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"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you " He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. | |||
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"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. " Does he know that you know ? | |||
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"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile "Well said | |||
"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? " Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile "I don't want to share lol. | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
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 it's possible though, if the love is there and you can communicate fully with one another. Swinging together in the future may be a possibility, but (as I'm sure you already know) that in itself won't work unless the trust has already been worked on again...And that's on him.xx | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol. "Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call | |||
"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. " Have a good chat when he gets home and see where you go from there. But it doesn't sound to good to me as now you'll always be worried | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call "I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost....... | |||
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"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. Have a good chat when he gets home and see where you go from there. But it doesn't sound to good to me as now you'll always be worried " As I said, once the trust is gone, what's the point? | |||
"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. Have a good chat when he gets home and see where you go from there. But it doesn't sound to good to me as now you'll always be worried As I said, once the trust is gone, what's the point? " But it can be rebuild though. As you said, the guy's behaviour was weird so it made you want to double check. Let's say, for the sake of the argument, that you got back together. Trust can be regain if there is total transparence... But only if you are ready to forgive him though. | |||
"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. Have a good chat when he gets home and see where you go from there. But it doesn't sound to good to me as now you'll always be worried " This I can't see any explanation that would account for sending and receiving naughty pics from other women Miss | |||
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"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call
I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost......."Two choices at the end of the day haven’t you , but you’re probably throwing the towel in to quick ..... talk to one another you’d be amazed what you’d achieve if you don’t want to loose him / relationship | |||
"Your past is your past and had nothing to do with karma in that situation. Sorry to hear abt what he has done to you He has been the most generous, lovely guy I've ever met, we both work hard, and spend wonderful times together, I moved in with him, but now I've discovered this, I don't know what to do. I wish I had never looked, but a woman knows when her man is acting out of character, and the detective kicks in......very sad. Does he know that you know ? Yea, I confronted him, and I've always had a rule, that in a healthy relationship, you don't need to be checking each other's phones, I'm disgusted with myself for doing that, but when someone's behaviour changes, I'm afraid I have to find out why!!! He's gone to work, and phoned me 6 times, and I've not answered, as my childish side has come out......ffs. Have a good chat when he gets home and see where you go from there. But it doesn't sound to good to me as now you'll always be worried As I said, once the trust is gone, what's the point? But it can be rebuild though. As you said, the guy's behaviour was weird so it made you want to double check. Let's say, for the sake of the argument, that you got back together. Trust can be regain if there is total transparence... But only if you are ready to forgive him though. " Once the trust has gone it's gone. You shouldn't have o be 2nd thinking whats he doing when not with you. I worked away a lot years ago and i was allowed to meet men one on one but not women. I kept to that rule because sheena is my wife and my life. She won't do it to me and i wouldn't do it to her its called trust Dave | |||
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"Does he know you're on here? Sorry, but I don't understand, if you've been in a happy vanilla relationship why still have a profile on here? " Does it matter, I've made a lot of friends on here, that I don't communicate with, other than here, I've never met off this profile, ok sunshine??? | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call
I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost......."Talk to him first could be any number of reasons hes done it, and may be one you feel you can mitigate depending on how strong your feelings are for him. Talk first though xx | |||
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"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call
I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost.......
Talk to him first could be any number of reasons hes done it, and may be one you feel you can mitigate depending on how strong your feelings are for him. Talk first though xx"Thanks, I love him to death, just feeling very betrayed. Yes guys I'm on here, so what? I'm not having sex with anyone ffs. | |||
"There is still hope for your relationship. It sounds weird, but the fact that you suspected him because he was acting a little strange, suggests this sort of thing doesn't come naturally to him - he isn't a "player". It is also better that there wasn't just one other woman, but three. It might be, in his mind, "just" flirting. It doesn't excuse it, and the pictures are totally out of order. He does have some explaining to do though, but maybe he just needs a good kick up the arse. Only you will know what to do. Trust your instincts. But know this - Never love somebody that treats you like you're ordinary." I love that, Thanks, and to be honest, he has treated me and told me how special I am for 2 bloody years..... | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call
I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost......."looks like a decision has already been made, relationships can be horrible to end but your brain may need a bit longer to realise what your heart already knows xx | |||
"There is still hope for your relationship. It sounds weird, but the fact that you suspected him because he was acting a little strange, suggests this sort of thing doesn't come naturally to him - he isn't a "player". It is also better that there wasn't just one other woman, but three. It might be, in his mind, "just" flirting. It doesn't excuse it, and the pictures are totally out of order. He does have some explaining to do though, but maybe he just needs a good kick up the arse. Only you will know what to do. Trust your instincts. But know this - Never love somebody that treats you like you're ordinary. I love that, Thanks, and to be honest, he has treated me and told me how special I am for 2 bloody years....." Is it possible it was just wank bank stuff? I'm not saying for one second that you shouldn't be feeling as you are right now, but it's possible he had no intention of acting on the fantasy. I completely understand you being hurt and your emotional guard going up, but maybe try not to make any knee jerk decisions when everything is still feeling so raw xxx | |||
"There is still hope for your relationship. It sounds weird, but the fact that you suspected him because he was acting a little strange, suggests this sort of thing doesn't come naturally to him - he isn't a "player". It is also better that there wasn't just one other woman, but three. It might be, in his mind, "just" flirting. It doesn't excuse it, and the pictures are totally out of order. He does have some explaining to do though, but maybe he just needs a good kick up the arse. Only you will know what to do. Trust your instincts. But know this - Never love somebody that treats you like you're ordinary. I love that, Thanks, and to be honest, he has treated me and told me how special I am for 2 bloody years..... Is it possible it was just wank bank stuff? I'm not saying for one second that you shouldn't be feeling as you are right now, but it's possible he had no intention of acting on the fantasy. I completely understand you being hurt and your emotional guard going up, but maybe try not to make any knee jerk decisions when everything is still feeling so raw xxx"But why feel the need for wank bank stuff, when we having sex regularly, and bloody hell sometimes 3 times a night, I'm just lost as to why, and don't think I can forgive this, especially as he was planning to meet up. | |||
"There is still hope for your relationship. It sounds weird, but the fact that you suspected him because he was acting a little strange, suggests this sort of thing doesn't come naturally to him - he isn't a "player". It is also better that there wasn't just one other woman, but three. It might be, in his mind, "just" flirting. It doesn't excuse it, and the pictures are totally out of order. He does have some explaining to do though, but maybe he just needs a good kick up the arse. Only you will know what to do. Trust your instincts. But know this - Never love somebody that treats you like you're ordinary. I love that, Thanks, and to be honest, he has treated me and told me how special I am for 2 bloody years..... Is it possible it was just wank bank stuff? I'm not saying for one second that you shouldn't be feeling as you are right now, but it's possible he had no intention of acting on the fantasy. I completely understand you being hurt and your emotional guard going up, but maybe try not to make any knee jerk decisions when everything is still feeling so raw xxx
But why feel the need for wank bank stuff, when we having sex regularly, and bloody hell sometimes 3 times a night, I'm just lost as to why, and don't think I can forgive this, especially as he was planning to meet up. "Even if I'm in a completely fulfilling monogamous relationship, I still wank watching porn. But yeah, the messaging people would be a no go for me too. I guess all you can do is what feels right in your heart have you got people around you who you can lean on in real life? Try to gather your tribe around you to help you heal.xxx | |||
"Does he know you're on here? Sorry, but I don't understand, if you've been in a happy vanilla relationship why still have a profile on here? Does it matter, I've made a lot of friends on here, that I don't communicate with, other than here, I've never met off this profile, ok sunshine???" Well if he knows you're on here and chatting to friends perhaps he feels it's ok for him to chat to his friends to. Sorry.....sunshine.....I was just trying to see things from all angles 
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"Does he know you're on here? Sorry, but I don't understand, if you've been in a happy vanilla relationship why still have a profile on here? Does it matter, I've made a lot of friends on here, that I don't communicate with, other than here, I've never met off this profile, ok sunshine??? Well if he knows you're on here and chatting to friends perhaps he feels it's ok for him to chat to his friends to. Sorry.....sunshine.....I was just trying to see things from all angles
"No he doesn't know I'm on here, what difference does that make????? I'm not sending private pics to anyone, as I said I was a jezzabell couple of years ago, oh well never Mind, think this convo has run it's course x | |||
"Talk , you having nothing to loose & maybe just maybe you both could have a couple's profile
I don't want to share lol.
Then part company & move on , or just live a life of feeling “what’s he up to now “? At the end of the day your call
I'm the sort to not give second chances, done that too many times in my life, but bloody hell, the hassle now, to find somewhere to live, after feeling settled, he even talked about us getting married, the sex was regular and good, just wondering why, he felt the need to do this. Feeling very sad for what I have lost.......
Talk to him first could be any number of reasons hes done it, and may be one you feel you can mitigate depending on how strong your feelings are for him. Talk first though xx
Thanks, I love him to death, just feeling very betrayed. Yes guys I'm on here, so what? I'm not having sex with anyone ffs. "But neither is your partner having sex, just chatting. Do you only chat about news and weather on here, or could it sometimes be flirty or even dirty? I’m definitely not judging, just saying that if you do flirt etc on here, then actually your partner hasn’t done anything you aren’t doing. Either way, hope you sort things out xx | |||
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"Does he know you're on here? Sorry, but I don't understand, if you've been in a happy vanilla relationship why still have a profile on here? Does it matter, I've made a lot of friends on here, that I don't communicate with, other than here, I've never met off this profile, ok sunshine??? Well if he knows you're on here and chatting to friends perhaps he feels it's ok for him to chat to his friends to. Sorry.....sunshine.....I was just trying to see things from all angles
No he doesn't know I'm on here, what difference does that make????? I'm not sending private pics to anyone, as I said I was a jezzabell couple of years ago, oh well never Mind, think this convo has run it's course x"So he doesn't know you're chatting to people on here either? I'd say your hardly in a position to be holier than though with him. Talk to him, tell him you've looked at his phone, and that you're on this site, and go from there. | |||
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"I see hurt on both sides. He done something behind your back, but I would be so hurt if someone didn’t feel they could tell me about their past. However now is a good time for you both to get it all out in the open. Perhaps if you are honest with him about your life before he met you, he might be more comfortable to share his fantasies, which he is currently keeping a secret. Mrs " Always the voice of reason  | |||
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