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over a year ago
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Yes I would. What they do in their private life has nothing to do with me. After all, I only really meet in clubs and in all the years I have played, I have never yet heard anyone ask another person if they are cheating before they play. Let's face it, would they even say yes?
This for me is NSA sex, I'm not here to judge anyone on their personal lives that I know nothing about. |
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over a year ago
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I'd never knowingly facilitate a cheat, regardless of whether I knew the innocent partner or not. It comes down to consent as far as I'm concerned- I wouldn't have sex with someone without their consent, so why would I then allow someone to cheat when their partner is not consenting to what is happening behind their back. It's basic respect and humanity in my opinion. |
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"I'd never knowingly facilitate a cheat, regardless of whether I knew the innocent partner or not. It comes down to consent as far as I'm concerned- I wouldn't have sex with someone without their consent, so why would I then allow someone to cheat when their partner is not consenting to what is happening behind their back. It's basic respect and humanity in my opinion."
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A few mixed responses I see. I have friends who are married & play as a couple as well as separate with full consent from each other. These friends met with a female they knew last year, first time was just the male from my friends but second time was as a couple.
The females partner has found out almost a year later that she had sex with the male but has told her OH nothing about playing with the female in the couple or that it was consented with her too. Now the females partner is led to believe that the male in the couple is a cheat & a liar etc when actually (other than having sex with the female knowing she was in a relationship) he's done nothing wrong. The couple, especially the male, are now worried people are going to hear he's a cheat (female lives a couple of villages away) when he isn't at all. Hoping the distance between them this isn't going to happen but male is really worried it's a possibility.
The female they played with has had to rebuild her relationship with her OH & admitted to cheating with other people too over many years, she liked the swinger lifestyle but she's never been able to talk to her OH about it. |
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"A few mixed responses I see. I have friends who are married & play as a couple as well as separate with full consent from each other. These friends met with a female they knew last year, first time was just the male from my friends but second time was as a couple.
The females partner has found out almost a year later that she had sex with the male but has told her OH nothing about playing with the female in the couple or that it was consented with her too. Now the females partner is led to believe that the male in the couple is a cheat & a liar etc when actually (other than having sex with the female knowing she was in a relationship) he's done nothing wrong. The couple, especially the male, are now worried people are going to hear he's a cheat (female lives a couple of villages away) when he isn't at all. Hoping the distance between them this isn't going to happen but male is really worried it's a possibility.
The female they played with has had to rebuild her relationship with her OH & admitted to cheating with other people too over many years, she liked the swinger lifestyle but she's never been able to talk to her OH about it. "
If people think something about me that isn't true I don't care. If people think the guy of the couple is a cheat and his wife knows he's not that's all that matters.
Whose husband won't talk about swinging? |
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"Would you meet & play with someone you knew was in a relationship but their OH didn't know & would it make a difference if you knew who the OH was even if you didn't know them well. "
Yes and no respectively! |
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"Would you meet & play with someone you knew was in a relationship but their OH didn't know & would it make a difference if you knew who the OH was even if you didn't know them well. "
No. To us that would be simply cheating, not swinging. |
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If people think something about me that isn't true I don't care. If people think the guy of the couple is a cheat and his wife knows he's not that's all that matters.
Whose husband won't talk about swinging?"
This is what I said, if anything is said to them just say it's simply not true & move on.
I definitely think it's lesson learned for them though.
From what I've heard the females partner is very vanilla & won't talk about sex let alone even think of swinging. |
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If people think something about me that isn't true I don't care. If people think the guy of the couple is a cheat and his wife knows he's not that's all that matters.
Whose husband won't talk about swinging?
This is what I said, if anything is said to them just say it's simply not true & move on.
I definitely think it's lesson learned for them though.
From what I've heard the females partner is very vanilla & won't talk about sex let alone even think of swinging. "
It'll be old news and people will move on to the next person soon enough.
The woman doesn't sound as if she gives the whole story to anybody so what she says about her husband is likely to be edited. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ffs, I need a holiday after trying to understand that story.
But to answer your original question OP, no, I wouldn't get involved. Enough ups and downs in my own life without bringing someone else's shit and their partner's into it. It's beyond me how people can be arsed with all this drama. Maybe I'm just a lazy coo.. |
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Im here in secret (judge me all you like.. ive had abuse for it) i will only meet people in the same situation as me, i wont meet singles. For me the secret life gives me such a buzz and knowing that im someone elses smdirty secret turns me on.
Everyone has different reasons for doing what i do, i have my own reasons, do i feel guilty? Yes, will i stop? No, do i sleep about? No, do i have/want one fwb? Yes, but they must be in the same situation, and there are very strict rules.
My last fwb had a disabled partner that had been in a life changing accident, he couldnt remember who she was at times but she loved him so dearly, we were a means to a end for each other, to fill that blank space.
No one should judge everyone has a reason for being who they are and act the way they do. |
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