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"I've never understood this either.....swinging tends to involve multiple sexual encounters...kinda comes with the territory....anyone who doesn't get this really doesn't understand swinging at all." No they really don't! Would explain why it has only been "real" swingers who've messaged re the socials I host and no one else | |||
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"Why are women saying this about you & why are said men listening? You’ll only know the answer if you ask them directly." I've no idea and I don't want to speak to people that behave in that manner. Yeah i had 70 veris.... social ones because people have attended the socials I host. | |||
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"I wonder a little at the mindset of those telling others not to meet you and why they would do so... But wonder more at the mindset of those who are so apparently weak that they comply with the instructions of another who may only ever be a random fuck..." Oh me too. I just feel it's a sad world and a bit of a popularity contest of which I want no part. I have been on the scene a very long time and it's changed massively and not for the better. | |||
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"There are plenty of threads on bareback where people openly say they are using them as filters to see who plays, so it's not like it's old news. " What are you on about? There is no bareback | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. " I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else | |||
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"There are plenty of threads on bareback where people openly say they are using them as filters to see who plays, so it's not like it's old news. What are you on about? There is no bareback " Calm down. I was making a point that you must be aware that whether it is yourself or others, that people talk. It happens, for good or bad. They are only missing out on a fuck at the end of the day. | |||
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"If people don't want to meet you because you have too many verifications, they are not the right people for you anyway. I would rather meet those with plenty, as they are more likely to "get it", not to mention actually turn up
Nita"You have a point there! It just baffled me I guess | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else " I guess there are plenty who will avoid guys I’ve been with so I don’t write many veris so I don’t spoil their future prospects. I never figured my social veris could cause problems. | |||
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"Why are women saying this about you & why are said men listening? You’ll only know the answer if you ask them directly. I've no idea and I don't want to speak to people that behave in that manner. Yeah i had 70 veris.... social ones because people have attended the socials I host. " I’m suppose what I’m trying to say is we can all have a guess as to why but we won’t know the real reasons. And tbh if people are going to act that way then there’s little you can do about it. However, I do think you should bloody well show what you want to on your profile & if people don’t want to meet you because some bird has warned them off then so be it. They’d probably be a shit fuck anyway  | |||
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"I get shit in my inbox when I post a new veri up. I suppose that’s the opposite but still utterly aggravating " Shit from men or women? | |||
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"I get shit in my inbox when I post a new veri up. I suppose that’s the opposite but still utterly aggravating Shit from men or women?" Men | |||
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"I get shit in my inbox when I post a new veri up. I suppose that’s the opposite but still utterly aggravating Shit from men or women? Men " Oh it's a compliment then. It's jealousy. x | |||
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"If people don't want to meet you because you have too many verifications, they are not the right people for you anyway. I would rather meet those with plenty, as they are more likely to "get it", not to mention actually turn up
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You have a point there!
It just baffled me I guess "There's all sorts of weird people on here 
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else " The north east is hard work! Sure you’ll have plenty of offers to keep you warm after the social though  | |||
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"Bitches be bitchin' They probably see your veris and assume you've shagged loads of guys....not that it's any of their business. It is sad they behave like this and even sadder that guys bow down to women like that. Weak men are pathetic!!!" Well said ...... | |||
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"Start a new profile and get one of your mates to verify you. Have different pics and don't show any veris. See if that helps? Sounds like jealousy or who knows what. Cliques abound. " It would be far too much hassle to start another profile when I host 2 socials in the area. I have taken everything down. If/when I decide to put things on I will | |||
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"I get shit in my inbox when I post a new veri up. I suppose that’s the opposite but still utterly aggravating Shit from men or women? Men Oh it's a compliment then. It's jealousy. x" Indeed that's true | |||
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"Wow - foxy. The Kim K of fab!! Ha What utter utter saddos. I admit there’s a particular girl I dislike on here from my town but that’s from ‘real life’. I wouldn’t turn down a man that had a veri from her. Just cos we dislike each other doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. " Umm I might be thick, but I'm not sure what your comment meant 
These females that meant to have hated me, and spread malicious gossip, I have no idea who they are in real life so it couldn't have anything to do with that (shrugs) | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" This is such a strange mentality to me. This world is already hard work as a woman so why would you put yourself out to give another woman grief. Girls can be such bitches I hate it | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. " Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards "That wasn't a chastisement. Merely an observation. You can't win on here. If you set the bar high you are delusional or a snob. Set the bar lower, you are desperate. | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards "Yep I don't see why I should alter my standards?! I work bloody hard in life and everything I do and train regularly so therefore expect a certain level. As anyone eill have read from my veris tho I am the most approachable person always laughing and having a joke and not an air of anything about me. So I don't see why it's an issue really. | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards
That wasn't a chastisement. Merely an observation.
You can't win on here. If you set the bar high you are delusional or a snob. Set the bar lower, you are desperate.""Inverted snobbery" | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards
Yep I don't see why I should alter my standards?! I work bloody hard in life and everything I do and train regularly so therefore expect a certain level. As anyone eill have read from my veris tho I am the most approachable person always laughing and having a joke and not an air of anything about me. So I don't see why it's an issue really.
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards
Yep I don't see why I should alter my standards?! I work bloody hard in life and everything I do and train regularly so therefore expect a certain level. As anyone eill have read from my veris tho I am the most approachable person always laughing and having a joke and not an air of anything about me. So I don't see why it's an issue really.
Did I suggest you lower your standard?"You said high standard equal snob or delusional.. .. i know you didn't say lower and for the size of the north east is really is abysmal | |||
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"Wow - foxy. The Kim K of fab!! Ha What utter utter saddos. I admit there’s a particular girl I dislike on here from my town but that’s from ‘real life’. I wouldn’t turn down a man that had a veri from her. Just cos we dislike each other doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. Umm I might be thick, but I'm not sure what your comment meant
These females that meant to have hated me, and spread malicious gossip, I have no idea who they are in real life so it couldn't have anything to do with that (shrugs)"No I know. I was sticking up for you. Poking fun at your new found ‘celebrity’. .... they obviously see something they are jealous of and nothing brings a bunch of bitches together better than something they mutually ‘hate’ (although as individuals none of them dislike you... they just wish they were as popular as you!) The way they went about it is essentially bullying though. They need to get a grip xx | |||
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"Omg! This has made me so mad. You’re nothing but lovely to people. I’m guessing it’s to do with jealousy. Little cows!! " I don't know what it is... I have to assume jealousy however I think given how infrequently I meet anyone it makes no big deal in the grand scheme of things. I try and make things fun for others esp with the socials and then this  just on a bit of a downer. I'll turn my frown upside down | |||
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"I've had this in the past! I even had a male profile admit to me that there was a local kik group headed up by a local female, who would slag me off on a regular basis stating that I was so far up my own arse and to avoid me like the plague, all full of hate and venom. He only admitted it to me, because I turned him down in a polite way, so he decided to lash out and tell me the truth about what the local females were saying about me. Yes I am selective, yes I am more than a sex object and yes if I wanted a sex meet every night I could have. The fact I haven't met in over a year says a lot about me and the men in my area. This site is no longer what it used to be and that is the truth! But for that I blame the newspapers depicting that everyone on it is shagging anyone and everyone so hence a lot of mens attitudes upon joining but when women turn against you for whatever reason, it just makes it just that little bit more surprising "How did you know he was telling the truth? | |||
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"Omg! This has made me so mad. You’re nothing but lovely to people. I’m guessing it’s to do with jealousy. Little cows!! I don't know what it is... I have to assume jealousy however I think given how infrequently I meet anyone it makes no big deal in the grand scheme of things. I try and make things fun for others esp with the socials and then this just on a bit of a downer. I'll turn my frown upside down "That’s the annoyance of it. You already do and would do alsorts for anyone and that’s how you are thanked. Grrrrrr x | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards
Yep I don't see why I should alter my standards?! I work bloody hard in life and everything I do and train regularly so therefore expect a certain level. As anyone eill have read from my veris tho I am the most approachable person always laughing and having a joke and not an air of anything about me. So I don't see why it's an issue really.
Did I suggest you lower your standard?
You said high standard equal snob or delusional.. .. i know you didn't say lower and for the size of the north east is really is abysmal "I should have clarified: According to those that seek to judge, if you set a high standard etc etc. I suspect this is hitting you harder than you are letting on. I was trying to be supportive without White Knighting. Clearly I used the wrong words in the wrong order. | |||
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"In all honestly, those guys listening to them women are doing you a favour. Do you really want to be in the company of men who act like little women and engage/listen to gossip? Plenty of men out there who aren't like that "Exactly. Exit stage right  | |||
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"It looks like they have got what they wanted though. The op has taken her pics down and stopped meeting... " I haven't had a meet in forever as it is. I only really meet at the socials either the ones hosted by me or someone else. | |||
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"It looks like they have got what they wanted though. The op has taken her pics down and stopped meeting... I haven't had a meet in forever as it is. I only really meet at the socials either the ones hosted by me or someone else." So no biggie then. Let em crack on.  | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" It’s jealousy pure and simple!! Slag u off instead of asking u direct!! We get the same thing.. we get 20 + folks at every party so can be up to 20 veris!! I’m proud of mine xx So sod them I say x 
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"Wow - foxy. The Kim K of fab!! Ha What utter utter saddos. I admit there’s a particular girl I dislike on here from my town but that’s from ‘real life’. I wouldn’t turn down a man that had a veri from her. Just cos we dislike each other doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. Umm I might be thick, but I'm not sure what your comment meant
These females that meant to have hated me, and spread malicious gossip, I have no idea who they are in real life so it couldn't have anything to do with that (shrugs)
No I know. I was sticking up for you.
Poking fun at your new found ‘celebrity’. .... they obviously see something they are jealous of and nothing brings a bunch of bitches together better than something they mutually ‘hate’ (although as individuals none of them dislike you... they just wish they were as popular as you!)
The way they went about it is essentially bullying though. They need to get a grip xx"Ah Ok, I didn't get the Kim K comment lol, I'm obviously too old for that celebrity shite lol (I thought I don't show my arse off as much as her!)
Yes get a bunch of women together and there is nothing more bitter and twisted or eager to twist the knife, it is such a sad state of affairs in my eyes xx | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else " You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen  it can be brutal here x | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x"Haha I have.... it is pretty brutal up there but at least Dundee isn t too far away x | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x"Read my posts on this thread! | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x
Read my posts on this thread! "I have foxy. Maybe it's in isolated areas ie busy in terms of business etc but small minded. I can only imagine said women were jealous of you! X | |||
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"OP, from what I remember of your old profile, you set a very high standard. When I lived in the North East, the scene was healthy but there was a bit of inverted snobbery at times. If you set a high standard, you were seen as seeing yourself better than everyone else, which doesn't go down well. You are a combination of a threat and unobtainable to most. Using quantities of verifications as a bench mark of your activities is a veiled attempt to cast you in a bad light. However, and I have mentioned it on threads like this in the past, getting the quality of meet you seek is the issue. No need to lower your standards, but you have to accept you are fishing in a very small pool. If you had been male, the advice given would have been entirely different. As for the gossips... Nothing you can do about that I'm afraid. Find it so strange when women ate chastised for having high standards
Yep I don't see why I should alter my standards?! I work bloody hard in life and everything I do and train regularly so therefore expect a certain level. As anyone eill have read from my veris tho I am the most approachable person always laughing and having a joke and not an air of anything about me. So I don't see why it's an issue really.
Did I suggest you lower your standard?
You said high standard equal snob or delusional.. .. i know you didn't say lower and for the size of the north east is really is abysmal "You're misunderstanding what he said. He wasn't slagging off your high standards or saying you shouldn't have them. He was saying what other people might think about that and to ignore them. And to accept that there might not be people you want to meet. That's all. | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x
Read my posts on this thread!
I have foxy. Maybe it's in isolated areas ie busy in terms of business etc but small minded. I can only imagine said women were jealous of you! X"But there is nothing about me to be jealous of, there are plenty women meeting on a daily basis, so the men are 'getting their turn' so to speak, so me being selective doesn't hinder them at all x | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x
Read my posts on this thread!
I have foxy. Maybe it's in isolated areas ie busy in terms of business etc but small minded. I can only imagine said women were jealous of you! X
But there is nothing about me to be jealous of, there are plenty women meeting on a daily basis, so the men are 'getting their turn' so to speak, so me being selective doesn't hinder them at all x"I didn't say I understood them.... x | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" I wouldn’t worry about it,who wants to meet blokes who can’t make a decision for themselves anyway x | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x
Read my posts on this thread!
I have foxy. Maybe it's in isolated areas ie busy in terms of business etc but small minded. I can only imagine said women were jealous of you! X
But there is nothing about me to be jealous of, there are plenty women meeting on a daily basis, so the men are 'getting their turn' so to speak, so me being selective doesn't hinder them at all x
I didn't say I understood them.... x "That's true, I don't and never will either x | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" Take it as a compliment hon. They are jealous obviously. And tbh they are doing you a favour, would you want to meet someone who has not the intelligence to listen to heresay of others. Call it a real life filter. Look at it this way, while they are fettling in your life, they are leaving some other poor bugger alone xx | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else You clearly haven't tried Aberdeen it can be brutal here x
Read my posts on this thread!
I have foxy. Maybe it's in isolated areas ie busy in terms of business etc but small minded. I can only imagine said women were jealous of you! X
But there is nothing about me to be jealous of, there are plenty women meeting on a daily basis, so the men are 'getting their turn' so to speak, so me being selective doesn't hinder them at all x
I didn't say I understood them.... x "Chin up hun your a lovely lady and dead down to earth if these men listen to wingy immature women it's there loss not yours x | |||
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People are weird I think maybe just get used to it!
Create a new profile with new pics and do the standard “ been here bofore couldn’t keep away” bit | |||
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"There are a couple near us who refuse to meet people who have attended a certain club... the fact we never played there meant nothing... us visiting and having a verification meant they refused to meet....
People are weird I think maybe just get used to it!
Create a new profile with new pics and do the standard “ been here bofore couldn’t keep away” bit "Why would I make a new profile? It would create anxiety amongst the socials I host and they would suffer as people would think they weren't running. After being on the scene a decade the worst thing someone can do is make a new profile | |||
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"Thank you to everyone who replied ! You're right....fuck the gossipy small minded, jealous twats! "
Haters gonna hate! All here for our own enjoyment so enjoy. | |||
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"There are a couple near us who refuse to meet people who have attended a certain club... the fact we never played there meant nothing... us visiting and having a verification meant they refused to meet....
People are weird I think maybe just get used to it!
Create a new profile with new pics and do the standard “ been here bofore couldn’t keep away” bit
Why would I make a new profile? It would create anxiety amongst the socials I host and they would suffer as people would think they weren't running.
After being on the scene a decade the worst thing someone can do is make a new profile "2 profiles. New one for meets and existing for socials. | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else " Totally with you on this, we attended our first and only Newcastle social last year and were totally blanked. Yet on a trip down south attended the Brighton social and everyone was more friendly and approachable | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else Totally with you on this, we attended our first and only Newcastle social last year and were totally blanked. Yet on a trip down south attended the Brighton social and everyone was more friendly and approachable " Speaking of southerners I wonder if anyone chats to each other at the London socials?! Lol | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else Totally with you on this, we attended our first and only Newcastle social last year and were totally blanked. Yet on a trip down south attended the Brighton social and everyone was more friendly and approachable " I've taken over the Newcastle social and anyone who has attended any of my socials will tell you I don't allow anyone to be blanked. | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else Totally with you on this, we attended our first and only Newcastle social last year and were totally blanked. Yet on a trip down south attended the Brighton social and everyone was more friendly and approachable I've taken over the Newcastle social and anyone who has attended any of my socials will tell you I don't allow anyone to be blanked. " Good to hear as for newbies like we were it’s a daunting task. Just hope you have a better venue booked | |||
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"The thing is they might be meeting off vanilla sites and racking up the same amount of men but you’d never know. " True...the thing is...I don't care what they are doing or who and how many they are doing it with. I think some people also just love a bit of drama in their lives. I am too old for that crap, regular everyday drama is enough for me ta | |||
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"I have one or two veris and this problem has never occurred to me. I'm beginning to think it's the north east! Never encountered all this crap in Scotland nor do I get it anywhere else Totally with you on this, we attended our first and only Newcastle social last year and were totally blanked. Yet on a trip down south attended the Brighton social and everyone was more friendly and approachable Speaking of southerners I wonder if anyone chats to each other at the London socials?! Lol" I’ve only been to one tea party social & managed to socialise with many. I don’t recall anyone sitting on their own being blanked. | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .." | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .. " I didn't speak of happiness. I spoke of people's behaviours and attitudes and how it's baffling | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .. I didn't speak of happiness. I spoke of people's behaviours and attitudes and how it's baffling " But it has clearly pissed you off....and made change your profile and everything you thought about swinging/Fab change.....instead of just shaking it off and moving on..... | |||
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"I have also come across women like that on here. I first learnt about it when a friend I had played with messaged me to say that a local female had told him that she and a bunch of other local girls would never meet him or anyone else with a veri from me, her reason was that if they had fucked me then they had no standards because I fuck everybody. I have played with alot of guys since I joined 2 years ago, most of which was in the first few months, do I care that it pisses off other people, not particularly. I would never change anything I do because someone I don't even know, in any capacity, has a crappy opinion of me. I was not hurting anyone, yet they thought it was perfectly fine to bad mouth me to guys on here, even ones that I had only met socially, and put up snotty statuses about anything I posted, new pics, statuses about stuff. I felt a bit sorry for them for having such a bad opinion of themselves and being so insecure that they had to behave that way toward another woman. One even bitched about me saying I was fat, on a forum thread and pretty much said I was attention seeking as I wasn't fat enough to be bbw. The list of shite got so big and it was upsetting friends more than me so in the end I reported the main culprit. If you don't like someone elses business, keep your bloody nose out of it, there are ways of not seeing it right? I hope you don't let this completely ruin things for you lovely!" | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .. I didn't speak of happiness. I spoke of people's behaviours and attitudes and how it's baffling But it has clearly pissed you off....and made change your profile and everything you thought about swinging/Fab change.....instead of just shaking it off and moving on....." Of course it pissed me off. People talking out of turn will always piss me off | |||
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"I've never understood this either.....swinging tends to involve multiple sexual encounters...kinda comes with the territory....anyone who doesn't get this really doesn't understand swinging at all." I get your point, but equally there are some people who only need one or a few regular playmates and for who quality trumps quantity. Anyone who thinks it's all about shagging as many people as possible really doesn't understand swinging at all | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .. I didn't speak of happiness. I spoke of people's behaviours and attitudes and how it's baffling But it has clearly pissed you off....and made change your profile and everything you thought about swinging/Fab change.....instead of just shaking it off and moving on..... Of course it pissed me off. People talking out of turn will always piss me off " But why let it bother you? I appreciate that you may have been shocked, as you are not and would not do something like that to someone perhaps.....but it is over and done with....what has been said has been said and you cannot change that....but why are you still even thinking about it .... | |||
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"I've never understood this either.....swinging tends to involve multiple sexual encounters...kinda comes with the territory....anyone who doesn't get this really doesn't understand swinging at all. No they really don't! Would explain why it has only been "real" swingers who've messaged re the socials I host and no one else " Personally we couldn't give a monkeys what others think. We've set our profile up to display exactly what we are, our attitudes to sex and whilst we have standards if we want to fuck every single person we deem suitable then we will. We'd both be more than happy to end your drought btw Missy! If you weren't busy on the 23rd, Grrrr! In fact we'd be inclined to meet you, then meet them (assuming that we considered them attractive of course), then let slip after the deed was done that we'd met you first, just out of general mischief... | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .. I didn't speak of happiness. I spoke of people's behaviours and attitudes and how it's baffling But it has clearly pissed you off....and made change your profile and everything you thought about swinging/Fab change.....instead of just shaking it off and moving on..... Of course it pissed me off. People talking out of turn will always piss me off But why let it bother you? I appreciate that you may have been shocked, as you are not and would not do something like that to someone perhaps.....but it is over and done with....what has been said has been said and you cannot change that....but why are you still even thinking about it ...." I'm not I've said my peace- profile reinstated! Folk can think what they like and if they don't wanna meet me it's them who are missing out | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! | |||
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"What I don't understand is what is driving these guys to listen to this one person "banning" them from seeing you?
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Desperation. And thinking with their cock"But even that doesn't add up, unless these bitchy people are effectively saying "Don't meet that person and I'll fuck you."
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"What I don't understand is what is driving these guys to listen to this one person "banning" them from seeing you?
C"It’s not one woman - the op said it’s a group of women! There’s power in numbers! I have exactly the same issue here in the NW! The guys they’ve contacted tell me that they know it’s all bullshit but they’re not on here for aggro - so they remove my veri and tell me they won’t be seeing me again! I remove theirs as I’m not here to make life awkward for anyone! I find it upsetting though as I’m only currently looking for regular playmates - and these were guys I had fantastic meets with and thought I was establishing a friendship with! Like they said, though - they come on here for friendship and NSA sex - not aggro! | |||
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But even that doesn't add up, unless these bitchy people are effectively saying "Don't meet that person and I'll fuck you."
C"I believe - from hearsay - that some folk on here are erm, territorial. Aren’t understanding the rules of play that most people sign up to, and get a monk on when their favourites want to meet others. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! " Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? " I was thinking that last night actually. What evidence has anyone seen. Just call me Rumpole  | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? " Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! " Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. | |||
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"Considering the swinging community is supposed to be without judgement, there sure is a hell of a lot of it going on. Those 'ladies' need to grow the fucker up, and the blokes need to grow some balls and make decisions for themselves instead of listening to gossip like a bunch of school kids. " Couldn’t agree more! | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? " Ive seen both sides of this. Seen first hand the crap that some women cause to get others backs up But also I've seen pure vindictive unwarrented nastiness where it wasn't merited. Would I listen to it and not meet? Nah I'd make my own mind up. I prefer karma doing her stuff tbh. Women - some can be right nasty bitches that don't like it when their behaviour comes back to bite them, but play the poor me card very very well. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! " This is stupid, because as you say men vastly outnumber women? There's plenty of decent guys everywhere and it's not as if anyone would possibly have time to meet them all? | |||
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"Considering the swinging community is supposed to be without judgement, there sure is a hell of a lot of it going on. Those 'ladies' need to grow the fucker up, and the blokes need to grow some balls and make decisions for themselves instead of listening to gossip like a bunch of school kids. " I can count on the fingers of no hands the number of blokes I know who would not meet someone they fancy because a random person told them not to. | |||
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Desperation. And thinking with their cock
But even that doesn't add up, unless these bitchy people are effectively saying "Don't meet that person and I'll fuck you."
C"I haven't come across this specifically, but I do have a male friend who experienced problems with a NE based woman because he was seen by her swinging peers to be undesirable and she felt meeting him had compromised her chances to meet others. No one concerned is on my veris. I also know several people who have suffered as a result of gossip circulated in private kik groups, often associated with socials. And I think newbie men are often keen to fit in to enhance their chances of meets and can take gossip on kik groups too seriously. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. " It may make more sense when you appreciate the extent of the Club Scene here in the North West. We have a huge number of clubs here which many swingers go to - and a couple of clubs in particular are very busy and popular! These clubs can have well established cliquey groups of females! They have odd ideas of swinging and are very proprietorial about their meets, about guys they like but haven’t met yet , about guys they’re interested in but haven’t even chatted to yet! I had no issues until I started getting on hot photos a lot and subsequently getting the attention of/meeting hot younger guys! It seems to piss many women off immeasurably that a very imperfect, middle aged woman gets to meet the hotties that they want to meet! When I meet guys who are 40+ there’s no backlash or nastiness at all - it’s just the young hot guys they object to me meeting! | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. It may make more sense when you appreciate the extent of the Club Scene here in the North West. We have a huge number of clubs here which many swingers go to - and a couple of clubs in particular are very busy and popular! These clubs can have well established cliquey groups of females! They have odd ideas of swinging and are very proprietorial about their meets, about guys they like but haven’t met yet , about guys they’re interested in but haven’t even chatted to yet! I had no issues until I started getting on hot photos a lot and subsequently getting the attention of/meeting hot younger guys! It seems to piss many women off immeasurably that a very imperfect, middle aged woman gets to meet the hotties that they want to meet! When I meet guys who are 40+ there’s no backlash or nastiness at all - it’s just the young hot guys they object to me meeting! " So why will the guys not meet you. If neither of you tell them, the clique will never know. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. It may make more sense when you appreciate the extent of the Club Scene here in the North West. We have a huge number of clubs here which many swingers go to - and a couple of clubs in particular are very busy and popular! These clubs can have well established cliquey groups of females! They have odd ideas of swinging and are very proprietorial about their meets, about guys they like but haven’t met yet , about guys they’re interested in but haven’t even chatted to yet! I had no issues until I started getting on hot photos a lot and subsequently getting the attention of/meeting hot younger guys! It seems to piss many women off immeasurably that a very imperfect, middle aged woman gets to meet the hotties that they want to meet! When I meet guys who are 40+ there’s no backlash or nastiness at all - it’s just the young hot guys they object to me meeting! So why will the guys not meet you. If neither of you tell them, the clique will never know. " Until yesterday I had on my profile that I wasn’t doing verifications for this very reason. If these ‘ladies’ see me go off to play with the hot chaps in a club though, word obviously gets around! X | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" Be the hunter as opposed to the hunted... You know what you like best... so go and find them and be proactive rather than waiting on them to come to you | |||
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"Maybe its to do with the socials you do , we started a small one a couple of years ago and the grief we got was amazeing , went as far that some people on our guest list were told they were not welcome at other socials x" Weird isn’t it? When I first joined fab I thought that this was a friendly, non-judgemental, welcoming, all-encompassing community! What a laugh that was! | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. It may make more sense when you appreciate the extent of the Club Scene here in the North West. We have a huge number of clubs here which many swingers go to - and a couple of clubs in particular are very busy and popular! These clubs can have well established cliquey groups of females! They have odd ideas of swinging and are very proprietorial about their meets, about guys they like but haven’t met yet , about guys they’re interested in but haven’t even chatted to yet! I had no issues until I started getting on hot photos a lot and subsequently getting the attention of/meeting hot younger guys! It seems to piss many women off immeasurably that a very imperfect, middle aged woman gets to meet the hotties that they want to meet! When I meet guys who are 40+ there’s no backlash or nastiness at all - it’s just the young hot guys they object to me meeting! So why will the guys not meet you. If neither of you tell them, the clique will never know. Until yesterday I had on my profile that I wasn’t doing verifications for this very reason. If these ‘ladies’ see me go off to play with the hot chaps in a club though, word obviously gets around! X" Maybe you are seeing the wrong guys. Any guy with half a backbone who was told by a stranger who he could and couldn't fuck would tell them to get lost. | |||
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"Maybe its to do with the socials you do , we started a small one a couple of years ago and the grief we got was amazeing , went as far that some people on our guest list were told they were not welcome at other socials x Weird isn’t it? When I first joined fab I thought that this was a friendly, non-judgemental, welcoming, all-encompassing community! What a laugh that was! " | |||
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"I don't get this kind of behaviour at all but I could,maybe more so if the main one that was on my back was young but she is almost my age! The amount of girls (not women) that are over 40 these days I find rather sad, I thought we were all meant to be secure enough in ourselves to not feel the need for this kind of silliness?!?" Couldn’t agree more! | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? If it’s any consolation I get exactly the same shit! A large group of anonymous females (none of the guys contacted have had the balls/decency to tell me who they are!) contact every hot young guy I meet in the NW area and tell them that if they meet me again then no-one else will meet them! Sadly these women have had a 100% success rate so far - so I never get a regular fb - which is primarily what I’m looking for! It simply boils down to the fact that there are some jealous, nasty bitches on here! I don’t get it though because there are waaaay more guys on here than women - plenty to go round without any unpleasantness! Big hugs op - I know exactly how shit it is!! Sorry, but with all due respect, this all sounds a bit unlikely. A large group of women make it their business to track down every guy you meet, tell them not to meet you and every guy does what they say? That begs loads of questions. To start with why would lots of women put in so much effort just to do you down. And why on earth would guys listen to them, even if they did. If some crazy woman told me not to meet someone, I'd tell them where to go and I would think that would be most people's reaction. Can I ask what evidence you have this is going on? Does the large number of guys who’ve told me that they’ve been contacted by a group of women who ‘persuaded ‘ them not to meet me again constitute evidence? Or the large number of veris removed by guys I had a fantastic meet with and planned to meet again - only to be ignored or blocked days or weeks later! With all due respect you’re in a couple - it’s a different experience for many singles on Fab! Men have the problem of getting noticed through the sheer volume of other men - women often have the issue of bitching, backbiting, jealousy and downright nastiness! Women can be extremely unpleasant and proprietorial! Other women on the thread have posted about similar issues. However - if you choose to think that I’m fantasising or in some way ‘deserve’ this treatment - then you’re entitled to your opinion of course! Of course, I wouldn't think you deserve this treatment, it's just that from all I know about human behaviour, people just don't behave in the way suggested. Take the guys for example. We all know guys on here are desperate for fucks. Even if someone told him not to see you, why on earth would he agree? Even if he is scared of said person. (and why would he be) if he and you meet, why would anyone else know that? It may well be happening, but it seems very strange. It may make more sense when you appreciate the extent of the Club Scene here in the North West. We have a huge number of clubs here which many swingers go to - and a couple of clubs in particular are very busy and popular! These clubs can have well established cliquey groups of females! They have odd ideas of swinging and are very proprietorial about their meets, about guys they like but haven’t met yet , about guys they’re interested in but haven’t even chatted to yet! I had no issues until I started getting on hot photos a lot and subsequently getting the attention of/meeting hot younger guys! It seems to piss many women off immeasurably that a very imperfect, middle aged woman gets to meet the hotties that they want to meet! When I meet guys who are 40+ there’s no backlash or nastiness at all - it’s just the young hot guys they object to me meeting! So why will the guys not meet you. If neither of you tell them, the clique will never know. Until yesterday I had on my profile that I wasn’t doing verifications for this very reason. If these ‘ladies’ see me go off to play with the hot chaps in a club though, word obviously gets around! X" I'd just smile at the bitches and make sure they saw me going with him. Just because they want him doesn't magically make him exclusive to them, despite whatever delusions they have. | |||
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"A few suggestions. 1 your profile says you don’t have time for 1 to 1s but you want a fb. 2 there’s a lot of rules or criteria 3 why not create a new profile, keep your existing one for organising your socials. Don’t use very obvious pics that identify you and see how it goes. There are a lot of jealous people out there but I have warned guys off on an individual basis of a couple of girls because they are bunny boilers and become possessive. There are two sides to every story. " I don't have a lot of time and yes I have standards a new profile wouldn't say any different to that. I've had fbs and been busy before it's about setting aside different time and altering priorities. Yeah I've done thst before I had a non descript pic and ppl still knew it was me. Unless I was to pic my feet but even they are tattooeed. I'm over it. Theu can say what they like and if people are silly enough to listen more fool them. I'll stick to surrounding myself with friends and those who support me x | |||
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"A few suggestions. 1 your profile says you don’t have time for 1 to 1s but you want a fb. 2 there’s a lot of rules or criteria 3 why not create a new profile, keep your existing one for organising your socials. Don’t use very obvious pics that identify you and see how it goes. There are a lot of jealous people out there but I have warned guys off on an individual basis of a couple of girls because they are bunny boilers and become possessive. There are two sides to every story. I don't have a lot of time and yes I have standards a new profile wouldn't say any different to that. I've had fbs and been busy before it's about setting aside different time and altering priorities. Yeah I've done thst before I had a non descript pic and ppl still knew it was me. Unless I was to pic my feet but even they are tattooeed. I'm over it. Theu can say what they like and if people are silly enough to listen more fool them. I'll stick to surrounding myself with friends and those who support me x" Good point, even with a new profile people would soon find out it was you. Why change. For you and Peachy and everyone that has had similar issues, have you asked the men if they'll meet you anyway? Surely no-one would know if there was no veri trail. As someone else said, you could be meeting anyone through dating sites and the Fabbers would never know. | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land."
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land." | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx"Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet  xx | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
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You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx"I'm trying to imagine the McMafia type tv series..the clothes budget would be lower. | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
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You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
I'm trying to imagine the McMafia type tv series..the clothes budget would be lower."In my case - the Anne Summers sale and Primark stockings so yeah - it’d be a low budget spectacle! | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
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You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet xx
Are you offering snogs miss?? "Oooh it has been known for me to offer snogs | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx"Been a part of it around 13 years now and what I’ve read above, I’ve never come across nor would entertain being a party too. High drama for something that’s supposed to be fun. | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
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You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Been a part of it around 13 years now and what I’ve read above, I’ve never come across nor would entertain being a party too. High drama for something that’s supposed to be fun. "Indeed. I've been doing this for fifteen years and have never come across the sorts of concerted campaigns mentioned here. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" Sorry haven't read through all the messages but here's my take. If a woman says she's struggling to get meets, there are several possibilities 1. She's lying 2. She's on the most wanted list 3. She's really really (really) ugly 4. She's gorgeous and intimidates others with her confidence I suspect you're #4. Chin up hun, you have it all xoxo gail | |||
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"Why do others have to make you happy . ? I am happy with or with out others and sex ,.......... I think you should look at other things in life to make you happy .." Wow how are you guys I haven’t seen you two in ages | |||
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"I've had this in the past! I even had a male profile admit to me that there was a local kik group headed up by a local female, who would slag me off on a regular basis stating that I was so far up my own arse and to avoid me like the plague, all full of hate and venom. He only admitted it to me, because I turned him down in a polite way, so he decided to lash out and tell me the truth about what the local females were saying about me. Yes I am selective, yes I am more than a sex object and yes if I wanted a sex meet every night I could have. The fact I haven't met in over a year says a lot about me and the men in my area. This site is no longer what it used to be and that is the truth! But for that I blame the newspapers depicting that everyone on it is shagging anyone and everyone so hence a lot of mens attitudes upon joining but when women turn against you for whatever reason, it just makes it just that little bit more surprising
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"A few suggestions. 1 your profile says you don’t have time for 1 to 1s but you want a fb. 2 there’s a lot of rules or criteria 3 why not create a new profile, keep your existing one for organising your socials. Don’t use very obvious pics that identify you and see how it goes. There are a lot of jealous people out there but I have warned guys off on an individual basis of a couple of girls because they are bunny boilers and become possessive. There are two sides to every story. I don't have a lot of time and yes I have standards a new profile wouldn't say any different to that. I've had fbs and been busy before it's about setting aside different time and altering priorities. Yeah I've done thst before I had a non descript pic and ppl still knew it was me. Unless I was to pic my feet but even they are tattooeed. I'm over it. Theu can say what they like and if people are silly enough to listen more fool them. I'll stick to surrounding myself with friends and those who support me x Good point, even with a new profile people would soon find out it was you. Why change. For you and Peachy and everyone that has had similar issues, have you asked the men if they'll meet you anyway? Surely no-one would know if there was no veri trail. As someone else said, you could be meeting anyone through dating sites and the Fabbers would never know. "No drama. | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet xx"You Flirting lovely friend | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet xx
You Flirting lovely friend "Haha when do I do that? | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet xx
You Flirting lovely friend
Haha when do I do that? "Well I can remember some flirting between you and Mrs F one time at Newcastle Social little missy | |||
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"The Fabioso - like the mafioso but in body stockings, heels and permatans. Their network permeates the kik groups, clubs and socials of swinging throughout the land.
Very true!
You don’t realise how small the swinging world really is until you’ve been part of it for a while! Xx
Ha we can make it more intimate after we meet xx
You Flirting lovely friend
Haha when do I do that?
Well I can remember some flirting between you and Mrs F one time at Newcastle Social little missy"Haha I do love me a wee flirt | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" ...great pics wed meet you | |||
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"Omg just catching up on the forums and I’m in shock! How dare they , They know absolutely nothing about you and slag you off to others like in a bloody school yard . More than certainly jealous . If they did know you , they would know what a Gorgeous person inside and out. One thing I have certainly learned on here is never lower your standards. So chin up , turn that frown back into your lush smile that you always have and let me slap there faces with a 20” dildo lol xxx Massive hugs xjx" So if you’re a woman from the area, do you know who these people are. Have you been asked to join in ? | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives?" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. " attention seeking thread of the highest order.... | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . " There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it | |||
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"Omg just catching up on the forums and I’m in shock! How dare they , They know absolutely nothing about you and slag you off to others like in a bloody school yard . More than certainly jealous . If they did know you , they would know what a Gorgeous person inside and out. One thing I have certainly learned on here is never lower your standards. So chin up , turn that frown back into your lush smile that you always have and let me slap there faces with a 20” dildo lol xxx Massive hugs xjx So if you’re a woman from the area, do you know who these people are. Have you been asked to join in ?" Yes I’m a woman from the area , Unfortunately no I don’t know who theses people are and no I haven’t been asked to join in . But when I first came onto the site I use to think the same : Someone with lots of verifications - Ahhh don’t go there . But when you actually read people’s profiles and verifications you see that it’s from social events and the same people you think differently x | |||
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"Omg just catching up on the forums and I’m in shock! How dare they , They know absolutely nothing about you and slag you off to others like in a bloody school yard . More than certainly jealous . If they did know you , they would know what a Gorgeous person inside and out. One thing I have certainly learned on here is never lower your standards. So chin up , turn that frown back into your lush smile that you always have and let me slap there faces with a 20” dildo lol xxx Massive hugs xjx So if you’re a woman from the area, do you know who these people are. Have you been asked to join in ? Yes I’m a woman from the area , Unfortunately no I don’t know who theses people are and no I haven’t been asked to join in . But when I first came onto the site I use to think the same : Someone with lots of verifications - Ahhh don’t go there . But when you actually read people’s profiles and verifications you see that it’s from social events and the same people you think differently x" Thank you for answering . | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. " Excuse me? How am I elitist??? In what way because I cant see how I am. No I decided people were going to say what they like without knowing me anyway so why should I hide away and say nothing and remove all my profile. I spoke to friend s who said that was the worst thing to do. | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it "Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning . If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it
Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning .
If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone "Who wrote your profile? | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it
Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning .
If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone
Who wrote your profile?"Well that's a daft question considering most write their own therefore I wrote my profile | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it
Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning .
If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone
Who wrote your profile?
Well that's a daft question considering most write their own therefore I wrote my profile "Perhaps you need to read it. | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. " The OP just asked a question. No need to get so personal, unless of course you are getting off on being horrible yo other women. | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it
Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning .
If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone
Who wrote your profile?
Well that's a daft question considering most write their own therefore I wrote my profile
Perhaps you need to read it."I have read it. It contains 3 aspects...socials, parties and my personal preferences. I take everyone at face value and don't exclude anyone from socials or parties yet I don't play with anyone just because they are there. I don't have a lot of time due to my personal circumstances. As others on here who know me have said I'm not this horrid person you are attempting to make me out to be - horrid and repulsive...... that in my book isn t ok. My thread was because women told men not to meet me and because I had a lot of social veris........ | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. The OP just asked a question. No need to get so personal, unless of course you are getting off on being horrible yo other women. " I read profiles. I'm not being horrible. I'm shocked and disgusted at things I've read. But some women think it's nice to be that way. That's cool. Good for you. | |||
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" Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. . There is the Elitist because they modestly deserve it.....and the Elitist who “think” they should deserve it
Wow it's so lovely to see the negativity in the morning .
If standards are elitist so be it! I can sleep at night knowing I'm not being horrible to anyone
Who wrote your profile?
Well that's a daft question considering most write their own therefore I wrote my profile
Perhaps you need to read it.
I have read it. It contains 3 aspects...socials, parties and my personal preferences.
I take everyone at face value and don't exclude anyone from socials or parties yet I don't play with anyone just because they are there.
I don't have a lot of time due to my personal circumstances.
As others on here who know me have said I'm not this horrid person you are attempting to make me out to be - horrid and repulsive...... that in my book isn t ok.
My thread was because women told men not to meet me and because I had a lot of social veris........"No I didn't say that *you* are repulsive. You are "nice". I said I read it....... | |||
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"So for a while now no matter what I post I can't get a meet. As many joke about it or say oh you must be inundated etc I rarely get 5 messages a day. Only to find out tonight that certain women have said to guys in these here parts that if they meet me or have a veri displayed by me they wont meet said male. I had 70 veris on display because I host 2 socials.... not because I have sex with lots of people or any people haha! I feel a bit pissed off.... we are swingers.. apparently transparent... yet I'm subjected to this crap?! Taken all off my profile as there's little point to having anything. Question I can't get my head wrapped round is why? I'm nice to all I've met at socials and pleasant to those I encounter in other aspects of life so what gives? Are you for real??! You've been playing the "oh woe is me" sympathy card on this thread, yet you're clearly the Elitist that you're claiming other women are. I'm astounded that you can't see it. Perhaps this thread was just a piss take. I read the word "repulsive" today. It means "nice" apparently. The OP just asked a question. No need to get so personal, unless of course you are getting off on being horrible yo other women. I read profiles. I'm not being horrible. I'm shocked and disgusted at things I've read. But some women think it's nice to be that way. That's cool. Good for you. "O Be what way??? You're personally attacking me for whatever sick pleasure so I wish you well! You clearly need some well wishing in your life | |||
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"Start a new profile and get one of your mates to verify you. Have different pics and don't show any veris. See if that helps? Sounds like jealousy or who knows what. Cliques abound. " This sounds like a very good idea. If the veris are the issue then just reduce them. | |||
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