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What makes a good sub slut?
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Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust.
We find trust being one of the major turn ins in our relationship.
Slut trusts me to have her safety & best interests at heart & I trust slut with all she is to me and how she feels for me.
We are Dom & Sub alone & away from Fab & always will be - anything Fab related is just an added kinky bonus to us both & we are totally on the same page with what we want from each other & both want from Fab.
A connection that’s hard to put into words about the sub/Dom relationship you share is the biggest turn on as it last 24 hours a day 7 days a week Constant
But from early replies - Yes manners & appreciation are up there too!! |
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Definatly trust, I know that Rob would always take care of me either alone or with others.
I would never tell Rob to stop doing anything but if I did then I know that he would stop in an instant.
Respect to you both.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definatly trust, I know that Rob would always take care of me either alone or with others.
I would never tell Rob to stop doing anything but if I did then I know that he would stop in an instant.
Respect to you both.
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Thank you
We have a safety word - but it’s never been used yet & id be surprised if it ever did due to how open & honest & in sync we are |
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I have been happy with the choices so far. I do a lot of the chatting on our profile probably 70% when we are doing a meet he changes the password then arranges who we meet. I trust that he would choose wisely. |
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Ill have to agree with others who have posted and say trust and also respect for me.
The dom/sub thing can be so good, but it only works with trust and honesty from both parties e.g. desires/needs, and limits.
Those limits need to be respected and the trust that they will be respected, that way both parties can just let go and know neither will be put into a position they really dont want to be.
once that is in place however, oh good god it can be so satisfying |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I don't think there is a single definition to what makes a good submissive - a lot of the trust, respect etc words come into it and are key, but the actual definition comes out of an individual relationship and it's own unique dynamics and is no different from any other relationship in some ways.
What may be good to one person or relationship may not be to another - it's more about finding a person you are matched with than a definition of good or bad. |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut? "
Just means you have a very low esteem! |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut?
Just means you have a very low esteem! "
That’s a very big assumption. I don’t see anything in want the OP said that would lead anyone to assume she has low self esteem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut?
Just means you have a very low esteem! "
Nothing to do what's so ever with low self esteem. I'm completely sub to Mr Foxxx in the bedroom.. Day to day though we're absolute equals. I have to be in complete control in my work so I massively get off on relinquishing control to him. But I still have the upper hand because its built on trust and respect. I get off on seeing how far he can take me. The sub is actually always the one in control |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut?
Just means you have a very low esteem!
Nothing to do what's so ever with low self esteem. I'm completely sub to Mr Foxxx in the bedroom.. Day to day though we're absolute equals. I have to be in complete control in my work so I massively get off on relinquishing control to him. But I still have the upper hand because its built on trust and respect. I get off on seeing how far he can take me. The sub is actually always the one in control "
This.
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Communicate clearly what your boundaries are. Communicate during the scene. Commuicate, communicate
Stop play if you feel your Dom is pushing too far. Going beyond limits is not a good scene.
Know the difference between a good Dom and a sexual bully. |
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For me, my positive submissive slutty trait is my urge to please others... i get off, getting them off... and doing it in a way i enjoy (even if its humiliating or painful, etc).
But to allow that trait to flourish i need that dominant to create an atmosphere in which i feel safe.
Two dominants who i enjoyed most (one male and one female) both created that environment... and for me it made me want to please them but importantly... explore their kinks and desires (not just my own)  |
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As others have said, trust & communication are both huge elements of D/s
A desire to please, to explore & a polite 'thank you Sir' go a long way as well ?? |
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"As others have said, trust & communication are both huge elements of D/s
A desire to please, to explore & a polite 'thank you Sir' go a long way as well ??"
You are definatly right. The desire to please has to be strong. I do like a good dom name, master or sir is hot. |
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"I don't have low self esteem. I'm very successful in work, have great friends and family.
I just enjoy the total lack of control, I find it hot. "
This  |
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"I don't have low self esteem. I'm very successful in work, have great friends and family.
I just enjoy the total lack of control, I find it hot.
This "
100% agree  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Lobotomy
Is that from experience? 
No, common sense...? Or maybe a bit more advanced thinking, but think about it..."
If, as I suspect, you are suggesting someone needs to have had a lobotomy to be a submissive, with the greatest of respect, I think you're displaying your lack of knowledge of the D/s dynamic.
People with submissive tendencies (myself included) are anything but brainless fools who are easily led - far from it, as has been readily shown by many of the posters on this thread alone.
You are of course entitled to your opinion, but when it comes from an uninformed angle then please be prepared to listen and learn from those who may be more knowledgeable. |
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"I don't have low self esteem. I'm very successful in work, have great friends and family.
I just enjoy the total lack of control, I find it hot. "
This |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut?
Just means you have a very low esteem!
That’s a very big assumption. I don’t see anything in want the OP said that would lead anyone to assume she has low self esteem "
I suggest you read her post again! |
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"Lobotomy
Is that from experience?
No, common sense...? Or maybe a bit more advanced thinking, but think about it...
If, as I suspect, you are suggesting someone needs to have had a lobotomy to be a submissive, with the greatest of respect, I think you're displaying your lack of knowledge of the D/s dynamic.
People with submissive tendencies (myself included) are anything but brainless fools who are easily led - far from it, as has been readily shown by many of the posters on this thread alone.
You are of course entitled to your opinion, but when it comes from an uninformed angle then please be prepared to listen and learn from those who may be more knowledgeable."
I agree with you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with submission.
I am expressing an extreme thought. In its extremity, to be the ideal sub for your dom, lobotomy (again in extreme measures) would be the perfect solution... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Lobotomy
Is that from experience?
No, common sense...? Or maybe a bit more advanced thinking, but think about it...
If, as I suspect, you are suggesting someone needs to have had a lobotomy to be a submissive, with the greatest of respect, I think you're displaying your lack of knowledge of the D/s dynamic.
People with submissive tendencies (myself included) are anything but brainless fools who are easily led - far from it, as has been readily shown by many of the posters on this thread alone.
You are of course entitled to your opinion, but when it comes from an uninformed angle then please be prepared to listen and learn from those who may be more knowledgeable.
I agree with you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with submission.
I am expressing an extreme thought. In its extremity, to be the ideal sub for your dom, lobotomy (again in extreme measures) would be the perfect solution..."
I don't think that it would at all - most Dom/mes I have known would prefer a submissive who can think for themselves, express their feelings, desires and limits articulately and be the ying to their yang.
A submissive who can do none of those things may be of interest to the uninformed Dom/me who think BDSM is all about the submissive doing anything they ask without question or prior discussion but to people that truly know and understand the BDSM lifestyle a submissive that blindly follows and accepts whatever they are told is just as dangerous as a Dom/me who thinks a sub should do whatever he/she asks of them. |
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My ex fem FB was from Sheffield and similar to you I think in that she enjoyed being my slut either one on one or with approved men or women I would invite to meet us
Outside of the eroticism of that master/slave thing and within the scope of adult role playing, subs need to be trusting of their master and allow him to judge what is right or wrong for her sexually - but being a sub is not just about sex, its about the lead up and thrill and anticipation of it all -
happy sexing pretty sub  |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut?
Just means you have a very low esteem!
That’s a very big assumption. I don’t see anything in want the OP said that would lead anyone to assume she has low self esteem
I suggest you read her post again! "
I did and I still believe your wrong, the op even says herself in this thread that she does not have low self esteem. Just out of interest what makes you think she does? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lobotomy
Is that from experience?
No, common sense...? Or maybe a bit more advanced thinking, but think about it...
If, as I suspect, you are suggesting someone needs to have had a lobotomy to be a submissive, with the greatest of respect, I think you're displaying your lack of knowledge of the D/s dynamic.
People with submissive tendencies (myself included) are anything but brainless fools who are easily led - far from it, as has been readily shown by many of the posters on this thread alone.
You are of course entitled to your opinion, but when it comes from an uninformed angle then please be prepared to listen and learn from those who may be more knowledgeable.
I agree with you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with submission.
I am expressing an extreme thought. In its extremity, to be the ideal sub for your dom, lobotomy (again in extreme measures) would be the perfect solution...
I don't think that it would at all - most Dom/mes I have known would prefer a submissive who can think for themselves, express their feelings, desires and limits articulately and be the ying to their yang.
A submissive who can do none of those things may be of interest to the uninformed Dom/me who think BDSM is all about the submissive doing anything they ask without question or prior discussion but to people that truly know and understand the BDSM lifestyle a submissive that blindly follows and accepts whatever they are told is just as dangerous as a Dom/me who thinks a sub should do whatever he/she asks of them."
I can accept that. |
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OP here... my what makes a good sub slut question was to get a gist of other people's ideas and maybe incorporate them into our relationship If I felt it was something that I / we would enjoy. I'm not a pushover out of the bedroom although would always aim to please but only when I'm comfortable doing that. |
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"My ex fem FB was from Sheffield and similar to you I think in that she enjoyed being my slut either one on one or with approved men or women I would invite to meet us
Outside of the eroticism of that master/slave thing and within the scope of adult role playing, subs need to be trusting of their master and allow him to judge what is right or wrong for her sexually - but being a sub is not just about sex, its about the lead up and thrill and anticipation of it all -
happy sexing pretty sub "
Why did you quote that she was from Sheffield? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've found the contributions to the thread v useful.
Thanks to all.
If there is a well verified Dom or another sub who would be interested to be a mentor for a newbie sub slut and someone they'd never meet pls let me know by private message.
Big thanks in advance
Kali x |
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Like it’s said before trust is the main one for us on both parts.
Also we both know that out of the bedroom we’re both equal, it’s just a sexual preference for us not life style |
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"Hello all,
I am quite submissive,I love being told what to do and used for my bfs pleasure and anyone he chooses for us to meet pleasure. I like a bit of pain too.
Tell me what do you think makes a good sub slut? "
A dom having respect for his sub and not just treating her as a piece of meat. It’s no fun for me as the dom if Minnie doesn’t enjoy it as well so I respect her at all times and try not to do things she doesn’t enjoy. Being a dom isn’t all about barking orders and spanking the living daylights out of a sub lol |
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