messages seemed to respond to messages except the one about me asking if we still hoped to meet up as wasnt far from his ratger than him having to travel further another time ti halfway.

I often get little time to meet so it makes it annoying when I could have had a quick social.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

everyone gets let down.

sometimes is for genuine reasons.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple over a year ago

Blandford ish

We did last week.... I wouldn’t have minded if I just got a message saying sorry I’ve changed my mind or any excuse it got to me because I just got blocked on the day we were meeting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had loads. 12 in last month alone

Some single men profile boasts how big their cock is and how long they can last blah blah and when it comes to meet, they just chicken out lol

Guess they fear for their personal safety. Wonder why r they hear?

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By *en474Man over a year ago

antrim

It works both ways though, I have been let down by couples, either a no show( not turning up ) or being wound up, I've booked hotel rooms, and driven miles, only to be let down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

YES!

Many men here are just after a quick shag, they are not prepa_ed to put in any effort whatsoever!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We had loads. 12 in last month alone

Some single men profile boasts how big their cock is and how long they can last blah blah and when it comes to meet, they just chicken out lol

Guess they fear for their personal safety. Wonder why r they hear?"

Because people give them wank fodder.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"We had loads. 12 in last month alone

Some single men profile boasts how big their cock is and how long they can last blah blah and when it comes to meet, they just chicken out lol

Guess they fear for their personal safety. Wonder why r they hear?"

Not doing anything (like the fact they aren't where they said they'd be, and doing what they said they'd be doing) pretty much guarantees they're not gonna cum quickly

So on that point they are right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massively in our experience, which is one of the reasons we don't meet anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had loads. 12 in last month alone

Some single men profile boasts how big their cock is and how long they can last blah blah and when it comes to meet, they just chicken out lol

Guess they fear for their personal safety. Wonder why r they hear?

Because people give them wank fodder. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It works both ways though, I have been let down by couples, either a no show( not turning up ) or being wound up, I've booked hotel rooms, and driven miles, only to be let down "

That's bit harsh.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I get let down by Camelot on a regular basis

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I get let down by Camelot on a regular basis"

Haha should know better than to believe that they will come good but there you go...

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By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

Some couples are unbelievably thick or just being completely naive!

If I was to communicate on here with a lady or a couple I tread with caution, I expect them to be false and full of crap! Especially if they are drop dead gorgeous!

Couples whine that the singles did this or did that to upset them but most of the “singles” are false profiles just for wank tank refills , I believe lots of single lady profiles and indeed couples are false too.

So don’t come on here expecting a 11” cock, gym body, own place with a tongue like a snake and can breathe through his ears!

Make your expectations real, dream but don’t whine when it turns out to be a nightmare because of your own gullibility.

It shouldn’t happen but it does, the few spoil it for the many, regardless of what or who is in a fake profile, it’s still fake.

Just keep smiling and don’t let it spoil your day is all, be genuine and look for genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes!

Sorry to hear that, it doesn't just affect you but us good honest RELIABLE guys too.

hope you get better luck soon and meet some great guys on here

I think some guys just like the chat, the flirting, the pics and the overall chase. "

Indeed the stories we can tell

male

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By *igger1952Man over a year ago

Paphos Cyprus.

Hi. I am English and moved from the uk and now live in paphos, Cyprus. I meet couples who come over here for holidays so the window is fairly small when arranging something. If the dates and times don’t match I tell them I am unable to meet. BUT. if things work out I ALWAYS meet as arranged. So not all guys are photo hunters or wind up merchants. I am here to meet and have fun with no ties just friendship and a good time.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple over a year ago

Leeds

We've had plenty of let downs. We just block, report and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only meet single men and we’ve not had a successful meet yet, people backing out at the last minute or just not turning up at all. So the answer to your question is yes! "

This is spot on!/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a normal male (average looks and bit of extra fat), this really annoys me that people are being let down by us males. It's hard enough being an average Joe on this site so hearing that 'let downs' happen as often as this makes me think why even bother as not going to get meet.

The men that let people down are either sca_ed to go further than chat or there profile is fake in some way I.e getting pics from internet and posing as them or just bare face lieing.

Sorry for the rant but really annoyed me

Paul x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single male i would ALWAYS turn up if something is arranged,but i have been told by couple that they have been let down more by Couples than guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say it’s across the board for us. We have had people just disappear on the day, the hour or the minute. Never understand it as grownups all it takes is a no. I get we all change our minds sometimes for a variety of reasons, then just communicate that. We have also met some amazing people but the on the day let downs are extremely frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just don’t get it!!!!

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I never get let down but then I go that extra mile to make sure it's all going to be ok. I.e talk on the phone or correspond off this site etc. In doing so I may have lost out on meeting perfectly nice people who won't talk on the phone first or who are secretive in some way that prevents them from socialising. I don't want to waste anyone's time and I don't want mine wasted.In a club you socialise before playing even if it's just chatting in a hot tub or at the bar.You establish some form of connection however brief but it's in real time and something will happen or it won't. On this site you have to find a different mechanism and using the messaging system does not really work given the relative ratio of men and women .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it difficult getting a meet period near mind been in the position to be let down or let someone down (which I wouldn't)

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