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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to? |
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By *hekMan
over a year ago
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Don’t force it, if you don’t like the sound of it then simply don’t.
But if you are curious, you can maybe go to a club or sauna and see how tempted you are to join in.
Whatever you do, enjoy |
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"I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to? "
The label police will query your use of the word ‘straight’.
Do whatever you’re comfortable with. Maybe a m/f couple where the guy is bi? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to?
The label police will query your use of the word ‘straight’.
Do whatever you’re comfortable with. Maybe a m/f couple where the guy is bi? "
I saw a article the other day that said no male is 100% straight so I’m not bothered by what the label police say |
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"I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to?
The label police will query your use of the word ‘straight’.
Do whatever you’re comfortable with. Maybe a m/f couple where the guy is bi?
I saw a article the other day that said no male is 100% straight so I’m not bothered by what the label police say"
That’s ‘Cosmopolitan’ for you  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to?
The label police will query your use of the word ‘straight’.
Do whatever you’re comfortable with. Maybe a m/f couple where the guy is bi?
I saw a article the other day that said no male is 100% straight so I’m not bothered by what the label police say"
Would be interesting to know the author of that article and their targeted audience. |
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"Chat to someone who are bi and go from there.
Plus don't put labels on people , we are all just people. "
I'm sorry but that's rubbish. We all walk around wearing our multilabelled coats even when we're naked. Whether the labels say...Mum/dad...Married/single...Bi/straight...Fuckable/run a mile...Fun/boring...Good company down the pub/nightmare when pissed...the list just goes on and on. We all make decisions on the people we meet and we all make them on the labels we decide to pull off the coat. Not everyone takes the same labels as that person means different things to different people but we all pull the labels off that coat and will continue to do so as long as we're all making conscious choices about the folks we interact with. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve gave this a go before and enjoyed it however for some reason whenever I think about doing it again I can’t bring myself round to it. Any ideas on how to? "
You seem conflicted and that's understandable - first step is for you to decide for yourself whether exploring your bisexual side is or isn't something you want to do - there is no "how to", it's what's in your head and resolving those conflicts that is key.
There's no shame either way, it doesn't mean you are gay, or make you any less of a man, just because you enjoy playing with men just as it doesn't make you any more of a man because you decide it's not for you.
Either way until you resolve that conflict for yourself there's not a great deal you can do about it.
Good luck though as it's something we have all struggled with in one way or another  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have never been to one but this is on my things to do. I am scared I will feel overwhelmed by too many cocks!"
Get down to one.....you'll be like a kid in a candy store once you get over the threshold |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"Don’t force it, if you don’t like the sound of it then simply don’t.
But if you are curious, you can maybe go to a club or sauna and see how tempted you are to join in.
Whatever you do, enjoy "
I’m not sure that a gay sauna is the best place to start - it’s a bit full on. One guy I know was traumatised by his visit and he’s not exactly a shrinking violet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t force it, if you don’t like the sound of it then simply don’t.
But if you are curious, you can maybe go to a club or sauna and see how tempted you are to join in.
Whatever you do, enjoy
I’m not sure that a gay sauna is the best place to start - it’s a bit full on. One guy I know was traumatised by his visit and he’s not exactly a shrinking violet "
Really? 
Try going in as a girl. Walk through then double back. You’ll see just how many guys are following  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t force it, if you don’t like the sound of it then simply don’t.
But if you are curious, you can maybe go to a club or sauna and see how tempted you are to join in.
Whatever you do, enjoy "
I agree go to a sauna, not on your doorstep though. Plenty of choice and you can decide on foreplay or full on sex for your first experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t force it, if you don’t like the sound of it then simply don’t.
But if you are curious, you can maybe go to a club or sauna and see how tempted you are to join in.
Whatever you do, enjoy
I’m not sure that a gay sauna is the best place to start - it’s a bit full on. One guy I know was traumatised by his visit and he’s not exactly a shrinking violet "
You might have a point. Bears Saturday at Darlaston maybe a sensory overload with 20 men crammed in a small dark room fucking like mad, sweat and cum everywhere....or maybe it is right up your street |
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Only you can know your mind op. Some people have felt guilty after engaging in things that they'd previously thought were wrong - maybe that's part of it?
Reflect and ask yourself the right questions. Is there something from same sex activities that you want, that was perhaps different to last time? Some mainly straight men have action with guys, where who/what the other guy is doesn't matter that much. For others, it's very different.
Obviously there can be many ways that people of all types become more relaxed. Some prefer to know someone reasonably well, others the complete opposite, so perhaps they'll never see them again. People may use various tactics to help relax too, including alcohol.
But it sounds like you've just got a personal barrier, so the first step is some introspection and asking yourself the right questions about what's going on. |
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"I have never been to one but this is on my things to do. I am scared I will feel overwhelmed by too many cocks!"
If you currently use the gym with changing rooms etc, then you'll get a similar experience to those sorts of places. Guys stripping off, putting towels on, potentially ending up in private rooms with each other, which you'd not see, unless you were one of them. OK, they might enjoy some flirting in the sauna, wanking in the cinema but this can happen at swinging clubs, where all the guys are hanging around us others, when they're trying to muscle in on the activity. |
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