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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Affairs don't happen in secret.....there are usually signs that people choose to ignore.....
I've just heard this on a TV programme. What's your thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone "
That just sounds like my day job 
Unless.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit"
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people."
For some people who already don't trust their partner, yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex didn't really hide his affair. He would go out into his work van to make phone calls and never let me near his phone.
He also pretended he had to work late but I knew he was lying.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people.
For some people who already don't trust their partner, yes. "
I trusted mine. I think he wanted me to find out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people.
For some people who already don't trust their partner, yes.
I trusted mine. I think he wanted me to find out. "
Sorry to hear that, but hope you've moved onto much happier times in your life. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people.
For some people who already don't trust their partner, yes.
I trusted mine. I think he wanted me to find out. "
That's interesting. Why do you think he wanted to get caught as opposed to just coming clean? Or do you think that was a subconscious thing? Whole new thread of its own I suppose. |
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But why are affairs so intoxicating and exciting?
Addictive heart and blood pumping stuff that makes you do all the stuff as listed above.
We all know it’s wrong but affairs have always happened and always will.
Illicit sex - the most exciting sex of all? |
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"I can think of a few reasons...
Spending more time away from home
Working late
Being secretive with mobile phone
What a crock of shit
Really? I think if a partner suddenly started doing all of the above, it would raise some suspicion for some people.
For some people who already don't trust their partner, yes.
I trusted mine. I think he wanted me to find out.
That's interesting. Why do you think he wanted to get caught as opposed to just coming clean? Or do you think that was a subconscious thing? Whole new thread of its own I suppose. "
I think that some people sub consciously want to be caught as they see it as an easier way to get out of an existing relationship that they don't want to be in. If you like a 'coward's way' of doing it so that the other person makes the decision but clearly they don't consider the devastation and fall out that it has the potential to create.
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I read an article years ago in which a woman said she knew her husband was having an affair with a particular woman when she saw him hand her a drink at a party and she took it from him without looking at him. The gesture held too much familiarity for acquaintances.
People have said they began to suspect their partners when they suddenly started to be extra nice or extra nasty, started to shave their pubic hair in other words when they changed with no obvious motive. |
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"Signs of possible an affair. At the very begin when you present a representative of yourself or tolerate what otherwise you would not have.
Affairs and cheating are different."
An interesting point of view. How are they different? |
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"Signs of possible an affair. At the very begin when you present a representative of yourself or tolerate what otherwise you would not have.
Affairs and cheating are different.
An interesting point of view. How are they different?"
Cheating doesn’t have to be an affair I suppose. It could be pulling a guy or girl on a night out or business trip. That’s just sex with a random stranger & probably easier to conceal.
An affair suggests an ongoing relationship with one person, and potentially an emotional attachment too. |
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"Signs of possible an affair. At the very begin when you present a representative of yourself or tolerate what otherwise you would not have.
Affairs and cheating are different.
An interesting point of view. How are they different?
Cheating doesn’t have to be an affair I suppose. It could be pulling a guy or girl on a night out or business trip. That’s just sex with a random stranger & probably easier to conceal.
An affair suggests an ongoing relationship with one person, and potentially an emotional attachment too."
An affair between two people where one or both is attached elsewhere to unknowing partners is cheating though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep my partner of 5 years suddenly kept his phone in his pocket, would stay at his mums while working late as didn’t want to disturb me and put his phone on aeroplane mode as apparently didn’t know how to put it on silent (it was an iPhone) borrowed his phone to call my mum and a text came through from the other women! Iv been single ever since as I now have trust issues and seem to look for the signs straight away |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep my partner of 5 years suddenly kept his phone in his pocket, would stay at his mums while working late as didn’t want to disturb me and put his phone on aeroplane mode as apparently didn’t know how to put it on silent (it was an iPhone) borrowed his phone to call my mum and a text came through from the other women! Iv been single ever since as I now have trust issues and seem to look for the signs straight away "
Sorry to read this, but this is exactly the type of thing I was on about.
You shouldn't let it spoil future relationships though, and I know that is so much easier said than done as I have massive trust issues. In life though you just have to sometimes go with what feels right at the time and not worry too much about the future. Try to have the attitude that 'you won't not trust someone until they give you a reason not to trust them'. That's what Im learning to do, or else you can drive yourself crazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Also for men coming home with your boxers inside out is a big giveaway....
Haha !! What about the ones that go home with no boxers?"
I played in a group once and all the guys wore black Calvin Klein boxer briefs with the red waist band.... just imagine 5 guys getting dressed, standing around asking each other their sizes and smelling boxers before putting them on... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep my partner of 5 years suddenly kept his phone in his pocket, would stay at his mums while working late as didn’t want to disturb me and put his phone on aeroplane mode as apparently didn’t know how to put it on silent (it was an iPhone) borrowed his phone to call my mum and a text came through from the other women! Iv been single ever since as I now have trust issues and seem to look for the signs straight away "
your attractive and pretty , you should forget and move on ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex husband decided to "accidentally " send me a video of him and another women.  like someone else said, I think he wanted to get caught.
Woman *"
Maybe he was d*unk out of his mind....
My buddy got so d*unk one night, he took a girl home to his wife and baby because he forgot his was married.... |
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"My ex husband decided to "accidentally " send me a video of him and another women. like someone else said, I think he wanted to get caught. "
Yes, I think you're right. Some people don't have the courage to say things face to face. |
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