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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so been on and off here for nearly 8 yrs, been singles, been cpls and now a couple together, Also in that time going to the club or parties. I really can not stress enough that going to clubs and parties is way forward as well as using forums etc.
3 times this week alone we have met a guy/couple at the hot tub party who on fab we would of blocked or just not communicated with because of their profiles. However meeting in person they are all lovely, genuine amazing people.
Only posting this as just shows all the advice I see every day to people struggling to meet etc is so so so true.
So what do you have to loose, go for it and enjoy 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What impression do you get of single men wandering about clubs? Nuisance or welcome novelty? I’m looking to dip my toe in but it’s all very new."
Depends I guess if they have chatted and said hello and made the effort with conversation then watch us play I love it and sometimes Mr will ask them to join us. And also guys that just watch without wanking. I’m not into those that just wank and never speak but that’s just me. But not against it either as it’s part and parcel of the busier club nights is the fact you get all sorts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Absolutely agree. It’s so so so much easier to interact face to face than via the virtual comfort blanket. Mire people should get be it a whirl. "
Yup definitely, we had such a giggle writing the verifications at fact if fab message would of come through from them it would of been a block from us and yet 1 especially turned out to be best meet we have had |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely agree. It’s so so so much easier to interact face to face than via the virtual comfort blanket. Mire people should get be it a whirl.
Yup definitely, we had such a giggle writing the verifications at fact if fab message would of come through from them it would of been a block from us and yet 1 especially turned out to be best meet we have had "
Thanks both. This is really illuminating. You don’t think single men clog up these events then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Absolutely agree. It’s so so so much easier to interact face to face than via the virtual comfort blanket. Mire people should get be it a whirl.
Yup definitely, we had such a giggle writing the verifications at fact if fab message would of come through from them it would of been a block from us and yet 1 especially turned out to be best meet we have had
Thanks both. This is really illuminating. You don’t think single men clog up these events then? "
Not really as most clubs or parties only allow so many guys anyway. Sometimes can be odd ratio when first attending but again most have specific events for couples and people use those if they don’t like single guys.
Best advice I can give is go and give it a try, chat, be polite and friendly, speak to both people if it’s a couple and don’t go with expectations of sex and have fun |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I only meet in clubs for that very reason, "
Don’t blame you, we only joined back on fab as I like the forums and to chat to people we have met and keep in loop about events and parties etc x |
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I only meet in clubs for that very reason,
Don’t blame you, we only joined back on fab as I like the forums and to chat to people we have met and keep in loop about events and parties etc x "
Same I stay for the forums and events.
I can't even be arsed to talk to people on here all the guys that message think that saying hello what a shag gonna work lol face to face most men make an actually effort. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I only meet in clubs for that very reason,
Don’t blame you, we only joined back on fab as I like the forums and to chat to people we have met and keep in loop about events and parties etc x
Same I stay for the forums and events.
I can't even be arsed to talk to people on here all the guys that message think that saying hello what a shag gonna work lol face to face most men make an actually effort. "
Haha I know I remember that well when I was a single female and still get a few as a couple but no way near as many.
Also people assume cause I’m a bi gem we only look for single female but that’s not the case for us and we just like to go with the flow and if it happens then great but if not oh well still lots and lots of fun to be had hehe. Keep enjoying it’s great to see we’re not alone in this theory x |
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This subject is a good illustration of a much wider problem. I call it the curse of the internet.
There is a whole generation growing up (and many already grown) that really have no idea how to socialise other than via a keyboard.
When I started swinging as a single guy way back in the 1980's there was no internet as we know it today, and the only way to meet other swingers was to either go to a club (of which there were very few then) or try your luck in contact magazines or the Loot ads. To be fair I was a lot younger then but it was a very rare occasion that I drew a blank.
Now it seems that the perceived wisdom is that a two line profile and a dick pic sets you off on the super highway to endless sex. Well guess what? In the vast majority of cases it doesn't.
I can go back through some of the messages we receive on here and some of the profiles they come from and think if it wasn't so sad it would be funny.
A message would say something like "u up for a meet" so we would look at the profile and see nothing more than something like "gen guy wants fun" along with a blurred selfie of a dick, or quite often no pic at all. 
This isn't just a UK problem either, we get similar from the sites we use in Germany and Spain (although not to the extent we get on here)
This is one of the reasons that we now only meet in clubs.
The irony is that Mrs has played with and fucked many many guys in a club that she would have rejected out of hand from a message (even with a pic) on here.
There are many couples (and single girls) who go to clubs to meet and play with single guys.
Our advice to single guys would be, get yourself out there, go to clubs, and when you get there socialise and talk to people. Some will reject you but others will welcome you, but I will guarantee one thing.
The experience will be a damn site better than sitting in front of a keyboard moaning about "why can I not get any meets". |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This subject is a good illustration of a much wider problem. I call it the curse of the internet.
There is a whole generation growing up (and many already grown) that really have no idea how to socialise other than via a keyboard.
When I started swinging as a single guy way back in the 1980's there was no internet as we know it today, and the only way to meet other swingers was to either go to a club (of which there were very few then) or try your luck in contact magazines or the Loot ads. To be fair I was a lot younger then but it was a very rare occasion that I drew a blank.
Now it seems that the perceived wisdom is that a two line profile and a dick pic sets you off on the super highway to endless sex. Well guess what? In the vast majority of cases it doesn't.
I can go back through some of the messages we receive on here and some of the profiles they come from and think if it wasn't so sad it would be funny.
A message would say something like "u up for a meet" so we would look at the profile and see nothing more than something like "gen guy wants fun" along with a blurred selfie of a dick, or quite often no pic at all.
This isn't just a UK problem either, we get similar from the sites we use in Germany and Spain (although not to the extent we get on here)
This is one of the reasons that we now only meet in clubs.
The irony is that Mrs has played with and fucked many many guys in a club that she would have rejected out of hand from a message (even with a pic) on here.
There are many couples (and single girls) who go to clubs to meet and play with single guys.
Our advice to single guys would be, get yourself out there, go to clubs, and when you get there socialise and talk to people. Some will reject you but others will welcome you, but I will guarantee one thing.
The experience will be a damn site better than sitting in front of a keyboard moaning about "why can I not get any meets"."
Well said   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This subject is a good illustration of a much wider problem. I call it the curse of the internet.
There is a whole generation growing up (and many already grown) that really have no idea how to socialise other than via a keyboard.
When I started swinging as a single guy way back in the 1980's there was no internet as we know it today, and the only way to meet other swingers was to either go to a club (of which there were very few then) or try your luck in contact magazines or the Loot ads. To be fair I was a lot younger then but it was a very rare occasion that I drew a blank.
Now it seems that the perceived wisdom is that a two line profile and a dick pic sets you off on the super highway to endless sex. Well guess what? In the vast majority of cases it doesn't.
I can go back through some of the messages we receive on here and some of the profiles they come from and think if it wasn't so sad it would be funny.
A message would say something like "u up for a meet" so we would look at the profile and see nothing more than something like "gen guy wants fun" along with a blurred selfie of a dick, or quite often no pic at all.
This isn't just a UK problem either, we get similar from the sites we use in Germany and Spain (although not to the extent we get on here)
This is one of the reasons that we now only meet in clubs.
The irony is that Mrs has played with and fucked many many guys in a club that she would have rejected out of hand from a message (even with a pic) on here.
There are many couples (and single girls) who go to clubs to meet and play with single guys.
Our advice to single guys would be, get yourself out there, go to clubs, and when you get there socialise and talk to people. Some will reject you but others will welcome you, but I will guarantee one thing.
The experience will be a damn site better than sitting in front of a keyboard moaning about "why can I not get any meets".
Well said "
Haha! I suspect a lot of frustration at duff messages sits behind that. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience. |
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I only meet in clubs for that very reason,
Don’t blame you, we only joined back on fab as I like the forums and to chat to people we have met and keep in loop about events and parties etc x "
That is pretty much us as well.
Not many people come from the UK to our part of Germany and in all the years we have never met anyone from FAB here.
We get an occasional meet from FAB in Spain, a few in Cap d'Agde, and have had one or two when we visit the UK. We really justuse this site to keep up with a few friends, keep up to date about what is going on, and the forums. Meeting someone from here is a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only been to 2 clubs not swung yet. I would say clubs are definitely the way forward. We really enjoyed it we are going back to another one next month lol x |
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"This subject is a good illustration of a much wider problem. I call it the curse of the internet.
There is a whole generation growing up (and many already grown) that really have no idea how to socialise other than via a keyboard.
When I started swinging as a single guy way back in the 1980's there was no internet as we know it today, and the only way to meet other swingers was to either go to a club (of which there were very few then) or try your luck in contact magazines or the Loot ads. To be fair I was a lot younger then but it was a very rare occasion that I drew a blank.
Now it seems that the perceived wisdom is that a two line profile and a dick pic sets you off on the super highway to endless sex. Well guess what? In the vast majority of cases it doesn't.
I can go back through some of the messages we receive on here and some of the profiles they come from and think if it wasn't so sad it would be funny.
A message would say something like "u up for a meet" so we would look at the profile and see nothing more than something like "gen guy wants fun" along with a blurred selfie of a dick, or quite often no pic at all.
This isn't just a UK problem either, we get similar from the sites we use in Germany and Spain (although not to the extent we get on here)
This is one of the reasons that we now only meet in clubs.
The irony is that Mrs has played with and fucked many many guys in a club that she would have rejected out of hand from a message (even with a pic) on here.
There are many couples (and single girls) who go to clubs to meet and play with single guys.
Our advice to single guys would be, get yourself out there, go to clubs, and when you get there socialise and talk to people. Some will reject you but others will welcome you, but I will guarantee one thing.
The experience will be a damn site better than sitting in front of a keyboard moaning about "why can I not get any meets".
Well said
Haha! I suspect a lot of frustration at duff messages sits behind that. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience."
Oh yes, I wish they were worth a quid apiece.
I would just add that for selection and quality of swinger clubs we've never had it so good.
When I first started there were only a handful in the whole of the UK and pretty grotty places they were (anyone remember the Boardroom in Salford?)
Apart from a few of the more remote areas I would think almost everyone has a club within an hours drive these days. |
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I’m thinking that way more and more. Party nights are the way forward! At least with a club you get chatting to someone and know there’s less chance of cold feet and they’re definitely not a dreamer.
In the last few weeks I’ve had a number of guys either cancel outright or go UNLOS after starting to talk about meeting and also had my first ever no show for a social yesterday. I’ve partly put it down to the Easter holidays attracting bored people but as the site gets more media publicity it also attracts the pic collectors and fantasists. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Club people here and agree it is so easy to get the measure of a person within a couple of minutes of meeting at a club where as here you are always trying to decipher whatever persona they are trying to project. |
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"Sounds promising for the single men who know how to be respectful and are willing to chat & get to know people at clubs. "
Absolutely this. The guys who treat it as a night to make contacts and friends, who make an effort to be social, are welcomed and respected in my experience. Certainly by me!  |
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"Sounds promising for the single men who know how to be respectful and are willing to chat & get to know people at clubs.
Absolutely this. The guys who treat it as a night to make contacts and friends, who make an effort to be social, are welcomed and respected in my experience. Certainly by me! "
And us
When a guy actually goes to a club he would be much better received by most if he did a bit of networking/socialising in the bar/lounge areas. Of course he will get an occasional rejection but they would be surprised how many couples would welcome it, we certainly would, and do.
Trust us guys, it pays dividends.
I can't count the times when a guy has chatted and flirted with Mrs H then finished up in a playroom.
Sadly however most seem to turn into playroom stalkers the minute they walk in.
It isn't just looks and the size of your dick that matters.
Contrary to popular belief, most are not looking for a George Clooney lookalike with a baby's arm between his legs (although I think he would be popular if ever found )
Any decent guy that chats to us, flirts a bit, and makes Mrs H laugh when we are in a club is almost certain to go home happy. And we are sure that many other couples think the same.
Some may ask why I'm bothering to write all this. The answer is simple.
When we go to a club we are actively looking for single guys. Mrs H likes to fuck at least 2 or 3 on a club night but we get so many disappointments. Yes we have met some great guys over the years, but time and time again we see guys patrolling around the club who really haven't got a clue.
We really just want you to up your game. |
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"Sounds promising for the single men who know how to be respectful and are willing to chat & get to know people at clubs.
Absolutely this. The guys who treat it as a night to make contacts and friends, who make an effort to be social, are welcomed and respected in my experience. Certainly by me!
And us
When a guy actually goes to a club he would be much better received by most if he did a bit of networking/socialising in the bar/lounge areas. Of course he will get an occasional rejection but they would be surprised how many couples would welcome it, we certainly would, and do.
Trust us guys, it pays dividends.
I can't count the times when a guy has chatted and flirted with Mrs H then finished up in a playroom.
Sadly however most seem to turn into playroom stalkers the minute they walk in.
It isn't just looks and the size of your dick that matters.
Contrary to popular belief, most are not looking for a George Clooney lookalike with a baby's arm between his legs (although I think he would be popular if ever found )
Any decent guy that chats to us, flirts a bit, and makes Mrs H laugh when we are in a club is almost certain to go home happy. And we are sure that many other couples think the same.
Some may ask why I'm bothering to write all this. The answer is simple.
When we go to a club we are actively looking for single guys. Mrs H likes to fuck at least 2 or 3 on a club night but we get so many disappointments. Yes we have met some great guys over the years, but time and time again we see guys patrolling around the club who really haven't got a clue.
We really just want you to up your game."
We enjoy ‘talking’ to people on here but only meet at Clubs. This has worked well for us - either they show up and we get on; they show up and we don’t get on; or they don’t show up (or we don’t). Much less pressure than hotel or elsewhere and it always gives you the option to say no if they aren’t your thing. Then you have a lovely location with others to get to know |
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Oh and while we are on the subject of guys in clubs.
Why do so many think that when they go to a club it's amateur gynaecology night?
A pussy is a very delicate organ and, contrary to what you see in porno movies, most women don't like you to try and stuff as many fingers as you can get in there, then work it like the piston of a fucking Ferrari. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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We love clubs and organised socials. Met lots of lovely people that way. We love to interact with people. Social skills are the name of the game. We have seen many single guys at clubs walking up and down and up and down looking in rooms in the hope they might just join in on some action. Surely talking to people without any expectation will do them more good, as you never know next time a visit, people will know who they are and if they build a rapore with folk who are looking for single guys they just might be a little more successful. Just our observations. |
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