Being tied up relies massively on trust, for most anyway. I've known someone who almost fainted from being tied up, was someone she knew well but never done anything sexual with. Had someone she's been sexual with but not known as long tie her up and she was completely comfortable. That may have been due to second time round or the ties were different, I don't know. But on the first time she said she just felt like she couldn't breathe, may be due to her not being in control of what was happening. Thankfully he recognised the signs and untied her. |
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As a starting point, get some bondage tape. Ann Summers or Lovehoney do it & it’s reasonably cheap. It’s also really easy to use & is a good way to try it first before you spend more on rope or restraints.
You could even start off with a tie or pair of tights / stockings
Play around with it til you find your comfort level - and have fun!  |
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By *orsettwo OP Couple
over a year ago
Weymouth |
thank you darling have tried most of things just never rope and have seen some of theses pics with some amazing rope works just don't know where to start or what works and what doesn't hence looking for someone who can teach us both the art and maybe more |
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Find out first if she has any problems with circulation. Make sure she knows that once she's tied up if she feels any numbness to mention it immediately (have scissors handy to cut the ties if she does). Don't use string or rope that will get tighter if she struggles.
How does she want to be tied? What position?
Does she fancy rope, leather, silk?
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"thank you so much had no idea there seems to be a lot to look out for fuck he needs some help lol"
Get a non fiction book (I'm always saying this  ) you'll get some good ideas, avoid injury and have a LOAD of fun
Enjoy! |
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"thank you so much had no idea there seems to be a lot to look out for fuck he needs some help lol"
If you want to learn rope then there are a lot of tutorials online. It all depends on whether you have the patience to learn, the more you do it the easier it becomes.
But like the others said, I don't know places your way that offer events on it, only know them this way and further north. |
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over a year ago
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It's a huge trust thing! I love it but will only allow Sir to do that . You put yourself in an extremely vulnerable situation. No trust no rope no cuffs no restraints if any kind. If you have that ultimate trust it is the most fulfilling and rewarding feeling ever |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"thank you so much had no idea there seems to be a lot to look out for fuck he needs some help lol
Get a non fiction book (I'm always saying this ) you'll get some good ideas, avoid injury and have a LOAD of fun
Enjoy!"
Agreed, it’s a dynamic not a noun, you work with response not what’s in your head or need.
Have stunning fun. |
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"I tied myself up once that was fun nearly starved to death had to chew through the rope took days "
I heard of someone who was air crew with a partner who enjoyed being tied up and shut in a cupboard when they were on short haul flights. Then one day they got delayed by fog... |
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" there is only one person id allow to do this to me properly - has been done but more as a tick it off the list thing - "
I'll only allow someone else to do it if Mr N is there. A guy once encased me entirely in a leather harness he'd made from neck to ankles. That was cool. |
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" there is only one person id allow to do this to me properly - has been done but more as a tick it off the list thing -
I'll only allow someone else to do it if Mr N is there. A guy once encased me entirely in a leather harness he'd made from neck to ankles. That was cool."
im not aroused by it really its more who did it to me and the effect that was arousing if that makes sense - |
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" there is only one person id allow to do this to me properly - has been done but more as a tick it off the list thing -
I'll only allow someone else to do it if Mr N is there. A guy once encased me entirely in a leather harness he'd made from neck to ankles. That was cool.
im not aroused by it really its more who did it to me and the effect that was arousing if that makes sense - "
Yes it makes sense. By the same token not every man who restrained me would necessarily make it an arousing experience. |
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" there is only one person id allow to do this to me properly - has been done but more as a tick it off the list thing -
I'll only allow someone else to do it if Mr N is there. A guy once encased me entirely in a leather harness he'd made from neck to ankles. That was cool.
im not aroused by it really its more who did it to me and the effect that was arousing if that makes sense - "
it makes sense x |
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If you were more local I'd happily come and show you some basics, I love rope and have been tieing shibari style for a while. It's important to learn what not to do and which nerves to steer clear of.
There are a few basic ones that are a good place to start "single column tie (Somerville bowline is an easy one)" "basic chest harness"
There are many aspects to rope. You can have decritive, sadistic, weight bearing, predicament etc. Just cherry pick things you and partner like and have a set of shears at hand just incase things go a bit squiffy.
My suggestion is start with single columns then look up the futamono as that's a good easy one and renders the bunny pretty helpless. The butterfly is also pretty easy to pick up.
Good luck |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
If you go on to fet websites you’ll get experts in Shibari. You’ll often get workshops or demos at kink nights as well.
I’m a rope bunny. I love being tied up. Some swinging clubs will have kink nights. |
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