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"Not sure but wouldn't mind be trapped with you lol x" well fingers crossed i will be one day . lol traped all night long.  | |||
"what the hell is all this about." look at my other post here whos going to chams friday | |||
"On my other post about chams ... was said about the traps what are thay ? Myself i feel you can only be traped if you let yourself be ... my heads working over time thinking what are thay how can you be at a club .. i only do things i am happy doing and will not if not happy .. " Sorry hun read the other thread...really wished i was there,minor forum social going on,  but not sure what you mean...
in terms of how i keep myself safe...i have an agreement with kev never to play in private rooms alone.The locks might not be much but they are strong enough if someone gets nasty...
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"On my other post about chams ... was said about the traps what are thay ? Myself i feel you can only be traped if you let yourself be ... my heads working over time thinking what are thay how can you be at a club .. i only do things i am happy doing and will not if not happy .. Sorry hun read the other thread...really wished i was there,minor forum social going on, but not sure what you mean...
in terms of how i keep myself safe...i have an agreement with kev never to play in private rooms alone.The locks might not be much but they are strong enough if someone gets nasty...
"some love the risks .. just have to feel right and i know for some its a locked room that makes it for them and theres not alot of them at clubs i find. | |||
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"Not sure were this one is going - can someone elaborate on traps and why people feel at risk??? " no idea at all all im saying is in all the time i have been going i have never felt anyone has tried to trap me or made me feel at risk infact i think clubs are a great place to meet, even more so if your a single woman because of the safe environment they offer | |||
"Not sure were this one is going - can someone elaborate on traps and why people feel at risk??? " on my other post here whos going to chams friday .. was a post on there about traps made me think what are thay at clubs .. i think it may be about safty and not having rooms that can be locked .. not sure .. why i asked here. | |||
"Not sure were this one is going - can someone elaborate on traps and why people feel at risk??? no idea at all all im saying is in all the time i have been going i have never felt anyone has tried to trap me or made me feel at risk infact i think clubs are a great place to meet, even more so if your a single woman because of the safe environment they offer" i feel like you and feel very safe there even when theres loads in the club as i know if i had a worrie thay would soon sort it out .. i have only come across lovely people. | |||
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"I thought this was going to be swingers locked in traps "if you lock yourself into a room at swingers club your free to get out when you like as you was the one who picked to be locked in ,, so never traped . Last post on are you going to chams friday down list here .. can you look and tell me ... what its about so i dont go mad .. is it about safty ? and not having rooms to play in to be alone ? i know i am thick .. | |||
"I thought this was going to be swingers locked in traps "I did too... I was gonna dust of my Davy Crockett hat at one point 
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"I thought this was going to be swingers locked in traps if you lock yourself into a room at swingers club your free to get out when you like as you was the one who picked to be locked in ,, so never traped . Last post on are you going to chams friday down list here .. can you look and tell me ... what its about so i dont go mad .. is it about safty ? and not having rooms to play in to be alone ? i know i am thick .. "You are not thick Jo , I just meant the title of this thread made me think of swingers in traps, ie greyhound racing traps xxx | |||
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"Dont know about traps... but we snarred a 24 year old into a circle of about 7 women.. bless he ran off at first..but later three of us caught him..and he was less shy that time around. cali" i traped a 26 or 27 year old too , lol irish x | |||
"We have just taken all the traps out of the route to our bedroom. We've installed a barrier of automatic weapons and an Eco friendly mine field on the landing and stairs. The bedroom itself is heavily fortified using razor wire, heavy machine guns and claymore mines. You may get in but you won't get out! "This made me pmsl!! ps u are joking right?? | |||
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"having read the post in question, after being baffled by this thread, i can only say that they're obviously taking metaphorically about the common ups and downs that might occur in a swinging relationship/ at a club/ on a meet, rather than talking about being locked in rooms etc. some of these common traps might be - jealousy? preference differences? reluctance? " yes i think your right , After i read the mail i did think traps but not like you say ... but you could be right , swinging traps. | |||
"having read the post in question, after being baffled by this thread, i can only say that they're obviously taking metaphorically about the common ups and downs that might occur in a swinging relationship/ at a club/ on a meet, rather than talking about being locked in rooms etc. some of these common traps might be - jealousy? preference differences? reluctance? yes i think your right , After i read the mail i did think traps but not like you say ... but you could be right , swinging traps." Hi all, It was our comment that sparked this off. Just to clarify - yes, I was talking about the emotional traps that has been summed up quite nicely above. Although it feels like an age - checking back, our first ever meet was only in May, so I'd still say we're relatively new, especially when you add up the "swinging hours"
We are still learning and although like most people you discuss your boundaries, your likes and dislikes you can't always account for every eventuality - sometimes you cant just stop what you're doing and have a meeting about it - so you just do what you think is the right thing by yourself and your partner.
I dont' want to go into the details too much as the first thing we did was forget we were in a swinging club - sounds daft? I know, but we were both a lot more tired than we realised, and stupidly, when Kate made a comment, I acted as I would have if she'd said that infront of some mates in a normal club. Hands up - it was daft thing to do, but wheras normally as I'd have thought a bit more, I just blurted it out. On any other night, had Kate not been so tired she'd have just laughed off my response too - at which poitn I'd have laughed realising what a t1t I'd been. So just for the record that is a public apology.
We did soon come to the realisation that we were being daft, and set about enjoying the rest of our evening, however fell into another situation at the end of the night, again, mainly because of our inexperience.
We got chatting to another couple and went into a public room and were having fun, however halfway through a couple we already new came in and started playing next to us - 1 thing led to another, hands started wandering and after a while both found ourselves seperated - albeit next to each other, it was now very much I was playing with 1 couple and Kate with the other....
For us, we only play together, and neither of us had that intention of ending up like that but we suddenly foudn ourselves "seperated". Obviously its our naievety that allowed that situation to develop, and it shoudlnt' have but it felt very unconfortable for us both and so we ended it, but by that stage for the first time since we started this, we'd felt uncomfortable with a situation.
By this stage we'd had enough and called it a night.
We just made some mistakes - nobodys fault, but soemthing that we've learnt from, so for that we're thankful.
They say experience is the knowledge gained right after you needed it.
We now feel a bit more experienced
For the record, Chams is, as ever a fantastic place with an amazing staff and client base.
There has never been any questions in there about safety or feeling safe.
Sorry for sparkign off this thread, but also thanks for those who've emailed us concerned - just goes to show, we do get somethings right, and seem to be in good company here!
Thanks all, and hope that makes a bit more sense now.
D&K
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"On my other post about chams ... was said about the traps what are thay ? Myself i feel you can only be traped if you let yourself be ... my heads working over time thinking what are thay how can you be at a club .. i only do things i am happy doing and will not if not happy .. Sorry hun read the other thread...really wished i was there,minor forum social going on, but not sure what you mean...
in terms of how i keep myself safe...i have an agreement with kev never to play in private rooms alone.The locks might not be much but they are strong enough if someone gets nasty...
some love the risks .. just have to feel right and i know for some its a locked room that makes it for them and theres not alot of them at clubs i find."Risk i love,but i am not strong and a man deciding to fuck me BB is a risk too far. Anyway its kevs rule,and therefore i follow it | |||
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"Dont know about traps... but we snarred a 24 year old into a circle of about 7 women.. bless he ran off at first..but later three of us caught him..and he was less shy that time around. cali" and what would of happened if that was a single girl and 7 guys circled her | |||
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