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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey Peeps,
This has probably been discussed a MILLION times but, ladies & gentleman does boob size, butt size, vagina shape/size, etc, ever even matter to you if you got someone naked?
I'm curious as I've had discussions with people where they say (for example) that originally they love an E cup boob, a large butt, a neat vagina or have a preference for a longer labia and then, in reality, none of it matters cause they've got a lady naked 
I get pretty damn self-conscious about my body apart from with my partner and it makes me nervous at meets. 
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- H
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"I'm incredibly body conscious as well. I'll be interested in seeing what people say. Maybe it will help put me at ease a bit "
*Self conscious about my body I suppose would have been the best way to word it. |
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I'm a larger lady of a certain age and I find I've become less confident this last couple of years.
Though a person's body shape makes no odds to me if I get on with someone so I know I shouldn't worry.....maybe it's my age! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never ever thought it really mattered but I have recently had a Double Mastectomy and believe me it does matter to a lot of people. I have had the worst messages and grief you could imagine because I am not "a proper woman" as many have called me.
which makes you obviously very body conscious x
I think if you have the confidence to be happy in your own skin it is far more attractive than big boobs..big butt or anything like that x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey Peeps,
This has probably been discussed a MILLION times but, ladies & gentleman does boob size, butt size, vagina shape/size, etc, ever even matter to you if you got someone naked?
I'm curious as I've had discussions with people where they say (for example) that originally they love an E cup boob, a large butt, a neat vagina or have a preference for a longer labia and then, in reality, none of it matters cause they've got a lady naked
I get pretty damn self-conscious about my body apart from with my partner and it makes me nervous at meets.
Thanks
- H
x"
I really dont care. If someone has a cheeky smile and likes a giggle go for it. I love all shapes and sizes. The best part of swinging is thats there is a variety of body types. why stick to one specific type. Mix it up a bit!
Its all about having fun and a giggle for me. Not feeling insecure about how u look. Get out and go for it. fcuk it! Lol
Good luck u sexy minx u
Cheeky xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The purpose of seduction is that, by the time you're stripped down, there's such a torrent of desire flowing through you that you're really overwhelmed by the yearning to fuck the person you're with not their body. If, when you get there, you're thinking "hmm I prefer a d cup to a c" or "oh I don't really like hairy chests" then you haven't done the seduction right. Of course, if it's the man who's got c cup moobs and it's a woman with a hairy chest that advice might not apply  |
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I can only speak about myself- if I have a guy naked I have honestly never thought "oh I won't fuck him because now that I can see everything I discovered that his dick is bend/bigger stomach/no arse or whatever "
at the stage I fancy the person and not specific body parts. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I find as long as you have plenty of pictures to see, that are clear and concise (not deceptively close ups, that could actually be of anything)
If someone makes contact, it should be indicative that they are interested.
We all have our own body hang ups of some kind, but open and honest is the way to go. |
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By *lappyMan
over a year ago
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Im very body conscious as well but I think if a person is up front and honest before a meet then that helps ease any fears or worries that that person may have and will feel a lot more comfortable and at ease in the build up to and during any meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to say body shape doesn't bother me but I work hard to keep in shape. So I guess I may be a little vain.
That being said I don't have a preference when it comes to playing with others. Once someone looks after themselves that's all that really matters. |
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I'm not a slim lady but am comfortable in my skin. I love having curves and accept my baby belly.
In others... We don't expect people to be super fit. Sexiness comes in many shapes and sizes. Size and shape of boobs and genitalia is totally unimportant.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all!
I think society as a whole shapes us to believe 'perfection' is 1) attainable & 2) if you don't have 'it' you're not attractive.
If only I could listen to my own advice!  |
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"I never ever thought it really mattered but I have recently had a Double Mastectomy and believe me it does matter to a lot of people. I have had the worst messages and grief you could imagine because I am not "a proper woman" as many have called me.
which makes you obviously very body conscious x
I think if you have the confidence to be happy in your own skin it is far more attractive than big boobs..big butt or anything like that x
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I am so sorry that you've had to hear that kind of bullshit! Don't you listen to a second of it!!! Not a proper woman, absolute rubbish. A woman is more than a set of tits. Much more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I never ever thought it really mattered but I have recently had a Double Mastectomy and believe me it does matter to a lot of people. I have had the worst messages and grief you could imagine because I am not "a proper woman" as many have called me.
which makes you obviously very body conscious x
I think if you have the confidence to be happy in your own skin it is far more attractive than big boobs..big butt or anything like that x
I am so sorry that you've had to hear that kind of bullshit! Don't you listen to a second of it!!! Not a proper woman, absolute rubbish. A woman is more than a set of tits. Much more. "
YES! You are beautiful & a hell of lot stronger than those idiots who said those things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never ever thought it really mattered but I have recently had a Double Mastectomy and believe me it does matter to a lot of people. I have had the worst messages and grief you could imagine because I am not "a proper woman" as many have called me.
which makes you obviously very body conscious x
I think if you have the confidence to be happy in your own skin it is far more attractive than
big boobs..big butt or anything like that x
Thank u I totally agree. I guess it just shows some people’s ignorance and shallow minds x
I am so sorry that you've had to hear that kind of bullshit! Don't you listen to a second of it!!! Not a proper woman, absolute rubbish. A woman is more than a set of tits. Much more. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never ever thought it really mattered but I have recently had a Double Mastectomy and believe me it does matter to a lot of people. I have had the worst messages and grief you could imagine because I am not "a proper woman" as many have called me.
which makes you obviously very body conscious x
I think if you have the confidence to be happy in your own skin it is far more attractive than
big boobs..big butt or anything like that x
Awww thank u so very much appreciate your kind words. Xx
Your stunning just the way u r xx
I am so sorry that you've had to hear that kind of bullshit! Don't you listen to a second of it!!! Not a proper woman, absolute rubbish. A woman is more than a set of tits. Much more.
YES! You are beautiful & a hell of lot stronger than those idiots who said those things. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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By the time I've got someone naked in front of me I've already invested a lot of time studying their pics and chatting so I know I find them attractive. Body confidence doesn't come from comparing yourself to others or from listening to what others say. It's about accepting your body and embracing the good bits. Ain't nobody perfect and I wouldn't want to meet anyone that expected perfection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey Peeps,
This has probably been discussed a MILLION times but, ladies & gentleman does boob size, butt size, vagina shape/size, etc, ever even matter to you if you got someone naked?
I'm curious as I've had discussions with people where they say (for example) that originally they love an E cup boob, a large butt, a neat vagina or have a preference for a longer labia and then, in reality, none of it matters cause they've got a lady naked
I get pretty damn self-conscious about my body apart from with my partner and it makes me nervous at meets.
Thanks
- H
x"
Looking at your pics you've got nothing to worry about at all but to answer your question....
As others have said, as long as there is an attraction then to me none of the above matter xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being a very large lady with health problems yes I massively have issues with my own body and don't understand why anyone else in the world would want to meet up with me but they do and some want to again and again. Xx
Buy for me it's personality and connection into the same kinks. Am not going to lie though I love a hard stick out nipples on women and peachy bums on men buy that is icing on the cake so to speak. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking for myself I always find being naked with someone changes things, most of my insecurities lie in the build up to getting naked when I’m unsure if there is mutual attraction. I tend to be pretty confident in myself after that point and feel a sense of responsibility to encourage my partner to feel the same it’s such a good feeling when someone feels sexy and confident in your company I’m not sure looks or body size matters much then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personality and a connection for me every time. Plus skills and knowledge of how a woman's body needs to be touched. Unfortunately I'm not good at believing the same is true of the people I'm talking to. I tend to assume my body shape is off putting. |
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"Hey Peeps,
This has probably been discussed a MILLION times but, ladies & gentleman does boob size, butt size, vagina shape/size, etc, ever even matter to you if you got someone naked?
I'm curious as I've had discussions with people where they say (for example) that originally they love an E cup boob, a large butt, a neat vagina or have a preference for a longer labia and then, in reality, none of it matters cause they've got a lady naked
I get pretty damn self-conscious about my body apart from with my partner and it makes me nervous at meets.
Thanks
- H
x"
You have absolutely nothing to worry about you look gorgeous from here.
It is much more than looks alone too, that connection is just as important. Just go out and find people you fancy who you can have a laugh with and the rest will follow.
Xxx |
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The ladies on this thread really do have nothing to worry about. But looks are just part of it. Banter, connection and that fizz of sexual attraction are all just as important.
I know it's hard but going out and finding people to laugh with and feeling that connection with is way more important. Those are the ones the great meets happen with. Looking like you could be a model in a magazine actually means Jack... in the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mrs Naughty is so self-conscious and critical. Feels her boobs are too small and ass too big."
I see that on a fair few lasses around me. Still looks great though. |
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Can I call bullshit on "it's the personality that matters" line?
We are all (mostly) on here to have casual sex, not find a life partner. That means that you have to find someone physically attractive. What is physically attractive is, of course, subjective, but most people will adhere to conventional standards of attractiveness. That's because conventional standards are, by definition, what appeals to most people.
Obviously if someone you find physically attractive turns out to be a complete arse he may cease to be attractive for you, but if you don't find someone physically attractive initially, then it just won't go any further.
The good news for women on here, is that whilst men might prefer conventionallly attractive women, they will find most body shapes attractive. Add that to the discrepancy in numbers and virtually any woman will get loads of men wanting to have sex with her on here.
Obviously, it's less good news for men.. |
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"I'm incredibly body conscious as well. I'll be interested in seeing what people say. Maybe it will help put me at ease a bit
Great boob;) lol
From what we can see you are looking good so far xx"
My boob thanks you
As do I, lovely compliment. Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I (mr) find sexual confidence attractive, in my time I’ve been really attracted to larger sexy women but turned off by what people would call beautiful women but have either no personality or not a nice one. It’s all about a connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I (mr) find sexual confidence attractive, in my time I’ve been really attracted to larger sexy women but turned off by what people would call beautiful women but have either no personality or not a nice one. It’s all about a connection "
100% agree.... |
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