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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think! |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!"
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title! |
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I’d say the majority of them are on here because they think they will get an easy, no effort needed, fuck. But there are some true single swingers out there  |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title!"
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Would someone who was in a swinger relationship that broke up still be a swinger?
Is to be a swinger a frame of mind or a category of relationship staus?
Personally I would stay a state of mind. Maybe not everyone on here is a swinger per se? There are women on here who are solely looking for one sexual partner and not into them (or said partner if they met one) playing with others. But sure I think you can be a single and swinger. |
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"Would someone who was in a swinger relationship that broke up still be a swinger?
Is to be a swinger a frame of mind or a category of relationship staus?
Personally I would stay a state of mind. Maybe not everyone on here is a swinger per se? There are women on here who are solely looking for one sexual partner and not into them (or said partner if they met one) playing with others. But sure I think you can be a single and swinger."
I agree - I think it’s a mindset rather than a relationship status. It’s evolved a little since the ‘keys in a bowl’ wife swapping of the 70’s!!
We play as a couple but we also play solo & we are club regulars. I would classify myself as a swinger & kinkster (we have an interest in fet play too).
If I wanted an easy fuck, I could get that in any bar if any town on any day ... but what I want is experiences with like minded people, not a ‘fuck & go’ from a guy who will refer to me as a slag if he sees me with his mate the next day!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd consider myself a swinger, most definitely. Not quite a hard core, committed to the lifestyle type. But my preferences, kinks and sexual exploits over the last few years, I think, would see me qualify.
Sure, I'll meet a single woman and have straight up, every day sex with a bit of kink if she should desire it. Which I don't really class as swinging.
However.... joining couples for threesome, hot wife, and cuckolding scenarios surely falls into the swinging category. Along with club visits with fb and a whole heap of other adventures.
"Swinger" is a word with an endless variety of meanings. Not just a label for a select few.
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"Would someone who was in a swinger relationship that broke up still be a swinger?
Is to be a swinger a frame of mind or a category of relationship staus?
Personally I would stay a state of mind. Maybe not everyone on here is a swinger per se? There are women on here who are solely looking for one sexual partner and not into them (or said partner if they met one) playing with others. But sure I think you can be a single and swinger."
Primarily swinging is a couples lifestyle however would probably concur with the post above that singles can engage in the lifestyle. Also agree that the singles that only meet singles are NOT swinging. This site has a lot of non-swingers that don't embrace the concept of the lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would someone who was in a swinger relationship that broke up still be a swinger?
Is to be a swinger a frame of mind or a category of relationship staus?
Personally I would stay a state of mind. Maybe not everyone on here is a swinger per se? There are women on here who are solely looking for one sexual partner and not into them (or said partner if they met one) playing with others. But sure I think you can be a single and swinger.
Primarily swinging is a couples lifestyle however would probably concur with the post above that singles can engage in the lifestyle. Also agree that the singles that only meet singles are NOT swinging. This site has a lot of non-swingers that don't embrace the concept of the lifestyle. "
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Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m single but not a swinger I prefer one on one regular fun but enjoy the lifestyle of socials and being able to express my sexuality and needs without being made to feel dirty and a slag amongst peers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m single but not a swinger I prefer one on one regular fun but enjoy the lifestyle of socials and being able to express my sexuality and needs without being made to feel dirty and a slag amongst peers "
That's exactly me to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?! "
Those who join this site with the idea that it's "easy pickings," are soon left deflated. They join with no real idea of how it works. It'd be a lot easier for them to just go out to town and try chatting a woman up.
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I think one key thing that separates swinger from singles is simply this. As a single you don't have to deal with any jealousy issues. Put another way. it's just normal sex to you, you don't have anything to lose, no sacrifice to make etc. I know of some people out on the club scene go back to their unwitting vanilla partners at night as they could not bear seeing them with another person.
To be a proper swinger you have to be sexually liberated but the most important thing is that you must want that for your partner as well.
That's why for us singles will NEVER be proper swingers. that's just our ten-penneth worth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't class myself as a swinger. I'm a single girl leading a very liberal single life.
I don't know what my future holds with regards to relationships... But I'm completely open minded to any lifestyle choices as long as it is done with love and understanding for each other's needs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think one key thing that separates swinger from singles is simply this. As a single you don't have to deal with any jealousy issues. Put another way. it's just normal sex to you, you don't have anything to lose, no sacrifice to make etc. I know of some people out on the club scene go back to their unwitting vanilla partners at night as they could not bear seeing them with another person.
To be a proper swinger you have to be sexually liberated but the most important thing is that you must want that for your partner as well.
That's why for us singles will NEVER be proper swingers. that's just our ten-penneth worth"
It's not about what we have to lose. Everyone is here to gain. Certainly there is an extraordinary and admirable level of trust displayed by couples towards each other. If your opinions are based on levels of jealousy rather than trust, then it's not the singles you should be doubting.
It's a lifestyle choice made by all of us. Regardless of whether we have a partner or not.
I take as much pleasure in helping to enhance the sex lives of a couple. And I take great satisfaction from the amount of trust shown in me to do this.
To categorise us singles as "not proper swingers" is a bit of a generalisation. I thought as experienced swingers you'd be able to see past all that.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Makes me laugh that people think they can define a "proper" swinger these days - there's no such thing and to try and define it smacks to me of some kind of elitism.
As others have said swinging and the scene in general has come a long way since the keys in a bowl days of the 70s and there are so many categories and sub-categories within it now that perhaps a better way of phrasing it would be "liberal minded adults".
Yes, there are some here that think it's the keys to the door of unlimited sex and they're soon disappointed and aren't necessarily swingers in any sense - but for those that understand and "get" the scene as it is today the only "proper" definition is the one they set for themselves surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I've never felt people meeting people of the opposite sex for one on one sex is swinging. Mind you there are also couples who seem to think signing up to a swingers site makes you a swinger. But each to their own, I'm not overly fussed how people choose to label themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?!
Those who join this site with the idea that it's "easy pickings," are soon left deflated. They join with no real idea of how it works. It'd be a lot easier for them to just go out to town and try chatting a woman up.
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That includes couples looking for single bi women. |
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By *C500Man
over a year ago
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What so now single people cant be swingers ?!?! Well single guys have a hard enough time on here as is ...so why woupd you wanna make it even harder for them ...if you dont like single profiles stay away from them simple as!! |
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By *C500Man
over a year ago
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title!"
if not been to a club your not a swinger ...i think your talking out your arse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?!
Those who join this site with the idea that it's "easy pickings," are soon left deflated. They join with no real idea of how it works. It'd be a lot easier for them to just go out to town and try chatting a woman up.
That includes couples looking for single bi women. "
Word! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title! if not been to a club your not a swinger ...i think your talking out your arse"
Ha ha that’s funny, if you’ve never been to a club you are not a swinger!!! That’s so funny, half the people at clubs don’t play!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think one key thing that separates swinger from singles is simply this. As a single you don't have to deal with any jealousy issues. Put another way. it's just normal sex to you, you don't have anything to lose, no sacrifice to make etc. I know of some people out on the club scene go back to their unwitting vanilla partners at night as they could not bear seeing them with another person.
To be a proper swinger you have to be sexually liberated but the most important thing is that you must want that for your partner as well.
That's why for us singles will NEVER be proper swingers. that's just our ten-penneth worth
It's not about what we have to lose. Everyone is here to gain. Certainly there is an extraordinary and admirable level of trust displayed by couples towards each other. If your opinions are based on levels of jealousy rather than trust, then it's not the singles you should be doubting.
It's a lifestyle choice made by all of us. Regardless of whether we have a partner or not.
I take as much pleasure in helping to enhance the sex lives of a couple. And I take great satisfaction from the amount of trust shown in me to do this.
To categorise us singles as "not proper swingers" is a bit of a generalisation. I thought as experienced swingers you'd be able to see past all that.
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Yes guilty... its a generalisation but it's OPINION not fact. We DO see past all that. But the question was honestly asked and we have responded with an honest opinion. That is what the forum is for.
Now stand by for a tirade of "you're talking out of your arse" and that old favourite " bullshit". It's no way to run a forum debate or debase people on their opinions.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Makes me laugh that people think they can define a "proper" swinger these days - there's no such thing and to try and define it smacks to me of some kind of elitism.
As others have said swinging and the scene in general has come a long way since the keys in a bowl days of the 70s and there are so many categories and sub-categories within it now that perhaps a better way of phrasing it would be "liberal minded adults".
Yes, there are some here that think it's the keys to the door of unlimited sex and they're soon disappointed and aren't necessarily swingers in any sense - but for those that understand and "get" the scene as it is today the only "proper" definition is the one they set for themselves surely? "
Yes you are quite right. We are just airing our definition as requested by the OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What so now single people cant be swingers ?!?! Well single guys have a hard enough time on here as is ...so why woupd you wanna make it even harder for them ...if you dont like single profiles stay away from them simple as!!"
Be what you want - call yourself what you want. it makes no matter and does not reduce your chances of getting laid. But this is a place for opinion - sorry if you get all bent out of shape about it |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!"
I've posted on here quite a lot on the forums just recently... now I remember why I've avoided it for so long.
Tony and Debs asked a perfectly reasonable question. (shown above) and I in my turn gave my opinion. It's really not a reason for everybody to be affronted or get bent out of shape over... it's simply an opinion... not gospel...not fact. It does not increase or decrease your chances of getting laid, you can even come to swinging clubs. nobody will judge you on whatever label you have given yourself. That said - I was asked by Tony and Debs who said they would be interested on what people think about the label of swinger. Job done then.
I'm deliriously happy to hear what you think, what your opinion is. however I'm not happy about being slagged off because of my opinion. Lets debate the point like adults and move on - yes?
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!"
Sorry Tony and Debs - according to JC500 we have to keep our opinions to ourselves. look at the trouble you have caused lol  |
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By *C500Man
over a year ago
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Well thank you very much for your permission to go to a swinging club...and no one slagging you off just giving my opinion to what you think and thinking your right ...by tryin to make it look like your being got at isnt cool ...just because you dont like someones opinion..so yeah move on |
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By *C500Man
over a year ago
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What you trying to do ...get someone in trouble cause you dont like what they say ...and now trying to get someone else to back you up ...pathetic ...maybe you shouldn't post on here if your that sensetive to other peoples opinions ...obvioulsy you think your is the only opinion that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been in relationships where I've wanted to swing but the other half doesn't, I realised I could potentially do it alone until I become a swinging couple x |
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"Well thank you very much for your permission to go to a swinging club...and no one slagging you off just giving my opinion to what you think and thinking your right ...by tryin to make it look like your being got at isnt cool ...just because you dont like someones opinion..so yeah move on"
No JC500 - you are trying to stifle my opinion because its not what you want to hear. Happy to hear your opinion but I'm not happy with ad Hominim attacks |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
I've posted on here quite a lot on the forums just recently... now I remember why I've avoided it for so long.
Tony and Debs asked a perfectly reasonable question. (shown above) and I in my turn gave my opinion. It's really not a reason for everybody to be affronted or get bent out of shape over... it's simply an opinion... not gospel...not fact. It does not increase or decrease your chances of getting laid, you can even come to swinging clubs. nobody will judge you on whatever label you have given yourself. That said - I was asked by Tony and Debs who said they would be interested on what people think about the label of swinger. Job done then.
I'm deliriously happy to hear what you think, what your opinion is. however I'm not happy about being slagged off because of my opinion. Lets debate the point like adults and move on - yes?
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In all fairness I'm not sure anyone has slagged you or your opinion off at all - in fact only one person responded directly to your post and that was with what I thought was a well rounded and reasoned alternate opinion nothing more.
In fact the only post that was bridled against by others was the one suggesting you can't be a "proper" swinger if you don't go to clubs which was such a ridiculous assertion (as it ommitted to mention people that meet in their own homes or go dogging or attend house parties etc) that it deserved the backlash it got |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think one key thing that separates swinger from singles is simply this. As a single you don't have to deal with any jealousy issues. Put another way. it's just normal sex to you, you don't have anything to lose, no sacrifice to make etc. I know of some people out on the club scene go back to their unwitting vanilla partners at night as they could not bear seeing them with another person.
To be a proper swinger you have to be sexually liberated but the most important thing is that you must want that for your partner as well.
That's why for us singles will NEVER be proper swingers. that's just our ten-penneth worth
It's not about what we have to lose. Everyone is here to gain. Certainly there is an extraordinary and admirable level of trust displayed by couples towards each other. If your opinions are based on levels of jealousy rather than trust, then it's not the singles you should be doubting.
It's a lifestyle choice made by all of us. Regardless of whether we have a partner or not.
I take as much pleasure in helping to enhance the sex lives of a couple. And I take great satisfaction from the amount of trust shown in me to do this.
To categorise us singles as "not proper swingers" is a bit of a generalisation. I thought as experienced swingers you'd be able to see past all that.
Yes guilty... its a generalisation but it's OPINION not fact. We DO see past all that. But the question was honestly asked and we have responded with an honest opinion. That is what the forum is for.
Now stand by for a tirade of "you're talking out of your arse" and that old favourite " bullshit". It's no way to run a forum debate or debase people on their opinions.
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It's a public forum and opinions will differ. No one is running it, it's there for us all to debate.
You've come across in a way which will obviously encourage the likes of myself and the others to react. You may be swinging puritans, but, as with anything, evolution through things like the internet has brought it into the present. Maybe it's not what it used to be. But this is what it is now. Not The Good Life.
Then you come back at us like we should just let your airing of opinions pass us by. Why?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
I've posted on here quite a lot on the forums just recently... now I remember why I've avoided it for so long.
Tony and Debs asked a perfectly reasonable question. (shown above) and I in my turn gave my opinion. It's really not a reason for everybody to be affronted or get bent out of shape over... it's simply an opinion... not gospel...not fact. It does not increase or decrease your chances of getting laid, you can even come to swinging clubs. nobody will judge you on whatever label you have given yourself. That said - I was asked by Tony and Debs who said they would be interested on what people think about the label of swinger. Job done then.
I'm deliriously happy to hear what you think, what your opinion is. however I'm not happy about being slagged off because of my opinion. Lets debate the point like adults and move on - yes?
In all fairness I'm not sure anyone has slagged you or your opinion off at all - in fact only one person responded directly to your post and that was with what I thought was a well rounded and reasoned alternate opinion nothing more.
In fact the only post that was bridled against by others was the one suggesting you can't be a "proper" swinger if you don't go to clubs which was such a ridiculous assertion (as it ommitted to mention people that meet in their own homes or go dogging or attend house parties etc) that it deserved the backlash it got "
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It's a public forum and opinions will differ. No one is running it, it's there for us all to debate.
You've come across in a way which will obviously encourage the likes of myself and the others to react. You may be swinging puritans, but, as with anything, evolution through things like the internet has brought it into the present. Maybe it's not what it used to be. But this is what it is now. Not The Good Life.
Then you come back at us like we should just let your airing of opinions pass us by. Why?
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I prefer it when people respond thoughtfully and not 'react'...We certainly don't see ourselves as puritans of a cut above or below anyone. I don't care what anyone calls themselves, nor do I discriminate. I'm simply saying that as far as I'm concerned the label 'swinger' refers to a committed couple who have decided to use the strength of their relationship to liberate themselves to have sexual contact with others. Now that's a big step - A very big step in anyone's marriage. not a step a single has to concern themselves with.Now... if anyone wants to broaden that label out to just anyone who wants to have sex with a variety of people that's fine. I have no problem with that. BUT my definition of swinger is more stricter. Other opinions are available. its that simple |
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It's a public forum and opinions will differ. No one is running it, it's there for us all to debate.
You've come across in a way which will obviously encourage the likes of myself and the others to react. You may be swinging puritans, but, as with anything, evolution through things like the internet has brought it into the present. Maybe it's not what it used to be. But this is what it is now. Not The Good Life.
Then you come back at us like we should just let your airing of opinions pass us by. Why?
I prefer it when people respond thoughtfully and not 'react'...We certainly don't see ourselves as puritans of a cut above or below anyone. I don't care what anyone calls themselves, nor do I discriminate. I'm simply saying that as far as I'm concerned the label 'swinger' refers to a committed couple who have decided to use the strength of their relationship to liberate themselves to have sexual contact with others. Now that's a big step - A very big step in anyone's marriage. not a step a single has to concern themselves with.Now... if anyone wants to broaden that label out to just anyone who wants to have sex with a variety of people that's fine. I have no problem with that. BUT my definition of swinger is more stricter. Other opinions are available. its that simple"
It's all reaction, whether it's well thought out or an outburst. My responses are all thoughtful and honest. Swinging is not supposed to be exclusive. That's why it's called swinging. Partner swapping is just a small element of it. But by your definition, things such as, but not exclusive to, all female orgies, gang bangs and cuckolding would not be classed as swinging. As you can't expect all involved in these scenarios to be attached or married.
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It's a public forum and opinions will differ. No one is running it, it's there for us all to debate.
You've come across in a way which will obviously encourage the likes of myself and the others to react. You may be swinging puritans, but, as with anything, evolution through things like the internet has brought it into the present. Maybe it's not what it used to be. But this is what it is now. Not The Good Life.
Then you come back at us like we should just let your airing of opinions pass us by. Why?
I prefer it when people respond thoughtfully and not 'react'...We certainly don't see ourselves as puritans of a cut above or below anyone. I don't care what anyone calls themselves, nor do I discriminate. I'm simply saying that as far as I'm concerned the label 'swinger' refers to a committed couple who have decided to use the strength of their relationship to liberate themselves to have sexual contact with others. Now that's a big step - A very big step in anyone's marriage. not a step a single has to concern themselves with.Now... if anyone wants to broaden that label out to just anyone who wants to have sex with a variety of people that's fine. I have no problem with that. BUT my definition of swinger is more stricter. Other opinions are available. its that simple
It's all reaction, whether it's well thought out or an outburst. My responses are all thoughtful and honest. Swinging is not supposed to be exclusive. That's why it's called swinging. Partner swapping is just a small element of it. But by your definition, things such as, but not exclusive to, all female orgies, gang bangs and cuckolding would not be classed as swinging. As you can't expect all involved in these scenarios to be attached or married.
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I can't and don't. I just have a narrower view on the label of swinger that's all. |
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It's a public forum and opinions will differ. No one is running it, it's there for us all to debate.
You've come across in a way which will obviously encourage the likes of myself and the others to react. You may be swinging puritans, but, as with anything, evolution through things like the internet has brought it into the present. Maybe it's not what it used to be. But this is what it is now. Not The Good Life.
Then you come back at us like we should just let your airing of opinions pass us by. Why?
I prefer it when people respond thoughtfully and not 'react'...We certainly don't see ourselves as puritans of a cut above or below anyone. I don't care what anyone calls themselves, nor do I discriminate. I'm simply saying that as far as I'm concerned the label 'swinger' refers to a committed couple who have decided to use the strength of their relationship to liberate themselves to have sexual contact with others. Now that's a big step - A very big step in anyone's marriage. not a step a single has to concern themselves with.Now... if anyone wants to broaden that label out to just anyone who wants to have sex with a variety of people that's fine. I have no problem with that. BUT my definition of swinger is more stricter. Other opinions are available. its that simple
It's all reaction, whether it's well thought out or an outburst. My responses are all thoughtful and honest. Swinging is not supposed to be exclusive. That's why it's called swinging. Partner swapping is just a small element of it. But by your definition, things such as, but not exclusive to, all female orgies, gang bangs and cuckolding would not be classed as swinging. As you can't expect all involved in these scenarios to be attached or married.
I can't and don't. I just have a narrower view on the label of swinger that's all."
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Is it Wednesday
Frankly I really don't care what you call me. I'm here for sex outside of a vanilla lifestyle.
How you decide to define me is of no interest whatsoever.
But the continued inference that singles don't belong on this site as repeated by almost daily threads on the subject and the perceived hierarchy that some wish to impose on those that don't share their opinions is becoming more than a little tedious...
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"Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?! "
Well considering swingers clubs are gagging for more single women and will bend over backwards to encourage them with free entry ect I'd say in they're eyes single women can be swingers. Either that or they are completely hypocritical? |
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I'm a sucker for punishment but here goes..
"Are single profiles really swingers?"
to address the OP's question - here's another one to think about.
Are singles profiles on Tinder actually swingers? And How are a couples received on Tinder?
Asking for a friend |
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"I'm a sucker for punishment but here goes..
"Are single profiles really swingers?"
to address the OP's question - here's another one to think about.
Are singles profiles on Tinder actually swingers? And How are a couples received on Tinder?
Asking for a friend"
Can couples join Tinder? |
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"I'm a sucker for punishment but here goes..
"Are single profiles really swingers?"
to address the OP's question - here's another one to think about.
Are singles profiles on Tinder actually swingers? And How are a couples received on Tinder?
Asking for a friend
Can couples join Tinder? "
Really not sure - be interesting to find out |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title!"
Yes and yes yes yes. |
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So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right? |
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"So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right?"
Some have said that. It's quite funny to see them try to justify their hook up with strangers sex, by giving it a different name. I'm seeing lots of couples say they hook up with strangers in clubs and try to justify it by saying it's swinging.
It's sex. Why do people feel like they have to justify their sex lives. |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!"
Do you meet single men? Are you swingers? What would you call the single men you meet? |
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"So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right?
Some have said that. It's quite funny to see them try to justify their hook up with strangers sex, by giving it a different name. I'm seeing lots of couples say they hook up with strangers in clubs and try to justify it by saying it's swinging.
It's sex. Why do people feel like they have to justify their sex lives. "
I agree Ms Brain - Swinging is just a label that was applied to sexual liberalism from within a marriage many many years ago. Now some see a kind of affront in the fact that others do not call their type of liberalism one thing or another. its all just fucking. |
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I'm not sure about the origin of the word swinger or how it came into use for the lifestyle, but I'm pretty sure it was to describe wife (or husband) swappers. So by definition it should really only apply to couples.
However, as others have said above, the lifestyle has grown and changed considerably since those early days.
Single men, women, and TV/TS have joined in and it is all the better for having them. The only ones we are not particularly keen on are married guys using swinging for a quick fuck behind the wife's back.
I suppose the French have got it about right.
The use the word Libertine. |
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"So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right?"
I guess that could just be called dating. |
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Funny there are couples on this thread stating that single people aren't swingers, yet their profiles say they are looking for singles.
If singles aren't swingers why are you looking for them on a swingers site? |
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"So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right?"
Basically yes |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
Sorry Tony and Debs - according to JC500 we have to keep our opinions to ourselves. look at the trouble you have caused lol "
You seem to be replying to comments that aren't even aimed at you and getting bent out of shape over them.
No one has flagged you or your opinion off |
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This topic gets on my tits tbf.
Having been on the scene for well over over 10years and then to see newbies (not saying op are new) saying ‘these people aren’t swingers.
We will see Whos the swinger when you go UNLOS in a week, pal. |
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Engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners is the definition of swinging....so singles(M or F) meeting other singles it technically not swinging.....but like many have said, does it really matter...imo, nope.(other opinions are available) |
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OP you can ask whatever question you like within forum rules. If people don't like it, the adult thing would be to not comment on it.
I think it's a state of mind so yes single people can be swingers if they want to call themselves that.
Not all singles are swingers but neither are all couples.
Some couples are just lying to their partner that they want to swing, when really they just want to fuck around and cheat in plain sight. |
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"So from reading a lot of couples comments on here they are essentially saying that if they as a couple meet a single then they'd classify that as swinging but if a single guy met a single lady then he's not swinging. Have I got that right?
Some have said that. It's quite funny to see them try to justify their hook up with strangers sex, by giving it a different name. I'm seeing lots of couples say they hook up with strangers in clubs and try to justify it by saying it's swinging.
It's sex. Why do people feel like they have to justify their sex lives.
I agree Ms Brain - Swinging is just a label that was applied to sexual liberalism from within a marriage many many years ago. Now some see a kind of affront in the fact that others do not call their type of liberalism one thing or another. its all just fucking. "
Exactly what I say. However you go about getting it, it's all sex in the end. |
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"Some couples are just lying to their partner that they want to swing, when really they just want to fuck around and cheat in plain sight.
Basically "
Yes I’d agree with that |
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"This topic gets on my tits tbf.
Having been on the scene for well over over 10years and then to see newbies (not saying op are new) saying ‘these people aren’t swingers.
We will see Whos the swinger when you go UNLOS in a week, pal. "
And if he or anyone do... Are they then no longer swingers?
Someone mentioned also that one had to go to a club to be a real swinger. I went to two clubs and would never return as the way couples (real swingers) treated me was shocking. It's the reason I will not meet couples. So I guess I'm not a swinger but then again I was put off by the real swingers.
Don't care what anyone else thinks I am and I don't care if I see myself as a swinger or not. I meet like minded liberal singles for regular social and intimate times together. Call me what you like. |
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"OP you can ask whatever question you like within forum rules. If people don't like it, the adult thing would be to not comment on it.
I think it's a state of mind so yes single people can be swingers if they want to call themselves that.
Not all singles are swingers but neither are all couples.
Some couples are just lying to their partner that they want to swing, when really they just want to fuck around and cheat in plain sight. "
Absolutely right. I think you have hit the nail on head here. Great reply!!!! |
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"Genuine question tho. Would you rather agree to an (open) swinging relationship or get cheated on!?"
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"Some couples are just lying to their partner that they want to swing, when really they just want to fuck around and cheat in plain sight.
Basically "
Damn. That's us rumbled  |
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"Some couples are just lying to their partner that they want to swing, when really they just want to fuck around and cheat in plain sight.
Basically
Damn. That's us rumbled "
3/4 of fan are screwed. Lol |
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"Not sure if this has been covered before but as a point of interest can single profile be classed as a swinger ? I have no opinions one way or other. It doesn't really matter to us but interested to hear what others think!
We would say a lot come on here thinking that they will be sure to find an easy lay.
We say if you have never been to a club then you aren't really a swinger.
Its a lifestyle, not a title! if not been to a club your not a swinger ...i think your talking out your arse
Ha ha that’s funny, if you’ve never been to a club you are not a swinger!!! That’s so funny, half the people at clubs don’t play!! "
What about the voyeurs amd exhibitionists? |
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"Ha ha that’s funny, if you’ve never been to a club you are not a swinger!!! That’s so funny, half the people at clubs don’t play!!
What about the voyeurs amd exhibitionists? "
There's a label for them... they're called wait for it..voyeurs and exhibitionists |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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im single, i've been to clubs and played with men, women and couples, been to house parties, 121 meets, socials, the lot. Been in the lifestyle three years and although i prefer to have kink in my life, when swinging on my own,
i dont ever want to be in a monogamous relationship again, so poly, swinger, submissive, hussy, i enjoy what i do and don't do, its not a problem what others feel i am..one thing i am not, is an accessory, that attitude i avoid like the plague x |
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over a year ago
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"Genuine question tho. Would you rather agree to an (open) swinging relationship or get cheated on!?"
never been cheated on and not looking for anything but an open swinging/ kink/ share dynamic
i like variety. i don't expect one person to give me everything i want, and why shouldn't i, have it all? |
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"Genuine question tho. Would you rather agree to an (open) swinging relationship or get cheated on!?"
In what context. Is my hypothetical partner giving me an ultimatum? I.e. if you don't agree to swing I'm going to get sex elsewhere.
Or is my partner discussing swinging with me, I'm saying "not for me but I'm more than happy for you to go elsewhere"?
Or is my partner discussing swinging with me, I'm refusing, he's going elsewhere without telling me? |
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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago
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"Makes me laugh that people think they can define a "proper" swinger these days - there's no such thing and to try and define it smacks to me of some kind of elitism.
As others have said swinging and the scene in general has come a long way since the keys in a bowl days of the 70s and there are so many categories and sub-categories within it now that perhaps a better way of phrasing it would be "liberal minded adults".
Yes, there are some here that think it's the keys to the door of unlimited sex and they're soon disappointed and aren't necessarily swingers in any sense - but for those that understand and "get" the scene as it is today the only "proper" definition is the one they set for themselves surely? "
What he said.
Mind you, I think a retro 'keys in the bowl' party might be fun!
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"Im looking forward to being in a relationship where i could find this out, ha ha!...bored of being a swingle...
Agree with points saying some guys come on here thinking its a place for easy pickings.... ive given them a peice of my mind more than once, by message or forum.
Perhaps a non swinger is someone who associates sex with old religious patriarchal crap which doesnt see women as equals/having a right to sexual expression. Its def a state of mind/lifestyle id say....one of no sexual judgement....vanilla is full of judgement
A non swinger is someone who wouldnt ever consider anthing other than one to one i'd say.
Ps...i love clubs, so does that mean im a swinger. But not..as im single?! "
Mia, how have I not come across your profile before! PM on its way..... |
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We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
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"Makes me laugh that people think they can define a "proper" swinger these days - there's no such thing and to try and define it smacks to me of some kind of elitism.
As others have said swinging and the scene in general has come a long way since the keys in a bowl days of the 70s and there are so many categories and sub-categories within it now that perhaps a better way of phrasing it would be "liberal minded adults".
Yes, there are some here that think it's the keys to the door of unlimited sex and they're soon disappointed and aren't necessarily swingers in any sense - but for those that understand and "get" the scene as it is today the only "proper" definition is the one they set for themselves surely?
What he said.
Mind you, I think a retro 'keys in the bowl' party might be fun!
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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On my own I don’t believe I am a “swinger” but I don’t accept a label of any sort.
I’m someone who enjoys sex with different people and likes to indulge a more kinky nature. However if I’m in a couple and we have sex with others I think that meets the definition.
It seems unimportant to me what we call
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
A ‘lifestyle’ doesn’t mean you have to live it 24/7 "
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"I’d say the majority of them are on here because they think they will get an easy, no effort needed, fuck. But there are some true single swingers out there "
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
A ‘lifestyle’ doesn’t mean you have to live it 24/7 "
Please point out where I said it was!!!!! |
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I have a singles profile but I’m part of a swinging couple
If I were still actually single then I’d want to stay that way unless I could have a swingers relationship so for metes there’s many ways you can be single and a swinger |
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
A ‘lifestyle’ doesn’t mean you have to live it 24/7 "
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
A ‘lifestyle’ doesn’t mean you have to live it 24/7
It just proves that those who have said it don’t understand what it is. "
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We just want fun with extra cock in the mix and not so enthralled with meeting couples
That may well mean we ain't swingers by some peoples definition but we don't care
Bottom line is, where better to find extra cock to play with than here?
It happens to be called fabswingers |
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"We don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle, certainly not for us. Its 'extra sex fun' and does not impact on our day to day lives as a real lifestyle would. If swinging is really your lifestyle, you need to get out into the real world more!!
A ‘lifestyle’ doesn’t mean you have to live it 24/7
It just proves that those who have said it don’t understand what it is.
A swinger friend calls it his “hobby” "
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When I joined Fabswingers I joined a community of like minded people who (really!) enjoy recreational sex outside the boundaries accepted by vanilla society. This sex takes place in all its different forms and in different venues. I can’t think of another collective term to describe the Fab community in one label, so it’s been adopted - Fet, BDSM etc have all created their niche but the term ‘swinging’ has evolved I guess to encompass what we all like to do - it’s an ‘everything else’ community
And I like it...
A lot...
You filthy fuckers |
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"When I joined Fabswingers I joined a community of like minded people who (really!) enjoy recreational sex outside the boundaries accepted by vanilla society. This sex takes place in all its different forms and in different venues. I can’t think of another collective term to describe the Fab community in one label, so it’s been adopted - Fet, BDSM etc have all created their niche but the term ‘swinging’ has evolved I guess to encompass what we all like to do - it’s an ‘everything else’ community
And I like it...
A lot...
You filthy fuckers "
Yeah, what ^^^^^^^ he said.
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"When I joined Fabswingers I joined a community of like minded people who (really!) enjoy recreational sex outside the boundaries accepted by vanilla society. This sex takes place in all its different forms and in different venues. I can’t think of another collective term to describe the Fab community in one label, so it’s been adopted - Fet, BDSM etc have all created their niche but the term ‘swinging’ has evolved I guess to encompass what we all like to do - it’s an ‘everything else’ community
And I like it...
A lot...
You filthy fuckers
Yeah, what ^^^^^^^ he said.
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"Swinging applies to anyone with an open lifestyle, be they single, married, or somewhere in between. I think most people get confused between swinging and swapping "
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