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Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs  |
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over a year ago
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I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.
It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site. |
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over a year ago
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i dont think many of them get cold feet i think they have no intentions of meeting at all and its all down to the power trip of the pull for some and then they are off for a wank ..all while the wife is doing something else ... |
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I would never not show up to am agreed meet. Cant really speak for others. They are probably fakes. Its definetly losers like that who make single guys on here look bad to ladies and couples. Shame  |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug  "
We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes  |
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"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug
We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes "
Have to agree. |
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over a year ago
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"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?
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She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.
Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row  |
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"Even well verified members.
Yeah it's same shit different day "
You lot are clearly not doing something right. Why's it always the guys fault. Maybe you did,said or they saw something they didn't like? |
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"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug "
This is another reason women act the way they do on accessions. We as men need to stop being so forgiven and sorry mate. There will be,but not many women who will give a guy 3 chances in whole time being in fab,let alone 3 chances in a week. What were you thinking. She is now forever going to think she's something she's not and most likely go in to take the piss with other men . Lord give me strength  |
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some single men do not give the good ones a good name and just makes it worse for the rest of us, I work long hours and have to do callouts but have never let anyone down, but still find it hard to get meets |
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By *esjMan
over a year ago
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Itsthe fake profiles that never intend tomeet and it’s putting offwomen and couples from meeting genuine lads who want to play
I’ve only had one meet and turned up
But most don’t reply because they think we aren’t gonna show up |
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over a year ago
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I think men genuinely get cold sometime because in their chat they have given it the big build up but know they can never live up to the chat. So they make an excuse and drop out. |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs "
Based on your photos and profile, I can’t believe it’s cold feet. Surely the excitement of meeting would overcome that. Perhaps they were never in a position to meet? |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Woman and Cpls are just as bad "
In another forum post. Yes couples are as bad. Let down by same couple over in a period of couple years. Had spoken on phone to both. I reported after third time. Their profile disappeared from site a few days later. |
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I agree and it works both ways, on several occasions I have arranged meets with couples, going through a period of intense teasing etc only for them to cancel, often at the very last minute, again, for them, it's probably the thrill of hooking up but with no intention of going through with it, i guess it's all part of the game |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs "
Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.
They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.
When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up. |
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Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.
They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.
When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up."
That's the conclusion we have come to after being stood up a number of times. We've also been let down by couples too, but we figured a number of those were guys posting as a couple, the number of women in a couple that have a last minute engagement is incredible, the guys are always free  |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree and it works both ways, on several occasions I have arranged meets with couples, going through a period of intense teasing etc only for them to cancel, often at the very last minute, again, for them, it's probably the thrill of hooking up but with no intention of going through with it, i guess it's all part of the game "
Period of intense teasing probably = wank chat so that's the issue |
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Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.
They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.
When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up.
That's the conclusion we have come to after being stood up a number of times. We've also been let down by couples too, but we figured a number of those were guys posting as a couple, the number of women in a couple that have a last minute engagement is incredible, the guys are always free "
LOL. We've had that one in the past.
"The Mrs isn't feeling well, but I can come on my own if you like"
It is one of the reasons we now only meet in clubs.
If it is a no show then we still have a good night. |
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Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..
They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..
Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x |
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"i dont think many of them get cold feet i think they have no intentions of meeting at all and its all down to the power trip of the pull for some and then they are off for a wank ..all while the wife is doing something else ..."
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"Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..
They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..
Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x"
not so sure about your statement "below usual standards" lol  |
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"Simple answer is guys get horny and make arrangements..
They probably wank and the horniness subsides and in the cold light of day they realised they’ve arranged to meet someone below there usually standards because sex was on offer ..
Same definitely applies for the ladies too im sure x
not so sure about your statement "below usual standards" lol "
Below there usual standards there’s a difference..
Some are popular on here because they enjoy good sex ..
These arnt necessarily the first to be chatted up in a bar in the real world..
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over a year ago
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"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.
I don’t believe that ..
Not hard to meet on here atall x
Be nice,funny and non pushy .."
Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here. |
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"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.
I don’t believe that ..
Not hard to meet on here atall x
Be nice,funny and non pushy ..
Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here."
Im an aberration??
Why is that ? |
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"Meanwhile us genuine folk can't even get a look in.
I don’t believe that ..
Not hard to meet on here atall x
Be nice,funny and non pushy ..
Says you. Hate to break it to you, but you're the aberration here.
Im an aberration??
Why is that ? "
You don't find it hard to meet here. That makes you unusual. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs"
If you give them wank fodder that all they want. Dont do sex chat if that's what you are doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sometimes people lead complicated double lives and sometimes they have to cry off although they originally intended to meet. happened to me lots of times |
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over a year ago
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I can't believe what's just happened. I was ment to go for drink with a couple. I got to pub walked in and message sorry can't meet. Now there profile has gone |
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over a year ago
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Well this guy has messaged sooo many couple and had a few good chats but like you mentioned soon as it comes close to arranging they bail or disapear.. hell whys it so hard!! Really frustrating!! |
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"Well this guy has messaged sooo many couple and had a few good chats but like you mentioned soon as it comes close to arranging they bail or disapear.. hell whys it so hard!! Really frustrating!!"
I know what u mean. I have meet lots of nice people on here. But it's getting worce for time wasters and pic hunters |
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"I agree and it works both ways, on several occasions I have arranged meets with couples, going through a period of intense teasing etc only for them to cancel, often at the very last minute, again, for them, it's probably the thrill of hooking up but with no intention of going through with it, i guess it's all part of the game
Period of intense teasing probably = wank chat so that's the issue "
More than likely |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs "
some are just dreamers, they're are good behind a keyboard with the sparing but when it comes to the main event their bottle goes! It's hard enough getting a meet on here as it is, let alone having on a plate then wasting people's time. I was lucky enough to get invited by a couple, I took my opportunity with both hands and I loved every minute of it! |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs "
Would never have sex chat in any form with someone I intended in meeting. That sort of chat is 10 a penny. It's no wonder people lose respect and don't show x |
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I think some single are married and can't make meets , others the build up is too much for them and newbys may have come in there pants before they have left there home ,but what bugs me the most is when you have been chatting for the week even talked on the phone exchanged pics sets the boundary and they cancel 10 mins before the meet having got ready etc and then in the mood at which time it's too late to do anything else . We tend to stick now to guys we have met and got on with |
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"I think some single are married and can't make meets , others the build up is too much for them and newbys may have come in there pants before they have left there home ,but what bugs me the most is when you have been chatting for the week even talked on the phone exchanged pics sets the boundary and they cancel 10 mins before the meet having got ready etc and then in the mood at which time it's too late to do anything else . We tend to stick now to guys we have met and got on with "
At least they cancelled. My last attempt at a meet, the woman just didn't turn up. |
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"I think some single are married and can't make meets , others the build up is too much for them and newbys may have come in there pants before they have left there home ,but what bugs me the most is when you have been chatting for the week even talked on the phone exchanged pics sets the boundary and they cancel 10 mins before the meet having got ready etc and then in the mood at which time it's too late to do anything else . We tend to stick now to guys we have met and got on with "
You could always fuck each other
When I get let down its just Pam and her 5 sisters left  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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I used to give a couple of chances, if I decide I want to meet then it's one time only now, regardless of the reason. I no longer allow other people's lives to impact on mine. It may sound harsh, but they aren't my problems. |
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over a year ago
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It's absolutely the same for women and couples. The problem with a site like this is it's easy to set up meets but never any gaurentee at all even with Veris.
Plus there are people on here that actually get something from setting people up. It happens too often to be called "Cold Feet".
Unfortunately it's all genders, regardless of the background work that you do before any meet. It's still a lottery. |
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I can't believe it I never get much luck getting meets but if I do I always turn up and seem to be enjoyed! Any women an couple's in North of England that don't want another no show arrange a visit from me lol |
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"Our theory (from years of experience) is that a sizeable chunk of the "single" guys that lurk in and around the swinger world, and we don't just mean this site, are married guys.
They will make plans to meet, go to a club, or whatever, on the basis that they can think up a good enough excuse to sneak away from the Mrs for a few hours.
When they can't think of one, or the one they do try gets a knock back from the Mrs, then they either cancel at the last minute or just don't turn up."
That is exactly it. |
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I got stood up by a guy with lots of good verifications. The very day of the meeting he confirmed, then just a no show. No message, no apology....
I didn't have a problem as I went in to club anyway and has a super time and came away with new contacts and friends
Same thing happened last Friday... A few hours before..."I'm sick I'm not coming".
No problems, I went anyway and again had a great time
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It’s the same reason that very few men are any good in Porn . When the pressure is on and they are expected to perform to order they just can’t and they can’t stand the thought of the potential humiliation so just don’t turn up.
It’s the same reason so many couples will only meet in Clubs ie the pressure performing in a two couple meeting in a house or Hotel is just too much for the male so he avoids it. |
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I would strongly suspect in 99% of cases of men cancelling (and I suspect it happens far less often than any other group) is due to them not in fact being single/permitted to play. |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs "
We thought it just happened to us, we think we have found a good one, the chat seems to go well, and boom, as soon as we mention arranging a meet they either go quiet or they decide something has come up on the day we arrange the meet for, its happened a few times, sick of giving guys a chance and being let down, and bo we sont want loads of private messages from guys saying they wont let us down (just a heads up) |
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Yep, same here. I've have several meets lined up, gotten myself ready for them, then they've either cancelled an hour b4, or just never messaged at all. So kind of giving up with them. |
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"Is it just us or do others find rather a few of the single men on her talk a big game but the 2 days before suddenly have other commitments. Know there are lots of fish in the sea but we enjoy the build up etc not email ping pong but getting some ground rules and also getting the excitement going too.... ffs
We thought it just happened to us, we think we have found a good one, the chat seems to go well, and boom, as soon as we mention arranging a meet they either go quiet or they decide something has come up on the day we arrange the meet for, its happened a few times, sick of giving guys a chance and being let down, and bo we sont want loads of private messages from guys saying they wont let us down (just a heads up) "
I’ve had it the other way a few times where arranged with women or couples who cancel at the last minute - or the age old one where the couple was actually a single guy. It’s weird though that so many men say they struggle for a meet but the so many pull out or don’t show. I don’t get it |
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Yep I've been let down by single men, with good verifications. No message, no explanation or excuse, just don't show up.
Thankfully I only meet at clubs, so I just go in anyway and have a good time with someone else;);) |
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It's like cats and dogs. When dogs chase cats, if the cat stops and stares at the dog, the dog stops and doesn't know what to do... so just walks off. Thrill of the chase and all that. |
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We looked long and hard at this problem, having been let down enough times. even to the extent you ping pong messages back n forth for weeks, as soon as you suggest suitable dates for a meet.... you get ghosted.
there could be a couple of reasons, individually or combined, for people getting cold feet.
1 expectation of performance, we all get it at some point.
2 dopermine rush at validation, we all get a rush when things start panning out, maybe these people get enough of a rush it negates the act you are planning.
3 playing away from home and all the minefeild of crap that entails.
4 genuine reasons,
combine any or all of these and they ghost or dont turn up,
it is unfortunately the nature of the game. |
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"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?
She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.
Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row "
Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man |
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"We looked long and hard at this problem, having been let down enough times. even to the extent you ping pong messages back n forth for weeks, as soon as you suggest suitable dates for a meet.... you get ghosted.
there could be a couple of reasons, individually or combined, for people getting cold feet.
1 expectation of performance, we all get it at some point.
2 dopermine rush at validation, we all get a rush when things start panning out, maybe these people get enough of a rush it negates the act you are planning.
3 playing away from home and all the minefeild of crap that entails.
4 genuine reasons,
combine any or all of these and they ghost or dont turn up,
it is unfortunately the nature of the game."
It certainly does happen and it’s a nuisance. We have a promising meeting booked this week so fingers crossed! |
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Don't think for one second it's a single male thing as you're suggesting. Its across-the-board as other have shared their experiences of couples and singles ladies letting them down.
If you consider that there's more than 100x single male profiles (genuine or not), then in an equal world I'd expect 100 X more let downs.
You'll also get hundreds more messages to start to choose from than single guys, now that's more in your hands who you decide to pursue and who not and you may then start to correspond with the wrong choice who'll not come through.
For me I've had quite a few no shows (not talking about those who phone an hr or so in advance to say can't meet for whatever reason as thats legit and not a no show) before I decided No longer to initiate the first message. That means I only get messages in response to forum posts I'm in and discuss our ideas privately but I may only get an initial message of interest once a month at best. I'll apply my filtering on that one person the same as you apply to the hundreds daily, though the chances of not coming through with my odds are probably much greatly reduced due to natural selection that's already happened. I only look for 'repeat meeters', so they may fall at the first hurdle too if I suspect otherwise after viewing their profile and fab activities.
I do ok apparently too I'm told by friends. |
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"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?
She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.
Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row
Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man"
I'd genuinely like to know these stats. That a very very BiG brush used there implying single ladies don't do no shows and it's the single men that do it. My experience tells me otherwise and the number of veris or length of time on fab has little bearing with not turning up in my experience. |
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"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?
She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.
Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row
Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man
I'd genuinely like to know these stats. That a very very BiG brush used there implying single ladies don't do no shows and it's the single men that do it. My experience tells me otherwise and the number of veris or length of time on fab has little bearing with not turning up in my experience."
I'm not suggesting that women can't also be flaky, but discussions with men from here (who I have met in real life)! have taught me that a lot of "women" they were speaking to turned out to be men |
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"chances to say yes or no or she said yes and never turned up ?
She said yes. First two times she got 'side tracked', third time she actually suggested time and place... And never turned up.
Felt weird. never been stood up before and this week it's happened three times in a row
Had you spoken to her on the phone or met her before? If not "she" was probably a man
I'd genuinely like to know these stats. That a very very BiG brush used there implying single ladies don't do no shows and it's the single men that do it. My experience tells me otherwise and the number of veris or length of time on fab has little bearing with not turning up in my experience.
I'm not suggesting that women can't also be flaky, but discussions with men from here (who I have met in real life)! have taught me that a lot of "women" they were speaking to turned out to be men"
Ok. I've never had that happen to my knowledge. So all these female profiles are actually men? Wonder how they found out or more speculative or immotive conclusions?
Not sure what could ever be achieved by that in all honesty. A Sex change and cosmetics would cost a bloody fortune just for a coffee meet. |
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over a year ago
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"Twice we been stood up after we got hotel, with not even a message"
I had that happen a couple times too years ago and stopped hotel meets unless she booked it first, few will do that so that's why I'll only consider meeting those who can accommodate. |
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La Passionista:
I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.
I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.
(Predictive text changed your name) |
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"La Passionista:
I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.
I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.
(Predictive text changed your name)"
Being careful and selective is all any of us can do on here to try to avoid timewasters |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"La Passionista:
I'm not looking argument, I'm just amazed given the much smaller number of female profiles there are compared to male ones.
I guess I filter out all newbies and just very careful and selective when I do move forward so haven't come across that issue. I've been her over 5 years on and off too.
(Predictive text changed your name)
Being careful and selective is all any of us can do on here to try to avoid timewasters "
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over a year ago
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Two days before would be great, it's usually on the day, but you can spot the signs after a while, when they are vague about the address, or change the day. A social meet first sorts the dreamers from the dooers |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Two days before would be great, it's usually on the day, but you can spot the signs after a while, when they are vague about the address, or change the day. A social meet first sorts the dreamers from the dooers"
Exactly, unless I've had contact on the day prior to leaving I don't go. I've now started to meet when I'm planning to do something in town etc as well. That way it's never a wasted journey either. |
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
East Northamptonshire |
We find it a lot and can only out it down to many having the fantasy of an MMF and/or fit older lady, then when that finally comes to actually meeting it's to real and they haven't got the guts to go though with it. Some may well be attached guys too who think being on fab and chatting to someone isn't cheating in their mind, until that real life meet becomes about to happen. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We find it a lot and can only out it down to many having the fantasy of an MMF and/or fit older lady, then when that finally comes to actually meeting it's to real and they haven't got the guts to go though with it. Some may well be attached guys too who think being on fab and chatting to someone isn't cheating in their mind, until that real life meet becomes about to happen."
I suspect this captures nearly all of it...
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
Sussex/Surrey |
Yes one this week after chatting for a while and finding out his availability, we offered him a confirmed meet and he suddenly says he was “waiting for a friend to confirm whether they were doing something which had been pencilled in.”
We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.
Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's as much cold feet as either being a fantasist with no intention of meeting in the first place, or being easily distracted by someone more readily available who they perceive as "better" |
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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"I don't think it's as much cold feet as either being a fantasist with no intention of meeting in the first place, or being easily distracted by someone more readily available who they perceive as "better" "
This
I’ve only recently cancelled two meets because I made the decision to switch from my solo to just our couple meets because of men leading me on. Before that I’ve never cancelled or gotten cold feet.
If you’re arranging to meet someone and life happens then fine but there does seem to be a higher influx of time wasters lately.
We’re requesting video calls with everyone now before a meet even a social so it helps to stop that kind of thing.
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"Yes one this week after chatting for a while and finding out his availability, we offered him a confirmed meet and he suddenly says he was “waiting for a friend to confirm whether they were doing something which had been pencilled in.”
We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.
Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ?"
My favourite answer to are you free on...
I think so, I should be etc. when followed by radio silence.
And its lesser known cousin - are you still ok for... as far as I know, I should be etc... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.
It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site."
What makes them time wasters? Some find it difficult and so will meet anyone offering others have filters and stick to them. Some filters are personal ones fab doesn't have and maybe after a few messages they don't want to waste any more time.
There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.
It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.
What makes them time wasters? Some find it difficult and so will meet anyone offering others have filters and stick to them. Some filters are personal ones fab doesn't have and maybe after a few messages they don't want to waste any more time.
There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too. "
For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.
It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.
What makes them time wasters? Some find it difficult and so will meet anyone offering others have filters and stick to them. Some filters are personal ones fab doesn't have and maybe after a few messages they don't want to waste any more time.
There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too.
For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up. "
Life happens and I don't think telling someone the day or two before as in the OPs case is being a time waster for whatever reason they change their mind. If they do it an hr before without demonstrating their reason as being true then yes I'd say time waster and report. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t speak for anyone else but I have had no joy in getting anyone to meet. A few couples show interest then hey what do you know, they want lots of cock pics and then they disappear. Can’t be arsed with folk like that. I know there are many many genuine couples on here, used to be part of one myself but as usual on both sides it’s a few that spoil it for the majority |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why so many men get cold feet,it's difficult enough for solo men to get meets.
It would be better for the genuine men keen to play if the time wasting dreamers got off the site.
What makes them time wasters? Some find it difficult and so will meet anyone offering others have filters and stick to them. Some filters are personal ones fab doesn't have and maybe after a few messages they don't want to waste any more time.
There could be many reasons not to continue chatting. Sometimes the initial fizz just goes too.
For me, a timewaster is someone who arranges a meet then doesn't turn up.
Life happens and I don't think telling someone the day or two before as in the OPs case is being a time waster for whatever reason they change their mind. If they do it an hr before without demonstrating their reason as being true then yes I'd say time waster and report."
I completely agree, telling someone you can't make it isn't time-wasting, that's simply changing their mind or something coming up. If, however, they just don't turn up and go silent, that's a timewaster in my opinion. |
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"Yes one this week after chatting for a while and finding out his availability, we offered him a confirmed meet and he suddenly says he was “waiting for a friend to confirm whether they were doing something which had been pencilled in.”
We didn’t hear after three more days so blocked/move on.
Nice to be second choice entertainment if nothing better comes up isn’t it ?"
How annoying and a waste of time, if a nice couple like you offer a meet, then it would be madness to not turn up. All men are not like this I can assure you. If I agree to meet, then I meet as it's not fair to waste people's time unless it's a genuine reason. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
I was in a chat room the other day, one guy said he wasn't going to bother going to am arranged meet that day as he "couldn't be arsed" and "was still hanging from last night". Just about says it all, and they wonder why they struggle. I do hope the lady in question has blocked and reported him as being a no show. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you’ve taken the time to arrange a meet then the gentlemanly thing is to show up at least.....or don’t waste peoples time!
I have very limited spare time and having it wasted is that made me leave this place!
Any how you grow older and wiser and more astute in who are the real people and who you just avoid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often wonder this....I like the build up and then often get the excuses after weeks of chatting and arranging a meet, even from verified people. I think its a lot different these days to 20 years ago. It can be frustrating but just part of it I guess, even regular meets seem to do it these days.... hey ho, I always give one chance but if messed around again I just knock them on the head and move on! |
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"I’m sure they are proper reasons though like we all have real life’s that come first"
More like they are married or attached and on an ego trip to see how far they can go before they have to “bail out”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I (naively) gave a woman off here not one, not two, but THREE chances this week. Felt like such a mug
We've all been there at some point. One chance only is now my rule , regardless of what story they tell. Might be a bit harsh but that's life sometimes "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me you should look if the guy has got verifications and read them because if he has experienced having fun with other couples then he would not have cold feet meeting you. But there is guys that cannot perform when it comes to meeting couples I have seen that in the clubs and they say to me how can you do it in front of so many people, I just say it’s a big turn on for me to have others watching, but again I love watching others too |
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