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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the problem with the "so and so did this threads" is that the "so and so's" are hardly likely to be regular forum goers, or people "well-settled" into the swinging scene.
What then happens is that someone from the same social group (single males, females, couples), then feel (rightly or wrongly) that they have to defend their social set.
Why? Well the issue here is how "far-reaching" are the forums, just because you could count the posting members in the less than 200 bracket, doesnt mean that 500 dont read the forums. If a member of a social set, ignores the negative posts about his/her/their social set, then over time a negative impression will build up, which could directly or indirectly effect the posibility of being seen as genuine, honest etc. etc. consequently effecting negatively the number of potential meets.
So, single guys will defend single guys, but may sympatise with the OP's of such posts that there are some numpties on the site, and the same for single women and couples.
To the OP, you said no thank you and he couldnt take, he is an idiot, its that simple, people seem to forget that "choice" applies to both parties on this site, just because he has chosen someone doesnt mean he will be chosen by them, dont worry about it. It is easy for such people to send cutting remarks, negative comments or even insults, because he doesnt have a chance to meet you, therefore nothing to lose.
When I get messages from people that dont interest me, I just dont respond, keeps them guessing and stops them badmouthing me, flinging insult because there is still a "chance" sounds slightly arrogant, but thats not the case, this must work even better for single women or couples, as single guys are hardly likely to throw a wobbly if there is still "potential".
Strange as it seems on this site, a polite "no thank you" often coincides with a rebuke and insult, so best to ignore messages from people that dont interest you. If they pester, then block, if they are disrespectful, report.
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best to forget about it and move on to the next one ...
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