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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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do you? |
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over a year ago
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
I would lol couples are great fun
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I meet people who I like what their marital status is is none of my business "
I agree. I meet people that I have a good connection with, that I want to have sex with. It's between me, and them, and that's all. Status would be between them and their partner, and not my concern. |
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over a year ago
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I am married and meeting without my husband consent. I find it funny how many profiles state don't meet married people but then mail me to ask if I'd be interested in meeting. |
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Not with knowledge we don't, can't be arsed with the potential grief and don't agree with getting involved in other people's relationship issues.
Having said that if you are meeting singles how do you know, so probably have without knowing anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relationship status isn't important to me. This doesn't make me unethical. Moralists bemoan the chaos cheats cause. But for every one example of this there are plenty of others where cheating either saved a good relationship or ended an awful one. Plus, even swinging with consenting couples together can lead to break ups if things were going that way anyway. As such, I prefer not to bother with crystal balls and just try to make sure the person/people I'm with are getting what they want from our meets and thoroughly enjoying themselves. The rest is in the hands of fate.
I would approach single women, couples, and cheats very differently though. They each have very different boundaries and criteria. I'd be deeply respectful of those boundaries.
I'm not interested in cheating. The minute I meet anyone I feel serious about, whether I meet them on here or not, I'll come off here. This is just play. |
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
We do , it's great fun !
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I meet people who I like what their marital status is is none of my business
I agree. I meet people that I have a good connection with, that I want to have sex with. It's between me, and them, and that's all. Status would be between them and their partner, and not my concern."
I agree too. I don't care about people's marital status, it's their business. It is easier for me as I know they only want good time and not a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship status isn't important to me. This doesn't make me unethical. Moralists bemoan the chaos cheats cause. But for every one example of this there are plenty of others where cheating either saved a good relationship or ended an awful one. Plus, even swinging with consenting couples together can lead to break ups if things were going that way anyway. As such, I prefer not to bother with crystal balls and just try to make sure the person/people I'm with are getting what they want from our meets and thoroughly enjoying themselves. The rest is in the hands of fate.
I would approach single women, couples, and cheats very differently though. They each have very different boundaries and criteria. I'd be deeply respectful of those boundaries.
I'm not interested in cheating. The minute I meet anyone I feel serious about, whether I meet them on here or not, I'll come off here. This is just play. "
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"I agree. I meet people that I have a good connection with, that I want to have sex with. It's between me, and them, and that's all. Status would be between them and their partner, and not my concern.
I agree too. I don't care about people's marital status, it's their business. It is easier for me as I know they only want good time and not a relationship"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t feel comfortable knowing that they’re married... but I can see the attraction of knowing where you stand, and that emotions have to stay out of it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my play is in clubs so I neither know nor care what someone’s marital status is. I’ve met married or attached people away from clubs too. It’s none of my business really |
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No we wouldn't due to the carnage caused by previous cheating partners. I know this is a bit of a generalisation but seen it many times, someone who's cheating is often looking to get out of a relationship and move on to the next partner rather than making a clean break of it so I would guess it's often not NSA. |
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over a year ago
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Often it’s difficult to tell - from my experience most ‘single’ guys on here are attached - some are honest and others don’t mention it all. I just don’t like it when you arrange a meet and then suddenly they have very limited time or they start to panic about getting caught - I feel a bit used then!
Also I worry about an angry wife following them one day and turning up at my door! So I try to avoid! |
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I don't meet married men for no other reason they don't meet me.
Hard to explain returning home sans pubes, whipped marks and "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo on your arse to the wife. I remember years ago a man turning up with shampoo, shower gel, deodorant and perfume. They were the brand's his wife used and didn't want me to leave a scent trail.
Who the fuck has time for that? Nah...uncomplicated drama free singles ta. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t usually meet the same guys more than once so we don’t really ask if they are married .. but if they have on their profile that they are married but cheating we avoid .. |
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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Yes a large percentage of Fab members are married. |
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Doesn't bother us. An attached man will almost certainly be more discrete and there'll be little chance of him being a pain in the arse. That's not to say all single guys are a pain in the arse, but it is an extra layer of safety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the ‘single’ ladies I’ve met off here have been married, just people having fun that they’re not getting at home, all of them have said it actually keeps their marriage going. As long as it’s all upfront and honest and NSA then there’s no problem with me. |
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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We rarely meet singles through FAB but we have never asked the singles we've played with at clubs what their marital status.
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"No we don't meet people playing away
It's not worth the potential hurt that it would cause the unknowing partner.Plus would hate it done to me .
Miss"
Well now here’s the thing ..... men and women will play away , it’s the nature of the human race .
So when we play with married men or women , we figure it’s more likely they will stay together if they play away with us than if they undertake an affair .
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No I try not too as I can't be arsed with the complications and requests don't wear make up or no perfume and one meet we'd only just got our clothes off when she rang him and he had to scurry home cos he was out on his day off!!!! That was a waste of a hotel and new lingerie .. so no I don't wish to meet married people .... |
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"No we don't meet people playing away
It's not worth the potential hurt that it would cause the unknowing partner.Plus would hate it done to me .
Miss
Well now here’s the thing ..... men and women will play away , it’s the nature of the human race .
So when we play with married men or women , we figure it’s more likely they will stay together if they play away with us than if they undertake an affair .
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Some will I agree,no matter what they have at home.
It's not something I want on my conscience though and partners do find out .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id love to say no.
On here i aim not to and will always ask
But sometimes you end up in a situation where couldnt be controlled (when your drawn to someone and they are it makes it 100 times worse)
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We don't do many private meets so it isn't something that we think about much.
However should we agree to meet someone privately we would have to be confident that he wasn't married and cheating. It would just be too much trouble and could potentially lead to a lot more.
Inside a swinger club we don't ask and don't really care. He/she has made the decision to go into the place and whatever happens stays inside. |
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"No I try not too as I can't be arsed with the complications and requests don't wear make up or no perfume and one meet we'd only just got our clothes off when she rang him and he had to scurry home cos he was out on his day off!!!! That was a waste of a hotel and new lingerie .. so no I don't wish to meet married people ...."
Aah...you had the "no leaving scent trail" type too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. I don't judge.
Besides, it can be lots of fun. One might get their kicks from doing something that one isn't meant to do. Just like having sex in a public place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am married and meeting without my husband consent. I find it funny how many profiles state don't meet married people but then mail me to ask if I'd be interested in meeting."
Yeah I get that too!!!
Some message bashing the fact I’m here without my husband knowing yet others will have it written in their bio and still ask for a quick cheeky meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do. I don't judge.
Besides, it can be lots of fun. One might get their kicks from doing something that one isn't meant to do. Just like having sex in a public place. "
Agree x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, absolutely. Sometimes with their partner's consent, sometimes with complete discretion becuse their partner is unaware of their extra-curricular activities.
We're all grown up enough to realise that we all have our own reasons for being here and I have no interest in anything other than my partner's enjoyment of our time together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd rather not meet anyone that's cheating.
It's none of my buisness what peoples relationship statuses are - but if I want to have fun with someone it's usually at a weekend and I don't accomodate - so it makes it too difficult or expensive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I don't. I know the effect it had on myself and my children. I would never wish that on anyway,it's cruel beyond word's."
I couldnt agree more!
We are married yes....cheating, no! |
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By *asyukMan
over a year ago
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I am married with Fab being an occasional extra curricular activity.
I have enjoyed meets with women who are single, married couples, wives playing with their husband's knowledge and those playing away.
We are adults making our own decisions.
People who aren't interested because I'm married either tell me or block me.
Of course, there are countless other reasons that they might block me 
I have, very occasionally had abuse about it, but always from people who get annoyed with me on the politics forum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am married with Fab being an occasional extra curricular activity.
I have enjoyed meets with women who are single, married couples, wives playing with their husband's knowledge and those playing away.
We are adults making our own decisions.
People who aren't interested because I'm married either tell me or block me.
Of course, there are countless other reasons that they might block me
I have, very occasionally had abuse about it, but always from people who get annoyed with me on the politics forum "
As you say "we are adults making our own decisions", pity there's too much hypocrisy and double standards on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards. |
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards."
*without even asking the question about a persons |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards."
Worse is the difference between the treatment metered out to men and women on the Forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards.
I've seen both men and women get slated on these forums for admitting to cheating.
Worse is the difference between the treatment metered out to men and women on the Forum."
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards."
We don't think it is double standards at all, and yes it is very different.
Inside a club it is usually (for us anyway) anonymous. We don't even know the names of most of the guys that Mrs H has fucked and that is what we prefer.
To set up a private meet you will have exchanged messages on here (or elsewhere) met for a drink somewhere, then back to yours or theirs (unlikely but not impossible) or booked a hotel.
Then it becomes very personal and, as I said above, the potential for trouble is very real.
We do very few private meets but, on the rare occasion that we do, we would have to be confident that any single guy (or girl) really was.
Then again they would probably lie about it so better not to do private meets at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
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No I will never meet married singles, I tend to really piss them (men) off by reminding them how they would feel if I was fucking their wife and they found out.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Besides I have no respect for someone who does cheat.
Agree xxx  "
Ditto. If they can't grasp the concept of their partner not consenting to what is happening behind their back, then I wouldn't trust them to understand consent with me. Would never (knowingly) facilitate cheating. |
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By *asyukMan
over a year ago
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"Musing this morning Fabsters, as usual.
Does anyone actually meet married people? I read on the forums people’s views on this. If you do why do you? If you don’t why don’t you?
No sinister reason for asking, just interested to hear your views on the subject.
Bhubaysi
No I will never meet married singles, I tend to really piss them (men) off by reminding them how they would feel if I was fucking their wife and they found out. "
Why assume that would piss all of us off?
The sweeping generalisation is a little overused. |
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards.
We don't think it is double standards at all, and yes it is very different.
Inside a club it is usually (for us anyway) anonymous. We don't even know the names of most of the guys that Mrs H has fucked and that is what we prefer.
To set up a private meet you will have exchanged messages on here (or elsewhere) met for a drink somewhere, then back to yours or theirs (unlikely but not impossible) or booked a hotel.
Then it becomes very personal and, as I said above, the potential for trouble is very real.
We do very few private meets but, on the rare occasion that we do, we would have to be confident that any single guy (or girl) really was.
Then again they would probably lie about it so better not to do private meets at all.
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It's still very much double standards. |
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Doesn't bother me one iota.
People don't like marrieds the same way they don't like overweights, baldies, hairies etc.
It's a choice. I read a profile and if there is something I don't like in there, I block. Why have a news feed of people you have no interest/connection with?
I won't like everybody and everybody won't like me - Move on and find those you want to have fun with.
None of us are getting off this ride alive.... |
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"I’ve been told that I was chosen because of that fact. Apparently less likely to be clingy and difficult after etc .."
Same here - have been selected on more than one occasion specifically because I'm married...  |
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"Yes, and lots of people do, be it knowingly or unknowingly. It's those on here who judge harshly without knowing facts, and harp on that no they would never meet cheats on here, but then the same people will happily have sex with others in clubs without even asking the questionabljt a persons relationship status. Apparently though, that's 'different' and 'acceptable'. Hmmm....double standards.
We don't think it is double standards at all, and yes it is very different.
Inside a club it is usually (for us anyway) anonymous. We don't even know the names of most of the guys that Mrs H has fucked and that is what we prefer.
To set up a private meet you will have exchanged messages on here (or elsewhere) met for a drink somewhere, then back to yours or theirs (unlikely but not impossible) or booked a hotel.
Then it becomes very personal and, as I said above, the potential for trouble is very real.
We do very few private meets but, on the rare occasion that we do, we would have to be confident that any single guy (or girl) really was.
Then again they would probably lie about it so better not to do private meets at all.
It's still very much double standards."
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By *oxy jWoman 38 weeks ago
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if your a swinger then 100% you will have met or will meet married so even if you dont want to meet married chance are you have 100% ... yes you can read alot and alot of tell tell signs but some will slip thru ...
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"if your a swinger then 100% you will have met or will meet married so even if you dont want to meet married chance are you have 100% ... yes you can read alot and alot of tell tell signs but some will slip thru ...
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Exactly this has happened to me ... got better at spotting them. |
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