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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had this problem too.
They come at you full on. We even ask what day and time suits them. Than when you say yes to a meet all the excuses cum out and they refuse to give address or contact details.
We've even been blocked when we sent one guy a message agreeing to meet at his chosen time.
He never replied so after the day had passed we went to message him to see what happened but we couldn't as he had blocked us.
Nevermind their loss |
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
Wish you lived here i would love to meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had this issue from lasses. I've heard alot of people having this issue. People get cold feet, are fake or just are dreamers. It seems pretty pointless being here if you're gonna do that. |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present. "
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move. "
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it. |
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
Happened to us few times therefore we stopped looking for single guys for a while
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We noticed that a few single guys don’t seem to want to ‘waste’ a Friday or Saturday night on nsa sex. I think some regard that weekends are for friends or familily, and that something as unimportant a a potential sexual playmate can be shoehorned in when they get a free moment. This used to happen a bit in the early days of us exploring the lifestyle, but these days we make our position clear that we can only play at the weekend.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just putting it out there but a number of "single" guys on here are actually attached/married etc so are with there family at weekends!
I bet if you said let's meet at a week day lunch time when they are "at work" it would be a different story! |
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Its the married guys, thier married because thier more attractive, you just gotta go for the right guy, I'm single self employed so available just about any try time, but I'm not married so no ones interested hahahahahaaha |
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"We noticed that a few single guys don’t seem to want to ‘waste’ a Friday or Saturday night on nsa sex. I think some regard that weekends are for friends or familily, and that something as unimportant a a potential sexual playmate can be shoehorned in when they get a free moment. This used to happen a bit in the early days of us exploring the lifestyle, but these days we make our position clear that we can only play at the weekend.
Mrs"
We have that stated on our profile too.. |
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"Its the married guys, thier married because thier more attractive, you just gotta go for the right guy, I'm single self employed so available just about any try time, but I'm not married so no ones interested hahahahahaaha "
 so it’s couples fault now? Do you think any “single” attached man would tell us that?  . |
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"Its the married guys, thier married because thier more attractive, you just gotta go for the right guy, I'm single self employed so available just about any try time, but I'm not married so no ones interested hahahahahaaha
so it’s couples fault now? Do you think any “single” attached man would tell us that? . "
No. They just hide it and use sites like this to cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
keep going, plenty of good fellas out there, many single fellas try alot longer than 3 weekends to secure a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the point of being on here If you aren't going to meet? Id rather be honest and let someone know. Id hate it to happen to me.
They don't know what they are missing. |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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Happens with single guys, single gals, couples, everyone... not all single guys deserve the bad rep they get, there are decent ones, and of course there are the complete dogs who want nothing more than to waste your time, but like I say everyone is capable of it on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happens with single guys, single gals, couples, everyone... not all single guys deserve the bad rep they get, there are decent ones, and of course there are the complete dogs who want nothing more than to waste your time, but like I say everyone is capable of it on here "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
there after the pics of the missus
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"Its the married guys, thier married because thier more attractive, you just gotta go for the right guy, I'm single self employed so available just about any try time, but I'm not married so no ones interested hahahahahaaha
so it’s couples fault now? Do you think any “single” attached man would tell us that? .
No. They just hide it and use sites like this to cheat. "
For us couples this situation it’s easy to be sorted. Meeting other couples means we ll have our mmf or ffm fantasies fulfilled, but what happens with the rest of single honest reliable guys here? They actually take the hit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds par for the cause OP we get hassled for meets when we aren’t available and we
Hen we contact them back with a time and date ect completely ignored,obviously can’t get away from there partners lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" but what happens with the rest of single honest reliable guys here? They actually take the hit "
That’s why without a meet verification it’s almost impossible to get meets (well for many anyway) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" but what happens with the rest of single honest reliable guys here? They actually take the hit
That’s why without a meet verification it’s almost impossible to get meets (well for many anyway)"
I agree with that. Thats why I got cam verified, hoping it will make a difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" but what happens with the rest of single honest reliable guys here? They actually take the hit
That’s why without a meet verification it’s almost impossible to get meets (well for many anyway)
I agree with that. Thats why I got cam verified, hoping it will make a difference. "
Thought about that but it’s just not my thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it.
In your opinion!
I've had some great MMFs (with hubby) and 1 divine MMMMMF "
In my opinion yes. But I feel its about getting with the right people. |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move. "
What? You want a ‘full mmf’ but would not have met had the man in the couple been present? Could you explain what you mean? |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Perhaps also work gets in the way. Couple who i have recently been chatting and tried to arrange meet date , has not happened. I work continental shifts which are each 12 hour.. So for a four week time scale my weekends are as follows.First week days, second week i finish nights Saturday morning and back to work Monday morning. Third weekend i am on nights. Forth weekend off. Then start pattern again. But on weekends off, it is possible i have to work to cover others holidays. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've practically given up on this site to be honest, just sick of the way men speak to me so it never gets past 1st base nowadays and it has been like that for the last few years if not more  |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
What? You want a ‘full mmf’ but would not have met had the man in the couple been present? Could you explain what you mean? "
Yea.. before we met, I told them was reluctant to meet a couple, but male said he does not take part.. and nor does he be in the same room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it. "
Yet the bi mmf are great |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
What? You want a ‘full mmf’ but would not have met had the man in the couple been present? Could you explain what you mean?
Yea.. before we met, I told them was reluctant to meet a couple, but male said he does not take part.. and nor does he be in the same room."
But you said you wanted a full mmf - how is that gonna happen if you’re reluctant to meet a couple.
I’ve done plenty of bi mmf and a few straight mmf where I managed NOT to touch the guy. I guess they trusted my sexual confidence and ability to adhere to agreed boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it.
Yet the bi mmf are great"
I can't speak for them as I'm not bi. I'm fine being naked around another guy. |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
What? You want a ‘full mmf’ but would not have met had the man in the couple been present? Could you explain what you mean?
Yea.. before we met, I told them was reluctant to meet a couple, but male said he does not take part.. and nor does he be in the same room.
But you said you wanted a full mmf - how is that gonna happen if you’re reluctant to meet a couple.
I’ve done plenty of bi mmf and a few straight mmf where I managed NOT to touch the guy. I guess they trusted my sexual confidence and ability to adhere to agreed boundaries. "
Its outside my comfort zone... 1 that I want to try. Btw i am straight. Full as in male present.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
why cant a single guy have a life?, one that's planned out etc..
fair enough, if they hassle you for a meet...
some people..just want it now..
I'll aree..if they start asking for phone numbers/snapchat etc..they are most likely looking for wank material. |
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As a genuine guy who can't get a meeting due to having no veri's, it's quite ironic that the stringent vetting seems to fail so frequently based on what I've read here in the forums and on numerous couple profiles. I guess it'll always be a gamble but I do wonder why guys waste people's time and probably a lot of their own too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
What? You want a ‘full mmf’ but would not have met had the man in the couple been present? Could you explain what you mean?
Yea.. before we met, I told them was reluctant to meet a couple, but male said he does not take part.. and nor does he be in the same room."
But that’s not an mmf though  |
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet. "
Same here, if they cant be bothered spending sometime getting to know you, and you them, then I'm not interested - Its a good filter for those who just want a quick shag; which if fine if both parties are looking for that. |
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I have had that but I've also had the opposite so it's by no means all single men. This is why I rarely meet until I've chatted for a bit - it gives me time to sort something else if they decide they 'should' be free 'hopefully' in two weeks time then don't come back to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it. "
As a fem the mmf does not do much for me either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet.
Same here, if they cant be bothered spending sometime getting to know you, and you them, then I'm not interested - Its a good filter for those who just want a quick shag; which if fine if both parties are looking for that."
I know you like fish..so I arrived with a kipper..
fuck sake..this shit is getting hard |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present. "
We have wondered. Probably prefer to meet on own, some guys are honest about that which I respect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move. "
You should just ask. If they don't they'll either tell you or ignore your message. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it. "
Ben would definitely not be awkward about it. He loves it and always fully involved as well. Great fun if you meet the right couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just putting it out there but a number of "single" guys on here are actually attached/married etc so are with there family at weekends!
I bet if you said let's meet at a week day lunch time when they are "at work" it would be a different story!"
We sussed that one lol. Always a giveaway when they say they can only meet weekdays lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present.
I agree here. I met a couple before but the male did not take part or be in the same room...I think if he did want to take part, I dont think I would have met. I would love to meet a couple for full mmf but scared to make 1st move.
Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it.
Ben would definitely not be awkward about it. He loves it and always fully involved as well. Great fun if you meet the right couple."
Thats why I'm not going to be meeting with newbie couple anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Happens with single guys, single gals, couples, everyone... not all single guys deserve the bad rep they get, there are decent ones, and of course there are the complete dogs who want nothing more than to waste your time, but like I say everyone is capable of it on here "
I used to say that and defended single guys but the sites changed so much recently. Never used to be a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its the married guys, thier married because thier more attractive, you just gotta go for the right guy, I'm single self employed so available just about any try time, but I'm not married so no ones interested hahahahahaaha
so it’s couples fault now? Do you think any “single” attached man would tell us that? .
No. They just hide it and use sites like this to cheat.
For us couples this situation it’s easy to be sorted. Meeting other couples means we ll have our mmf or ffm fantasies fulfilled, but what happens with the rest of single honest reliable guys here? They actually take the hit "
We have had bad experiences with couples so avoided. Only recently had problems with guys and you're right it's not fair on the rare genuine one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Honestly mmfs aren't all that great. I've had a few and the guys have always been awkward about it.
In your opinion!
I've had some great MMFs (with hubby) and 1 divine MMMMMF "
You live in a populated area which probably helps. We're in a remote area. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
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The more particular you are about the guys you want to meet the more likely it is that those guys are also in demand by others. Consequently the chance of them deciding they maybe have a better offer is increased and the more likely it is you might get let down. |
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"Happens with single guys, single gals, couples, everyone... not all single guys deserve the bad rep they get, there are decent ones, and of course there are the complete dogs who want nothing more than to waste your time, but like I say everyone is capable of it on here "
Agreed.
It's a bit unfair to blame just the single guys... I suppose it depends on what/who you are looking for. I'm sure there are women out there too??
That said...it has happened to me, I like to chat to people to get a 'feel' for them and after time I'll arrange a meet, and on more than one occasion, they either message to say they can't go through with it or they just don't bother turning up. It usually happens after weeks of chatting. Perhaps they just lose interest? Like someone above said.... It's the guys that are after one off fucks?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the point of being on here If you aren't going to meet? Id rather be honest and let someone know. Id hate it to happen to me.
They don't know what they are missing. "
Honestly, if all the dreamers and wasters just left the site then it would be so much better for everyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the point of being on here If you aren't going to meet? Id rather be honest and let someone know. Id hate it to happen to me.
They don't know what they are missing.
Honestly, if all the dreamers and wasters just left the site then it would be so much better for everyone else. "
I couldn't agree more. |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"The more particular you are about the guys you want to meet the more likely it is that those guys are also in demand by others. Consequently the chance of them deciding they maybe have a better offer is increased and the more likely it is you might get let down."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A single guy probabley won't know what he,s doing in 3 days never mind 3 weeks..... Having to plan that far ahead sounds "complicated""
That’s really the problem as we see it. We’ve never had a no show and have rarely been messed about. But finding the single guys who are willing to diary plan is not easy. It’s nobodys fault and doesn’t make single guys a waste of time. It’s just a lifestyle clash.
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By (user no longer on site)
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From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
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Couples who do that are probably more likely to lose out. Just as we no longer wait around for a single guy to make up his mind if he wants to put us in his diary, a guy worth his salt also won’t wait around for a couple to make up their mind.
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
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Yep I agree, although; the couples with a newish profile and none or few veris, will perhaps be slow to respond because of nerves. The more ‘established’ couples, are more likely to be working their way down their shortlist of guys, and yes; YOU could be the lucky one this weekend! |
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
Yep I agree, although; the couples with a newish profile and none or few veris, will perhaps be slow to respond because of nerves. The more ‘established’ couples, are more likely to be working their way down their shortlist of guys, and yes; YOU could be the lucky one this weekend! "
A shortlist to choose from? Wow! We should be so lucky! |
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Yes the vast majority are dreamers who can't handle a MMF dynamic. Of the ones that turn up, half will be dull as dish water and of those that aren't, another half will be minute men or can't get it up.
The solution: find them at clubs or meet couples that play separately and borrow the husband now and then. |
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By *sclayMan
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
I have found that as well with both couples and singles too even after an extensive talk and lots of planning as well can be frustrating but it doesn’t matter because there are others out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm primarily on here to meet couples for MMF.
I've been talking to one couple a while now they've assured me a meet is on the cards but they have a young family so it's difficult for them to get free time. Which is understandable and I'm in no rush. We have met socially and they gave me a verification.
But even with that, I'm struggling to even make contact with other couples and it's such a shame coz aside from being a weekend dad (I can get short notice babysitters with ease) I can meet whenever a time and date is suggested.
I'll persevere and I'm sure I'll get a meet eventually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think the vast majority of "single" guys over 35 are married men looking to play behind the wife's back. We find that very few can accommodate and strangely enough are seldom free to meet evening and weekend....anyone else found that too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't normally meet single men but the times we have they've been quite reliable we tend to use people who are verified though"
Perhaps bear me in mind next time you guys decided on meeting a single fella. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Think the vast majority of "single" guys over 35 are married men looking to play behind the wife's back. We find that very few can accommodate and strangely enough are seldom free to meet evening and weekend....anyone else found that too?"
All too often unfortunately |
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
Yup. From our experience many are unwilling to sacrifice a weekend evening.
Either their Saturday nights out with the lads are unmissable or they have women who (understandably) want their attention. |
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"I did have this issue when I had a couples profile, but definitely not now.
Maybe a lot of them, when it comes down to it, are intimidated by the thought of another man being present. "
On a swingers site I doubt it.
Perhaps they need to stick to single dating site if swinging intimidates them. |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
They must be crazy as id drop a holiday to meet you guys. |
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
Deep in the New Forest |
Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples. "
Hit the nail on the head there hun x |
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By *olexMan
over a year ago
Hull |
It's not just single men. I'm fairly sure we've all been messed about by single & married women. I know i have. The trick is to take it on the chin, don't sulk, don't get abusive & move on. We live to fuck another day. |
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
Deep in the New Forest |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's the point of being on here If you aren't going to meet? Id rather be honest and let someone know. Id hate it to happen to me.
They don't know what they are missing. "
Wish there were more guys like you near to us x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate not keeping appointments or dates
If I say I'll be there I will be there, home or hotel.
If i don't IM either dead or dying "
Need more guys like you on fab x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've practically given up on this site to be honest, just sick of the way men speak to me so it never gets past 1st base nowadays and it has been like that for the last few years if not more "
We know what you mean. I've more or less given up. Always in their terms  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet. "
So do we or me hence why I feel like I'm wasting my time. Think a lot of guys are just looking for a single lady. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The more particular you are about the guys you want to meet the more likely it is that those guys are also in demand by others. Consequently the chance of them deciding they maybe have a better offer is increased and the more likely it is you might get let down."
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet.
So do we or me hence why I feel like I'm wasting my time. Think a lot of guys are just looking for a single lady."
this explains 50% of no shows |
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over a year ago
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
bit of a sweeping statement . Think you will find its not ALL single guys
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize? "
Absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
Yep I agree, although; the couples with a newish profile and none or few veris, will perhaps be slow to respond because of nerves. The more ‘established’ couples, are more likely to be working their way down their shortlist of guys, and yes; YOU could be the lucky one this weekend!
A shortlist to choose from? Wow! We should be so lucky!"
With you on that one lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x
They must be crazy as id drop a holiday to meet you guys. "
Ha ha shame you don't live closer |
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
Deep in the New Forest |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize?
Absolutely "
Wooohooo better not be a crap one |
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over a year ago
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x"
I find it hard to believe Nell! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize?
Absolutely
Wooohooo better not be a crap one "
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet.
So do we or me hence why I feel like I'm wasting my time. Think a lot of guys are just looking for a single lady."
We don’t invest a lot of effort into getting to know the guys we meet , yet still seem to meet plenty of great fellas on here . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet.
So do we or me hence why I feel like I'm wasting my time. Think a lot of guys are just looking for a single lady.
We don’t invest a lot of effort into getting to know the guys we meet , yet still seem to meet plenty of great fellas on here . "
We need to move to a less remote area |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x
I find it hard to believe Nell! "
It's true x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's even worse when you agree to meet, travel to the agreed place and they don't show ... no message or apology. They (lady) even then check your profile a few days later and still no apology!! But that's Fab! |
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over a year ago
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"Who has found single guys hound you for a meet and then when you give weekend days they say may be or possibly. 3 weekends we've tried to meet and no-one wants to commit, ones that I'm attracted to I must add. Frustrated Nell x bit of a sweeping statement . Think you will find its not ALL single guys "
There may be the odd one but after four years ....... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"It's even worse when you agree to meet, travel to the agreed place and they don't show ... no message or apology. They (lady) even then check your profile a few days later and still no apology!! But that's Fab!"
That to me is the true definition of a timewaster x |
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
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"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize?
Absolutely
Wooohooo better not be a crap one "
Is it collect in person? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize?
Absolutely
Wooohooo better not be a crap one
Is it collect in person? "
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"I can't say I've ever had this problem... although I do invest a lot of effort into getting to know guys before committing to a meet.
So do we or me hence why I feel like I'm wasting my time. Think a lot of guys are just looking for a single lady.
We don’t invest a lot of effort into getting to know the guys we meet , yet still seem to meet plenty of great fellas on here .
We need to move to a less remote area "
Good idea |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned....... |
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
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"Think it's an ego thing for a lot of men. The thrill of the chase but can't or won't back it up when it comes to the crunch. Not all are like that but personally I think that's the reason behind a lot of time wasters male or female and even some couples.
Hit the nail on the head there hun x
Do I win a prize?
Absolutely
Wooohooo better not be a crap one
Is it collect in person? bring cake"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned......."
No mate . They are suppose to shout " SHIT " and we are suppose to jump on the shovel . thats how fab works |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want to meet, I’m not in any particular rush for it though, I’d like to say I could message someone pushing for a meet from the get go and not feel like a twat haha but it’s just not my style... like I’d be up for a short notice plan, but like I say won’t be me begging for it... you know? |
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned......."
I don’t think anyone has really been slagging single guys off that badly on this particular thread .
The couple who started it have admitted they live in the arse end of nowhere , and even we have noticed an influx of dreamers in the past couple of years , despite getting as many meets as we like .
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over a year ago
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned......."
I don’t anybody expects men to be at their beck and call. It’s more of a case of if we all agree we want to meet, then let’s make it happen. If they can’t or won’t do weekends, and weekdays don’t work for us, then no point in kicking the can down the road in the hope that one day the stars will align. Btw on the whole we’ve had exellent experiences with single guys, but there have been one or two I just wanted to shake I was so frustrated. Either they want it or they don’t. I think the sentiment on this thread is that if they don’t want it enough to make it happen then don’t lead people on. And I’m sure women and couples are equally as guilty of this.
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned.......No mate . They are suppose to shout " SHIT " and we are suppose to jump on the shovel . thats how fab works "
No that’s not expected at all. But if we agree with a man that three of us want to meet, I don’t think it’s unreasonable that we all get our diaries out and make an arrangement at a mutually convenient time. I think that’s all the OP had an issue with.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned.......No mate . They are suppose to shout " SHIT " and we are suppose to jump on the shovel . thats how fab works
No that’s not expected at all. But if we agree with a man that three of us want to meet, I don’t think it’s unreasonable that we all get our diaries out and make an arrangement at a mutually convenient time. I think that’s all the OP had an issue with.
Mrs"
It not unreasonable at all |
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over a year ago
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"I get a lot of requests for daytime meets... doh! I’m at work!
Like wise if I suggest weekends it’s usually a “no can do, sorry”
In which case neither can I lol "
They must be married lol x |
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over a year ago
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"came in.....
saw the single man bashing....
walked out......
as threads go.... if people are suppose to trying to attached others and vice versa.... people aren't really showing their best faces right now......
as bearded said.... so where should i as a single bloke go and fuck myself?
I am just sorry, that as a man, i am not available at your beckon call, as i may have work and a social life and various other things planned.......
I don’t anybody expects men to be at their beck and call. It’s more of a case of if we all agree we want to meet, then let’s make it happen. If they can’t or won’t do weekends, and weekdays don’t work for us, then no point in kicking the can down the road in the hope that one day the stars will align. Btw on the whole we’ve had exellent experiences with single guys, but there have been one or two I just wanted to shake I was so frustrated. Either they want it or they don’t. I think the sentiment on this thread is that if they don’t want it enough to make it happen then don’t lead people on. And I’m sure women and couples are equally as guilty of this.
Mrs"
Thank you. We do admit to living out of the way. Our frustrations are with guys we spend a lot of time chatting to, know we live out of the way, keep nagging for a meet but then when give dates they are not available. They know we are busy and can't just meet like we appreciate they are but when giving a few dates and they're not free it's frustrating. We are fussy and have had to cancel meets but it's always a genuine reason.
It's not meant to be single guy bashing just sharing experiences and also give guys a chance to give their views x |
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"I get a lot of requests for daytime meets... doh! I’m at work!
They asked if you were free during the day, you’re not, so now they know.
Like wise if I suggest weekends it’s usually a “no can do, sorry”
You asked if they are free at the weekend, but they’re not, so now you know.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happens with single guys, single gals, couples, everyone... not all single guys deserve the bad rep they get, there are decent ones, and of course there are the complete dogs who want nothing more than to waste your time, but like I say everyone is capable of it on here "
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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago
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We’ve spoke to some right d—-ks talked the talk till was time to meet then either went awol or said was to late or wanted to arrange another day...that was at first now we spot and block after a few msg
Most don’t read profile and some thinks they doing us the favour |
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"We’ve spoke to some right d—-ks talked the talk till was time to meet then either went awol or said was to late or wanted to arrange another day...that was at first now we spot and block after a few msg
Most don’t read profile and some thinks they doing us the favour "
Glad we're not the only ones that think they x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I get a lot of requests for daytime meets... doh! I’m at work!
Like wise if I suggest weekends it’s usually a “no can do, sorry”
In which case neither can I lol
They must be married lol x"
Not always the case, some of us aren't 9-5 and have to work evenings and weekends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't waste anyone's time to be honest, I don't see the point. I know I'm not the best looking lad in the world, so if I'm lucky and I do get talking to someone, I appreciate the fact they took time out of their day to talk to me. And if we arranged a meet then I'd gladly go to it. I probably would be intimidated if there was another guy involved, especially if he was the woman's partner, but I'd tell them that beforehand and hopefully by the time the meet rolls around I'd be okay.
It happens in proper dating sites too. Got talking to a girl in December for like two months, arranged a date in February and out of nowhere, a week before the date I got blocked. I don't see the point in stringing someone along if you're not gonna meet. |
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over a year ago
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You're obviously finding the wrong Cornish lads. Im Cornish but landlocked in the east midlands.
Will be down in summer though..... cant beat a good surf!! |
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"I get a lot of requests for daytime meets... doh! I’m at work!
Like wise if I suggest weekends it’s usually a “no can do, sorry”
In which case neither can I lol
They must be married lol x
Not always the case, some of us aren't 9-5 and have to work evenings and weekends. "
Same here. Um.sellf.emoloyed but won't meet at weekends cos its my busy time amd do 14 hour shifts. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've had this problem too.
They come at you full on. We even ask what day and time suits them. Than when you say yes to a meet all the excuses cum out and they refuse to give address or contact details.
We've even been blocked when we sent one guy a message agreeing to meet at his chosen time.
He never replied so after the day had passed we went to message him to see what happened but we couldn't as he had blocked us.
Nevermind their loss "
So much this! We were stood up three times in a row lately!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is the reason men and women tend to look at swinging differently...
Single guys log on looking to meet Asap..
Some couples and females log on looking to build rapport before a meet....
These views sometimes clash and we get no shows or cancellations...
My best meets from the Internet have always been last minute..... just because both parties were horny as hell at the moment. |
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over a year ago
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"From the other perspective, I often find that many couples and ladies have so much choice, they ask if you are free to meet at a particular time and date, having responded, there is then a wait while they choose from a list of guys. The "lucky one" perhaps only gets told an hour or so before the meet.
I've got a healthy social life and weekends get booked fast by my vanilla life. I'm not going to cancel my plans on the off chance that I might get picked.
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I’ve had this loads and 90% of the time not being picked then a lot of that time not being told.
It’s hard being a single male on here sometimes to even get a reply to a message (always send respectful messages) but I can see why other single males spoil it for others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't normally meet single men but the times we have they've been quite reliable we tend to use people who are verified though
Perhaps bear me in mind next time you guys decided on meeting a single fella. "
You want them to use you? |
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Not just single guys. I've been chatting to a female for a while. We arranged a coffee meet, she re-arranged twice before cancelling the third and then went UNLOS. Frustrating, as it's hard enough as a single guy on here and I will always turn up for a meet once arranged. |
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over a year ago
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Trying to arrange an MMMMF for tonight for Marie at Quest, and two of the three guys we'd chosen apparently have had work issues come up and can't make tonight... Very frustrating... |
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How about this then ?
We don’t normally pre arrange meets but for the sake of actually being able to add specifics we spent the last week chatting to single guys and arranging meets for tonight .
We exchanged at least ten messages over a period of a few days , non sexual , exchanging face pics and discussing the meet .
Of ten guys who said yes they would love to meet us we now stand as follows .
4 have left the site , granted three were newbies when the messaged , but one had veris and had been on here a few months .
3 have work commitments .
1 was going to be working in the area and isn’t now .
1 can’t get out as his Nan is ill .
And one is no longer responding to messages despite being online .
So the experiment has totally wasted our time , and proves we were right all along not to spend ages chatting on here before meeting .
Make of it what you will . |
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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago
Fareham |
Although it's not a good thing at all, but we are glad that its not just us. Sinse having a break from Fabs it has changed so much and so many time wasters on here now. So hard to find good like minded people to have fun with |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"How about this then ?
We don’t normally pre arrange meets but for the sake of actually being able to add specifics we spent the last week chatting to single guys and arranging meets for tonight .
We exchanged at least ten messages over a period of a few days , non sexual , exchanging face pics and discussing the meet .
Of ten guys who said yes they would love to meet us we now stand as follows .
4 have left the site , granted three were newbies when the messaged , but one had veris and had been on here a few months .
3 have work commitments .
1 was going to be working in the area and isn’t now .
1 can’t get out as his Nan is ill .
And one is no longer responding to messages despite being online .
So the experiment has totally wasted our time , and proves we were right all along not to spend ages chatting on here before meeting .
Make of it what you will ."
Precisely why I prefer to meet new people at parties now, I'm fed up with wasting my time with private meets. Going to one tomorrow night with the boys, I'm sure we will meet some lovely new people x |
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"How about this then ?
We don’t normally pre arrange meets but for the sake of actually being able to add specifics we spent the last week chatting to single guys and arranging meets for tonight .
We exchanged at least ten messages over a period of a few days , non sexual , exchanging face pics and discussing the meet .
Of ten guys who said yes they would love to meet us we now stand as follows .
4 have left the site , granted three were newbies when the messaged , but one had veris and had been on here a few months .
3 have work commitments .
1 was going to be working in the area and isn’t now .
1 can’t get out as his Nan is ill .
And one is no longer responding to messages despite being online .
So the experiment has totally wasted our time , and proves we were right all along not to spend ages chatting on here before meeting .
Make of it what you will .
Precisely why I prefer to meet new people at parties now, I'm fed up with wasting my time with private meets. Going to one tomorrow night with the boys, I'm sure we will meet some lovely new people x"
Yeah , things were so much better around here when we had a club in Gloucester .... |
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"Trying to arrange an MMMMF for tonight for Marie at Quest, and two of the three guys we'd chosen apparently have had work issues come up and can't make tonight... Very frustrating... "
I'm on the reserves list for HWC on the 18th, who knows what the future may hold..........  |
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"How about this then ?
We don’t normally pre arrange meets but for the sake of actually being able to add specifics we spent the last week chatting to single guys and arranging meets for tonight .
We exchanged at least ten messages over a period of a few days , non sexual , exchanging face pics and discussing the meet .
Of ten guys who said yes they would love to meet us we now stand as follows .
4 have left the site , granted three were newbies when the messaged , but one had veris and had been on here a few months .
3 have work commitments .
1 was going to be working in the area and isn’t now .
1 can’t get out as his Nan is ill .
And one is no longer responding to messages despite being online .
So the experiment has totally wasted our time , and proves we were right all along not to spend ages chatting on here before meeting .
Make of it what you will ."
I've been 6 times to various clubs, as a single guy, and never been so fortunate as to receive even a peck on the cheek, yet I do very well with private meets, even in such a sparsely populated part of the country.
Que sera sera, the sun will still rise tomorrow |
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We are single men friendly but only meet in clubs and always post on our status where we are going to be - we then usually get 4 or 5 single men saying that they will definitely be there so we always say come say hi, if one of them actually turns up we are lucky!. But being at a club it doesn't matter because there is always someone else there to play with. Just interesting in the ratio of no shows ! |
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"As a single man a older one at that it's even worse trying to get a meet "
Amen to that! If you are over 50 with an average size penis and not coloured, your chances of getting a meet drop to about 0.000001%! Just getting a woman or couple to even read your messages is just about impossible, even if they are polite and more than "Hey, wanna fuck". Actually pinning them down to meet your chances drop to about 0.0000000%! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We organised a gangbang, with five single guys. All confirmed earlier in the day.
Only one turned up (he was great though).
Really frustrating that we can't name and shame these time wasters in any way. |
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We are down Cornwall at the moment.
And have been trying to arrange a meet with a single guy for the last 1 days.
A few messages yes we can meet then all of a sudden I can't accommodate even after asking at the beginning can you accommodate
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But on the plus side the couples down here are fantastic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes there are some that may waste your time. It could be down to any number of reasons.
You both look great so maybe they could feel intimidated by the situation or maybe the idea is a turn on but the practicalities off the meet scare them.
The only one's that can answer this is the guys themselves. Good luck I hope things get better for you both. |
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"We are down Cornwall at the moment.
And have been trying to arrange a meet with a single guy for the last 1 days.
A few messages yes we can meet then all of a sudden I can't accommodate even after asking at the beginning can you accommodate
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But on the plus side the couples down here are fantastic. "
That should read the last 10 days |
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